Kuldrin's Krypt A BDSM 101 Podcast

Recorded: 6/06/2021 / Published: 2/06/2022- Call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com. - In this week’s episode of The Krypt we are celebrating gay pride month by defining and discussing Gender Identity.- Rules to Love By: ( https://inclusionwoodworks.com )1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young- “Gay Pride Month: What is Gender Identity?-S03E47” https://www.hrc.org/resources/sexual-orientation-and-gender-identity-terminology-and-definitions Sexual orientation: An inherent or immutable enduring emotional, romantic or sexual attraction to other people.Gender identity:One's innermost concept of self as male, female, a blend of both or neither – how individuals perceive themselves and what they call themselves. One's gender identity can be the same or different from their sex assigned at birth.Gender expression:External appearance of one's gender identity, usually expressed through behavior, clothing, haircut or voice, and which may or may not conform to socially defined behaviors and characteristics typically associated with being either masculine or feminine.Transgender:Gender transition:Gender dysphoria:Glossary: https://www.hrc.org/resources/glossary-of-termsAsexual:Bisexual:Cisgender:Gay:Gender binary:Gender dysphoria:Gender-expansive:Gender expression:Gender-fluid:Gender identity:Gender non-conforming:Genderqueer:Intersex:Lesbian:Non-binary:Pansexual:Queer:Questioning:Same-gender loving:Sex assigned at birth:Sexual orientation:Transgender:Transitioning:Important Links:Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/347National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic Show Producers:- Benefactor ($2,000/month): - Pro Producer ($100/month): Buffalo_Max92- Master Producer ($50/month): - Executive Producer ($25/month) ShadowyFox, JunicornsAngel, Johnny Ferrell, Haru Webb, Rei Webb, Just_Call_Me_Ash, Kiongakyu, and dboat, - Sr. Producers ($10/month): xEmeraldxWolfx, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, RoxieBear, Trouble113, Alexandria, babylove&Sir, SortOutTheKinks, Master Gabriel, Daddy Steve, Sir Pent, KJ, TwistedTink&JustTommy, ArtKitten, AuthorMistressBlackrose, UpstateScCouple, Crystal Force, CJ, Cali, PerfectlyThick, Thorn, Odie & Ceci, Toredon, Cap'n J, BxB, Saviy, Lilred rose, AK-47, Knot_the_Daddy, and Charlie & little bit- Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, CIVLdisobedience, Hadea, Lily, Sir&Kitten, Raven, Raider69time, Atsila, MBRpoodle, LylacWine, Baddogbad, CozyCow, Arctic Foxglove, Anomalous Mats, MsRedSin & AJRJ, Katnipmeow, WyldThyme&Deacon Sean, CheeryQuery, Ropestuff2, Rabbit, BurningRedHot, Sir Wolf ArchAngel, Subx13, CourtsDom, Anthony, Gator, Gizmo, Ataleena, JJ, Jon Shaw, TheCheshyre, -miggs-, TripleDelicious, and Ben- Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, Jeremiah, Morgana13, Brodie, The Gabbing Girl Time Podcast, Lexa, and AshleyBecome a show producer: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/PatreonVendors I know, like, trust, and use: (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.)- http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.- http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of most things leather and paracord impact toys.- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TorridTimber - Fine fetish furniture and accessories- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist - Tink’s Toys Fb Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2350280868612699 Fetlife Profile: https://fetlife.com/users/9885653?sp=3 *coupon for listeners (first purchase only) TinksToys13- Dark Delights Shops: https://darkdelightsshop.com/ (Watch my product review of them: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/DarkDelightsShop)Contact info:Email: MasterKuldrin@gmail.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin Fire https://www.facebook.com/kuldrin.fireTwitter: @MasterKuldrin https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrinInstagram: masterkuldrin https://www.instagram.com/masterkuldrin/Patreon: kuldrinskrypt https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKrypthttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource

Recorded: 5/30/2021 / Published: 2/3/2022- Visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com - In this week’s episode of The Krypt we are discussing the ongoing controversy of leather, kink, and BDSM’s involvement or removal in Pride parades. - Rules to Love By: ( https://inclusionwoodworks.com )1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young- “Gay Pride Month and BDSM Isn't Allowed-S03E46”- “BDSM and kink don’t belong in Pride celebrations. This is whyEvery year we have this debate, but the facts stay the same: It’s a matter of politics and consent” By Skylar Baker-Jordan / May 25, 2021https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/bdsm-kink-pride-lgbt-rights-celebrations-why-b1853859.html “The best clap backs to the ‘no kink at Pride’ discourse: Leather, kink, bare asses and a titty or two are a fundamental part of Pride” By Mel Woods • May 26, 2021https://xtramagazine.com/power/kink-at-pride-bdsm-201775?fbclid=IwAR10igoFCs5TMgmbBNigL--jZxLC9XeAPqNuufedtm8C2gnreILirGZRBRs - What was Stonewall?Stonewall Riots (Jun 28, 1969 – Jul 3, 1969)The Stonewall riots were a series of spontaneous demonstrations by members of the gay community in response to a police raid that began in the early morning hours of June 28, 1969, at the Stonewall Inn in the Greenwich Village neighborhood of Manhattan, New York City.Fact Sheet: https://dv2oc5tyj18yr.cloudfront.net/wp-content/blogs.dir/2/files/2019/05/stonewallfactsheet-1.pdf Important Links:Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/346National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic Show Producers:- Benefactor ($2,000/month): - Pro Producer ($100/month): Buffalo_Max92- Master Producer ($50/month): - Executive Producer ($25/month) ShadowyFox, JunicornsAngel, Johnny Ferrell, Haru Webb, Rei Webb, Just_Call_Me_Ash, Kiongakyu, and dboat, - Sr. Producers ($10/month): xEmeraldxWolfx, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, RoxieBear, Trouble113, Alexandria, babylove&Sir, SortOutTheKinks, Master Gabriel, Daddy Steve, Sir Pent, KJ, TwistedTink&JustTommy, ArtKitten, AuthorMistressBlackrose, UpstateScCouple, Crystal Force, CJ, Cali, PerfectlyThick, Thorn, Odie & Ceci, Toredon, Cap'n J, BxB, Saviy, Lilred rose, AK-47, Knot_the_Daddy, and Charlie & little bit- Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, CIVLdisobedience, Hadea, Lily, Sir&Kitten, Raven, Raider69time, Atsila, MBRpoodle, LylacWine, Baddogbad, CozyCow, Arctic Foxglove, Anomalous Mats, MsRedSin & AJRJ, Katnipmeow, WyldThyme&Deacon Sean, CheeryQuery, Ropestuff2, Rabbit, BurningRedHot, Sir Wolf ArchAngel, Subx13, CourtsDom, Anthony, Gator, Gizmo, Ataleena, JJ, Jon Shaw, TheCheshyre, -miggs-, TripleDelicious, and Ben- Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, Jeremiah, Morgana13, Brodie, The Gabbing Girl Time Podcast, Lexa, and AshleyBecome a show producer: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/PatreonVendors I know, like, trust, and use: (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.)- http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.- http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of most things leather and paracord impact toys.- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TorridTimber - Fine fetish furniture and accessories- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist - Tink’s Toys Fb Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2350280868612699 Fetlife Profile: https://fetlife.com/users/9885653?sp=3 *coupon for listeners (first purchase only) TinksToys13- Dark Delights Shops: https://darkdelightsshop.com/ (Watch my product review of them: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/DarkDelightsShop)Contact info:Email: MasterKuldrin@gmail.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin Fire https://www.facebook.com/kuldrin.fireTwitter: @MasterKuldrin https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrinInstagram: masterkuldrin https://www.instagram.com/masterkuldrin/Patreon: kuldrinskrypt https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKrypthttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource

Recorded: 5/16/2021 / Published: 1/30/2022- In this week’s episode of The Krypt we are talking to Lady Katie about female Dominance and The Sapphire Club,- Rules to Love By: ( https://inclusionwoodworks.com )1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young- “Lady Katie on Female Dominants-S03E45”- https://fetlife.com/users/6523246?sp=4 Important Links:Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/345National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic Show Producers:- Benefactor ($2,000/month): - Pro Producer ($100/month): Buffalo_Max92- Master Producer ($50/month): - Executive Producer ($25/month) ShadowyFox, JunicornsAngel, Johnny Ferrell, Haru Webb, Rei Webb, Just_Call_Me_Ash, Kiongakyu, and dboat, - Sr. Producers ($10/month): xEmeraldxWolfx, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, RoxieBear, Trouble113, Alexandria, babylove&Sir, SortOutTheKinks, Master Gabriel, Daddy Steve, Sir Pent, KJ, TwistedTink&JustTommy, ArtKitten, AuthorMistressBlackrose, UpstateScCouple, Crystal Force, CJ, Cali, PerfectlyThick, Thorn, Odie & Ceci, Toredon, Cap'n J, BxB, Saviy, Lilred rose, AK-47, Knot_the_Daddy, and Charlie & little bit- Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, CIVLdisobedience, Hadea, Lily, Sir&Kitten, Raven, Raider69time, Atsila, MBRpoodle, LylacWine, Baddogbad, CozyCow, Arctic Foxglove, Anomalous Mats, MsRedSin & AJRJ, Katnipmeow, WyldThyme&Deacon Sean, CheeryQuery, Ropestuff2, Rabbit, BurningRedHot, Sir Wolf ArchAngel, Subx13, CourtsDom, Anthony, Gator, Gizmo, Ataleena, JJ, Jon Shaw, TheCheshyre, -miggs-, TripleDelicious, and Ben- Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, Jeremiah, Morgana13, Brodie, The Gabbing Girl Time Podcast, Lexa, and AshleyBecome a show producer: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/PatreonVendors I know, like, trust, and use: (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.)- http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.- http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of most things leather and paracord impact toys.- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TorridTimber - Fine fetish furniture and accessories- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist - Tink’s Toys Fb Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2350280868612699 Fetlife Profile: https://fetlife.com/users/9885653?sp=3 *coupon for listeners (first purchase only) TinksToys13- Dark Delights Shops: https://darkdelightsshop.com/ (Watch my product review of them: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/DarkDelightsShop)Contact info:Email: MasterKuldrin@gmail.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin Fire https://www.facebook.com/kuldrin.fireTwitter: @MasterKuldrin https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrinInstagram: masterkuldrin https://www.instagram.com/masterkuldrin/Patreon: kuldrinskrypt https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKrypthttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource

Recorded: 5/16/2021 / Published: 2/27/2022- In this week’s episode of The Krypt we are going to be explaining DD/lg BDSM dynamics.- Rules to Love By: ( https://inclusionwoodworks.com )1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young- “What are DDlg BDSM Relationships-S03E44”-”15 DDLG Quotes That Explain Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships”.https://www.yourtango.com/quotes/sex/kinky-ddlg-daddy-dom-quotes Daddy Dom and little girl relationships, also known as DDlg or DD/lg relationships, are among the most commonly misunderstood of the various types of passionate loving relationships that fall under the umbrella of BDSM kink.I can understand why, at first glance, seeing a Dominant referred to as "Daddy" or "Mommy" and a submissive referred to as "little girl" — or baby girl," "boy," "boi," or a variant along those lines — could appear, well, creepy.However, as the DDlg quotes below show, these cute relationships are typically quite healthy and loving. - What is a Daddy Dom?A Daddy Dom is a dominant partner (typically male, but not always) who cares for, nurtures, and assumes responsibility for their submissive, typically referred to as their little or baby girl. Talk about freaky relationship goals. Daddy Doms may serve as a paternal figure, but that should not be mistaken to mean the people involved in DDlg relationships are in any way involved or approving of incest or pedophilia."The Daddy Dom indulges, edifies, and chastises his childlike, submissive partner, who may be both emotionally and financially dependent upon him," explains Miya Yamanouchi. "The partner to a 'Daddy' (or 'Mommy') is a 'little girl' or ('little boy')... [a submissive who] enjoys being treated like a child by her lover, most commonly calling her partner 'Daddy' both in and out of the bedroom."Many people consider BDSM synonymous with the more old-fashioned, somewhat outdated label "S&M" — sadomasochistic relationships in which one person, the Master or Mistress, has complete control, while the other, the "slave," is a willing victim and subject to his or her Dom or Domme's every whim. This dynamic is generally thought of by many in the Vanilla (non-kinky) community less as a relationship and more as an abusive arrangement between a violator and a victim.There are, of course, exceptions to every rule, and abusive relationships, unfortunately, exist within the BDSM community as they do everywhere else. But there are many types of Dominants and submissives, and most are perfectly healthy, high-functioning people involved in perfectly healthy, high-functioning relationships.And while some of these relationships are sadomasochistic (hence the SM at the end of BDSM), that is only one end of the kinky spectrum. On the other end, you have Daddy doms and their baby girls.Picture all of the best parts of what an ideal Daddy provides: warmth, strength, measured humor, discipline as needed, undivided attention, nurturing, caregiving, stability, support, and unconditional love.Now picture the best parts of what the best baby girl provides: laughter, joy, silliness, fun, playfulness, warmth, affection beyond belief, beauty, awe, excitement, mental and physical challenges, and unconditional love. Who wouldn't want a relationship that includes a constant give and take between those qualities?You don't have to take my word for it, of course.- These 15 DDlg quotes about Daddy Doms and littles illustrate exactly how passionate, loving, and not all creepy their relationships can be.1. "Anything for my Princess. Anything for my Daddy." — King Baby Boys2. "'I need,' she whispers. 'I know, little one,' he replies. 'How?' she asks. 'You're mine. I always know.' She sighs." — Sir Daddy Kitten3. "Your Daddy's right here. While you sleep I'll protect you." — Dom Dominator4. "There is just something about his strong hands. When he grips me with passion, I feel so secure and wanted. It is pure bliss." — Princess Pufferfish5. "I want to do things so wild with you that I don't know how to say them." —​ Anais Nin, "A Literate Passion: Letters of Anaïs Nin & Henry Miller, 1932-1953"6. "Protector, lover, guide, friend." — Captain Bro7. "It's been too long, hasn't it, peach? Should I let you come now so you're able to focus on our lesson?" — Kendall Ryan, "The Gentleman Mentor"8. "Meet me in the corridor of your soul. Invite me to the hidden chambers. Show me the light behind your eyes. Teach me the rhythm of your blood. You are the secret I crave to discover." — Dean Jackson9. "Intimacy is not purely physical: It's the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see inside their soul." — Mr. Daddy Dom10. "I want to make love to you because I care about you. I want to worship your naked body with my own and learn all of your secrets." ― Sylvain Reynard, "Gabriel's Inferno"11. "I want to control you, command you, dominate you, and use you. And then I want to touch you, hold you, kiss you, and make you feel safe." — Daddy Rules12. "A Daddy Dom only has so much power because it is given to him by his submissive. This power should be treasured, used wisely and respected. When this fails, the submissive has the right to take that power away." — D.D.13. "Close your eyes babygirl. Daddy's here now. Let your worries go. I'll take care of everything." — Daddy Pumpkin14. "Can you feel me? Can you hear me? Can you sense my presence? I'm with you, always. Even when you think I'm not." — Sir Bunny Bun15. "I represent to you all the sins you have never had the courage to commit." — Oscar Wilde, "The Picture Of Dorian Gray"Important Links:Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/344National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic Show Producers:- Benefactor ($2,000/month): - Pro Producer ($100/month): Buffalo_Max92- Master Producer ($50/month): - Executive Producer ($25/month) ShadowyFox, JunicornsAngel, Johnny Ferrell, Haru Webb, Rei Webb, and Just_Call_Me_Ash- Sr. Producers ($10/month): xEmeraldxWolfx, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, RoxieBear, Trouble113, Alexandria, babylove&Sir, SortOutTheKinks, Master Gabriel, Daddy Steve, Sir Pent, KJ, TwistedTink&JustTommy, ArtKitten, AuthorMistressBlackrose, UpstateScCouple, Crystal Force, CJ, Cali, PerfectlyThick, Thorn, Odie & Ceci, Toredon, Cap'n J, BxB, Saviy, Lilred rose, AK-47, Knot_the_Daddy, and Charlie & little bit- Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, CIVLdisobedience, Hadea, Lily, Sir&Kitten, Raven, Raider69time, Atsila, MBRpoodle, LylacWine, Baddogbad, CozyCow, Arctic Foxglove, Anomalous Mats, MsRedSin & AJRJ, Katnipmeow, WyldThyme&Deacon Sean, CheeryQuery, Ropestuff2, Rabbit, BurningRedHot, Sir Wolf ArchAngel, Subx13, CourtsDom, Anthony, Gator, Gizmo, Ataleena, JJ, Jon Shaw, TheCheshyre, -miggs-, and TripleDelicious- Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, Jeremiah, Morgana13, Brodie, The Gabbing Girl Time Podcast, Lexa, and AshleyBecome a show producer: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/PatreonVendors I know, like, trust, and use: (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.)- http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.- http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of most things leather and paracord impact toys.- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TorridTimber - Fine fetish furniture and accessories- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist - Tink’s Toys Fb Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2350280868612699 Fetlife Profile: https://fetlife.com/users/9885653?sp=3 *coupon for listeners (first purchase only) TinksToys13- Dark Delights Shops: https://darkdelightsshop.com/ (Watch my product review of them: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/DarkDelightsShop)Contact info:Email: MasterKuldrin@gmail.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin Fire https://www.facebook.com/kuldrin.fireTwitter: @MasterKuldrin https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrinInstagram: masterkuldrin https://www.instagram.com/masterkuldrin/Patreon: kuldrinskrypt https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKrypthttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource

Recorded: 5/09/2021 / Published: 1/23/2022- Call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com. - In this week’s episode of The Krypt I am going to be talking mentorships-what are they, who needs them, what makes great mentors and mentees, and what causes them to fail.- Rules to Love By: ( https://inclusionwoodworks.com )1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young- “What are BDSM Dom and sub Mentorships-S03E43”- What is a mentorship?Definition: The guidance provided by a mentor, especially an experienced person in a company or educational institution.- Why are mentorships important?A mentor may share with a mentee (or protege) information about his or her own career path, as well as provide guidance, motivation, emotional support, and role modeling. A mentor may help with exploring careers, setting goals, developing contacts, and identifying resources.- Who is suited to mentor someone?https://www.forbes.com/sites/maryabbajay/2019/01/20/mentoring-matters-three-essential-element-of-success/?sh=758fe5b545a9 - A good mentor needs to be more than just a successful individual. A good mentor must have the disposition and desire to develop other people. It requires a willingness to reflect on and share one’s own experiences, including one’s failures. Great mentors must be able to both “talk the talk” and “walk the walk.”- What makes a good mentor:1: A desire to develop and help others. A good mentor is sincerely interested in helping someone else without any “official” reward. Good mentors do it because they genuinely want to see someone else succeed.2: The ability and availability to commit real time and energy to the mentoring relationship. Good intentions aren’t enough—mentoring takes time!3: Current and relevant industry or organizational knowledge, expertise, and/or skills. The best mentors have deep knowledge in an area that the mentee wishes to develop.4: A willingness to share failures and personal experiences. Mentors need to share both their “how I did it right” and their “how I did it wrong” stories. Both experiences provide valuable opportunities for learning.5: A growth mindset and learning attitude. The best teachers have always been and always will be those who remain, curious learners, themselves. Would you rather be advised by someone whose mind is shut because he knows it all or by someone whose mind is open because she is always looking to deepen her knowledge?6: Skill in developing others. This includes the very real skills of active listening, asking powerful, open-ended questions, self-reflection, providing feedback, and being able to share stories that include personal anecdotes, case examples, and honest insight.- What makes a good protege?(See Forbes link above.)Just as there are specific characteristics of a successful mentor, there are attributes and sensibilities that make for a good mentee. This is important because mentees must remember that mentors are doing this from the goodness of their heart, so being a good mentee is the best way to ensure the relationship enjoys a healthy purposeful existence.- Mentees need to be:1: Committed to expanding their capabilities and focused on achieving professional results.2: Clear about their career goals, needs, and wants. Mentoring isn’t therapy where one just rambles aimlessly. mentees are responsible for creating the mentoring agenda, so they must be clear about what they hope to get from mentoring.3: Willing to ask for help, show vulnerability, and explore different paths and perspectives. Mentees must be open and receptive to learning and trying new ideas. No mentor wants to advise someone who isn’t open to learning!4: Able to seek and accept feedback and act upon it.5: Be personally responsible and accountable. Mentors want to see movement and growth. If you say you are going to do something, then do it! Sitting on the sidelines in a mentoring relationship is not going to work.6: Ready, willing, and able to meet on a regular basis. Relationships take time to develop, so mentees must also be committed to upholding their end of the bargain.