AuDHD Flourishing

Pasha Marlowe, an Autistic and ADHD-identified coach, shares her insights on belonging and relational challenges after two years. She discusses the evolution of identity beyond labels and the importance of flexible communication in relationships. Pasha highlights the emotional pitfalls of AI companionship and the struggle between craving connection and the need for solitude. They delve into trauma triggers, friendship expectations, and the ableism present in autism training, emphasizing the necessity of accurate language and self-acceptance.

Discover how decluttering can ease perfectionism and decision fatigue! A clean space boosts executive function, making creativity flow more freely. Learn about the power of simple changes and the importance of gentle home maintenance. The discussion includes insights on balancing books without the pressure of completion and how small tasks can lead to big impacts. Plus, get tips on effective five-minute pickups and the benefits of co-working during Decluttering Days. Embrace a kinder approach to your space for a happier mindset!

Dana K White, author and creator of the A Slob Comes Clean method, shares her journey from chaotic home to practical organizing guru. She introduces her container concept, emphasizing manageable decluttering and personal clutter thresholds. Dana speaks on using five-minute tasks to build trust with oneself, the value of pain in decision-making, and overcoming perfectionism. She also offers quick wins and highlights her five-step decluttering process, encouraging listeners to celebrate small victories as they transform their spaces!

Explore how transitions shape productivity for AuDHDers beyond just work! Discover the unique morning rituals that incorporate affirmations and music to ease into the day. Understand the importance of longer work blocks that match transition needs, and how tools like a walking pad can help streamline focus. Learn about the necessity of recovery days after intense work and the value of rest and play as transitions. Plus, hear about a free decluttering event to boost productivity through supportive practices!

PDA is the Persistent Drive for Autonomy (community term), or pathological demand avoidance (clinical & pathologizing term). What happens when PDA, ADHD, and autism all overlap? Well... stress and relationship challenges!Thankfully, everything that helped me feel more safe has also made my PDA more manageable. There are many approaches to build that safety.This episode is a follow-up to the interview on PDA last weekMentioned in episode: Book Low-Demand Parenting by Amanda Diekman (affiliate link)Last week's interview on PDA, and the podcast PDA: Resistance and ResilienceMattia's bday (or whenever) wish listAuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)Mattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's been a running joke (that wasn't initially a joke) that I'm totally going to do a PDA episode very soon... since the very first episode of AuDHD Flourishing.Now we have one, thanks to Chris Wells and Marni Kammersell for interviewing me on PDA: Resistance and Resilience, and letting me cross-post the episode here!Mentioned in episode:Full show notesAuDHD Flourishing Episode 87: Giftedness & the Sparkly Mind with Sheldon GayAuDHD Flourishing Episode 88: Gifted Development & Positive Disintegration with Chris WellsAuDHD Flourishing Episode 108: Using Intuition PracticallyRobert Chapman’s book Empire of NormalityConnect with Chris, Marni, PDA pod:Wandering Brightly with Marni KammersellPositive Disintegration and cosmic cheer squad with Chris WellsPDA: Resistance and Resilience on SubstackFollow us on InstagramAuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In a two-year reflection, Mattia shares how ADHD stimulant meds boosted initiation energy and productivity. They discuss the importance of respecting limits to avoid burnout, especially for those with people-pleasing tendencies. Increased self-trust leads to better task management but also risks overcommitment. Tips include planning before dosing and recognizing bodily signals. Mattia emphasizes medication as a tool for reducing distress rather than aiming to be unmedicated, advocating for a balanced approach to creative work.

One reason most advice doesn't work for us is that it's backwards. It's telling us to do/have the end result, rather than showing us how to get there.In the case of safety or shame, it's pretty clear that we can't just leap to the end of the process (if there even is one with a traumatized body).Mentioned in episode: Toxic Shame: What it is and How to Heal From it (YouTube, Heidi Priebe. Her take is overall better/more accessible than the book she's referencing, which is shockingly triggering all over the place)AuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TQ (they/them) is a queer, trans, physically disabled, AuDHD Chinese-Singaporean artist, author/host of the upcoming book/podcast Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC!, and community facilitator for other queer neurodivergent BIPOC.In true ND fashion, we range over many topics, including the importance of community and hearing your own stories as a person with multiple intersecting identities. You can pre-order a copy of their upcoming book for behind-the-scenes/early access to the interviews and writing! TQ's links & mentioned in episode:Support the Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! book and podcastAll the incredible neurodivergent, Autistic, and AuDHD creators of color TQ learns fromLovette Jallow on the history/use of the term "intersectionality" The Autastic CommunityAuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Also on YouTube for some visualsMy urge for minimalism is partly to provide myself with the visual cues I desperately need, without overwhelming myself with visual clutter. And, there has been a specifically classist push for minimalism that sometimes causes me to get rid of too much.Here's an excellent thread about minimalism, class, and why you're probably not a hoarderI especially loved the idea that you may just need better organization, because I really love lining things up. Now I'm focusing on organizing based on my interests, rather than what I think is the most practical or obvious!Mentioned in episode: Mastodon thread about minimalismThe exact iPad cover I showed that looks like a Composition notebook (still going strong almost four years in), affiliate linkAuDHD Flourishing resources:Transcript DocMattia's NewsletterLike Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.