The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

In episode 28, Natalie talks about life plans, emotional availability, and why it's not fair when people shame us for not wanting to be friends or not being ready to move on just yet. This week's listener question is about boundaries and ultimatums and Natalie shares what she's learned this week about 'overreacting'. In the first part of the show, Natalie builds on episode 27 where she shared what she learned about her need for a life plan and explores why we might not have one and includes suggestions for increasing awareness of our priorities. Download Creating Your Personal Life Plan by Michael Hyatt http://bit.ly/mhlifeplan The backstory to me thinking about life plans in episode 27 https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/27 More on 'mise-en-place'http://n.pr/1ptmytV In the second part of the show, Natalie explains emotional unavailability and the key fears behind it as well as ten key questions for understanding your own availability. Download "10 Key Questions To Open Up Your Awareness About Your Emotional Availability" http://bit.ly/1pz2nv2 Check out this post: 'Do you want to be with an emotionally available person? Be emotionally available YOURSELF' http://bit.ly/1O2fHzy In the third part of the show, Natalie explains why it's not fair when people shame us for not wanting to be friends [after a breakup] or for not being over something yet. This week's listener wants to know where to draw the line with setting boundaries and issuing ultimatums. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 27 of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Natalie talks about No Contact and Low Contact at work, fear of failure and why she's glad she stopped looking for what she used to look for. This week's listener wants to know if the guys she's dating are "too emotional" and Natalie shares what she learned about drifting and the need for at least a little bit of life planning. In the first part of the show, Natalie gives a brief overview of No Contact and Low Contact and shares her own experience which was part of the inspiration for her book, The No Contact Rule. She offers up 7 tips for navigating low contact at work which you can also download: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/27download More about The No Contact Rule Book: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/NC You can also download 10 Irrational Fears About No Contact: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/27download In the second part of the show, Natalie explains how having a parent or key influencer who pushes you to the best and who tells you that failure isn't an option, can instil a fear of failure that causes you to coast. Natalie includes questions for self-exploration and some perspective on 'failing'. Download The Unsent Letter Guide: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/downloads/ In the third part of the show, Natalie shares why she's glad she stopped looking for mommy and daddy figures in her romantic partners because next week, she will be celebrating 10 years together with Em (her husband). This week's listener has gone from being with emotionally unavailable men to working on her availability, to feeling uncomfortable when she meets guys who seem "too emotional" because they talk and share their feelings. She keeps meeting guy after guy like this and wonders what's 'normal'. In What I Learned This Week, Natalie is thinking about life plans after she listened to Amy Porterfield's business podcast (link: http://bit.ly/21mUmVs) and the interviewee Michael Hyatt's sage advice on how we drift into chaos really resonated with her. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie questions whether we can really blame someone's inability to commit on whether they're just not that into us. Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl http://bit.ly/mrfbg In the second segment, where each week Natalie helps listeners to better understand their emotional baggage and grow in self-awareness, she explores our relationship with time, namely why some of us have a habit of being late and why some of us are so scared of it. Post on the blog about lateness: http://bit.ly/1fymR1H In the third segment, Natalie talks about the myth of 'overnight success' and why it's important not to discard other people's journeys. This week's listener needs some tips on sticking to her boundaries and values. 30-Day Project: Embrace Healthy Boundaries http://bit.ly/EmbraceBoundaries Natalie also shares advice from her 6 and 8-year-old daughters on being clear on NO. The book I mention is the wonderful, The Little Girl Who Lost Her No by Amy M. Starkey http://amzn.to/1L7xeIT Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains the key reasons for the breakdown of a relationship and how bottom line, they're all the same reason—incompatibility. Understanding Why Some Relationships Don't Work Out http://bit.ly/18WdqFx In the second segment where each week Natalie helps listeners to better understand their emotional baggage and grow in self-awareness, she explains some of the reasons why we get being triggered by birthdays. I discuss how to uncover what the baggage is behind an issue in episode 2. In the third segment, Natalie talks about how we can all be a bit more tolerant when it comes to our minor irritations with loved ones and how we sometimes forget that we have our irritating ways too! This week's listener needs some tips for calming herself down where she gets into a state of thinking and feeling awful things about herself. Download 7 Steps For Calming Yourself Down When You're In A Negative Self-Talk Spiral: http://bit.ly/7stepscalm Check out the How To Self-Soothe Quick Guide I mentioned: http://bit.ly/brselfsoothe Natalie also shares what she learned from her 8-year-old daughter wrongly believing that she'd been in trouble when she hadn't. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie offers up some suggestions for dating as a single parent, explores the difference between help and support, and explains The Debit and Credit Trust System. This week's listener wants to know how to cope with turning 30 when everyone else has gotten married etc, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. In the first segment I mentioned Episode 1, you can find it on iTunes or listen here: https://bit.ly/BRSessions1 I also talk about: No Contact Rule book: https://bit.ly/NoContactRule Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl: https://bit.ly/MrUnavailable The Debit and Credit Trust System: https://bit.ly/BRTrust and http://bit.ly/BRCommit Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie delves into the tricky subject of name-calling and swearing at someone in an argument and whether this is really 'OK', plus she shares three key admissions - admitting where you've made a mistake, admitting what you don't know, and admitting what you're pretending not to know - that keep us human and humble, and she explains some of the benefits of affirmations including sharing some of her personal experiences of them transforming how she was feeling. This week's listener wants to know how to deal with a partner that shuts down discussion and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Free resources referred to in this episode: Unsent Letter Guide: http://bit.ly/NatsULG Feelings Diary: http://bit.ly/FeelingsDiary Affirmations "I am safe. I am secure. All is well", "I trust my higher self. I listen with love to my inner voice. I release all that is unlike the action of love". "I always deserve love, care, trust and respect". You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay http://amzn.to/240ROAw Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why we get stressed out by Valentine's Day and includes suggestions for putting things back into context plus she talks about why trying to get someone else to change won't fix the problem, as well has how to keep a gossiping in check . This week's listener question is about letting go after realising that even though a few years have gone by, you're not over your divorce, plus Natalie shares what she learned about the need to take care of her inner child so that she isn't always 'serious'. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains why you shouldn't write off the year if it hasn't started out as you envisioned, why some of us struggle with decision-making and what we need to make healthy decisions as well as why the early stages of dating is guesswork. This week's listener question is about how to recover from being told by two exes that they're not sexually attracted to her, plus Natalie shares what she's learned about her resistance to certain types of planning. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie questions whether a couple would really get divorced over leaving a glass out after reading a blog on the subject (http://bit.ly/MustBeThisTall), as well as explaining the 8 types of inner critic and their individual motivations and irrational fears, plus she offers up 6 magic words for that certain someone that wants to dump their responsibility on you. This week's listener question is about what to do when you want to confront an issue that needs confronting but the other person refuses and has 'ghosted' you, plus Natalie shares about what she learned about intuition when her daughter was ill recently. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains why someone else's partner isn't the person for you, why change and happiness isn't going to come from following rules that you've made based on guilt and fear, and why you can't keep talking about intentions or how someone can't help something, when they keep doing the same thing and they control themselves with others. This week's listener question is from someone who wants to know why she hasn't completely closed the door on a breakup from two years ago, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week when she got acknowledgment and an apology over 20 years after the original event. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership