Almost Adulting with Violet Benson

Hey Besties! Let’s welcome Alex Bennett and Jordyn Woodruff, the duo behind the Mean Girl podcast. In the show, these two come together for honest conversations about sex, friendship, mental health, and living in the big city as outsiders.Violetta, Alex, and Jordyn didn’t hold back as they talked about what makes friendships last, setting boundaries (because, hello, we need space!), and why growing apart might just mean you're growing up. Ever wonder how to navigate friendships when life stages change or how to detox from toxic pals? We've got you covered! Plus, get the scoop on making friends in your fabulous late 20s. Because, let's face it, friends are the family we choose, and it's never too late to add to your tribe!If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!Today’s Sponsors:Talkspace -  As a listener to this podcast, you'll get $80 off of your first month with Talkspace when you go to https://www.talkspace.com/.Glamsquad - For a limited time, Glamsquad is giving our listeners $20 odd any service. It's valid whether or not you've booked with them before. Visit https://glamsquad.com/ or the Glamsquad app and use code ADULTING at checkout.Episode Highlights:00:00 Intro01:36 How’s LA?03:59 Do you make friends easily?04:21 How has making friends changed over the years?07:44 People who are able to maintain lasting friendships are green flags09:51 Does it matter how long you’ve been friends?15:31 How do you define a good friend?18:07 Scared to rely on friends too much21:29 Create boundaries with your friends23:24 Friendships growing apart as you mature32:36 If you’re not growing apart, you’re not growing up35:20 Do you stay friends with your married friends?39:42 Have you experienced a toxic friendship?43:06 Choose your friends who will say your name in a room full of opportunities44:28 Gossiping is false friendship bonding48:46 If you constantly talk about other people and nothing else54:51 How did you realize it was toxic?59:30 She’s my BFF but she stole my ex01:05:06 What did you learn from a toxic friendship?01:07:31 How to heal from a friendship breakup01:15:11 How to make new friends in your late 20s01:16:43 You will continue to make friends your entire lifeConnect with Mean Girl on:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVGd0eUpf67iwp7K84wTJnQ https://www.instagram.com/meangirlpod https://twitter.com/meangirlpod Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey Besties! In today’s Benson Book Club, Violetta will take inspiration from Men Don’t Love Women Like You! by G.L. Lambert - a manual on how to stop manipulation, command attention, and be seen as a must have by any man. Let's take a look into men's true intentions in romance, separating truths from "D*ck Lies," understanding sexual significance, and uncovering why men pursue new conquests. Learn why you might be unknowingly auditioning for a role you didn't choose in the complexity of love and desire.If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Wednesday and Saturday each week!Today’s Sponsors:Nuuly - Nuuly is a great value at $98 a month for any 6 styles, but right now you can get $20 off your first month of Nuuly when you sign up with the code ADULTING20. Just go to https://www.nuuly.com/What to Listen For:00:00 Intro02:49 Chapter 3: Dick Lies 05:52 How will he know if you’re a fling or not08:05 S*x is everything and nothing09:02 What does s*x mean to a man?11:45 Why men chase after new p*ssies15:00 Men claiming it’s not about s*x21:17 Men don’t always pressure you to have s*x25:17 Most women don’t realize the role they are playing26:54 S*xual chemistry doesn’t disappear because you’re only talking27:44 You’re being groomed for a placeholder positionGet more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey Besties! Today, we welcome Sarah Baldwin. Sarah is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Trauma-informed Life Coach dedicated to supporting individuals in understanding their reactions, feelings, and patterns, emphasizing that these are not indicative of anything wrong, but rather everything being right with the person. She focuses on showing individuals that they are safe and can get unstuck, which leads to thriving and living the life they're meant to live. Violetta and Sarah will unpack everything from why your nervous system might be more tangled than your headphone cords, to the truth behind why we sometimes mix up safety with danger. Ever wondered why your relationships feel like a soap opera? We've got the lowdown on that too. And for those moments when you're feeling more 'meh' than magical, we'll guide you through the maze of moods to find your way back to fabulous. So, buckle up and prepare to confront the uncomfortable with a heap of insight - because understanding your inner workings should never be boring!If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!Today’s Sponsors:Penrose Hill - Firstleaf. Go to www.tryfirstleaf.com/ADULTING  to get your first box.Nuuly - Nuuly is a great value at $98 a month for any 6 styles, but right now you can get $20 off your first month of Nuuly when you sign up with the code ADULTING20. Just go to https://www.nuuly.com/  Episode Highlights:00:00 Intro02:00 How to tell if someone is emotionally regulated / dysregulated?03:57 What is the nervous system & what does it have to do with emotional regulation?10:25 Why is having a dysregulated nervous system so common?12:05 The reason why we sometimes perceive safety as danger17:04 What does dysregulation look like in relationships?20:37 Can I always feel "good"?21:51 The four primary states we go through29:43 Is our nervous system attached to our childhood experiences32:05 You're not your dysregulated reactions, and that's okay35:50 Taking tolerable steps towards the things that scare us36:04 How to confront the uncomfortable39:25 You’re in the right track if you find it difficult to do43:23 How to pull yourself out of unhappiness through regulation46:39 Learning how to have safe confrontations50:04 How to create a list that makes you feel alive53:26 What are the best somatic practices to regulate our nervous system?Connect with Sarah on:https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/ https://www.facebook.com/Sarahbaldwincoaching/ https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/ Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello and welcome to the Violetta's diary series available on my PREMIUM PODCAST!! Where I share my random thoughts with no cuts, no edits, no notes, no pre planning, no nothing. Just the two of us naked and honest with each other.Today we dive into the TEXT that ENDED my toxic friendship, vision board update, and how to be successfully delusional. This series lives EXCLUSIVELY on my premium channel, so to listen to the FULL episode, make sure to subscribe and catch it here - https://almostadulting.supercast.com/See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey Besties! Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex by John Gray. The book provides a practical and proven way for men and women to improve their communication and relationships by acknowledging the differences between them.  Today, Violetta will talk about the dynamics of motivation and love as she unpacks the secrets to motivating the opposite sex and explores the balance between love, responsibility, and boundaries. From understanding the importance of making a positive difference in someone's life to recognizing the fine line between need and neediness, Violetta dishes out her signature blend of wisdom and wit. So get ready to uncover the keys to fostering meaningful connections and navigating the ups and downs of modern romance. If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month! Today’s Sponsor:Thrive Market - Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift. Go to  https://thrivemarket.com//adulting Glamsquad - For a limited time, Glamsquad is giving our listeners $20 odd any service. It's valid whether or not you've booked with them before. Visit https://glamsquad.com/ or the Glamsquad app and use code ADULTING at checkoutWhat to Listen For:00:00 Intro01:34 How to motivate the opposite s*x09:54 When a man is in love, he’s motivated more11:27 When a man doesn’t feel he’s making a positive difference in someone’s life15:22 Many women today want time off, a time for themselves21:51 A woman needs to recognize her boundaries22:55 Step 1 - Motivation23:56 Step 2 - Taking Responsibility24:45 Step 3 - Practice26:03 As man experiences limits, he is motivated to do more28:38 The difference between needing and neediness31:16 A man appears most caring when he is afraidGet more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello and welcome to the Violetta's diary series available on my PREMIUM PODCAST!! Where I share my random thoughts with no cuts, no edits, no notes, no pre planning, no nothing. Just the two of us naked and honest with each other.Today we dive into how to change your perspective when it comes to goodbyes, people, being ghosted and when he doesn't want you - from the why to the how to the moving on.This series lives EXCLUSIVELY on my premium channel, so to listen to the FULL episode, make sure to subscribe and catch it here - https://almostadulting.supercast.com/See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey Besties! For another Benson Book Club session, we’re going to dive deep into Why We Hold On Tightest on the Things That Aren’t Meant for Us from Brianna Wiest’s 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think.  Violet shares her candid insights on navigating the complexities of relationships - from moving on from unrequited love and why we often find ourselves drawn to those who can't reciprocate our feelings to invaluable advice on finding peace and self-love amidst the chaos of modern romance. It's time to empower yourself and begin your journey to emotional freedom.Today’s Sponsors:Factor - Head to factormeals.com/ADULTING50 and use code ADULTING50 to get 50% off.Shopify - Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at www.shopify.com/adulting What to Listen For:00:00 Intro05:07 How to let go of the things that’s killing you inside?10:22 You can't convince someone to love you if they don’t19:21 How do you fall out of love with the idea of someone?24:13 Why do we keep choosing people who can’t love us back? Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello and welcome to the Violetta's diary series available on my PREMIUM PODCAST!! Where I share my random thoughts with no cuts, no edits, no notes, no pre planning, no nothing. Just the two of us naked and honest with each other.Today we discuss feeling ungrateful, creating a vision board, and large wieners jk maybe.This series lives EXCLUSIVELY on my premium channel, so to listen to the FULL episode, make sure to subscribe and catch it here - https://almostadulting.supercast.com/See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey Besties! Today, Vanderpump Rules cast Scheana Shay joins Violetta for an exciting and at the same time heart-tugging conversation. Throughout her time on "Vanderpump Rules," Scheana became known for her outgoing personality, dramatic relationships, and candid portrayal of her personal life on the show. In addition to her work on reality television, she has pursued acting and music endeavors. She has appeared in several television shows and films, as well as releasing her own music singles.Violetta and talk about the complexities of childcare, the challenges of maintaining friendships, and a potential sneak peek of Vanderpump Season 11. Plus the duo spills the tea on lost friendships, potential redemption arcs, and the behind-the-scenes drama you won't hear anywhere else. On a serious note, bravely shares her experiences with postpartum OCD, the healing power of EMDR therapy, and the heartbreaking reality of pregnancy loss. It's a raw and vulnerable exploration of mental health, friendship dynamics, and the bittersweet journey of self-discovery. If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!What to Listen For:00:00 Intro01:27 What’s one thing people misunderstood about you in the show?02:30 How did motherhood change you? 04:13 What’s your biggest fear around getting help with babysitting your child?07:06 Have you had support from other new moms?07:45 What’s a question someone has never asked you?08:30 “I’m never the favorite of this show.” 12:18 Hopes for Season 1113:17 Losing a friendship of 15 years17:09 Is the new season setting the stage for Sandoval’s redemption arc?19:16 Are you the friend that flip-flops?20:38 Figuring out a way to not breakdown in front of your child22:24 Friendship pact with Katie  24:37 What can people look forward to this season?26:05 Is Billie Lee in love with Tom Sandoval?33:31 Postpartum OCD39:39 EMDR Therapy 43:35 Pregnancy loss and traumatic labor45:13 Severe intrusive thoughts47:07 Signs of OCD before pregnancy50:54 Thinking of death everydayConnect with Scheana on:https://www.instagram.com/scheana/ https://twitter.com/scheana https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9jgdbAu8PZMmfYZBj2xnog https://www.tiktok.com/@scheana  Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey Besties! Today, Violetta welcomes television host and producer Kamie Crawford. Kamie also hosts her successful podcast, Relationsh*t and MTV’s long-running reality-based documentary series “Catfish: The TV Show”.Get ready to dive into all things fun and fabulous with Violet and Kamie. They chat about everything from what's currently keeping them busy to the importance of staying hydrated (because, let's face it, we need to keep those vibes flowing!). Plus, we'll dish on some seriously spicy topics, like the Stanley cup's wild ride through a car fire and the sinful indulgence of beignets. Oh, and don't worry, Bestie, we’ll let you in on some secrets too—like debunking those silly misconceptions about their social media persona and sharing the biggest lessons learned last year. If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!Today’s Sponsors:CBDistillery - Visit www.cbdistillery.com and use code ADULTING for 20% off.Penrose Hill - Try something new this year with Firstleaf. Go to www.tryfirstleaf.com/ADULTING to sign up and you'll get your first SIX hand-curated bottles for just $44.95.What to Listen For:00:00 Intro04:04 What are you currently working on?05:48 The importance of staying hydrated all day06:40 The Stanley cup that withstood a car fire09:18 Unhealthy food choices11:48 Have you had a beignet?15:06 What’s something most people don’t know about you?20:05 What’s the most common misconception about you?25:26 How are you when someone gets on your bad side?28:57 What are you currently working to improve?35:24 What’s the hardest lesson you learned last year?37:37 Does your mom have a very thick accent?40:27 What past experience that still resonates with you today?48:15 What’s the worst thing that can happen?54:41 What’s something you don’t want to repeat this year?   01:00:53 My social media is like my house…Connect with Kamie on:https://www.kamiecrawford.com/https://twitter.com/KamieCrawford https://www.tiktok.com/@kamiecrawford https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChpYYY1gnYb-4zbkK9xhpNA https://www.linkedin.com/in/kamiecrawford/ https://www.instagram.com/kamiecrawford https://www.facebook.com/KamieCrawford/ Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.