Aware Parenting Stories with Joss Goulden

Welcome back to another episode in the series about embracing imperfection in aware parenting. In this episode I talk about how normal it is for us all to have painful moments of rupture in our families and how to come back to connection again. I talk about how important it is for us to tend to the source of our behaviour at times of rupture, to support ourselves and make it less likely in future. I share ways we can support ourselves with our thoughts, our needs and our feelings so we can offer authentic apology. I offer a description of what rewind and repair might look like and I share why doing this with our children is so powerful for them, for us and for our relationship. If you would like support with this or any other aspect of Aware Parenting, please contact me at support@awareparenting.com.au

Welcome back to another episode in the series about embracing imperfection in Aware Parenting. In this episode I am delighted to welcome back Maru Rojas, who was previously on Episode 10. Maru is an Aware Parenting Instructor originally from Mexico now based in London. She is particularly passionate about supporting families with potty learning and elimination communication. supporting families with children from 0 to 6. Maru shares her journey with embracing imperfection. She shares some of her own experiences in childhood that have contributed to her perfectionism and the power of offering her children unconditional acceptance. We talk about the power of repair and Maru shares her understanding that repair matters more than rupture and what that looks like in her family. She shares how she has supported herself at difficult times and we normalise that we all need support at times in parenting. We talk about the affect on the world of practising aware parenting. To learn more about Maru, please visit www.parenttogether.co.uk and follow her on Instagram at _maru.rojas_ If you would like support with this or any other aspect of Aware Parenting, please contact me at support@awareparenting.com.au

Welcome back to another episode in the series about embracing imperfection in aware parenting. In this episode I talk about why it is so hard to be trying to shift so much in parenting in just one generation. I talk about how our own childhood experiences and cultural conditioning effect who we are as parents and how we feel about ourselves. I talk about what we would have needed to receive as children ourselves in order to be able to be "perfectly" parenting now. I talk about some of the things that we need to be receiving and experiencing now as parents in order to be find it easier to offer aware parenting. I offer lots of phrases that you might find helpful to bring more compassion and acceptance of yourself. I offer words of celebration and acknowledgement for all the things you ARE doing to support your child with more awareness and love and why they are all so powerful for your child, yourself, your family and the world. If you would like support with this or any other aspect of Aware Parenting, please contact me at support@awareparenting.com.au

Welcome back to another episode in the series about embracing imperfection in aware parenting. In this episode I talk with Shelley Clarke. Shelley is a Physiotherapist, CranioSacral Therapist, Aware Parenting Instructor and Parent Mentor. She is the mother to three beautiful children and is passionate about the nervous system, human body and helping families thrive. She is the host of the Mind Body Parenting Podcast lives and works in Adelaide. In this episode, Shelley shares her journey with learning to embrace imperfection in her parenting, learning to support herself at the challenging times and how she has come to see that getting support and listening for herself has transformed her ability to offer compassion, support and repair with her children. We share some painful moments in our parenting and Shelley shares the practices and phrases she offers herself to bring more compassion and acceptance to her parenting. To learn more about Shelley please visit www.shelleyclarke.com and follow her on instagram at _shelleyclarke_ and Facebook at Shelley Clarke Mind Body Parenting. If you would like support with this or any other aspect of Aware Parenting, please contact me at support@awareparenting.com.au

I am delighted to share another episode in the series of conversations I am having with Aware Parenting instructors about embracing Imperfection. This is a powerful conversation with Belynda Smith, who was on episode 75 of my podcast. Belynda has been a hand in hand instructor since 2017 and an Aware Parenting instructor since 2023. She lives in WA with her 2 boys. In this conversation Belynda shares her painful experiences of starting parenthood wanting to be perfect and the shame, judgement and hurt that she experienced when she realised that was not possible. We talk about the power of listening partnerships to receive validation, safety and unconditional acceptance to enable us to offer compassion to ourselves and our children. She shares some of her favourite phrases to increasing self-compassion and shares some examples of difficult and painful moments in her family and how she has found her way back to connection and love. To learn more about Belynda, please visit her website https://belyndasmith.com.au and follow her on social media at belyndasmithparenting. To learn more about The Aware Parenting Retreat with Danni Willow and Joss Goulden, please visit https://awareparenting.com.au/aware-parenting-retreat/ To learn more about my Aware Parenting Teenagers Course that Belynda mentions, please visit https://awareparenting.com.au/my-courses/aware-parenting-teenagers/ If you would like support with this or any other aspect of Aware Parenting, I am here for you.

Welcome back to another episode in this series of conversations about embracing imperfection in aware parenting. In this episode I have the absolute pleasure of talking with Mary Walker. Mary is a writer and poet from Aoteroa New Zealand and she lives in the countryside with her husband, 3 teenagers and 5 cats. She discovered Aware Parenting in 2015 when her children were 7, 5 and 3. She has been writing and sharing her poetry since 2017. Her first book of poetry Lullaby for Mothers came out in 2019. Her book of nature poems, called The Land Will Hold You, was published in 2022. Mary’s third poetry collection is about to be released, and it is called Home: poems for becoming who you are and releasing who you are not. In this conversation, Mary shares some of her journey with Aware Parenting and how she has learnt to bring more compassion, connection and healing for her children and herself. We talk about the challenge of discovering Aware Parenting later and power of trust and repair. Mary shares some of her exquisite poems to inspire and support listeners on their own aware parenting journey. We talk about learning to see the gift of crying with loving support. If you love poetry and Aware Parenting, this episode is for you. And if you have never enjoyed poetry before, hearing Mary's profoundly beautiful words will enrich your aware parenting experience and invite more self-compassion and trust. To learn more about her work, please visit www.marywalker.co.nz and follow her on Instagram at Mary Walker Writer. If you would like to sign up for her free email poetry subscription called A Beautiful Beginning, inviting readers to start each week with a poem and a moment of quiet reflection, the link is on her website. If you want to learn more about the Aware Parenting Teenagers Course that Mary mentions in this episode, please visit https://awareparenting.com.au/my-courses/aware-parenting-teenagers/ And if you want support with this or any other aspect of Aware Parenting, please get in touch support@awareparenting.com.au

Welcome back to another episode in this series of conversations about embracing imperfection in aware parenting. In this episode I have the pleasure of talking with Nic Wilson from Peaceful Parenting. Nic is an aware parenting instructor, Marion Method mentor and mother to an 11 year old girl. In this episode Nic shares her journey in moving from an internal dialogue of telling herself she was not good enough, to being more compassionate and accepting of herself. We talk about embracing imperfection in ourselves and in our children. Nic shares some practices she uses to support herself in challenging moments. Nic also shares really vulnerably a recent very challenging time in her family and how she found her way back to connection with herself and her daughter. To learn more about Nic, please visit www.peacefulparenting.com.au or follow her on social media at Peaceful Parenting.

In this new episode, I am talking with Carly Facius. Carly was on episode 85 sharing more of her story so i invite you to listen to that. She is mum to 3, is a registered midwife, lactation consultant, and aware parenting instructor who has been supporting parents from conception to parenthood. And we have had some gorgeous conversations together in person recently about the mistakes, the difficult parts, the mess that is parenting so I was so looking forward to this conversation here. In today's episode, Carly shares how she has seen perfectionism show up in the families that she works with and how she saw this in herself once she became a parent too. We talk about the ways we can try to support ourselves with some of the cultural pressures that get put on us in parenthood. We share how we have brought more balance to parenting between our ideals and the reality of life and the balance of understanding the theory of aware parenting and how we can put it into practice. Carly shares some examples of times in her family that she has not been the parent that she wanted to be and how she has supported herself and her child at those times with self-compassion and acceptance. If you want to learn more about Carly, please visit her website https://www.seedpodfamilies.com and follow her on social media.

Welcome back to another episode in this series of conversations about embracing imperfection in aware parenting. In this episode I have the pleasure of talking with Devon Harris. Devon is an aware parenting instructor and a specialist in child and adolescent behaviour. She supports parents to meet the developmental needs of their children, as well as to capitalise on undesirable behaviour as an opportunity to deepen trust and connection. She loves attachment play and sharing this beautiful apporach with her clients. Devon shares her journey towards self acceptance and embracing imperfection in aware parenting. We talk about learning to speak more compassionately with ourselves and Devon shares her practices and processes and the phrases she has learnt to bring to her internal dialogue. She shares some examples of challenging times in her family and how she has navigated her way through getting support, and offering connection and attachment play. We talk about how we have navigated comparison and judgment in parenting and the power of community and connection on the aware parenting journey. To learn more about Devon's work, please visit https://www.devonharris.com.au and follow her on social media. To learn more about my Aware Parenting Teenagers course or to join the new live round starting on 25th February 2025, please visit https://awareparenting.com.au/my-courses/aware-parenting-teenagers/

Welcome back to the podcast and the second conversation in this series about learning to embrace imperfection in Aware Parenting. This conversation is with my dear friend and colleague Danni Willow, who is an amazing aware parenting instructor with 2 daughters living on the Surf Coast of Australia. We have been running our beautiful Exploring Aware Parenting Community together for the last 3 years. She has also been on many of the previous podcast episodes. In this conversation, Danni shares her journey of moving from guilt and shame and judgement to self compassion and self connection. We talk about how have learnt to offer ourselves support, compassion and acceptance. Danni shares vulnerably some messy, painful moments in her family and how she has found her way through those times. We talk about repair with our children and the immense power for them of authenticity and connection. We talk about bringing in acceptance and compassion in relation to control patterns. We talk about how we offer ourselves celebration and acknowledgement as an antidote to the harshness and judgment. If you want to learn more about Danni please visit www.thewayofthewoman.com.au And follow her on social media. If you want to learn more about our in-person retreat please email me at support@awareparenting.com.au to go on the waitlist as places will be limited. If you want to learn more about my Aware Parenting Teenagers course, the link is here https://awareparenting.com.au/my-courses/aware-parenting-teenagers/ if you want to learn more about Marion Rose's powerful Marion Method, the link is here https://marionrose.net/marion-method-courses/