- Building the Mentor/Mentee Relationship:- A mentoring relationship must be managed and nurtured. It is a joint venture that requires both parties to actively attend to its care and feeding. The chances of creating and sustaining a successful mentoring relationship are enhanced by adopting a few simple best practices:- Design The Alliance. Take the time to discuss the structure of the relationship. Both parties need to have a shared understanding of the relationship process. This means discussing and articulating things like:1: Contact and response times: Who contacts whom? How? What are acceptable response times?2: Meetings: Where, when, and how often? Are you meeting in person? On the phone? Virtually?3: Confidentiality: What’s shareable and what isn’t?4: Focus: What are the parameters of the mentoring? What’s in and out of bounds?5: Feedback: What are the expectations around giving and receiving feedback?6: Goals and accountability: What would each party want from this experience? How does the mentee want the mentor to hold her accountable? How does the mentor want the mentee to hold her accountable?What Next?1: Get To Know Each Other. A mentoring relationship is like any other relationship—it takes time to develop. And like other relationships, it will grow faster and stronger if both parties take the time to get to know each other as people. Resist the temptation to dive headfirst into problem-solving and advising. Build trust by learning about each other!2: Set The Agenda. Both parties need to be clear about the purpose and focus of the mentoring. Additionally, the mentor and mentee should articulate what they hope to get out of the experience.3: Reflect And Evaluate. Every few meetings, one (or both) of the parties should ask: “How is this going for you? What’s been helpful? What hasn’t? What could I do differently to make this a more rewarding experience?” As awkward as it may feel, initiating evaluative conversations will keep the relationship working for both of you.4: Closeout. If you are part of a formal mentoring relationship or have negotiated a specific number of mentoring meetings, take the time to close out. This is when each party should reflect and appreciate. What was most rewarding? What did you find the most valuable? What are you most grateful for? Mentees and mentors should clearly articulate their appreciation for the other. Be specific about what you learned and gained from the experience.Mentoring is a great opportunity to deliver a rewarding and potentially life-changing experience for both the mentor and the mentee. It is one of the most important things a person can do to enhance their career, personal, and professional life. It takes time and commitment, but it is well worth the effort. Whether you are the mentor or the mentee, it’s a win-win for your life.Common issues in mentorships:Pride.Personality conflicts.Crossing sexual boundaries.Loss of enthusiasm.Laziness.Consent violation. Important Links:Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/343National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic Show Producers:- Benefactor ($2,000/month): - Pro Producer ($100/month): Buffalo_Max92- Master Producer ($50/month): - Executive Producer ($25/month) ShadowyFox, JunicornsAngel, Johnny Ferrell, Haru Webb, Rei Webb, and Just_Call_Me_Ash- Sr. Producers ($10/month): xEmeraldxWolfx, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, RoxieBear, Trouble113, Alexandria, babylove&Sir, SortOutTheKinks, Master Gabriel, Daddy Steve, Sir Pent, KJ, TwistedTink&JustTommy, ArtKitten, AuthorMistressBlackrose, UpstateScCouple, Crystal Force, CJ, Cali, PerfectlyThick, Thorn, Odie & Ceci, Toredon, Cap'n J, BxB, Saviy, Lilred rose, AK-47, Knot_the_Daddy, and Charlie & little bit- Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, CIVLdisobedience, Hadea, Lily, Sir&Kitten, Raven, Raider69time, Atsila, MBRpoodle, LylacWine, Baddogbad, CozyCow, Arctic Foxglove, Anomalous Mats, MsRedSin & AJRJ, Katnipmeow, WyldThyme&Deacon Sean, CheeryQuery, Ropestuff2, Rabbit, BurningRedHot, Sir Wolf ArchAngel, Subx13, CourtsDom, Anthony, Gator, Gizmo, Ataleena, JJ, Jon Shaw, TheCheshyre, -miggs-, and TripleDelicious- Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, Jeremiah, Morgana13, Brodie, The Gabbing Girl Time Podcast, Lexa, and AshleyBecome a show producer: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/PatreonVendors I know, like, trust, and use: (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.)- http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.- http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of most things leather and paracord impact toys.- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TorridTimber - Fine fetish furniture and accessories- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist - Dark Delights Shops: https://darkdelightsshop.com/ (Watch my product review of them: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/DarkDelightsShop)Contact info:Email: MasterKuldrin@gmail.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin Fire https://www.facebook.com/kuldrin.f

Recorded: 4/25/2021 / Published: 1/20/2022- Call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com. - In this week’s episode of The Krypt, we are talking about "The Safeword defense" and consent violations.- Rules to Love By: ( https://inclusionwoodworks.com )1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young- “Safeword Defense and Consent Violations-S03E42”Written by and permission given by Soup on Fetlife. https://fetlife.com/users/10338348/posts/6015142 Let’s say that Daniel and Craig decided to do a scene together. Daniel lays down a hard limit: don’t put a pineapple up my ass. An hour later, during the scene, when Daniel is vulnerable and things are getting pretty steamy, Craig slowly shoves that pineapple right up into Daniel’s butt.Now let’s pause for a second here. In an ideal case, Daniel would safeword. The scene is immediately over, then comes the conversation: “Hey Craig, why did you just violate my hard limit?” But of course, there are quite a few reasons why someone might not safeword. Let’s come back to this later.So Daniel says nothing, and Craig continues on his way. Scene over, done, everybody go home. Later that week, Daniel texts Craig. “Hey, can we talk about that scene we did? I feel like my consent was violated, given I put down a hard limit on pineapples and you didn’t respect that.”Here comes what I call the Safeword Defense.Craig responds: “Uh, well, you didn’t safeword. You don’t really get to complain later if you didn’t safeword.”Now there are two things wrong with this.First, basic attitude issue. Craig’s immediate reaction to a concern brought up by a bottom is to jump to a defense. Perhaps feedback does need to be given back to the bottom, and that’s alright, but hear them out first. Open conversation and feedback not going to happen in a situation where both sides are throwing up defenses in the first place. Everyone needs to feel safe and heard. If the bottom was truly shaken by their experience and wants to hash it out, listen.Second, this is a false method of dismissing someone’s concerns.What Daniel and Craig have here is a pretty clear-cut consent violation. The ass pineapple was inarguable. But there’s a contingent of people in the kink community that feel that if you don’t safeword in the scene immediately after your consent was violated, you don’t really have a leg to stand on later.This isn’t true though. The bottom’s reaction to a consent violation doesn’t change whether or not it happened. It happened. Definitively.If I steal some jewels from the store, but I don’t set off the alarm, I don’t get to argue later that I didn’t actually steal anything because the alarms didn’t go off fast enough. I still stole some jewels, which is a crime, and the cops will put me in jail. The alarms are irrelevant.Now in the case of a consent violation, it may not have been intentional, and it may be forgivable. In my view, the problem really boils down to how the top reacts. A good reaction: “I’m concerned to hear I made you feel this way. Tell me your side of the story. I may have made a mistake and I’d like to correct it for the future.” And then after discussing the issue, apologize directly for the consent violation action. “I’m sorry I did not respect your hard limit. In the future, I will listen to bottoms more carefully.”Now one may object, but why didn’t Daniel safeword?! Bottoms need to take care of themselves! Consent violations occur when bottoms don’t protect themselves!Again, let me make two points in response.Firstly, Daniel could have used the safeword, but notice that it’s not a preventative measure. The consent violation already happened - the pineapple is up his ass. Using the safeword in response to a consent violation can only prevent more from occurring, but it cannot stop the one that already happened.Secondly, there are some cases where a bottom may not use their safewords. In a more general context, we have subspace and other non-verbal states, which bottoms should disclose to a potential partner if that happens to them. But in the context of a consent violation, a bottom may have been triggered by a specific action. Trauma resurfaces. They no longer feel safe to safeword. Or it’s overwhelming pain and agony, like having a pineapple in your ass, that causes them to be non-verbal or too shocked to speak. Or they’re loathed to stop a fun time, even if they’ve been trampled on and they will need to address it later. Or they’re inexperienced and don’t know their own limits quite yet.I do think it’s important for bottoms to safeword when they feel things have gone wrong. This is how communication starts, and how further harm is prevented. Communication is a two-way street.But tops who start to fall back on various defenses like the Safeword Defense are - whether intentionally or not - shutting down further communication. What this does is effectively break off any opportunity to learn and grow and do better next time, on both sides. Nobody wins.And I will say that the Safeword Defense is probably used maliciously too, to explicitly silence people and disable communication entirely. I have no doubt the Safeword Defense works on new or naive kinksters. It’s probably an easy way for predators to convince their victims to doubt their own narratives, at least for long enough that the pain starts to fade from memory or until the consent violation is too long ago to act upon. There are many methods of utilizing victim-blaming to gain this upper hand and to do so repeatedly.Thus, it’s important that we do our best to listen to each other. It’s important to decry fallacious silencing techniques and any other form of victim-blaming rhetoric. It’s equally important to champion open and honest communicators who want to do better and encourage us all to do better. That’s the only way we will all be safe.Important Links:Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/342National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic Show Producers:- Benefactor ($2,000/month): - Pro Producer ($100/month): Buffalo_Max92- Master Producer ($50/month): - Executive Producer ($25/month) ShadowyFox, JunicornsAngel, Johnny Ferrell, Haru Webb, Rei Webb, slave Brendan, and Just_Call_Me_Ash- Sr. Producers ($10/month): xEmeraldxWolfx, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, RoxieBear, Trouble113, Alexandria, babylove&Sir, SortOutTheKinks, Master Gabriel, Daddy Steve, Sir Pent, KJ, TwistedTink&JustTommy, ArtKitten, AuthorMistressBlackrose, UpstateScCouple, Crystal Force, CJ, Cali, PerfectlyThick, Thorn, Odie & Ceci, Toredon, Cap'n J, BxB, Saviy, Lilred rose, AK-47, Knot_the_Daddy, and Charlie & little bit- Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, CIVLdisobedience, Hadea, Lily, Sir&Kitten, Raven, Raider69time, Atsila, MBRpoodle, LylacWine, Baddogbad, CozyCow, Arctic Foxglove, Anomalous Mats, MsRedSin & AJRJ, Katnipmeow, WyldThyme&Deacon Sean, CheeryQuery, Ropestuff2, Rabbit, BurningRedHot, Sir Wolf ArchAngel, Subx13, CourtsDom, Anthony, Gator, Gizmo, Ataleena, JJ, Jon Shaw, TheCheshyre, -miggs-, and TripleDelicious- Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, Jeremiah, Morgana13, Brodie, The Gabbing Girl Time Podcast, Lexa, and AshleyBecome a show producer: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/PatreonVendors I know, like, trust, and use: (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.)- http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.- http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of most things leather and paracord impact toys.- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TorridTimber - Fine fetish furniture and accessories- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist - Tink’s Toys Fb Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2350280868612699 Fetlife Profile: https://fetlife.com/users/9885653?sp=3 *coupon for listeners (first purchase only) TinksToys13- Dark Delights Shops: https://darkdelightsshop.com/ (Watch my product review of them: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/DarkDelightsShop)Contact info:Email: MasterKuldrin@gmail.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin Fire https://www.facebook.com/kuldrin.fireTwitter: @MasterKuldrin https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrinInstagram: masterkuldrin https://www.instagram.com/masterkuldrin/Patreon: kuldrinskrypt https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKrypthttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource

Recorded: April 25, 2021 / Published: Jan 16, 2022- Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt. I'm your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show we use our combined 30 years of BDSM experience and my 20 years working in the psychology field to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com. - In this week’s episode of The Krypt, thanks to the newest subcategory of TikTok, we are talking about watersports also known as golden showers.- Rules to Love By: ( https://inclusionwoodworks.com )1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young- “Ultimate Guide to Watersports-S03E41”.Why golden showers/watersports?:The feel.The taste.The taboo.Dominance/submission..Humiliation/degradation.Basic types of watersports:WettingPussing (Men watching women pee in toilets)Human urinalOmorashi or omo: Japanese word meaning "to wet oneself". (Making someone hold it, do the pee-pee dance, and finally wet themselves.Myths:Urine is sterile. False! There are naturally occurring bacterias in urine. Some bacterias can start growing when it comes in contact with urine.Drinking urine is healthy. False! It is a waste product and can spread diseases including bacterial, fungal, and viral infections. Drinking urine can dehydrate you. False! There is high sodium (salt) level in urine which will cause fluid retention. Safety:HIV and Hep B can be transmitted but it is so incredibly rare it is almost impossible. However, it is highly recommended to play safe with STD/STI testing.Bacteria can be passed through urine so do not play if you’ve been sick.Do not participate if the person providing the shower has a yeast infection.Do NOT get urine on open wounds including unhealed piercings and tattoos.Allergy Risk: Medications are passed through urine.Generally, watersports is a low-risk activity and is typically consider edge play due to the taboo nature of bodily functions. Getting started with a partner:Communicate: discuss desires, limits, medical issues, safe words, and aftercare.Take it to shower: there is no better place to try out watersports than in the shower.Do NOT go straight to the face! Even if face pissing is acceptable take your time and start at the legs and feet or even the torso or hands.Have a post-scene check-in and talk about it a few days to a week later.Level up with waterproof sheets and have some fun!Prepping:Drink a lot of water before a play session to help flush out the system.Do NOT drink coffee, tea, energy drinks, strong-flavored drinks (beer), or protein drinks.Do NOT eat strong-smelling foods such as asparagus, broccoli, and garlic.Do NOT eat high protein foods including plant-based proteins.Less potent teas are great to help with flow. Dandelion tea is a top choice.Some people prefer to receive a more “potent” golden shower. In this case, do the opposite of the previous prepping steps.Solo (auto-erotic urophilia):DD/lg/lb: Diapers and changingPrimal and Pet Play:Marking your territoryMaking someone go outside or use a litterbox to relieve themselves.Using piddle pads.Power Exchange:To some, urine consumption is the ultimate sign of dominance and submission. To this end, it is often reserved for special occasions, performed ritualistically, or used as a punishment.Degradation/Humiliation:Forced drinking, showering, and wetting.Tickle torture.Piss orgies.Medical Play:Collect a urine sampleUsing a bedpan, bedside toilet, or urine jug.Inserting a catheter. Get proper training from a medical professional before placing a catheter!Voyeur:In-personPornImportant Links:Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/341National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic Show Producers:- Benefactor ($2,000/month): - Pro Producer ($100/month): Buffalo_Max92- Master Producer ($50/month): - Executive Producer ($25/month) ShadowyFox, JunicornsAngel, Johnny Ferrell, Haru Webb, Rei Webb, slave Brendan, and Just_Call_Me_Ash- Sr. Producers ($10/month): xEmeraldxWolfx, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, RoxieBear, Trouble113, Alexandria, babylove&Sir, SortOutTheKinks, Master Gabriel, Daddy Steve, Sir Pent, KJ, TwistedTink&JustTommy, ArtKitten, AuthorMistressBlackrose, UpstateScCouple, Crystal Force, CJ, Cali, PerfectlyThick, Thorn, Toredon, Cap'n J, BxB, Saviy, Lilred rose, AK-47, Knot_the_Daddy, and Charlie & little bit- Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, CIVLdisobedience, Hadea, Lily, Sir&Kitten, Raven, Raider69time, Atsila, MBRpoodle, LylacWine, Baddogbad, CozyCow, Arctic Foxglove, Anomalous Mats, MsRedSin & AJRJ, Katnipmeow, WyldThyme&Deacon Sean, CheeryQuery, Ropestuff2, Rabbit, BurningRedHot, Sir Wolf ArchAngel, Subx13, CourtsDom, Anthony, Gator, Gizmo, Ataleena, JJ, and Jon Shaw- Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, Jeremiah, Morgana13, Brodie, The Gabbing Girl Time Podcast, Lexa, and AshleyBecome a show producer: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/PatreonVendors I know, like, trust, and use: (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.)- http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.- http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of most things leather and paracord impact toys.- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TorridTimber - Fine fetish furniture and accessories- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist - Tink’s Toys Fb Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2350280868612699 Fetlife Profile: https://fetlife.com/users/9885653?sp=3 *coupon for listeners (first purchase only) TinksToys13- Dark Delights Shops: https://darkdelightsshop.com/ (Watch my product review of them: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/DarkDelightsShop)Contact info:Email: MasterKuldrin@gmail.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin Fire https://www.facebook.com/kuldrin.fireTwitter: @MasterKuldrin https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrinInstagram: masterkuldrin https://www.instagram.com/masterkuldrin/Patreon: kuldrinskrypt https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKrypthttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource

Recorded: 4/18/2021 / Published: 1/13/2022- In this week’s episode of The Krypt we have some fun sex toys buying facts from 2020 and then it's another highly requested audience Q&A.- Rules to Love By: ( https://inclusionwoodworks.com )1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young- “BDSM Fun Facts, Sex Toys, and Q&A-S03E40”“The Rise of Sex Toys and Key Trends for 2021” By Lara Dolden February 8, 21https://techround.co.uk/news/the-rise-of-sex-toys-and-key-trends-for-2021/Let’s face it, 2020 was not the most exciting year on record. Between canceled holidays, restaurant closures, and separation from friends, it was difficult to stay entertained. Many were taking to the bedroom to add some adventure to the otherwise humdrum lockdown days, with record-breaking increases in sex toy purchases. With much of the world still on lockdown, it seems the enthusiasm for sex toys is set to continue for 2021, with a few key trends. Strapped Down in LockdownWhilst many were getting cabin fever during a national lockdown, some were clearly content to get even further locked down. 2020 proved to be a year of experimentation, with sales seemingly showing an increased preference for BDSM. Sexperts at Ann Summers reported increased sales in BDSM products including whips and bondage restraints.In particular, there was a 799% sales increase of faux leather buckle cuffs. All of this alongside a 70% increase in Google Searches for “what is BDSM?” There was an enormous increase in sales for bondage essentials such as ball gags and nipple clamps (582%) and spreader bars (429%) showing that bondage and BDSM experimentation is on the rise.The Year of the RearAnother thing that people seemed to be exploring during the pandemic was anal sex, with a 40% increase in Google search data for “how to have anal sex”. Curiosity for this topic was clearly piqued with another search term, ‘what is pegging in sex?’, experiencing a 250% rise in Google searches. The ‘Intro to Anal Kit’ was the top-selling anal toy, according to data from Ann Summers.Additionally, the ‘Booty Blue Beginner’s Butt Plug saw a 137% increase in sales. Experts predict that anal dildos and pegging equipment will be the go-to items for 2021 as couples start to get more experimental in the bedroom.The G-Spot is So Last YearSex tech has long-since been establishing itself in the world of tech and robotics, causing a stir at the 2019 CES (Consumer Electronics Show). For 2021, sex tech has come back even bigger and better than before. Remember the one-trick pony sex toys of yesteryear?These are a far cry from the latest toys, designed to blend different techniques for the so-called “holy grail of orgasms”.The latest products from pioneering Lora DiCarlo use advanced technology to simultaneously provide clitoral stimulation and stimulation of the CUV (formerly known as the G-Spot). With the latest PercussionTouch, the sex toys are designed to replicate the warmth of human touch and stimulate blood through the use of thermal conductive plastics.Q&A Time!Junicorns Angel​:When going to a new or new to you dungeon, what are your first steps for getting familiar with the rules, & the attendees?any play stories you are willing to share?Lily Chaos:​Can you do kink and vanilla bucket lists for both of you when you answer that bucket list question?The Play Space: BDSM for Short Attention Spans​I'd like rope more if I was any good at it. I can't practice with the cats around.PWB:​I wanna try saline injection in my CatLily Chaos:​is there a reason cats prevent practicing rope? Serious question not a smartass remarkCaptain J​:Taboos of the Kink universe? What are they, other than the basic Dont Fail/Neglect/choose to play unsafely, don’t play non-consensually, & always communicate. Also you can call me a Legume Loper.Art Kitten​:can one be mentored online? say if it includes zoom, vc, phone calls, pics?The Play Space: BDSM for Short Attention SpansBusiness question (anyone can answer): I need a new camera to shoot with, but I'm broke as hell. Does anyone have any suggestions?Kittyxxx:​What is something you both want to achieve by the end of the year?babylove&Sir:​Do you recommend people /newbies to attend kink conferences? Why/why not?Lily Chaos​:What is one thing people can do that causes you (MK and Mayfair both) to walk away? Like when you meet a new person what's one thing that someone cant come back from?​What's one thing you feel someone (other than abuse) could do in the community and not come back from. Like an "unforgivable thing".What was your favorite part of Kink Life when you started (MK, when you restarted) and now?What's the number one stupid question you feel new people ask you about the lifestyle? What is the most common legitimate question you feel new people ask you?