Parenting The Adlerian Way

Dr Frank Walton is an internationally acclaimed and well respected Adlerian psychologist with more than 40 years’ experience working with families in private practice in Columbia, South Carolina.   He has taught Adlerian family counselling practices around the globe. He has produced and published many resources, articles and manuals on teens and teen suicide. He was the psychological consultant for the critically acclaimed and award winning video “Teen Suicide: An Approach To Prevention”.    Check out the free downloadable resources on Dr Walton’s website.   The South Carolina Society of Adlerian Psychology’s Annual Conference International Committee of Adlerian Summer Schools and Institutes  (ICASSI) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 5&7 yo refuse to go upstairs to bed when it’s 8:30 bedtime.  Q2. Son says “I am dumb” or “I am stupid” when he makes a mistake Q3. 9 yo daughter says she is not good enough and is a perfectionist Q4. My child has broken my trust and now I find myself ( wrongly) going through their room to “catch them in a lie”.   Q5. 14yo daughter used to love camp, couldn’t go last year, now refuses to go this year. Do I force her?  Q6. 18yo daughter lost her friend group, now working a PT job and has friends there, but how do I encourage her to socialize with them outside of work too?    Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Another great interview with NYT best-selling author Jess Lahey discussing her new book! Jess shares how her own journey from addiction to sobriety that led her to want to dig into the research on how best to parent children to prevent them from becoming addicts.  Her book offers up the answers!    Buy The Addiction Inoculation book here.    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-lahey-b815a366/ Twitter: @jesslahey FB: https://www.facebook.com/jessicapottslahey IG: @teacherlahey YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFJ5jb98nTWRKRPm1JS0i_g/featured Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Michele is an educational psychologist and author of 25 parenting books, including Unselfie. She is an internationally renowned speaker and media mainstay. In our discussion Michele explains just how short sited our modern parenting practices are. She explains how we set up our kids to be strivers, but they eventually fail and collapse. Instead she instructs us about the parenting practices to raise kids who thrive and shine! Find Michel here: www.micheleborba.com IG @drmicheleborba Twitter: @micheleborb You can purchase her book from Amazon too: https://www.amazon.ca/Thrivers-Surprising-Reasons-Struggle-Others/dp/0593085272 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Emma Brown, an author and investigative journalist for the Washing Post, perhaps best known for being responsible for bringing the Dr Christine Blasey Ford / Bett Kavanaugh story to light. In this episode of the podcast, I chat with Emma about the surprisingly scary issues facing boys today.  We discuss boys as silent victims of sexual assault who are not taken seriously; why we should drop the term the toxic masculinity and use the preferred “man box” and how to enlarge that box for our boys; the ambiguity of consent including the Aziz Ansari case; and much more!    Check out more about Emma Brown and her book here:  https://www.toraiseaboy.com Twitter @emmerbrown Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 12yo thinks he should have full access on his phone and is disrespectful. Q2. 7yo hits when he is mad. Worried he’ll be out of control at 13yo. Q3. How do I teach child to self-validate instead of looking outward for approval?   Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Michaeleen is a correspondent for NPR’s Science Desk. When her daughter Rosy was 3 years old, she bundled her up and left San Francisco to live amongst three ancient cultures to experience their parenting first hand.  She spent time with the Maya of the Yucatan, the Inuit of the Artic Circle and the Hadzabe in Tanzania.  In this interview we discuss the pitfalls of Western “WEIRD” parenting and the merits of ancient methods she refers to as “TEAM” parenting.    You can follow Michaeleen on twitter @FoodieScience  And her website:  www.michaeleendoucleff.com  She loves emails:  mdoucleff@npr.org   You can purchase her book from Amazon too: https://www.amazon.ca/Hunt-Gather-Parent-Ancient-Cultures/dp/1982149671 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer in an upcoming episode.  In this episode I referred to a great book on encouragement:   https://www.amazon.ca/Skills-Encouragement-Bringing-Yourself-Others/dp/1574440047  ( I suspect it is crazy expensive because it’s out of print.)  another great book is:  https://www.amazon.ca/Encouraging-Children-Learn-Rudolf-Dreikurs/dp/1583910824 and  https://www.amazon.ca/Turning-People-How-Encouraging-Person/dp/0967343941 Q1.  How to encourage a teen to get physically active during online schooling? Q2.  How to deal with  9 yr old son who is touching his private parts in public? Q3.  How to help 10 yr old daughter manage her emotions at home? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Amy Lang has been a sex educator for 25 years.  She has heard it all!  In this episode, Amy leads us through how and what to say about sex at each of age and stage of development.   Amy has also offered up a ton of resources to parents:  Books: Find all of these books and more here. It’s NOT The Stork (2 - 4)  It’s SO Amazing (4 - 11 )  It’s Perfectly Normal (11+ - and you if you are feeling rusty!)  The Every Body Book  (9 - 13) Consent for Kids (5 - 13) Good Pictures Bad Pictures, Jr (4 - 8) Good Pictures Bad Pictures (8+)    Monitoring and parental controls: Circle - this link will give $20 off   The Gender Unicorn - https://drive.google.com/file/d/19oRy6p9W67C-W0MSMlJ4Nat4_cEdBiMl/view?usp=sharing   Find Amy Here:  The Birds & Bees Solution Center- Everything you need to become your kids’ go-to birds and bees source. Use code BBKFEB21 for $15 off!  Just Say This! Amy’s advice-column style podcast IG: @BirdsBeesKids FB: https://www.facebook.com/birdsbeeskids/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Got a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer in an upcoming episode.  Q1.  8 year old refuses to apologize  Q2.  Divorced w/ shared custody, but teens want to see friends instead of uphold the parenting agreement to be with me outside the city Q3.  Improve my patience levels  Check out my Feb 23rd workshop on sibling rivalry Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.