Parenting The Adlerian Way

Q1. 1 of 3 triplets has sensory issues and getting her dressed is making us late for work. Q2.  9yr old daughter prefers to be topless, how do I get her to cover up without body shaming? Q3. 15yr daughter is defiant and I am afraid to DROP the rope – but it worked!    Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, I interview another one of our Adlerian greats, Dr Jon Sperry.  Jon is a multi-generational Adlerian like myself.  He joined me on the podcast to talk about how he uses drumming in a variety of ways and settings to build community, social interest and co-operation.  Trust me, you’ll want to dust off your bongo drums as soon as you hear this.   Check out more about Jon on his website.  Or at LinkedIn Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So excited to bring you a great convo with my Adlerian colleague Calvin, about his book that was launched this month. I had an advance copy and was blown away! Calvin is a Senior Associate at Travelers Rest Counseling Associates in Travelers Rest, SC, where he counsels young adults, couples, and parents. He regularly lectures on Adlerian psychology at regional universities, and facilitates training workshops both locally and internationally.   Calvin sheds light into how Adlerians conceptualize cooperation and the pitfalls of competitiveness that interferes with family life and personal growth.   You can order Calvin’s book here:  https://henosis-press.square.site/ You can hear Calvin's band here:  https://open.spotify.com/artist/0K4akTnriO1ftrI1gAy5zy https://www.travelersrestcounseling.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 2.5 twins girls peeing in the park Q2. How to heal a broken relationship with your child Do you have a parenting question for me? Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my webinar May 18th on Parenting Strategies for Tweens and Teens https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/parenting-strategies-for-teens-and-tweens-tickets-153343535643?aff=ebdssbonlinesearch Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Fionnuala gave up her teaching job to become a full time Adlerian Parent Educator and now has expanded to train educators too.  Originally from Ireland, and working in Germany, Fionnuala shares her journey and how others might seek out this fulfilling career, or at least explore more about Adlerian psychology outside of just a parenting class.    You can check out training programs with Fionnuala at www.parentingtools.de  Positive Discipline:  www.positivediscipline.org Parent Encouragement Program P.E.P www.pepparent.org Adlerian Summer Schools are called ICASSI and they are here: www.ICASSI.net North American Society of Adlerian Psychology NASAP https://nasap.memberclicks.net Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 2.5 yo tantrums in public on way home from daycare Q2. 7yo whistles just to bug us all.  Q3. 9yo having sleep issues since the pandemic Q4. How to get child to do homework without both of us ending up in tears?   Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr Frank Walton is an internationally acclaimed and well respected Adlerian psychologist with more than 40 years’ experience working with families in private practice in Columbia, South Carolina.   He has taught Adlerian family counselling practices around the globe. He has produced and published many resources, articles and manuals on teens and teen suicide. He was the psychological consultant for the critically acclaimed and award winning video “Teen Suicide: An Approach To Prevention”.    Check out the free downloadable resources on Dr Walton’s website.   The South Carolina Society of Adlerian Psychology’s Annual Conference International Committee of Adlerian Summer Schools and Institutes  (ICASSI) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 5&7 yo refuse to go upstairs to bed when it’s 8:30 bedtime.  Q2. Son says “I am dumb” or “I am stupid” when he makes a mistake Q3. 9 yo daughter says she is not good enough and is a perfectionist Q4. My child has broken my trust and now I find myself ( wrongly) going through their room to “catch them in a lie”.   Q5. 14yo daughter used to love camp, couldn’t go last year, now refuses to go this year. Do I force her?  Q6. 18yo daughter lost her friend group, now working a PT job and has friends there, but how do I encourage her to socialize with them outside of work too?    Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Another great interview with NYT best-selling author Jess Lahey discussing her new book! Jess shares how her own journey from addiction to sobriety that led her to want to dig into the research on how best to parent children to prevent them from becoming addicts.  Her book offers up the answers!    Buy The Addiction Inoculation book here.    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-lahey-b815a366/ Twitter: @jesslahey FB: https://www.facebook.com/jessicapottslahey IG: @teacherlahey YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFJ5jb98nTWRKRPm1JS0i_g/featured Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Michele is an educational psychologist and author of 25 parenting books, including Unselfie. She is an internationally renowned speaker and media mainstay. In our discussion Michele explains just how short sited our modern parenting practices are. She explains how we set up our kids to be strivers, but they eventually fail and collapse. Instead she instructs us about the parenting practices to raise kids who thrive and shine! Find Michel here: www.micheleborba.com IG @drmicheleborba Twitter: @micheleborb You can purchase her book from Amazon too: https://www.amazon.ca/Thrivers-Surprising-Reasons-Struggle-Others/dp/0593085272 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.