​What's your biggest pet peeve in a scene, what's your biggest pet peeve at a dungeon, what's your biggest pet peeve in every day life?Captain J:Have you yourself or have you seen someone have tears of joy or have that wholy positive breakdown of like purely cathartic & all around emotional, physical, sexual release?Important Links:Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/340National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic Show Producers:- Benefactor ($2,000/month): - Pro Producer ($100/month): Buffalo_Max92- Master Producer ($50/month): - Executive Producer ($25/month) ShadowyFox, JunicornsAngel, Johnny Ferrell, Haru Webb, Rei Webb, slave Brendan, and Just_Call_Me_Ash- Sr. Producers ($10/month): xEmeraldxWolfx, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, RoxieBear, Trouble113, Alexandria, babylove&Sir, SortOutTheKinks, Master Gabriel, Daddy Steve, Sir Pent, KJ, TwistedTink&JustTommy, ArtKitten, AuthorMistressBlackrose, UpstateScCouple, Crystal Force, CJ, Cali, PerfectlyThick, Thorn, Toredon, Cap'n J, BxB, Saviy, Lilred rose, and AK Rich- Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, CIVLdisobedience, Hadea, Lily, Sir&Kitten, Raven, Raider69time, Atsila, MBRpoodle, LylacWine, Baddogbad, CozyCow, Arctic Foxglove, Anomalous Mats, MsRedSin & AJRJ, Katnipmeow, WyldThyme&Deacon Sean, CheeryQuery, Ropestuff2, Rabbit, BurningRedHot, Sir Wolf ArchAngel, Subx13, CourtsDom, Anthony, Gator, Gizmo, Ataleena, JJ, and Jon Shaw- Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, Jeremiah, Morgana13, Brodie, The Gabbing Girl Time Podcast, and LexaBecome a show producer: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/PatreonVendors I know, like, trust, and use: (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.)- http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.- http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of most things leather and paracord impact toys.- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TorridTimber - Fine fetish furniture and accessories- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist - Tink’s Toys Fb Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2350280868612699 Fetlife Profile: https://fetlife.com/users/9885653?sp=3 *coupon for listeners (first purchase only) TinksToys13- Dark Delights Shops: https://darkdelightsshop.com/ (Watch my product review of them: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/DarkDelightsShop)Contact info:Email: MasterKuldrin@gmail.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin Fire https://www.facebook.com/kuldrin.fireTwitter: @MasterKuldrin https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrinInstagram: masterkuldrin https://www.instagram.com/masterkuldrin/Patreon: kuldrinskrypt https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKrypthttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource

Recorded: 4/11/2021 / Published: 1/9/2022- Ccan call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com. - In this week’s episode of The Krypt we are going to have some fun and talk about 20 sex facts you probably don’t not know about sex. Plus, if we have time, we’ve three really interesting bonus facts.- Rules to Love By: ( https://inclusionwoodworks.com )1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young- “20 Things You Don't Know About Sex-S03E39”*Prior to birth, unborn babies masturbate.* Orgasm is a reflex of the autonomic nervous system. The ANS controls things we don’t continuously control like arousal, breathing, and digestion.* You can orgasm when you are brain dead.* You don’t need genitals to orgasm.* Orgasm can cause a seminal odor in women’s breath about an hour after achieving orgasm.* Orgasming can cure intractable hiccups.* Fertility doctors used to prescribe orgasms for conception due to the now-debunked “upsuck theory”.* Dr. Kinsey recorded 300 men ejaculating to measure the distance of the shot. A third of the men had no distance and one man shot 8 feet.** The human womb has an oxygen level equivalent to the top of Mount Everest, designed to keep the fetus asleep 95% of the time.** A man had a brain tumor that caused him to orgasm every time he looked at a safety pin. ** Powdered wigs became popular to hide syphilis symptoms.*** According to a 2005 sex study, you are greatly more likely to orgasm if you wear socks during sex. 80% of couples wearing socks had orgasms but only 50% of the couples not wearing socks got off. *** On average fewer heavier men experience premature ejaculation than skinny men. *** Sex can temporarily wipe your memory due to Transient Global Amnesia.*** People in their twenties have sex an average of 80 times per year.*** Going from having sex once a month to once a week can provide a person with the same joy as making an extra $50 thousand a year.**** 53% of women want more sex than they are having.**** Nearly 75% of women want to have sex at least 3 times a week.**** Female orgasm rates: Lesbians 74.7%, straight women 61.6%, and bisexual 58% of the time.**** Because nipple play stimulates the exact same areas of the brain, 29% of women have experienced a nipple-gasm.Bonus Fact #1: **** Most women cheat on there husbands with men who’s penis is larger than their husbands’ because they associate it with pain and discomfort. This has been proven to be one way a cheating woman will punish herself for her infidelity.Bonus Fact #2: **** Simultaneous orgasm is rare, most people will never experience it.Bonus Fact #3: **** A man will ejaculate around 4.5 gallons/17 liters of semen in their lifetime.Sources: * TEDx: “10 things you didn't know about orgasm | Mary Roach”https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7jx0dTYUO5E** Sexplanations: “9 Intriguing Sex Facts”https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oU9097--t4w *** BuzzFeedVideo: “10 Weird Sex Facts That You Should Know”https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YtYI1OMrbgY **** Psychology Success: “25 Naughty Facts About Sex”https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5j3FYb4il30 Important Links:Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/339National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic Show Producers:- Benefactor ($2,000/month): - Pro Producer ($100/month): Buffalo_Max92- Master Producer ($50/month): - Executive Producer ($25/month) ShadowyFox, JunicornsAngel, Johnny Ferrell, Haru Webb, Rei Webb, slave Brendan, and Just_Call_Me_Ash- Sr. Producers ($10/month): xEmeraldxWolfx, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, RoxieBear, Trouble113, Alexandria, babylove&Sir, SortOutTheKinks, Master Gabriel, Daddy Steve, Sir Pent, KJ, TwistedTink&JustTommy, ArtKitten, AuthorMistressBlackrose, UpstateScCouple, Crystal Force, CJ, Cali, PerfectlyThick, Thorn, Toredon, Cap'n J, BxB, Saviy, Lilred rose, and AK Rich- Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, CIVLdisobedience, Hadea, Lily, Sir&Kitten, Raven, Raider69time, Atsila, MBRpoodle, LylacWine, Baddogbad, CozyCow, Arctic Foxglove, Anomalous Mats, MsRedSin & AJRJ, Katnipmeow, WyldThyme&Deacon Sean, CheeryQuery, Ropestuff2, Rabbit, BurningRedHot, Sir Wolf ArchAngel, Subx13, CourtsDom, Anthony, Gator, Gizmo, Ataleena, JJ, and Jon Shaw- Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, Jeremiah, Morgana13, Brodie, The Gabbing Girl Time Podcast, and LexaBecome a show producer: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/PatreonVendors I know, like, trust, and use: (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.)- http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.- http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of most things leather and paracord impact toys.- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TorridTimber - Fine fetish furniture and accessories- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist - Tink’s Toys Fb Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2350280868612699 Fetlife Profile: https://fetlife.com/users/9885653?sp=3 *coupon for listeners (first purchase only) TinksToys13- Dark Delights Shops: https://darkdelightsshop.com/ (Watch my product review of them: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/DarkDelightsShop)Contact info:Email: MasterKuldrin@gmail.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin Fire https://www.facebook.com/kuldrin.fireTwitter: @MasterKuldrin https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrinInstagram: masterkuldrin https://www.instagram.com/masterkuldrin/Patreon: kuldrinskrypt https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKrypthttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource

- Call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com. - Two weeks ago we talked about when you should not participate in BDSM play and in this week’s episode of The Krypt we are going to keep with that theme because I found something from Spain that I have to share with as a BDSM nightmare and a huge warning to those of you that love to randomly meet people in person that you have met online.- Rules to Love By: ( https://inclusionwoodworks.com )1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young-  “IRL Hooking up with online players: BDSM Nightmare-S03E38-S03E38”“Group Arrested For Torturing, Blackmailing Man With Learning Disability” by Brian Yalung, Mar 11, 2021https://www.latintimes.com/group-arrested-torturing-blackmailing-man-learning-disability-466718“Seven people who allegedly tortured a mentally unstable man in Spain have been arrested. Four women and three men reportedly glued the lips of the man and forced him to go to the supermarket dressed as a woman. However, that was not the worst part of it. The man, who had a learning disability and wanted to get an extreme makeover, also ended up with tattooed penises on his face. His eyebrows were also shaved while his toes were sewed. The despicable act all started when a man offered to pay anyone online to help him get that makeover.At some point, the man, whose identity remains unknown, was able to escape when he told the kidnappers that he needed to go to a cashpoint so that he could pay his captors off. The kidnappers agreed and the victim immediately ran to the police. He has been receiving death threats since doing so.It appears all of it stemmed from an online contest which the man organized online. The contest was based on a sexual role-play game where he could pay anyone to help him change his appearance using transvestism and light BDSM.There were some who the man-made to sign a contract that was titled “Change of Look.” But it was the group that eventually got chosen and headed to the property in Manacor after meeting up in a city center square in the Majorcan capital Palma called Plaza de Espana.The victim is reportedly in his 30s and videos show some of the ordeals. That included the man saying that he needed to untie himself in a minute or his eyebrows would be shaved off.The suspects were reportedly aged between 20 to 30 and were arrested over the torture they did on the man. A mother of one of the suspects has also been called for questioning since the episode took place at her home. She is, however, not among the ones arrested.“We have taken a statement from the victim and what he's said is that he made it clear ahead of the contest he didn't want extreme violence or sex,” Alejandro Becerra, a spokesman for Spain's National Police in Majorca said. “The effects of the treatment meted out to him are serious because he'll have to have treatment to remove the tattoos for example.”How to avoid things like this:Common sense: If things don’t make sense then run.If you don’t understand then run.Never forget, “there’s nothing common about common sense.” However, if we make it a point to stop, take a breath, and push the pause button for a few seconds, we can allow ourselves the opportunity to experience a lightbulb moment. Do your homework:Risk Aware Consensual Kink: While it isn’t a person’s responsibility or fault they were abused or raped, it is our responsibility to educate ourselves to try to prevent it. Obviously, there are terrible people out there that are excellent at pretending to be good. Unfortunately, it is impossible to protect ourselves from all of these people. However, we can help our odds with the power of knowledge.Safe calls:Set up times to CALL someone and have codewords in place. Never share the scheduled times of the calls or the codewords with the date! It amazes me how often this happens. Use the Find a Friend appStick to the plans for the evening. They know they have you when they are able to get you to change the plans. Do not trust vetting! I used to preach vetting like it was a religion until I admitted the truth to myself. Vetting on an actual abuser only works about 25% of the time and the reason is simple: abuse and rape victims often:-Blame themselves so they don’t share it.-Feel ashamed so they don’t share it.-Are traumatized and don’t remember it.-Pretend it didn’t happen and avoid it at nearly all costs.-It has also been proven that a very small number of victims of assault/abuse will intentionally talk up their abuser to someone who they view is strong enough to be able to bring down the abusive person. They become so focused on the abuser being caught they will send an unknowing “warrior” straight into the lion’s den with no knowledge whatsoever and expect them to come out victorious because the victim has put them on a pedestal and views them as “such a strong person”. It’s important to mention that the people that do this fully believe the strong person will not be hurt.Do not lose sight of being an adult!I have heard over and over “I’m a sub. It’s what I do. When they told me that I was going to the thing, I did the thing.” Being submissive does not mean that you don’t have a backbone and it doesn’t mean that you have an excuse to make you free of all decisions. Especially when there isn’t an established dynamic in place.Don’t forget BDSM is popular!Before there were 12 million people on FetLife, it was hard to find a group of people or a play partner. That reeeally sucked but now that it’s become part of pop culture it is has become a cesspool of freaks, fakes, phoneys, and fuckups. It used to be that one in five people would have a hard limit violated in the first three years of entering the scene. I fully believe that it has grown to 50%. While I also believe a large percentage of that increase is accidental, it doesn’t excuse the lack of education and training people are choosing over playing safe. Important Links:Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/338National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic Show Producers:- Benefactor ($2,000/month): - Pro Producer ($100/month): Buffalo_Max92- Master Producer ($50/month): - Executive Producer ($25/month) ShadowyFox, JunicornsAngel, Johnny Ferrell, Haru Webb, Rei Webb, slave Brendan, and Just_Call_Me_Ash- Sr. Producers ($10/month): xEmeraldxWolfx, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, RoxieBear, Trouble113, Alexandria, babylove&Sir, SortOutTheKinks, Master Gabriel, Daddy Steve, Sir Pent, KJ, TwistedTink&JustTommy, ArtKitten, AuthorMistressBlackrose, UpstateScCouple, Crystal Force, CJ, Cali, PerfectlyThick, Thorn, Toredon, Cap'n J, BxB, Saviy, Lilred rose, and AK Rich- Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, CIVLdisobedience, Hadea, Lily, Sir&Kitten, Raven, Raider69time, Atsila, MBRpoodle, LylacWine, Baddogbad, CozyCow, Arctic Foxglove,  Anomalous Mats, MsRedSin & AJRJ, Katnipmeow, WyldThyme&Deacon Sean, CheeryQuery, Ropestuff2, Rabbit, BurningRedHot, Sir Wolf ArchAngel, Subx13, CourtsDom, Anthony, Gator, Gizmo, Ataleena, JJ, and Jon Shaw- Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, Jeremiah, Morgana13, Brodie, The Gabbing Girl Time Podcast, and LexaBecome a show producer: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/PatreonVendors I know, like, trust, and use: (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.)- http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.- http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of most things leather and paracord impact toys.- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TorridTimber - Fine fetish furniture and accessories- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist - Dark Delights Shops: https://darkdelightsshop.com/ (Watch my product review of them: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/DarkDelightsShop)Contact info:Email: MasterKuldrin@gmail.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Twitter: @MasterKuldrin https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrinPatreon: kuldrinskrypt https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKrypthttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource