Parenting The Adlerian Way

Emma Brown, an author and investigative journalist for the Washing Post, perhaps best known for being responsible for bringing the Dr Christine Blasey Ford / Bett Kavanaugh story to light. In this episode of the podcast, I chat with Emma about the surprisingly scary issues facing boys today.  We discuss boys as silent victims of sexual assault who are not taken seriously; why we should drop the term the toxic masculinity and use the preferred “man box” and how to enlarge that box for our boys; the ambiguity of consent including the Aziz Ansari case; and much more!    Check out more about Emma Brown and her book here:  https://www.toraiseaboy.com Twitter @emmerbrown Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 12yo thinks he should have full access on his phone and is disrespectful. Q2. 7yo hits when he is mad. Worried he’ll be out of control at 13yo. Q3. How do I teach child to self-validate instead of looking outward for approval?   Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Michaeleen is a correspondent for NPR’s Science Desk. When her daughter Rosy was 3 years old, she bundled her up and left San Francisco to live amongst three ancient cultures to experience their parenting first hand.  She spent time with the Maya of the Yucatan, the Inuit of the Artic Circle and the Hadzabe in Tanzania.  In this interview we discuss the pitfalls of Western “WEIRD” parenting and the merits of ancient methods she refers to as “TEAM” parenting.    You can follow Michaeleen on twitter @FoodieScience  And her website:  www.michaeleendoucleff.com  She loves emails:  mdoucleff@npr.org   You can purchase her book from Amazon too: https://www.amazon.ca/Hunt-Gather-Parent-Ancient-Cultures/dp/1982149671 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer in an upcoming episode.  In this episode I referred to a great book on encouragement:   https://www.amazon.ca/Skills-Encouragement-Bringing-Yourself-Others/dp/1574440047  ( I suspect it is crazy expensive because it’s out of print.)  another great book is:  https://www.amazon.ca/Encouraging-Children-Learn-Rudolf-Dreikurs/dp/1583910824 and  https://www.amazon.ca/Turning-People-How-Encouraging-Person/dp/0967343941 Q1.  How to encourage a teen to get physically active during online schooling? Q2.  How to deal with  9 yr old son who is touching his private parts in public? Q3.  How to help 10 yr old daughter manage her emotions at home? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Amy Lang has been a sex educator for 25 years.  She has heard it all!  In this episode, Amy leads us through how and what to say about sex at each of age and stage of development.   Amy has also offered up a ton of resources to parents:  Books: Find all of these books and more here. It’s NOT The Stork (2 - 4)  It’s SO Amazing (4 - 11 )  It’s Perfectly Normal (11+ - and you if you are feeling rusty!)  The Every Body Book  (9 - 13) Consent for Kids (5 - 13) Good Pictures Bad Pictures, Jr (4 - 8) Good Pictures Bad Pictures (8+)    Monitoring and parental controls: Circle - this link will give $20 off   The Gender Unicorn - https://drive.google.com/file/d/19oRy6p9W67C-W0MSMlJ4Nat4_cEdBiMl/view?usp=sharing   Find Amy Here:  The Birds & Bees Solution Center- Everything you need to become your kids’ go-to birds and bees source. Use code BBKFEB21 for $15 off!  Just Say This! Amy’s advice-column style podcast IG: @BirdsBeesKids FB: https://www.facebook.com/birdsbeeskids/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Got a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer in an upcoming episode.  Q1.  8 year old refuses to apologize  Q2.  Divorced w/ shared custody, but teens want to see friends instead of uphold the parenting agreement to be with me outside the city Q3.  Improve my patience levels  Check out my Feb 23rd workshop on sibling rivalry Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr Belangee is an Adlerian clinician in private practice in Canton Georgia where she specializes in treating eating disorders from an Adlerian perspective.  In this episode we talk about social media’s impact on body image, family factors and personality traits of people who develop anorexia or bulimia, the difference between the two disorders, signs to watch for, preventative measures in your parenting, and how to approach dieting when it’s actually needed.  Check out more about Susan here:  Linkedin:  www.linkedin.com/in/susan-belangee-ph-d-lpc-b5248975 And Susan provided some great resources for listeners:  National Eating Disorders Association – www.nationaleatingdisorders.org ED Referral – www.edreferral.com (main page); for outside of US: www.edreferral.com/international Boys and Eating Disorders - https://childmind.org/article/boys-and-eating-disorders/ (The Child Mind Institute site is a great one for general mental health info as well) Book – Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls by Mary Pipher; recently revised 2019 for 25th anniversary If you are interested in learning more about Adlerian psychology and parenting, check out the North American Society of Adlerian Psychology:  https://www.alfredadler.org and consider membership. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. Guilty about 3 year old being left in the dust, as parent is consumed with demands of helping 5 and 7yo with on-line school. Q2. 10yr son won’t take responsibility for his actions and just blames others Q3. My 13 yr daughter was confident as a child, but now fears what others will think of her. Q4. How much freedom should I give a 13yr old if they are hanging with people who vape and smoke pot. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. Helping teens stay connected during COVID winter inside Q2. Left Canada for Costa Rica so my 15yo would go outside – still won’t  Q3. 13yr old finds world “loud and scary” after this long in her small bubble Q4. How to decide to pull a disengaged student from on-line schooling Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Lauren is a sociologist, youth advocate and award winning educator.  In this episode, Lauren shares some of essential skills that students are developing right now that will be lead to later success after the pandemic.   Lauren talks about finding the balance being supportive while also nurturing independence as kids learn to do school remotely.  Drop the guilt,  get realistic, model healthy limits and much more!    Check out more about Lauren here:    Linkedin - linkedin.com/in/laurenbarr4innovated Twitter – @Lauren_M_Barr FB -  facebook.com/proflauren.barr IG - @laurenbarr_innovat.ed And Lauren provided some great resources for listeners:    An article from MindShift:  How Can Teacher’s Nurture Meaningful Student Agency?   Greater Good has some wonderful science-based information from in positive psychology to help build those traits we need to manage life’s challenges more successfully.   https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/parenting_family   A letter I wrote to my students this fall: https://venngage.net/pl/ovjKALzpW2w   A Permission Slip for Parents – great video from an Ontario Administrator https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=3605607989556485   Many parents and students don't realize there are free resources out there. If they have HS students who need the support of a text to understand concepts better, and they don't have one at home, these can be great.  Open Textbooks:  https://open.umn.edu/opentextbooks https://open.bccampus.ca/browse-our-collection/find-open-textbooks/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.