Reclamation Radio with Kelly Brogan MD

Kelly Brogan MD
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Jul 29, 2025 • 16min

119: How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty (It Starts With Your Impulses)

Ask Kelly your burning questions in her monthly Vital Life Project membership.You’ve been gaslit into distrusting your own impulses—here’s how to take them back.In this episode, Kelly dives deep into one of the most powerful yet overlooked skills in personal growth: reclaiming your native desires. She unpacks a brilliant question from her Vital Life Project community—what’s the difference between discernment and judgment?—and uses it to expose the subtle ways we self-domesticate, override our needs, and live out of “shoulds” instead of self-trust.Through intimate personal stories (yes, including peeing mid-interview and belting into the void with a vocal coach), Kelly reveals how she’s rebuilt a relationship with her own body, voice, and creative fire—not by changing who she is, but by expanding her awareness and nervous system capacity to hold discomfort. If you’ve ever felt caught between the urge to grow and the desire to be accepted as you are, this episode is your permission slip to do both. Expect provocative insights, radical reframes, and one audacious answer you won’t forget.You’ll Learn:How honoring small body signals rebuilds self-trust and nervous system regulationWhy the impulse to “pee immediately” can become a radical self-reclamation practiceHow to distinguish true discernment from fear-based judgment in relationshipsWhat the transition from “I should” to “I want” reveals about intrinsic motivationWhy indulging so-called “bad” impulses can heal childhood conditioningHow nervous system capacity—not mindset—determines your ability to changeWhat vocal expression teaches about stored shame and creative liberationWhy seeking support isn’t about answers but about safe containers for expansionHow the desire to self-improve can mask deeper self-rejectionWhy awareness—not transformation—is the real metric of personal evolutionTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[00:38] The difference between discernment and judgment[01:22] When it might be time to pause with a coach[02:00] How structure and discipline build capacity[02:45] Why rituals help reclaim personal choice[03:30] Transitioning from “I should” to “I want”[04:10] Honoring impulses as a path to healing[05:00] Restoring trust in cravings like dark chocolate[05:55] Biological impulses and meeting basic needs[06:50] Peeing as a practice of self-trust[07:30] The fear of creative self-expression[08:15] What awareness really means[09:05] Singing in front of a stranger despite fear[10:00] How awareness builds nervous system capacity[10:45] The trap of self-improvement driven by rejection[11:35] Reclaiming childhood desires as valid[12:10] Real growth comes from self-acceptance[12:55] Why change isn’t the real goal[13:30] Romantic relationships and the illusion of change👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereFind more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.Try out the cleanest grass-fed beef protein on the market - head to equipfoods.com/kellybrogan to get 15% off your order, or 30% off your first subscription!
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Jul 22, 2025 • 24min

118: How to Speak Your Truth, Communicate Better & Build Strong Relationships

Join Kelly's sovereignty-minded community, Vital Life Project, here.What if the most powerful act of rebellion... is telling the truth in real time?In this episode, Kelly cracks open the concept of “breaking the fourth wall” in real life—not on stage, but in your relationships, your identity, and your communication. She explores the subtle art of speaking the unspoken script, challenging the roles we play in family dynamics, breakups, power structures, and even content creation. From dismantling victim narratives to reclaiming autonomy through raw, unscripted truth-telling, this episode is a masterclass in emotional courage. You'll walk away with a deeper understanding of how to navigate uncomfortable conversations, own your experience without controlling the outcome, and use directness as a spiritual practice. If you're tired of performance and ready for realness, this one hits hard.You’ll Learn:How “breaking the fourth wall” in relationships activates deeper connection and self-awarenessWhy staying in character keeps us stuck in victim-villain dynamicsHow emotional courage rewires nervous system capacity for real conversationsWhat unspoken scripts reveal about hidden power struggles and unmet needsHow to use the “appreciation burrito” to deliver critical feedback without triggering defensivenessWhy direct communication dissolves resentment faster than years of surface-level nicetiesHow false professionalism can sabotage genuine healing and trustWhat the shadow side of activism reveals about unmet personal needsHow to sense when truth-telling is ripe—and when it’s a self-sabotage trapWhy liberating your “yes” and “no” reclaims energy lost to emotional performanceTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[01:43] Authenticity vs performance in content and relationships[02:36] Power dynamics and emotional connection[04:18] Transparency in business and content creation[05:00] Why we avoid real conversations after breakups[06:26] How projecting onto others maintains victim roles[08:00] When emotional courage is actually required[09:16] Shifting from manipulation to honest communication[11:20] The discomfort of vulnerability in daily interactions[12:07] Awareness as the key to choice in hard conversations[12:45] How truth-telling links to thyroid imbalances[13:54] Energy lost in managing perception and avoiding conflict[14:55] Balancing autonomy with real connection[15:52] How to structure difficult conversations for impact[17:18] Using positive intent to disarm defensiveness[18:22] Breaking the victim-villain-savior dynamic through truth[19:28] Recognizing roles and reclaiming real interactionWant to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.Try out the cleanest grass-fed beef protein on the market here and get 15% off your order, or 30% off your first subscription!Go to the Juvent Store and use code KELLY300 at checkout to get $300 off your purchase.
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Jul 15, 2025 • 50min

117: The Truth About Marriage, Real Love & Dating | Rabbi Manis Friedman

Check out the replay of my masterclass Reclaimed Relationship here.Listen to this related episode, Reclamation of Courtship here."If you're looking for love, don't get married."That’s just one of the many paradigm-shifting perspectives from today’s guest, Rabbi Manis Friedman—author, philosopher, and renowned lecturer on the spiritual and psychological architecture of relationships. Rabbi Friedman is one of the foremost voices challenging modern assumptions about love, marriage, intimacy, and gender roles—and his take is anything but conventional.In this provocative episode, Kelly and Rabbi Friedman deconstruct the myths of modern romance—from why marriage shouldn’t be “for love,” to how women can actually identify a husband, not just another man. They dive deep into the nature of intimacy, the lost art of commitment, why sex should happen with the lights off, and what it truly means to belong to someone. Whether you're in the dating pool, rethinking your current relationship, or seeking to reclaim reverence for the sacred masculine and feminine, this episode will challenge you, awaken you, and offer a radically honest roadmap to relational clarity.You’ll Learn:How “lights-off” intimacy activates deeper soul connectionWhy dating for love sabotages true compatibilityHow to recognize the man who makes you feel like a wifeWhat long-term marriages reveal about emotional belongingWhy conditional love weakens relational stabilityHow the matchmaker model protects your heart and accelerates clarityWhat sexual objectification obscures about authentic connectionHow to exit dating dynamics without emotional wreckageHow performance-focused sex disconnects you from real intimacyTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[02:11] Why sexual intimacy should happen with the lights off[04:08] Why marriage is the highest form of imitating God[06:13] Why humans are not content just being human[07:38] Why marriage must be between a man and a woman[08:20] The danger of seeking love instead of a person[09:16] What long marriages reveal about true belonging[10:02] The Fiddler on the Roof test of love[11:17] Love as a byproduct, not the goal[13:05] How marriage eliminates aloneness[14:51] The difference between roommates and real intimacy[15:27] Why intimacy requires turning off the lights[16:33] How sensory stillness deepens connection[18:03] Why performance ruins intimacy[19:47] The myth of unconditional love[20:57] The danger of sexual liberation for women[22:06] How dating replaced commitment[23:44] Marriage as reunion, not just union[25:02] Why the best dates make the worst husbands[26:17] Why multi-year relationships are emotional torture[27:52] Why women often don’t truly choose their husbands[28:26] The role of chemistry in real compatibility[29:34] What it means to feel like a wife[30:06] Why dating should be selfish and strategic[31:57] Why giving a breakup reason is cruel[32:35] Why women should not initiate marriage[33:54] How men get emasculated before the wedding[35:09] Why women need men to lead[36:02] How matchmaking protects your heart[37:58] Why polite dating causes emotional confusion[39:54] Dating as emotionally safer than shopping[40:57] Why respect between spouses heals families[42:44] Why kids need clear parental structure[44:17] Why grandma’s way might’ve been wiser[45:29] What real intimacy looks like in the bedroomWant to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here.You can connect with Rabbi Friedman and his work through his website here.Follow Rabbi Friedman on Instagram, Facebook, X, YouTube, and TikTok.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.Go to the Juvent Store and use code KELLY300 at checkout to get $300 off your purchase.
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Jul 8, 2025 • 51min

116: The Truth About Parasites No One Told You Yet | Daniel Roytas

Learn more about Dr. Kelly Brogan's signature health protocol, Vital Mind Reset here.What if everything you’ve been told about parasites is wrong?In this explosive episode, Kelly sits down with Dr. Daniel Roytas—clinical educator, researcher, and author of Can You Catch a Cold?—to unravel one of the most deeply held beliefs in both mainstream and alternative health: the idea that parasites are invaders that must be eradicated. Daniel’s work challenges the foundations of germ theory and dives into the seductive psychology of victim consciousness that underpins much of modern medicine—yes, even “natural” medicine.Get ready to question everything you think you know about gut health, parasite cleanses, and even the existence of so-called “pathogenic” organisms. This conversation exposes how medical myths get recycled, how belief systems override biology, and why the real toxin might not be what’s in your gut—but how you think about your body. From pleomorphism and misdiagnosis to the spiritual implications of blaming nature for our ailments, this is a no-holds-barred exploration of what it truly means to reclaim health in a toxic world. If you’ve ever taken black walnut tincture or been told your symptoms are due to “Lyme,” you need to hear this.You’ll Learn:How the “parasite cleanse” trend may reinforce victim consciousnessWhy the existence of parasites—even in medical literature—is still up for debateWhat polymorphism reveals about the adaptability of microbes inside the bodyHow artifacts in lab tests can lead to false parasite diagnosisWhy asymptomatic “infections” challenge germ theory logicHow certain worms may actually protect the body from toxinsWhat anti-parasitic herbs might really be doing to support detox pathwaysHow the Lyme disease narrative can distract from root causes of illnessWhy focusing on “killing pathogens” may prolong chronic symptomsHow to prioritize foundational health practices over fear-based protocolsTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[01:03] Why parasites are the sacred cow of alternative medicine[02:22] How parasite belief crosses both conventional and alt-health circles[03:56] The link between parasite obsession and victim consciousness[05:28] What we’re actually talking about when we say “parasites”[06:43] Why some “parasites” might not cause illness at all[08:19] New research suggesting many parasites are harmless[10:26] The problem with asymptomatic infection logic[12:47] How artifacts are misidentified as parasites in lab tests[14:40] Why the theory of pleomorphism changes everything[16:48] Studying microbes outside the body vs. inside[19:14] How healthy people test positive for “pathogenic” organisms[21:30] Why immune system explanations don’t add up[24:42] What worms may actually be doing in your gut[27:10] The surprising detox role of certain parasites[30:44] Why “anti-parasitic” herbs may work for a different reason[33:03] What’s really happening when people pass worms[35:05] The emotional and cultural grip of Lyme disease[38:16] Why misdiagnosing the cause keeps people stuck[41:26] Simple practices that matter more than parasite cleanses[43:45] How parasite fear reflects a deeper healing patternWant to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here.Resources Mentioned:Can You Catch a Cold? by Dr. Daniel Roytas | BookFollow Humanley on Facebook and Instagram and while you’re at it, join the Telegram Channel.You can connect with Daniel on his website and get his new book here.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.Go to the Juvent Store and use code KELLY300 at checkout to get $300 off your purchase.
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Jul 1, 2025 • 1h 7min

115: How to Heal Trauma & Rewire Your Energy Field Using Sound and Vibration with Eileen McKusick

What if your anxiety isn’t in your mind—but in your field?In this episode, Kelly sits down with researcher, inventor, and Biofield Tuning founder Eileen McKusick, whose groundbreaking work challenges everything we think we know about healing, consciousness, and the human body. With nearly 30 years of experience decoding the electric blueprint of the body using sound, Eileen has mapped the energetic anatomy that surrounds and informs our physical form—and she’s proving it’s more than just woo.You’ll learn how unresolved trauma shows up as electrical noise in your field, why thoughts aren’t stored in your brain, and how tuning forks can uncover—and dissolve—lifelong emotional patterns. Eileen breaks down the science of vibrational healing in language that’s as sharp as it is accessible, offering a powerful new lens for understanding everything from anxiety and chronic pain to inherited trauma and illness. Whether you're energy-curious or deep down the frequency rabbit hole, this conversation will leave you rethinking what it means to be coherent—and how to reclaim your signal.You’ll Learn:How tuning forks activate your body’s innate ability to reorganize and self-healWhat emotional tones in the biofield reveal about stored trauma and subconscious patterningWhy thoughts are stored in the energy field—not the brain—and how that changes healingHow to detect and decode the vibrational “noise” that disrupts health and flowWhat coherence in your biofield actually means—and how it drives physical resilienceHow sound interacts with the plasma body to shift emotional and physiological statesWhy most chronic symptoms stem from unresolved tension patterns, not pathologyTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[01:45] How thoughts may exist outside the brain[02:30] Practical ways to bring coherence to your energy field[03:05] The idea that humans are electric beings[05:30] What it means to live in a vibrational cosmology[08:05] Tuning forks as tools for energetic feedback[10:05] Why vibes don’t lie—reading emotion through frequency[12:10] What tuning forks reveal about emotional memory[14:05] How emotional patterns are stored in specific zones of the field[16:45] Why anyone can learn to feel energetic distortions[17:30] Memories are stored outside the body in magnetic standing waves[22:30] A shocking example of inherited trauma imprinting in the womb[27:25] The hidden role of worthiness in chronic pain and illness[29:10] What coherence actually means for your body and mind[33:00] Why injuries often occur in incoherent zones of your field[35:10] How forks imprint coherent frequency back into the system[38:00] The link between stress, bone loss, and electrical depletion[40:00] Water, memory, and the vibrational nature of the body[45:00] Rewiring subconscious loops to release stuckness[48:40] 174hz fork to deepen relaxation[51:00] How tension turns into lightness through tuning[53:30] 528hz fork to brighten the field[55:15] How tension suppresses emotional expression[57:00] Resilience as the new immunityWant to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here.Resources Mentioned:Biofield Tuning | WebsiteThe Secret Life of Plants by Peter Tompkins and Christopher Bird | Book or AudiobookTuning the Human Biofield by Eileen McKusick | Book or AudiobookSonic Slider Tuning Fork | WebsiteSing the Body Electric | Bodywork SeriesVeda Austin’s work on structured water | WebsiteWant to learn more about Eileen and her work? You can connect with her on her website, YouTube, and Facebook.Follow Biofield Tuning on Facebook and Instagram.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.Use code KELLYBROGAN for 15% off your first purchase at the Biofield Tuning Store. Not valid during sales. Exclusions apply.
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Jun 24, 2025 • 44min

114: How to Regenerate Your Bones & Joints in 10 Minutes a Day | Rush Simonson

Learn more about Dr. Kelly Brogan's signature health protocol, Vital Mind Reset here.“Most ‘biohacks’ numb your body—this one helps it remember how to heal.”In this episode, Kelly sits down with Rush Simonson, Chairman and CEO of Juvent Health, a company pioneering a regenerative health tech that’s quietly disrupting everything we think we know about movement, aging, and musculoskeletal vitality. With over 25 years in medtech and surgical innovation, Rush has seen what works—and more importantly, what doesn’t—when it comes to long-term healing. His journey from spinal implants to cellular biomechanics reveals a truth most wellness circles ignore: real health is mechanical, cellular, and shockingly primal.This conversation dives deep into the science behind micro-impact, why traditional vibration plates may be doing more harm than good, and how your body’s innate regenerative systems—bone density, joint repair, lymphatic flow, proprioception—are directly linked to how often, and how effectively, you move. You’ll learn why walking barefoot could be the most powerful supplement you’re not taking, how micro-motion affects brain health and even Parkinson’s outcomes, and why this subtle technology could keep your parents out of assisted living. Whether you're a barefoot biohacker, a movement minimalist, or just looking for ways to age with more autonomy, this episode is a goldmine.You’ll Learn:How micro-impact technology activates the body’s natural regenerative systemsWhy traditional vibration plates may harm more than helpHow mechano-transduction drives cellular repair and joint healthWhat 0.05mm of calibrated movement reveals about healing efficiencyHow to simulate 5 miles of barefoot walking in just 20 minutesWhy most orthopedic implants fail long-term—and what works betterHow daily micro-impact supports lymphatic drainage and brain detoxWhat barefoot shoes get right (and how to transition safely)How proprioception training reduces fall risk and boosts longevityTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[01:42] The hidden importance of barefoot walking[02:18] What makes the Juvent plate different from vibration plates[03:12] Kelly’s personal journey with movement and muscle loss[04:45] How gym training and walking restored balance[05:36] The myth of vibration plates as a walking replacement[06:08] How Juvent mimics barefoot walking for metabolic health[08:00] How Rush became disillusioned with surgical implants[11:16] How mechano-transduction fuels cellular nutrition[13:02] Why lack of movement leads to impact deficiency[14:21] The concept of vita-kin: a daily kinetic vitamin[15:52] How Juvent delivers safe and effective micro-impact[17:06] How Juvent activates lymphatic and glymphatic systems[24:45] How small daily inputs protect future vitality[27:08] How resonance makes micro-impact effective[28:44] Juvent as a “dose-correct” physiological therapy[30:12] How Juvent improves balance and prevents falls[31:30] How cellular interaction depends on movement[32:47] How Juvent reconnects you to natural biological inputs[35:00] How Juvent helped Rush’s mother avoid a nursing home[36:28] Why Juvent supports metabolic and musculoskeletal health[37:50] Steve Harvey’s pain relief and national endorsementWant to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here.Want to learn more about Juvent, visit their Facebook, YouTube, Instagram, Vimeo and website.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.Go to www.juvent.com/kellybrogan and use code KELLY300 at checkout to get $300 off your purchase.
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Jun 17, 2025 • 21min

113: This Is Why 99% Of People Never Heal

Learn more about Dr. Kelly Brogan's signature health protocol, Vital Mind Reset.What if your symptoms aren’t the problem—but the clue?In this episode, Kelly flips the script on everything you’ve been taught about healing. Drawing from years of clinical experience and her own personal transformation, she challenges the idea that health is about fixing what’s wrong. Instead, she makes a bold case for seeing symptoms as sacred signals from your body—not nuisances to suppress, but messages to decode. You’ll learn why true power lies in ending the war within, how to stop outsourcing your sovereignty to “experts,” and how practices like German New Medicine, Family Constellations, and self-tracking can radically rewire your relationship to your body. If you’ve tried all the supplements, all the protocols, and still feel stuck, this episode might just be your way out—by showing you that healing starts when the fight ends.You’ll Learn:How resolving internal conflict reclaims energy and restores physical vitalityWhy chasing symptom relief often reinforces victim consciousnessHow the “rescuer-victim-villain” triangle keeps you stuck in chronic illnessWhat German New Medicine reveals about the hidden purpose of symptomsHow ritual self-awareness practices rewire your relationship to your bodyWhy most functional testing subtly disempowers instead of healsHow to identify the moment a symptom begins—and why that date mattersWhy reframing your symptoms can create safer internal conditions for healingHow to recognize when you’ve outsourced your authority to an “expert” disguised as a guideTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[00:38] Why biohacking and functional medicine aren’t working for many women[01:34] The one insight that changed how I see symptoms[02:08] How to decode the body’s messages without external validation[02:56] Why rejecting your symptoms creates inner conflict[03:29] How childhood conditioning disconnects us from body autonomy[04:18] The religious roots of disembodiment[05:02] Feminism and the push to transcend biology[05:35] The middle path: power through embodiment, not bypass[06:15] Why seeing the body as “just biology” leads to fragmentation[06:54] How expert dependency fuels triangulation against the self[07:28] The hidden role of the rescuer in chronic illness[08:01] Why symptoms can’t be resolved while you’re still in resistance[08:33] The most radical health practice is neutrality[09:05] What actually happens when the body feels safe[09:38] Why resolution is not about symptom elimination[10:01] How German New Medicine reframes symptom meaning[10:35] Louise Hay’s framework for decoding symptom messages[11:02] The role of Family Constellation in healing[11:42] Why symptoms often have a deeper purpose[12:14] The trap of becoming a professional patient[12:47] Why dependency in health mirrors parent-child dynamics[13:27] When it’s time to respond differently to old patterns[13:59] What secure attachment to your body actually looks like[14:30] Ending manipulation and frustration with your body[15:01] How supplements can become offerings instead of fixes[15:34] A new way to relate to illness with love and curiosity[16:00] My number one health tip: write down symptom onset dates[16:35] How this one practice speeds up your healing clarity[17:15] Symptoms are messages, not problems👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereResources Mentioned:German New Medicine | WebsiteYou Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay | Book or AudiobookFamily Constellation Therapy | WebsiteFind more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.
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Jun 10, 2025 • 59min

112: The Fastest Way to Get Unstuck & Stop Procrastination, Even Without Motivation | Britt Frank

