YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd

Neurodiverse relationship expert responds to a question about autism in gay men in this bonus episode.  She emphasizes that regardless of whether someone is gay, heterosexual, or identifies with any other sexual orientation, their autistic traits remain the same. Autism is a part of who they are, and it doesn't change based on their sexual orientation. For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity! 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM #NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships. Below are the neurodivergent resources I offer: 💻 QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: https://jodicarlton.com/courses/ 🤩 COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. https://jodicarlton.com/private-coach... 🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform https://jodicarlton.com/podcast/. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. https://jodicarlton.com/courses/relationship-2-0-crack-the-communication-code/ 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejodicarlton LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton/  

In this bonus episode, #neurodiverserelationship expert Jodi Carlton discusses a YouTube viewer's comment that details severe abuse in a past relationship with an 'undiagnosed autistic man'. Jodi empathizes with the viewer but stresses the importance of distinguishing between autism and narcissistic, abusive behavior. She explains that individuals with autism are not inherently abusive, whereas those with a #personalitydisorder can be. Jodi points out that the difficulty of autistic individuals to recognize their partners’ distress does not make them abusive although it can have a similar devastating impact on partners. She also highlights the importance of listening to gut instincts about personal safety if you are in a questionable relationship. To watch the video on YouTube, visit: https://youtu.be/vZjDrNXDaoA   00:01 Introduction and Viewer's Comment 00:12 The Commenter's Relationship Experience 01:44 Jodi Carlton's Response and Clarification 02:25 Understanding Autism vs Narcissism 03:39 The Traits of Autistic Individuals 04:31 The Pattern of Abusive Behaviors 05:03 Advice for Those in Similar Situations 05:53 Conclusion and Resources For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity! ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another. COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources. 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton  

BONUS Episode: Neurodiversity Nugget What happens in some relationships is in the beginning, there was this chemistry, there was this connection,  and it was great. There is often a lot happening there physically. Some of that greatness, though, was your own perception of greatness that was influenced by what you hoped for and wanted. When you are looking for confirmation that the relationship is good, you are more likely to perceive it as a good experience. You may actually miss how your partner is perceiving it, and have totally different memories and narratives about your sex life. _______________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain. 🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics. ❤️ My ground-breaking communication program facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity. 🗣 CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more. 📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

This clip is from a Q & A where a neurotypical partner asked how to handle social outings with friends when you each have different preferences about socializing.  I share a tip for how to manage this so both of you are satisfied.   👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain. 🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics. ❤️ My ground-breaking communication program facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity. 🗣 CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more. 📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

Men and women often have very different #neurodivergent traits and the criteria for #autism was originally developed based on men. In this video, I discuss some of the unique differences in men and women. #autism #neurodivergent #autisticwomen #autisticmen #neurodiverserelationships ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain. 🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics. ❤️ My ground-breaking communication program facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity. 🗣 CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more. 📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

In this video, originally recorded for an audience of women in relationships with #autistic men on the spectrum, I discuss SOME of the main characteristics of being in a #NeurodiverseRelationship. Women on the spectrum may also have some of these characteristics, but this video is specifically for neurotypical partners in relationships with men. Take my autism assessment at jodicarlton.com #autismsigns #neurodivergent #signsofautism #asd #autismtest #jodicarlton #aspergers #aspergersinmen

Getting blindsided in any kind of relationship is horrible, whether it's a dating relationship, well into a marriage, a friendship, or A working relationship. It never feels good to feel blindsided. In actuality, we oftentimes get in our own way in being able to see who people really are. Sometimes it's hard to know how to make decisions about the people we meet - friendships, dating relationships - and we don't know how to keep ourselves safe. We don't know how to identify a healthy relationship.   I'm Jodi Carlton, and I'm an adult neurodiversity expert, but I also specialize in working with people to recognize when they're in abusive relationships. I'm going to give you three tips to help you keep yourself safe and avoid getting blindsided. For more resources or to work with me, visit me online at: jodicarlton.com   

When neurodiverse partners have different thresholds for household tasks and even relationship involvement, it is common for a "parent-child" dynamic to emerge. One partner takes on an authoritative role that issues directives, and the other becomes more child-like waiting on tasks to be assigned (and sometimes resisting to follow through).   This type of dynamic does NOT work in any relationship. In this BONUS clip, I discuss why, and how to address it in your relationship.   For more comprehensive guidance with your relationship difficulties, access my communication course: Crack The Communication Code at JodiCarlton.com

A #traumatic accident turned this #neurodiverse relationship completely around. Tune in to this final episode of Season 3 to hear how Kristen's marriage has changed thanks to hard work and a complete mindset shift. #autistic #neurodivergent #trauma #therapy #jodicarlton #podcast YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast; Season 3 - Episode 13 ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another. COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.    • Podcast: YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship   💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources. 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

Being in #toxicrelationship that never improve is like making a lifelong commitment to #dysfunction. In a #neurodiverserelationship, each partner can be a #toxicpartner. In part 2 of this episode of "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, Barbara Grant a neurodiverse relationship coach talks with me about the pitfalls that block success for couples. Today is part two of my discussion with Barbara Grant, who is also a #neurodiversity coach and a relationship therapist. If you missed part one, be sure and go back and listen to it. Our conversation has been really great from the perspective of therapists who also have had neurodiverse marriages and other relationships with people who are neurodiverse. We talk about being in those relationships, but also the challenges of therapy and coaching for couples and also for therapists. Find Barbara at: https://hopeforcouples.net If you are a therapist or coach who works with neurodiverse individuals and couples, email me at gethelp@jodicarlton.com to inquire about joining my Neurodiverse Professional Peer Support and Referral Network #divorce #neurodivergent #autistic #marriagecounseling #therapist  ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, anxiety, depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis. MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my autistic daughter and ADHD son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another. COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR 💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources. 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton