Reclamation Radio with Kelly Brogan MD

Learn more about Dr. Kelly Brogan's signature health protocol, Vital Mind Reset here."You don’t need motivation to change—just a lemon and a willingness to get weird."In this episode, Kelly sits down with Britt Frank—licensed neuropsychotherapist, trauma educator, and author of The Science of Stuck—to unravel one of the most misunderstood inner states: stuckness. With raw honesty and sharp humor, Britt dismantles the myths around motivation, trauma, and change, showing us that what looks like inertia is often a disguised survival strategy.You’ll learn why most people aren’t actually stuck—they’re just allergic to their available options. Britt dives deep into the psychological mechanics behind avoidance, procrastination, codependency, addiction (including addiction to people), and the quiet chaos of a “fine” life that’s missing fire. Expect mind-blowing takes on why motivation is overrated, how biting a lemon can rewire your nervous system in real-time, and why your “bad” behaviors might just be keeping you safe. If you’re ready to get out of your own way, this episode is your wake-up call.You’ll Learn:How micro-yeses create momentum and override paralysisWhy “I have no choices” is usually a perception problem, not a realityHow biting a lemon can disrupt procrastination by shocking your nervous systemHow to reframe “I’m stuck” as a sign of hidden benefits, not just dysfunctionWhy motivation is not a prerequisite for action—and what to rely on insteadHow to identify the real payoff behind self-sabotaging behaviorsWhat shutting down desire signals about nervous system regulationWhy boredom and numbness can be harder to escape than rock bottomTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[00:45] Why feeling stuck is the root of suffering[01:32] How addiction to people can mask as relationship issues[02:06] Motivation is not required for change[03:01] Why therapists often professionalize their own trauma[04:15] What “stuckness” actually means[05:24] Why saying “I have no choices” is often a lie[07:11] How to spot micro-choices even in extreme situations[09:28] Why wondering is more effective than figuring out “why”[13:45] How to recognize invisible choices[15:08] What keeps people in harmful but familiar patterns[16:52] The right time to explore your hidden motivations[18:25] Why morality-based thinking keeps you stuck[20:12] Why some people feel nothing at all—and how to move anyway[24:06] Why a step in the wrong direction is still progress[26:36] You’re always motivated—just not how you think[28:56] Parts work as a strategy for inner leadership[30:34] How to coach your inner parts instead of bulldozing them[33:00] How pathologizing “bad” parts keeps you fragmented[35:08] Symptoms are messengers, not malfunctions[37:03] All behavior is functional—even the destructive ones[41:17] The shift from pathology to injury-based thinking[43:03] The value of having a pause between trigger and action[45:12] Why internal structure matters more than symptom elimination[51:13] Getting hooked on the highs and lows of chaos[53:00] Pattern disruption as the key to change[54:21] Why pattern breaks create choice windows👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereResources Mentioned: The Science of Stuck by Britt Frank | Book or Audiobook Align Your Mind by Britt Frank | Book or Audiobook Internal Family Systems (IFS) by Dr. Richard Schwartz | Website Sonic Slider by Biofield Tuning | WebsiteGet Britt's newest book, Align Your Mind, here. You can also connect with her on her website and her Instagram.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.Use code KELLYBROGAN at biofieldtuningstore.com for 15% off your first purchase. Not valid during sales. Exclusions apply.

Check out the replay of my masterclass Reclaimed Relationship here.You’re not being “nice”—you’re lying for safety.In this episode, Kelly sits down with feminine embodiment teacher and unapologetic truth-teller Perri Chase to expose the hidden cost of the fawning response—why it works, what it protects, and how it hijacks your nervous system, your relationships, and your sense of self.Perri, creator of the transformational practice Sex Bomb and a leader in modern feminine awakening, brings a raw and riveting perspective to the conversation. Her work unpacks the addictive loop of shame, the villainization of women’s needs, and the subtle ways we betray ourselves daily under the guise of “being good.” With decades of lived experience, provocative teachings, and a sharp lens on spiritual bypassing and codependent dynamics, Perri doesn’t just talk embodiment—she lives it.This is not your average empowerment episode. It’s a permission slip to stop performing, start feeling, and finally claim what you actually want.You’ll Learn:How the fawning response rewires your nervous system to lie for safetyWhy shame can become a seductive, self-reinforcing addictionHow to identify and interrupt codependent communication loopsWhat sexual energy reveals about your capacity to hold intensityWhy regulating your nervous system doesn’t always require slowing downHow unmet needs mutate into people-pleasing and self-abandonmentWhat “negative empathy” teaches about dissolving the victim-perpetrator splitHow to use sensation-based awareness to dissolve reactive patternsWhy “being good” often masks an avoidance of boundaries and truthHow to shift from external validation to internal energetic sovereigntyTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[01:05] What the fawning response is and why it works[04:52] The link between fawning and lying for safety[10:50] The cost of being “nice” instead of honest[13:40] How feminine awakening shifts priorities from safety to self[16:42] The fear of chaos and suppression of feminine life force[20:15] The difference between survival-driven tribes and conscious communities[24:40] What a healthy masculine container feels like in partnership[27:00] Shame as a wet blanket and addictive emotional loop[33:50] Why “there are no victims” isn’t always useful[36:25] Family constellation theory and the victim-perpetrator mirror[43:00] Transitioning from mental awakening to body-based awakening[45:35] How sexual energy helps regulate the nervous system from within[48:50] The shift from managing thoughts to creating from stillness[54:10] The danger of staying in relationships out of fear of loss[56:50] Maturing into a woman who no longer needs to fight to be herself[59:50] Breaking generational silence around female embodiment👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereResources Mentioned:Orgasmic Meditation (OM) by OneTaste | WebsiteMy Mother/My Self by Nancy Friday | BookFamily Constellation Therapy | WebsitePussy Map – women's sexuality and embodiment course by Perri Chase | CourseYou can connect with Perri and learn about all of her current offerings here.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.

Join Kelly's Reclaimed program and membership hereIn this provocative solo episode, Kelly unpacks the life-altering insights from Pat Allen’s classic book Getting to “I Do”. Drawing from her own experience and years of clinical observation, Kelly explores the often uncomfortable—but liberating—truths about masculine/feminine dynamics, romantic polarity, and the myth of the “career woman.” She breaks down why women’s power lies not in doing more or achieving more, but in mastering the art of the “no,” cherishing themselves first, and choosing the dynamics that truly serve their deepest desires.Whether you’re single, dating, or married, this is a blueprint for reclaiming your feminine essence and reshaping your relationship reality—without another strategy, seduction tactic, or self-help checklist.You’ll Learn:How polarity clarifies power dynamics in romantic relationshipsWhy seeking both respect and cherishing can sabotage intimacyHow to choose between being a career woman or a woman with a careerWhat the “five-second gaze” reveals about feminine initiation and nervous system capacityHow withholding sex until commitment rewires relational self-worthWhy honoring your “no” is the ultimate feminine flexWhat happens when women unconsciously reject the men they claim to loveHow emotional and intellectual pedestals define partner rolesWhy many high-achieving women feel resentful, bitter, or overwhelmed in relationshipsWhat asking for more love or attention signals about relational misalignmentTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[01:00] Why modern relationships are struggling[01:58] Difference between being cherished and respected[03:05] Why demanding both respect and cherishing doesn’t work[04:00] Choosing your relational orientation[05:02] The meaning of a woman with a career vs a career woman[06:00] The gaslighting of career fulfillment[07:02] Honoring the power of your no[08:00] Why sexual access should come after commitment[09:05] Defining commitment[11:02] Living from your pleasure and feminine gifts[12:00] How to stop chasing femininity and power[13:02] Why you should not ask a man for more love or attention[14:00] Traits of a cherished woman[15:03] Traits of a respected partner[16:00] Why respected partners focus on giving[17:02] Red flags in dating and complementarity[18:00] Manipulation and mother wounds in relationships[19:00] How projection blocks intimacy[20:00] Staying until you reach apathy and empathy[21:02] Signs a man is truly committed[22:00] Why early stages of dating matter[23:00] Applying these ideas to marriageResources Mentioned:Inspiration derived from this book by Amy LoftusGetting to 'I Do' by Pat Allen and Sandra Harmon | Book or AudiobookDr. Christiane Northrup | Website Vital Mind Reset by Dr. Kelly Brogan | WebsiteLaura Doyle | WebsiteFind more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here

Join John Assaraf, a leading expert in brain retraining and behavior change, as he reveals how our subconscious choices keep us stuck. He emphasizes that it's not about mindset, but commitment. Discover the importance of self-talk in rewiring your brain, the superiority of the 'Law of G.O.Y.A.' over traditional attraction, and why consistency trumps intensity in habit formation. With insights on overcoming procrastination and emotional patterns, this conversation offers a practical guide to meaningful transformation and taking action.

Join Kelly's sovereignty-minded community, Vital Life Project hereGay Hendricks, Ph.D., is a psychologist, bestselling author, and expert in relationship and bodymind therapies with over 45 years of experience.In this episode, you're going to learn how we unconsciously block success and happiness, what an upper limit problem looks like, why fear often follows positive experiences, how to move into your zone of genius, and how physical symptoms can reveal emotional patterns.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[03:00] Personal examples of struggling to hold positive feelings[06:00] The upper limit problem explained[08:15] How fear causes drama after good experiences[10:20] Staying uplifted without fear pulling you back[13:05] Why we unconsciously stay small[15:00] Childhood roots of upper limit problems[18:00] How success can trigger guilt and fear[21:00] Fear of outshining and loyalty to others' pain[24:00] Limiting beliefs even in successful people[27:00] How to break unconscious agreements[30:00] Learning to enjoy success without guilt[33:00] Gay's writing journey and building prosperity[36:00] Fulfillment in relationships and career[39:00] How upper limits show up through arguments and illness[42:00] Fear as the driver behind accidents[45:00] How somatic symptoms reflect emotional blocks[48:00] Loving and accepting fear to healResources Mentioned:The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks | Book or AudiobookFive Wishes by Gay Hendricks | Book or AudiobookConscious Loving by Gay Hendricks and Kathlyn Hendricks | Book or AudiobookThe Spiritual Cinema Circle | FacebookIf you want to learn more about Gay's work, visit hendricks.com and foundationforconsciousliving.org.You can also follow him on Facebook and Instagram and visit his Youtube.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here 

Byron Katie is a renowned teacher and creator of "The Work," a method of self-inquiry for ending suffering.In this episode, you're going to learn why believing your thoughts is the root cause of suffering, the four simple questions that can radically change your relationship to pain and conflict, how to deal with feelings of certainty and superiority in activism and health advocacy, why trying to change other people often reveals deeper fears within yourself, and what true personal responsibility looks like even in everyday moments like picking up socks off the floor.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[03:15] How victim consciousness creates suffering[04:45] Byron Katie’s moment of ego death[06:10] Discovering the cause of suffering[08:00] Moving stressful thoughts onto paper[10:00] Seeing the ego as a terrified child[12:00] Who you are without painful thoughts[14:10] The death of the victim identity[16:00] How inquiry brings relief in groups[17:45] Activism, certainty, and superiority[20:00] Applying inquiry to health and activism[22:10] Loving others through their own choices[25:00] Owning decisions without guilt[27:00] How fear fuels activism[30:00] Responsibility for your emotional experience[31:50] Picking up socks and ending resentment[34:10] Defense as the first act of war[36:00] Boundaries and selfishness[39:00] How drama and suffering lose appeal[42:00] Ego’s survival and waking up[45:00] Byron Katie’s experience of awakening[48:00] Freedom from stressful thoughts[50:00] How inquiry naturally changes your life[52:00] Living without complaint or resentment[54:00] Relaxation and the gift of the unknownResources Mentioned:The Work of Byron Katie | WebsiteAt Home Live With Byron Katie | ZoomLoving What Is by Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell | Book or AudiobookA Thousand Names for Joy by Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell | Book or AudiobookI Need Your Love—Is That True? by Byron Katie and Michael Katz | Book or AudiobookA Mind at Home with Itself by Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell | Book or AudiobookYou can follow Byron Katie on LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook and Threads. You can also check out her website and give her Podcast a listen to on Spotify or Apple.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.This episode is sponsored by Samadhi Moss. Use code KELLY10 for 10% off your sea moss!👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here

Ask Kelly your burning questions in our monthly Vital Life Project membership. Join hereIn this episode, you'll learn how to bring more joy and freedom into your current life, how to grow your capacity for pleasure and appreciation, how to create the feelings you’re chasing before your circumstances change, and how to uncover what you might really be getting from the life you say you want to leave.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[01:01] The fear of too much freedom and not knowing how to live it[01:37] How appreciation helps bridge your current life to your desired one[02:10] The myth that liking your now means you’ll get stuck[02:49] How to feel your future life now using small changes[04:00] Why today matters more than the dream[04:22] Journaling your ideal day to clarify what you really want[04:56] Identifying the feelings you expect to gain from your dream life[05:28] Finding small ways to experience those feelings now[06:19] Quality of life changes from small tweaks[07:10] How tiny changes improve daily experience[07:26] What you’re getting out of your current life that you might lose[07:57] Why we sometimes say we want things we actually don’t[08:20] Carolyn Elliott’s deepest fear inventory exercise[08:42] Using fear inventory to clarify what you truly want[09:00] Trusting the process and letting go of control[09:27] Cultivating faith in being supported and provided for[09:47] How trust turns into playful practiceResources Mentioned:Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott | Book or AudiobookInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here

If you want a step-by-step roadmap to own your no, know your yes, and experience the specific pleasure of who you are, join Kelly's Reclaimed program.Check out these related episodes: Reclamation of Courtship and The Case Against the Sexual RevolutionIn this episode, you'll learn why reclaiming traditional gender roles can lead to deeper fulfillment, how sexual liberation may undermine relationships, why women hold the key to societal stability, and how men find purpose and success through commitment and fatherhood.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[02:45] Marriage as a covenant and devotion between two people[03:30] High divorce rates observed in clinical practice[04:20] Societal adoption of an “unmarried male pattern”[05:10] Comparison between male and female sexual cycles[06:00] Impact of feminism and sexual liberation on family and society[06:50] Defining marriage beyond legal contracts[07:30] Importance of safety and alignment with personal choices[08:10] The sacrifice and fulfillment within committed relationships[08:50] Role of men in transcending basic drives for societal integration[09:40] The importance of family in integrating men into society[10:30] Explanation of CMOs and their health benefits[11:30] Women’s role in cultivating relationships and their power dynamics[12:15] Women’s sexual superiority and its impact on society[13:00] The importance of complementarity between men and women[13:40] How adopting masculine values devalues a man’s role[14:20] Disconnection from motherhood due to societal pressures[15:10] The myth of status through independence and career achievement[16:00] Women as gatekeepers of sexual energy and access[16:50] The importance of setting boundaries in romantic relationships[17:30] The story of the princess and the barbarian as a metaphor[18:30] How sexual liberation has shifted societal norms[19:20] The impact of easy access to sex on male commitment[20:10] The idea that women’s role is fundamental to societal stability[21:00] The importance of female discipline and commitment[21:50] The connection between children and social immortality[22:30] Why a woman’s role is deeper and more personal than a man’s[23:10] The value of a woman’s “no” in creating social structure[25:00] Rejecting common misconceptions about femininity[25:40] Visualizing a more fulfilling and empowered lifestyle for women[26:30] Importance of intuition and alignment with personal choices[27:00] Why men need to be tamed and integrated into society[27:50] The productivity and fulfillment that marriage brings to men[28:30] Economic disparities between married and single men[29:00] Societal consequences of devaluing male roles[29:40] Technocratic marketplace’s impact on family and motherhood[30:20] Importance of a mother’s role in imparting moral values[31:00] How feminine values are foundational to all morality[31:50] The negative impact of prioritizing career over family[32:30] The illusion of equality through career-driven status[33:00] How society benefits from women embracing their natural roles[33:40] Why rejecting traditional roles leads to societal declineResources Mentioned:Men and Marriage by George Gilder | BookThe Case Against the Sexual Revolution by Louise Perry | Book or AudiobookInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereThis episode is sponsored by Samahdi Moss. Use code KELLY10 for 10% off your sea moss!

If you’re a stretched-thin boss babe, frustrated wife, or “do it all” mamma who just needs a second for yourself, join Kelly’s Free Exhale Masterclass.Monica Yates is the author of Becoming Her and an expert in masculine-feminine dynamics, especially how women can embrace their feminine essence while navigating success and relationships.In this episode, you're going to learn how Monica balances being the breadwinner in her relationship without feeling like the provider, why healing your relationship with men and other women is essential for stepping into your feminine, what it means to be an empowered submissive and why it requires deep confidence, how societal messaging has made many women feel like femininity is weak, and the importance of acknowledging your own desires without shame.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction   [03:20] Cycle breaking and redefining femininity[05:30] How media influences perception of femininity[07:10] Biological reality of men vs. women[09:15] Women’s emotional strength vs. men’s physical strength[11:15] Kelly’s realization of fear towards men[13:45] Monica’s conflict between wanting love and being a feminist[15:30] How idolizing her father influenced Monica’s view of femininity[17:20] Monica’s outward confidence as a form of self-protection[19:45] How Monica’s first boyfriend helped her realize her true desires[21:45] Understanding the difference between true confidence and external validation[23:10] The illusion of safety through control[25:20] Monica’s perspective on empowered submissiveness [29:20] Kelly’s experience of relearning her femininity[31:00] Why safety is foundational to feminine energy[33:10] The harm of overly rigid definitions of feminine and masculine[35:50] Monica’s thoughts on victim consciousness[38:00] How women are addicted to the adrenaline of being the victim[40:20] The value of men’s protection in women’s lives[42:30] Monica’s unique dynamic of being the breadwinner but not the provider[44:10] Managing household responsibilities without losing feminine energy[46:30] The importance of support in achieving feminine magnetism[48:10] The value of acknowledging what you desire[50:40] Why acknowledging your desires is the first step to alignment[52:15] Monica’s advice on finding your unique version of femininity[54:30] How to reframe femininity to suit your current life seasonResources Mentioned:Becoming HER by Monica Yates | Book or AudiobookFeminine as F*ck podcast by Monica Yates | Spotify or AppleCultivating Femininity In Women by Monica Yates | YoutubeThe 7 Pillars to Becoming HER Masterclass by Monica Yates | WebsiteMonica Yates Health | WebsiteLead Like a Woman with Andrea Heuston Episode on Embracing the Feminine and the Masculine | Spotify or AppleReclaim your power, transform your relationships, and step into the life you were destined for. Unlock the secrets to becoming your best self. Order Monica’s transformational new book, Becoming HER, today!If you want to connect deeper with Monica, check out her website, Youtube, and Instagram.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here 

Register for Kelly’s live Reclaimed Relationship Masterclass April 15th at 12PM ET at kellybroganmd.comLauren Geertsen is an author who overcame her autoimmune disease naturally.In this episode, you're going to learn about Lauren’s journey of overcoming an autoimmune disease naturally, the complex dynamics of the narcissistic and psychopathic abuse she experienced, and how she redefined the word love. You’ll also learn how she distinguishes soul connections from genuine love, her reflections on the Me Too movement, and how victim consciousness can hinder personal empowerment. Plus, you’ll hear how she now experiences joy, peace, and fulfillment by choosing love and sovereignty over seeking justice.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[05:00] Realizing the connection between childhood illness and family dynamics[07:00] Children’s illness as a reflection of parents’ unresolved issues[09:00] The breaking point and choosing to change the environment[11:00] Moving from fixing health to exploring romantic relationships[13:00] The beginning of Lauren’s abusive relationship[15:00] Understanding trauma bonding and coercion[17:00] Navigating the trauma of sexual and financial exploitation[19:00] Realizing the importance of choosing joy over justice[21:00] Choosing peace and trusting others to learn their lessons[23:00] Navigating loneliness and fear of being alone[25:00] Discerning the difference between trauma bonds and healthy relationships[27:00] How healing requires letting go of the need to change others[29:00] The role of consciousness in overcoming trauma[31:00] Avoiding bitterness, finding empowerment by focusing on inner joy[35:00] Balancing the desire for justice with choosing a joyful life[37:00] Transforming the pain into spiritual growth[39:00] Embracing femininity and sensuality as part of the healing journey[41:00] Accepting that some relationships serve as lessons, not lifelong commitments[43:00] Gratitude for painful experiences as a path to growth[45:00] How the pursuit of justice can block inner peace[47:00] Reflecting on the connection between love and allowing freedom[49:00] Understanding how fear of loneliness can lead to self-betrayal[51:00] Breaking away from the collective victim consciousness[53:00] Moving beyond anger and hate to find deeper emotional states[55:00] Choosing to live a joyful and peaceful life[57:00] Balancing self-awareness with compassion for others[59:00] Rejecting the binary view of good versus evil[61:00] Reclaiming sensuality as a part of personal liberation👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereIf you want to connect more with Lauren, visit her website and follow her on Instagram Resources Mentioned:The Scorpion and The Lion by Lauren Geertsen | Book or AudiobookInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.This episode is sponsored by Samadhi Moss. Use code KELLY10 for 10% off your sea moss!