Learn more about Dr. Kelly Brogan's signature health protocol, Vital Mind Reset here."You don’t need motivation to change—just a lemon and a willingness to get weird."In this episode, Kelly sits down with Britt Frank—licensed neuropsychotherapist, trauma educator, and author of The Science of Stuck—to unravel one of the most misunderstood inner states: stuckness. With raw honesty and sharp humor, Britt dismantles the myths around motivation, trauma, and change, showing us that what looks like inertia is often a disguised survival strategy.You’ll learn why most people aren’t actually stuck—they’re just allergic to their available options. Britt dives deep into the psychological mechanics behind avoidance, procrastination, codependency, addiction (including addiction to people), and the quiet chaos of a “fine” life that’s missing fire. Expect mind-blowing takes on why motivation is overrated, how biting a lemon can rewire your nervous system in real-time, and why your “bad” behaviors might just be keeping you safe. If you’re ready to get out of your own way, this episode is your wake-up call.You’ll Learn:How micro-yeses create momentum and override paralysisWhy “I have no choices” is usually a perception problem, not a realityHow biting a lemon can disrupt procrastination by shocking your nervous systemHow to reframe “I’m stuck” as a sign of hidden benefits, not just dysfunctionWhy motivation is not a prerequisite for action—and what to rely on insteadHow to identify the real payoff behind self-sabotaging behaviorsWhat shutting down desire signals about nervous system regulationWhy boredom and numbness can be harder to escape than rock bottomTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[00:45] Why feeling stuck is the root of suffering[01:32] How addiction to people can mask as relationship issues[02:06] Motivation is not required for change[03:01] Why therapists often professionalize their own trauma[04:15] What “stuckness” actually means[05:24] Why saying “I have no choices” is often a lie[07:11] How to spot micro-choices even in extreme situations[09:28] Why wondering is more effective than figuring out “why”[13:45] How to recognize invisible choices[15:08] What keeps people in harmful but familiar patterns[16:52] The right time to explore your hidden motivations[18:25] Why morality-based thinking keeps you stuck[20:12] Why some people feel nothing at all—and how to move anyway[24:06] Why a step in the wrong direction is still progress[26:36] You’re always motivated—just not how you think[28:56] Parts work as a strategy for inner leadership[30:34] How to coach your inner parts instead of bulldozing them[33:00] How pathologizing “bad” parts keeps you fragmented[35:08] Symptoms are messengers, not malfunctions[37:03] All behavior is functional—even the destructive ones[41:17] The shift from pathology to injury-based thinking[43:03] The value of having a pause between trigger and action[45:12] Why internal structure matters more than symptom elimination[51:13] Getting hooked on the highs and lows of chaos[53:00] Pattern disruption as the key to change[54:21] Why pattern breaks create choice windows👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereResources Mentioned: The Science of Stuck by Britt Frank | Book or Audiobook Align Your Mind by Britt Frank | Book or Audiobook Internal Family Systems (IFS) by Dr. Richard Schwartz | Website Sonic Slider by Biofield Tuning | WebsiteGet Britt's newest book, Align Your Mind, here. You can also connect with her on her website and her Instagram.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.Use code KELLYBROGAN at biofieldtuningstore.com for 15% off your first purchase. Not valid during sales. Exclusions apply.
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Jun 3, 2025 • 1h 2min

111: How to Stop Fawning & Reclaim Your Boundaries as a Woman | Perri Chase

Check out the replay of my masterclass Reclaimed Relationship here.You’re not being “nice”—you’re lying for safety.In this episode, Kelly sits down with feminine embodiment teacher and unapologetic truth-teller Perri Chase to expose the hidden cost of the fawning response—why it works, what it protects, and how it hijacks your nervous system, your relationships, and your sense of self.Perri, creator of the transformational practice Sex Bomb and a leader in modern feminine awakening, brings a raw and riveting perspective to the conversation. Her work unpacks the addictive loop of shame, the villainization of women’s needs, and the subtle ways we betray ourselves daily under the guise of “being good.” With decades of lived experience, provocative teachings, and a sharp lens on spiritual bypassing and codependent dynamics, Perri doesn’t just talk embodiment—she lives it.This is not your average empowerment episode. It’s a permission slip to stop performing, start feeling, and finally claim what you actually want.You’ll Learn:How the fawning response rewires your nervous system to lie for safetyWhy shame can become a seductive, self-reinforcing addictionHow to identify and interrupt codependent communication loopsWhat sexual energy reveals about your capacity to hold intensityWhy regulating your nervous system doesn’t always require slowing downHow unmet needs mutate into people-pleasing and self-abandonmentWhat “negative empathy” teaches about dissolving the victim-perpetrator splitHow to use sensation-based awareness to dissolve reactive patternsWhy “being good” often masks an avoidance of boundaries and truthHow to shift from external validation to internal energetic sovereigntyTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[01:05] What the fawning response is and why it works[04:52] The link between fawning and lying for safety[10:50] The cost of being “nice” instead of honest[13:40] How feminine awakening shifts priorities from safety to self[16:42] The fear of chaos and suppression of feminine life force[20:15] The difference between survival-driven tribes and conscious communities[24:40] What a healthy masculine container feels like in partnership[27:00] Shame as a wet blanket and addictive emotional loop[33:50] Why “there are no victims” isn’t always useful[36:25] Family constellation theory and the victim-perpetrator mirror[43:00] Transitioning from mental awakening to body-based awakening[45:35] How sexual energy helps regulate the nervous system from within[48:50] The shift from managing thoughts to creating from stillness[54:10] The danger of staying in relationships out of fear of loss[56:50] Maturing into a woman who no longer needs to fight to be herself[59:50] Breaking generational silence around female embodiment👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereResources Mentioned:Orgasmic Meditation (OM) by OneTaste | WebsiteMy Mother/My Self by Nancy Friday | BookFamily Constellation Therapy | WebsitePussy Map – women's sexuality and embodiment course by Perri Chase | CourseYou can connect with Perri and learn about all of her current offerings here.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.
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May 27, 2025 • 26min

110: Why Many Women Play the Wrong Role in the Relationship (Pat Allen Book Review)

Join Kelly's Reclaimed program and membership hereIn this provocative solo episode, Kelly unpacks the life-altering insights from Pat Allen’s classic book Getting to “I Do”. Drawing from her own experience and years of clinical observation, Kelly explores the often uncomfortable—but liberating—truths about masculine/feminine dynamics, romantic polarity, and the myth of the “career woman.” She breaks down why women’s power lies not in doing more or achieving more, but in mastering the art of the “no,” cherishing themselves first, and choosing the dynamics that truly serve their deepest desires.Whether you’re single, dating, or married, this is a blueprint for reclaiming your feminine essence and reshaping your relationship reality—without another strategy, seduction tactic, or self-help checklist.You’ll Learn:How polarity clarifies power dynamics in romantic relationshipsWhy seeking both respect and cherishing can sabotage intimacyHow to choose between being a career woman or a woman with a careerWhat the “five-second gaze” reveals about feminine initiation and nervous system capacityHow withholding sex until commitment rewires relational self-worthWhy honoring your “no” is the ultimate feminine flexWhat happens when women unconsciously reject the men they claim to loveHow emotional and intellectual pedestals define partner rolesWhy many high-achieving women feel resentful, bitter, or overwhelmed in relationshipsWhat asking for more love or attention signals about relational misalignmentTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[01:00] Why modern relationships are struggling[01:58] Difference between being cherished and respected[03:05] Why demanding both respect and cherishing doesn’t work[04:00] Choosing your relational orientation[05:02] The meaning of a woman with a career vs a career woman[06:00] The gaslighting of career fulfillment[07:02] Honoring the power of your no[08:00] Why sexual access should come after commitment[09:05] Defining commitment[11:02] Living from your pleasure and feminine gifts[12:00] How to stop chasing femininity and power[13:02] Why you should not ask a man for more love or attention[14:00] Traits of a cherished woman[15:03] Traits of a respected partner[16:00] Why respected partners focus on giving[17:02] Red flags in dating and complementarity[18:00] Manipulation and mother wounds in relationships[19:00] How projection blocks intimacy[20:00] Staying until you reach apathy and empathy[21:02] Signs a man is truly committed[22:00] Why early stages of dating matter[23:00] Applying these ideas to marriageResources Mentioned:Inspiration derived from this book by Amy LoftusGetting to 'I Do' by Pat Allen and Sandra Harmon | Book or AudiobookDr. Christiane Northrup | Website Vital Mind Reset by Dr. Kelly Brogan | WebsiteLaura Doyle | WebsiteFind more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here

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