Almost Adulting with Violet Benson

Hey Besties! Today, Violetta will give us a quick recap of Love is Blind Season 6. Is Matthew just your average guy, or could he be hiding a dark secret? From navigating the rules of marriage with AD and Clay to exploring the dynamics of religious love with Brittany and Kenneth, we'll delve into the highs and lows of partnership. Buckle up as we dissect the correlation between love and lust with Jimmy and Jessica, and uncover the telltale signs of trouble in relationships. Whether it's recognizing red flags or learning to prioritize self-growth, this episode is packed with insights to navigate the rollercoaster of love and emotions. If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!Today’s Sponsors:Skims - Believe the hype - SKIMS has over 100,000 five star reviews for a reason. Visit www.skims.com/ Express VPN - Stop missing out on great TV and get thousands of new shows with Express VPN - we got them to give you guys three extra months free when you use our special link www.expressvpn.com/ADULTING.What to Listen For:00:00 Intro01:38 Is Matthew a serial killer?07:55 AD and Clay - rules of marriage09:59 Brittany and Kenneth - the religious couple11:06 Jimmy and Jessica - correlating love with lust14:55 When someone rejects you, leave18:30 Jimmy’s red flags24:16 Crying over the consequences of your actions26:44 Chelsea, work on yourself and stop seeking validation from your partner28:19 Who will walk down the aisle?Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey Besties! The man behind the Create the Love is back! Mark Groves is a human connection specialist, speaker, writer, motivator, creator, connector and collaborator. As a bridge between the academic and the human, Mark invites people to explore the good, bad, downright ugly, and beautiful sides of connection.What does it truly mean to find liberation in love? How do we reclaim our worth after it's been taken from us? Today, Violetta and Mark explore these questions and more, delving into topics like building self-trust, healing codependency, and navigating the emotional complexities of heartbreak. From learning to communicate our deepest emotions to embracing closure and letting go, each chapter of this episode offers profound insights and empowering strategies for navigating the highs and lows of love. If you’re looking for answers, this one's for you!If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!What to Listen For:00:00 Intro02:43 Liberated Love  06:36 You’ve forgotten yourself in the relationship09:46 They took your worth with them when they left13:36 How do you build a high level of self trust?17:42 How do you heal codependency?19:46 The great disconnect28:04 Learning self-regulation through co-regulation35:14 Creating a space for you and your partner’s pain38:47 The analogy of the burning house42:57 Closing ceremony for an ended relationship51:19 Communicate how to feel 56:16 Emotional triggers actually never go away01:02:21 Does your partner get you?01:04:27 The right person can’t come if you won’t let go of the wrong one01:06:39 What does it mean when love is not enough?01:10:52 Using the ides of love to bypass the pain01:16:03 How do you get your ex back?Connect with Mark on:https://www.instagram.com/createthelove/ https://twitter.com/createthelove https://www.youtube.com/user/markgrovestv https://createthelove.com/ Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey Besties! Ready to take a deep dive into the world of love and self-discovery? Today, for another episode of Benson Book Club, Violetta will read and ponder on the 16 Reasons Why You Still Don’t Have The Love That You Want from Brianna Wiest’s 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Whether you're relying on others to do the work for you or expecting love to change your life, we've got the insights to help you navigate the twists and turns of the heart. Discover how honoring your inner child, embracing kindness, and aligning your heart and mind can lead to deeper connections and self-fulfillment. Don't miss out on this enlightening journey to finding love within yourself and beyond! If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!Today’s Sponsors:Truly - To find Truly Hard Seltzer near you, go to https://trulyhardseltzer.com/locations What to Listen For:00:00 Intro01:54 16 reasons why you still don’t have the love that you want14:25 The most meaningful relationships are the ones in which we are reflective back to ourselves16:47 Every relationship you have is with yourself19:38 Be your own person and do what you can on your own time  Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

And no, not in the way you're thinking! Since this month is all about relationships, Violet decided to talk about the most important relationship you will ever have - the one with yourself. Today Violet gets super vulnerable and upacks some things of her own, while giving you guys her step by step guide she uses to practice self love. Besties, In order for us to have healthy relationships with others, we have to look inward and mend the relationship with ourselves. And remember, never let a person show you twice that they don’t want you. If they want you in their life, they’ll treat you with kindness and love. If they want you to be part of their journey, they will want to spend their time with you and will always appreciate spending time with you. When they love you for who you are, you will never have to change. You will be loved just as you are, flaws and imperfections included.WANT MORE EPISODES? SUBSCRIBE TO MY PREMIUM PODCAST HERE - https://almostadulting.supercast.com/What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction02:37 Dating the male version of me06:55 Set boundaries for yourself10:19 Be self-aware17:04 Know who you are23:49 Change your perspective35:00 My love letter to youAd Timestamps:11:21 - Nutrafol14:21 - Talkspace28:23 - Penrose HillGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

They always say let go of your anger, let go of your pain, blah blah blah! But why doesn’t anyone talk about how using these “negative” feelings to your advantage to catapult you into your best season yet?Hello, Besties! September is all about checking in with ourselves, our mental health, and with our goals. To kick things off Violet is back with another solo episode and she is NOT here to sugarcoat. In today’s episode Violet admits last month was very hard, filled with severed relationships and heartbreaks, but today she is Violet thankful. Thankful that it’s all in the past and she has now welcomed September feeling better, stronger, and fiercer. Today, she shares four tips that can help anyone struggling internally, going through difficult and seemingly impossible situations, and help turn the negatives into optimism and positive change. Besties, let's use our pain and rage to turn the page - and today you’re gonna find out how!WANT MORE EPISODES? SUBSCRIBE TO MY PREMIUM PODCAST HERE - https://almostadulting.supercast.com/What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction02:47 “I woke up this morning feeling blessed and thankful.”06:40 There’s no timeline to how long you should take to heal10:28 Ask yourself, “Is it working for me?”14:18 It’s all in your head17:07 Sit with rejection, get comfortable with it19:31 Turn your resentment into your superpowerToday’s Sponsors:Express VPN - Stop missing out on great TV and get thousands of new shows with Express VPN - we got them to give you guys three extra months free when you use our special link www.expressvpn.com/ADULTING.Thrive Market - Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus FREE $60 gift! Go to www.thrivemarket.com/ADULTING. IQBAR - Now, our special podcast listeners get 20% off all IQBAR products, plus get FREE shipping. To get your 20% off, just text ADULTING to 64000.Get more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey Besties! Today, we welcome author, psychologist, and speaker Dr. Guy Winch. Guy specializes in the field of emotional health and well-being. He has gained recognition for his work in advocating for the importance of addressing emotional pain and mental health. He has given popular TED Talks on subjects such as "Why We All Need to Practice Emotional First Aid" and has authored books, including "Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts."Discover how to handle rejection without becoming your own worst critic and get inspired by Guy's own journey through fourteen years of rejection. From trust issues to self-criticism, we got your back with some real talk on navigating those tough moments. Learn the art of nurturing a supportive inner voice, practicing healthy self-reflection, and building emotional resilience. Plus, explore the fascinating world of emotional hygiene and the tools you need for a more resilient emotional well-being.Dr. Winch's Recovering from Rejection and Failure program, made in collaboration with Mindbloom, is available now! Make sure to check it and start turning setbacks into wins.If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!What to Listen For:00:00 Intro01:52 What are the most common emotions we experience when going through rejection?  02:58 Why do we stop trusting ourselves after a rejection?04:33 Don’t become self critical when you experience rejection06:11 How do you personally handle rejection and failure?07:40 Getting through fourteen years of rejection09:12 Having enough encouragement to keep you going10:49 How do you nurture a more supportive inner voice?15:42 What is healthy self-reflection?18:17 It’s about falling down, it’s about getting back up21:17 What is emotional hygiene?24:46 What happens when you don’t practice emotional hygiene?26:44 The tools you need to build emotional resilience28:56 Is self-compassion a game changer when it comes to dealing with failure?31:22 How do emotional wounds show up physically?34:37 Why do people get stuck in loneliness?39:28 Mindbloom: ketamine therapy for anxiety and depression45:05 Common misconceptions of psychedelics47:37 What are people most curious about psychedelics?49:16 Change your approach to emotional well-being50:00 The duration of ketamine treatment51:10 Is ketamine treatment right for you?53:26 What we don’t understand about heartbreaks56:17 Heartbreak is a grief process01:00:00 If you’re not feeling great, it’s not the best time to go online01:04:14 Real connection requires slight emotional vulnerability01:05:57 How can you make yourself happier?01:09:34 The difference between being alone and chronic loneliness01:11:12 Our emotional health requires effort01:15:08 Check-in with yourself periodicallyConnect with Guy on:https://www.guywinch.com/ https://www.mindbloom.com/bhttps://twitter.com/GuyWinch https://www.instagram.com/guywinch https://www.ted.com/speakers/guy_winch https://www.facebook.com/guywinchauthor/ Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey Besties! For another Benson Book CLub session, we are unpacking the fifteen expectations to let go of from the book, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think by Brianna Wiest - a collection of the author’s most beloved pieces of writing. Some of these pieces have never been seen; others have been read by millions of people around the world. This week, we're shedding the weight of unrealistic expectations and embracing the beauty of imperfection. From the myth of being meant for extraordinary things to the revelation that faults can be forgivable and attributes exceptional, Violetta breaks down the barriers that hold us back. Learn why the right person doesn't always come at the right time and why postponing your happiness is a recipe for dissatisfaction. It's time to let go, embrace the now, and set goals that truly align with your happiness! If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month! Today’s Sponsor:Shopify - Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at www.shopify.com/adultingWhat to Listen For:00:00 Intro01:40 Fifteen expectation to let go of to live a good life02:14 #1: You are mean to be extraordinary03:11 #2: Your faults are more forgivable and your attributes are more exceptional 03:54 #3: You can outsmart pain04:15 #4: You must let go of the expectation that love is something other people give you04:57 #5: Feeling something deeply means that it’s meant to be06:01 #6: If you work on yourself enough then you will not struggle anymore06:13 #7: The idea that you can control what people think of you07:56 #8: Hard work guarantees success08:23 #9: The idea that your thoughts will change themselves when your circumstances change09:03 #10: The belief that other people are responsible for your feelings 10:00 #11: Emotional intelligence is infallible composure10:44 #12: The idea that the right person will come at the right time11:21 #13: The idea that you can postpone your happiness or save it up11:59 #14: Anxiety and negative thinking are just pesky irritants that you have to learn to avoid12:33 #15: Focusing slowly on your own needs will make you the happiest13:20 Good goals to set to enjoy what you have than chase what you don’t haveGet more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey Besties! Welcome to the second week of Benson Bootcamp, a boot camp specifically designed to help you become the best version of yourself, no matter how bad it hurts. It’s called BOOTCAMP for a reason, duh!This week on Almost Adulting we’re having the difficult discussion about boundary setting. Though it may be hard, these realizations will not only be long-lasting, but also help you love yourself a little more. Violet tells an in depth story about her friend who possesses the fatal victim mentality flaw. Ya know, that kind of friend who never fails to make EVERYTHING about themselves, and when you finally cut them off your life becomes inexplicably better? Yeah, that type. But that’s what setting boundaries can do. It aids you in protecting your mental health, having inner peace, and taking control of your own emotions and thoughts even when you don’t have control over other people’s words and actions. Besties, if there’s one thing you take from this please let it be that you are NEVER selfish for setting boundaries and prioritizing yourself. You are your biggest advocate and supporter, now act like it! If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction00:53 Let’s call my friend Nicole15:51 The main issue is my lack of boundaries19:41 Everyone gets tired of pretending21:00 When you start setting boundaries for yourself25:09 “We never really know why people do what they do.”27:13 We can choose to not be a victimGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey Besties! It is the fourth and final installation of Benson Bootcamp, and we’re ending on a note to set you up perfectly for the month of love coming up!This week on Almost Adulting, you and Violet are diving into your divine femininity. What does this mean you ask? The divine feminine is the feminine aspect of the divine power that connects and binds the earth together. It is something we all have within us, and something that if channeled correctly, can open us up to so many things we are unknowingly evading ourselves from. While both masculine and feminine energy are present and necessary in all people, tapping into one's feminine energy can help further receptivity, openness, and vulnerability. In this episode Violet will discuss the pros of unleashing the various types of femininity and how leaning into their presence can assist you throughout your life. By the way, this is not to be confused with old school gender roles, or doing things just to attract a partner, but rather tap into an intimate side that is already within you. Enjoy the journey, Besties.Today’s Sponsors:Truly - To find Truly Hard Seltzer near you, go to www.trulyhardseltzer.com/locations   IQBAR - Now, our special podcast listeners get 20% off all IQBAR products, plus get FREE shipping. To get your 20% off, just text ADULTING to 64000. Skims - Believe the hype - SKIMS has over 100,000 five star reviews for a reason. Visit www.skims.com/Zocdoc: https://www.zocdoc.com/ADULTINGWhat to Listen For:00:00 Introduction04:14 We all have masculine and feminine energy07:48 What you want is not what you attract13:55 Be in your feminine divine energy18:44 Your dark, seductive feminine energy22:05 Your light, innocent feminine energy25:43 Trusting the process of dating26:08 Set standards and stick by them29:43 They always see your worthAd Timestamps:12:41 - IQBAR/Truly25:12 - SkimsGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, we throw it back to when Violetta got real with Brooke Schofield, co-host of Cancelled with Tana Mongeau. They spill the tea on Matt Rife's questionable dating tactics (seriously, bro?), but the conversation takes a deep turn as Brooke opens up about her challenging childhood with two drug-addicted racist parents. Brooke shares her journey dealing with borderline personality disorder, revealing the power of self-healing and finding stability through medication. It's a rollercoaster of real talk and genuine connection—tune in, Besties! If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/.Today’s Sponsors:CBDistillery - Visit www.cbdistillery.com and use code ADULTING for 20% off.Nutrafol - Nutrafol - Find out why over 4,000 healthcare professionals recommend Nutrafol for healthier hair. Visit https://nutrafol.com/ and use promo code ADULTINGEveryPlate - EveryPlate - Get started with EveryPlate for just $1.49 per meal by going to https://www.everyplate.com and enter the code 49ADULTING Connect with Brooke on:https://www.tiktok.com/@brookeschofield1 https://twitter.com/broookeamber https://www.youtube.com/@BrookeSchofield1 Cancelled with Tana Mongeau podcastGet more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.