
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd
Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert in mixed neurotype relationship dynamics and communication. Her personal, but direct, style of educating and coaching is a favorite of both neurodivergent and neurotypical partners around the globe.
Her unique blend of personal experience in her own neurodiverse relationships, as well as her professional expertise, positions her to understand both autistic and non-autistic individuals. She bridges the communication gap for couples with a blame-free mind-set, and a goal of clarity.
Latest episodes

Sep 28, 2023 • 4min
The Parent-Child Dynamic
When neurodiverse partners have different thresholds for household tasks and even relationship involvement, it is common for a "parent-child" dynamic to emerge. One partner takes on an authoritative role that issues directives, and the other becomes more child-like waiting on tasks to be assigned (and sometimes resisting to follow through).
This type of dynamic does NOT work in any relationship. In this BONUS clip, I discuss why, and how to address it in your relationship.
For more comprehensive guidance with your relationship difficulties, access my communication course: Crack The Communication Code at JodiCarlton.com

Aug 30, 2023 • 59min
”We both thought we were going to die.”
A #traumatic accident turned this #neurodiverse relationship completely around. Tune in to this final episode of Season 3 to hear how Kristen's marriage has changed thanks to hard work and a complete mindset shift.
#autistic #neurodivergent #trauma #therapy #jodicarlton #podcast
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast; Season 3 - Episode 13
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. • Podcast: YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

Aug 16, 2023 • 34min
Toxicity in Neurodiverse Relationships (Pt 2)
Being in #toxicrelationship that never improve is like making a lifelong commitment to #dysfunction. In a #neurodiverserelationship, each partner can be a #toxicpartner.
In part 2 of this episode of "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, Barbara Grant a neurodiverse relationship coach talks with me about the pitfalls that block success for couples. Today is part two of my discussion with Barbara Grant, who is also a #neurodiversity coach and a relationship therapist. If you missed part one, be sure and go back and listen to it. Our conversation has been really great from the perspective of therapists who also have had neurodiverse marriages and other relationships with people who are neurodiverse. We talk about being in those relationships, but also the challenges of therapy and coaching for couples and also for therapists.
Find Barbara at: https://hopeforcouples.net
If you are a therapist or coach who works with neurodiverse individuals and couples, email me at gethelp@jodicarlton.com to inquire about joining my Neurodiverse Professional Peer Support and Referral Network
#divorce #neurodivergent #autistic #marriagecounseling #therapist
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, anxiety, depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my autistic daughter and ADHD son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

Aug 2, 2023 • 26min
Toxicity in Neurodiverse Relationships - Part 1
In this episode of the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, my guest, Barbara Grant, and I discuss insights about #counseling and #therapy for that will benefit both therapists and couples.
Part 2 of this podcast episodes airs on Wed, Aug 16, 2023.
Season 3, Episode 11 airs Wed, Aug 2nd here on YouTube and on your favorite podcast platform! https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
Barbara Grant is a Certified Autism Specialist, ADHD and Neurodiverse Couples Coach, finishing her Masters in MFT (Marriage and Family Therapy.) She has been a therapeutic and spiritual coach since 2005, working with individuals, couples, and groups. Her current neurodiverse neurotypical couples coaching practice also focuses on individuals and families, as well as on offering neurotypical partners and family members support through online therapeutic groups. While she is neurotypical, but has 64+ years of experience with close family members who are neurodiverse. She utilizes her experience to provide clients with compassion, understanding and HOPE. As part of the neurodiverse professional community, she is excited about participating in the ongoing dialog about how to best support and strengthen neurodiverse people and their relationships. Visit Barbara online: https://bg-hc.com/
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, anxiety, depression, and abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my autistic daughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more.
COACHING: Get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR 💁♀️
COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

Jul 19, 2023 • 18min
Being Neurodivergent in a Faith-Based Community
Melissa, #ADHD wife to an #autistic husband gets raw and vulnerable about her faith and how her traditional Christian background has affected them as adults and in their own relationship. Season 3, Episode 10: "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast" #neurodivergent #christianfaith #faith #religious #jodicarlton #aspie #aspergers
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Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙
PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

Jul 5, 2023 • 32min
Neurodivergent Family: Mom, Father, and Daughter
#ADHD wife and mom to a #neurodivergent husband and daughter, Melissa shares how she struggled for years with considering leaving her marriage. After becoming educated about neurodiversity, and developing tools and skills for #communication, she realized that it's worth it to stay. She shared with me her #relationshipproblems, but also the joys and wonderful moments, as well as her personal growth that has resulted in happiness and freedom! Watch the full episode on YouTube (@jodicarlton) or listen on your favorite podcast platform.
#neurodiverserelationship #communicationskills #therapist #autismdiagnosis #adhdmom #autismfamily #jodicarlton
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.
💁♀️ My ground-breaking program for neurodiverse relationships, facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
❤️️ Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity. Finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

Jun 21, 2023 • 29min
Neurodivergence Pain and Suffering
#Neurodivergent wife and coach, Christie Ellis shared with me her own journey through tremendous pain and suffering and how her life has been enriched because of her experiences. Christie has incredible insights about how emotions inform us, and how #neurodiverserelationship partners can improve #communication and connection.
This is episode 8, part 2 of my chat with Christie, on Season 3 of the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship."
Watch all episodes at: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
#neurodiverserelationship #suicidalthought #autismsigns #autisticwoman #adhd #neurodiversewoman #communicationskills #relationshipproblems #jodicarlton
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.
💁♀️ My ground-breaking program for neurodiverse relationships, facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
❤️️ Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity. Finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.
📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

Jun 7, 2023 • 30min
Neurodivergence and Trauma: The Chicken or the Egg?
My guest today is Christie Ellis. Christie is neurodivergent herself. She's a wife, a friend, and a daughter and she's killing it in the business sector. She's created five businesses, including Phoenix Story Coaching, where she provides science-grounded coaching for individuals and businesses. She figures out repetitive thought and behavior patterns that aren't working for people and works with her clients to build new patterns and achieve goals. Christie is certified in positive psychology, behavior change, mindfulness-based stress reduction, and coaching.
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about #yourneurodiverserelationship dynamics.
💁♀️ My ground-breaking program for neurodiverse relationships, facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
❤️️ Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity. Finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict. 🌐
Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.
📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

May 24, 2023 • 45min
A Therapist Discovers Neurodivergence In Her Marriage
This week's episode's guest is Laura Schreiner. Laura has a Master of Science degree in Clinical Psychology, is a Nationally Certified Licensed Professional Counselor, and holds certification in Neurodiverse Couples Therapy with the Asperger/Autism Network (AANE).
Laura shares with me about her journey as a neurotypical wife, and the discovery of neurodivergence in her marriage. Visit her online at: www.laurasnc.com
If you're really enjoying this podcast, please don't forget to leave us a review because it really matters in how these podcast platforms deliver podcasts to people like you.
Be sure to subscribe if you're watching on YouTube to make sure you get updates on all the latest videos that I publish there.
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.
📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.
🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.
CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.
📱 FOLLOW ME:
Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

May 10, 2023 • 18min
ADHD Women: Dating and Relationships
This week's episode is part two of my conversation with Gwen Janssen. So if you missed part one, go back and listen to the last episode that was aired two weeks ago. Gwen and I had so much to talk about it was too much to put into one episode. Today, she really gets personal about her own relationships and how being neurodiverse has affected her relationships in dating, but also family relationships and friendships.
Also, if you're really enjoying this podcast, please don't forget to leave us a review because it really matters in how these podcast platforms deliver podcasts to people like you.
Be sure to subscribe if you're watching on YouTube to make sure you get updates on all the latest videos that I publish there.
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.
📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.
🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.
CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.
📱 FOLLOW ME:
Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton