

The Angry Therapist Podcast
The Angry Therapist
Audio-Only Episodes. Captain’s Log: No guests. No fluff. Just me, the mic, and whatever’s clawing at my insides. Think audio journaling meets back-of-the-bar confessions. Less psychobabble, more soul bleed. Raw, real, and mostly for me.Audio + Video Episodes. You ask, I riff. Therapy meets real talk. More structure, more insight, more of the good stuff on love, dating, and tools we need to build a healthy relationship. Awesome guests. Less navel-gazing, more crowd-serving. This one’s for you.
Episodes
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Sep 8, 2025 • 22min
Do You Ever Carry Someone You Couldn't Save?
In today’s deeply moving episode, John shares a story most therapists would never dare reveal - the client who still haunts him years later. This isn’t about clinical textbooks or success stories. It’s about the raw, unfiltered truth of what happens when therapy collides with real life, addiction, and the weight of responsibility no one prepares you for.
What you’ll learn:
Why peace matters more than ever in today’s noisy world
The hidden trauma therapists experience alongside their clients
What it feels like when a client disappears under your care
Why not every therapist is “the one” who changes a client’s life
How to protect your peace and boundaries, even in chaos
Where do you find peace - and how do you protect it? Drop your answer in the comments.
Read more chapters from John’s upcoming book HERE
Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE
Follow John on Instagram HERE
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Sep 3, 2025 • 26min
Two Therapists in Bed Talk: Can Men Say No to Casual Sex? (And Other Big Questions We Avoid)
From sex myths to second chances, safe choices to stuck seasons - John and Vanessa answer real listener questions from bed. You’ll hear why gendered scripts about sex don’t serve us, what really matters before getting back with an ex, how to choose the “risky” path without regret, and why feeling unmotivated can be a necessary pause - not a personal failure.
What you’ll learn
Can men say no to casual sex? (and why the answer matters)
Exes & ego: new tracks vs. old dynamics
Ditch “right vs. wrong” decisions; choose what’s honest now
Motivation is overrated; integration time builds strength
Links & mentions
Vanessa’s book: The Motherhood Myth HERE
Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE
Follow John on Instagram HERE
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11 snips
Sep 1, 2025 • 14min
Why Your World Feels Small (and How to Redefine Life Before It’s Too Late)
Life's reset button can be triggered in unexpected ways, from breakups to career changes. Redefining happiness and success becomes essential amidst the chaos. Discover how new environments can spark creativity and joy. The power of curiosity fosters growth, encouraging fresh perspectives on relationships and daily experiences. Join a journey from Los Angeles to Costa Rica and find out how small changes can lead to profound transformations. What will you redefine this week?

Aug 28, 2025 • 23min
Sh*t You Wouldn’t Ask Your Therapist | Heartbreak Hurts Here's Why
In today’s episode, John Kim takes on your raw, unfiltered questions about love — from the heartbreak of seeing an ex with someone new, to the chaos of dating in your 40s, to navigating loneliness, trauma, and self-worth. It’s the real talk you’ve been craving: messy, honest, and maybe the perspective you need to keep moving forward.
Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE
Follow John on Instagram HERE
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Aug 27, 2025 • 21min
When You Shut the Door on Miracles
What if it’s not the big traumas that hold us back, but the tiny cracks in how we think each day? In this episode, John Kim and Vanessa unpack how we unconsciously block miracles - through catastrophizing, over-stimulation, and self-protection - and how small shifts in mindset can open the door to flow, joy, and unexpected magic.
If this helped, hit subscribe for practical, no-fluff relationship tools.
Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE
Follow John on Instagram HERE
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Aug 25, 2025 • 16min
Still Stuck on Your Ex | This is Why
Closure isn’t a door you wait to have slammed shut - it’s a bridge you build. In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim breaks the biggest “closure” myths and shows you how to move forward without an apology, a perfect explanation, or one last text. If you’ve felt stuck in relationship residue, this is your map.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why “waiting for closure” keeps you stuck
Acceptance over answers (and why that heals faster)
How to generate closure without contact
Turning an expired relationship into a stronger self
Realism > idealism: healing as a process, not an event
Community & service as fuel for resilience
If this helped, follow the show on Spotify and share it with someone who needs it today.
Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE
Follow John on Instagram HERE
Find out more about John HERE
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Aug 20, 2025 • 26min
Stop Guessing Their Love: Say What Lands
A 30-second, playful moment sparked this episode - and a reminder: love isn’t generic. We break down how to speak love so it lands without abandoning yourself, especially when partners differ.
What you’ll learn (10 takeaways):
Love isn’t generic - different emotional blueprints
How to avoid the “I’m giving everything, it’s still not enough” trap
Building emotional safety so defenses drop
Reducing resentment & energy burnout
Deepening intimacy beyond the physical
Faster conflict repair by making the nervous system feel safe
Future-proofing with regular “What makes you feel most loved?” check-ins
Co-regulation: why the right love calms insecure attachment
Turning micro-moments into daily bonding rituals
Why guessing breaks trust (love is a skill)
Try this today: Ask your partner, “What lands for you this week?” Then do one unexpected gesture in their way of receiving love (a short note, a quick chore, five phone-free minutes together, a gentle touch, a tiny gift).
If this helped, hit subscribe for practical, no-fluff relationship tools.Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE
Follow John on Instagram HERE
Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Aug 18, 2025 • 16min
From Nauseous Nights to Perfect Mornings | Life in Costa Rica
In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim takes you inside his personal journey of building a new life in Costa Rica - the highs, the lows, and the unexpected lessons about presence, clarity, and decision-making. From nausea-inducing dirt roads to perfect mornings surfing in Costa Rica, John unpacks how life-changing decisions aren’t made in one big moment… but in a collection of small ones.
You’ll learn:
Why clarity about life, love, and career comes from moments, not constant certainty
How to notice and “bank” the moments that matter when deciding whether to move abroad, who to love, or what path to take
The challenges of living in Costa Rica - from unpaved roads to missing city comforts and the surprising joys that outweigh them
How being present is the only way to truly capture moments (and how most of us miss them)
Why life’s “yes” often comes from an accumulation of tiny affirmations rather than a single sign
Join the conversation! What moments have shaped your biggest life decisions? Have you noticed when your “piggy bank” of yeses finally tipped the scale? Share your story with us.
Like this episode? Please LIKE & FOLLOW for more unfiltered conversations about expat life, self-discovery, and building a life that actually feels like yours.
Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE
Follow John on Instagram HERE
Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Aug 14, 2025 • 18min
Sh*t You Wouldn’t Ask Your Therapist | The Truth About Breakups
In today’s episode, John Kim answers raw, unfiltered listener questions on the theme of breakups and divorce — the things you’d never dare ask your therapist.
Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE
Follow John on Instagram HERE
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Aug 13, 2025 • 23min
Loving Without Losing Me: Healing the Mother Wound
In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim gets personal about the mother wound - how it quietly shapes our self-worth, love life, and sense of safety. From a surprising MDMA journey insight to stories about his Korean-American upbringing, John unpacks what it’s like to grow up without emotional warmth from mom - and how this absence leaves lasting imprints on both men and women.
You’ll learn:
Why the mother wound isn’t just a “women’s issue”
How emotional absence can be just as impactful as physical absence
The different ways the mother wound shows up in men (approval seeking, caretaking confusion, fear of intimacy) and women (perfectionism, chronic self-doubt, boundary struggles)
How it fuels unhealthy patterns like codependency, attachment insecurity, and emotional projection
Practical steps for healing: naming the wound without blame, reparenting yourself, rewriting old relationship scripts, and doing inner child work
Join the conversation! Have you noticed the mother wound in your own relationships or self-image? What has helped you start to heal? Share your story with us.
Like this episode? Please LIKE & FOLLOW for more unfiltered conversations about love, identity, and the work of healing yourself from the inside out.
Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE
Follow John on Instagram HERE
Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices