131: How to Tell If You’re Being Discerning Or Judgmental

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What if your body knows who to trust before your mind does?

In this episode, I explore the distinction between discernment and being inflexible or judgmental, and why nervous-system safety matters. I look at how surrounding myself with people who share my values gave my system the signal it needed to read truth. I point to embodied examples of leadership where trust and betrayal are felt, not computed.

The real shift is letting your body tell you who feels like an ally and where something feels off. Not everyone has to be everything to you. Some relationships are for deep safety, others are for a hike or a dance, and that’s healthy. When judgment shows up, it’s a mirror inviting you to own the part you’ve pushed into the shadows.

Sometimes the smartest move is giving your body what it already needs.

You’ll Learn:

[00:00] Introduction

[01:15] Why discernment isn’t about judgment but about nervous system safety

[02:20] What binge-watching warrior shows taught me about embodied leadership

[03:05] How to sense betrayal and trust through your body instead of logic

[03:50] The real reason some people can’t engage in truth conversations

[04:45] How to tell when someone’s nervous system can’t handle reality

[05:10] Why different relationships serve different energetic purposes in your life

[05:50] The healthy way to view relationships as conscious, reciprocal exchanges

[06:05] How judgment reveals the parts of yourself still waiting to be loved

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