Parenting The Adlerian Way

Got a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer in an upcoming episode.  Q1.  8 year old refuses to apologize  Q2.  Divorced w/ shared custody, but teens want to see friends instead of uphold the parenting agreement to be with me outside the city Q3.  Improve my patience levels  Check out my Feb 23rd workshop on sibling rivalry Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr Belangee is an Adlerian clinician in private practice in Canton Georgia where she specializes in treating eating disorders from an Adlerian perspective.  In this episode we talk about social media’s impact on body image, family factors and personality traits of people who develop anorexia or bulimia, the difference between the two disorders, signs to watch for, preventative measures in your parenting, and how to approach dieting when it’s actually needed.  Check out more about Susan here:  Linkedin:  www.linkedin.com/in/susan-belangee-ph-d-lpc-b5248975 And Susan provided some great resources for listeners:  National Eating Disorders Association – www.nationaleatingdisorders.org ED Referral – www.edreferral.com (main page); for outside of US: www.edreferral.com/international Boys and Eating Disorders - https://childmind.org/article/boys-and-eating-disorders/ (The Child Mind Institute site is a great one for general mental health info as well) Book – Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls by Mary Pipher; recently revised 2019 for 25th anniversary If you are interested in learning more about Adlerian psychology and parenting, check out the North American Society of Adlerian Psychology:  https://www.alfredadler.org and consider membership. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. Guilty about 3 year old being left in the dust, as parent is consumed with demands of helping 5 and 7yo with on-line school. Q2. 10yr son won’t take responsibility for his actions and just blames others Q3. My 13 yr daughter was confident as a child, but now fears what others will think of her. Q4. How much freedom should I give a 13yr old if they are hanging with people who vape and smoke pot. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. Helping teens stay connected during COVID winter inside Q2. Left Canada for Costa Rica so my 15yo would go outside – still won’t  Q3. 13yr old finds world “loud and scary” after this long in her small bubble Q4. How to decide to pull a disengaged student from on-line schooling Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Lauren is a sociologist, youth advocate and award winning educator.  In this episode, Lauren shares some of essential skills that students are developing right now that will be lead to later success after the pandemic.   Lauren talks about finding the balance being supportive while also nurturing independence as kids learn to do school remotely.  Drop the guilt,  get realistic, model healthy limits and much more!    Check out more about Lauren here:    Linkedin - linkedin.com/in/laurenbarr4innovated Twitter – @Lauren_M_Barr FB -  facebook.com/proflauren.barr IG - @laurenbarr_innovat.ed And Lauren provided some great resources for listeners:    An article from MindShift:  How Can Teacher’s Nurture Meaningful Student Agency?   Greater Good has some wonderful science-based information from in positive psychology to help build those traits we need to manage life’s challenges more successfully.   https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/parenting_family   A letter I wrote to my students this fall: https://venngage.net/pl/ovjKALzpW2w   A Permission Slip for Parents – great video from an Ontario Administrator https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=3605607989556485   Many parents and students don't realize there are free resources out there. If they have HS students who need the support of a text to understand concepts better, and they don't have one at home, these can be great.  Open Textbooks:  https://open.umn.edu/opentextbooks https://open.bccampus.ca/browse-our-collection/find-open-textbooks/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Formerly of Saturday Night Live, and then applying his skills to teaching for 12 years, Jamie’s magical approach lead him to be the recipient of the TED Education-HuffPost International Teacher’s Award.  Jamie and I discuss Adler and what handwriting reveals about the subconscious. Jamie also explains ways to nurture children’s creativity at home, as well as tips for teachers on how to make both zoom and in-classroom learning more engaging!    Check out more about Jamie Mason Cohen below:    Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jamiemasoncohen Twitter  @jamiemasoncohen  YouTube: SATURDAY NIGHT LEADERS Virtual Workshop  https://bit.ly/SATURDAYNIGHTLEADERS   Jamie’s Virtual Speaker’s Reel  https://bit.ly/JamieMasonCohenReel   LIVE FROM YOUR CLASS #1 Amazon Best-selling Book https://bit.ly/LIVEFROMYOURCLASS   Jamie’s Youtube Channel https://bit.ly/JamieMasonCohenYoutube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

COVID has brought out a lot of mental health issues.  I can’t wait to share Paul’s interview with you, so you can gain a new understanding about mental health and emotions from an Adlerian perspective.  #GameChanger   You can find Dr Rasmussen’s book The Quest To Feel Good here LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-r-rasmussen-ph-d-b4452146/ Emotional Health Initiative Website for the workplace and employee well being   Rudolf Dreikurs Summer Institute: here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Former teacher and NYT best-selling author, Jess Lahey discusses her book and the research that supports the best way to motivate learning so children can truly excel. Turns out that our parenting, while good-intentioned, can interfere instead of enhance our children’s success.  Learn why and what to do about it!     You can follow Jess here:  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-lahey-b815a366/ Twitter: @jesslahey FB: https://www.facebook.com/jessicapottslahey IG: @teacherlahey YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFJ5jb98nTWRKRPm1JS0i_g/featured And listen in on her own podcast #AmWriting, co-hosted with bestselling authors KJ Dell’Antonia and Sarina Bowen: https://amwriting.substack.com/ KJ: https://kjdellantonia.com/ Sarina: https://sarinabowen.com/ You can buy her book here And pre-order her latest book due for release in April 2021 here:  The Addiction Inoculation: https://www.jessicalahey.com/the-addiction-inoculation Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 5yr old refuses on-line learning  Q2. Dealing with the emotions of a 12 yr girl Q3. Proper consequence for finding vape pen in grade 7’s bedroom Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jane Nelsen is a fellow Adlerian who has not only created 16 parenting books, but her organization is training parent educators to teach Adlerian parenting all over the world and in staggeringly huge numbers!  This dynamo is literally changing parenting around the globe and I was excited to hear more about her international training and how these concepts are received by other cultures.  You can find out more about Jane, all her book titles and Positive Discipline here:  https://www.positivediscipline.com https://www.positivediscipline.org https://www.facebook.com/positivediscipline https://www.twitter.com/PDTweets https://www.pinterest.com/pdpins1 https://www.instagram.com/positivediscipline https://www.youtube.com/user/PositiveDiscipline Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.