Aware Parenting Stories with Joss Goulden

In this episode I have a conversation with Marion Rose about her wonderful new best selling book Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting. Marion, who is a Level 2 Aware Parenting Instructor and the regional coordinator for Australia, New Zealand and Indonesia, shares so much wisdom. She shares how to bring ourselves more compassion. She describes how we can interpret what their behaviour is telling us about how they are feeling and what they are needing. Marion shares the 3 ingredients that babies and children need for restful restorative sleep without having to dissociate; to feel tired, to feel safety (through connection and closeness) and to feel relaxed (through utilising their innate mechanisms to feel, express and release painful feelings). We talk about learning to deeply trust the innate wisdom of our children and their knowing of how to relax and what they need in order to feel safe. We talk about the immense value of doing our own inner work in order to be able to support our children. Marion also shares 2 of the beautiful stories from her book of what it feels like for a baby and for a teenager to experience our loving support. I highly recommend buying Marion’s new book, available in paperback or on Kindle from Amazon. Her new course by the same name is on her website www.marionrose.net If you would like support with sleep or any other aspect of your parenting journey, I am here for you and I encourage you to get in touch by emailing me at support@awareparenting.com.au or to visit my website www.awareparenting.com.au/parenting-coaching/

Welcome to the 100th episode of the Aware Parenting Stories podcast! I am so excited to share this celebration of Aware Parenting. I invited anyone who felt called to share, to come and have a conversation about what Aware Parenting means to them and the effect practising Aware Parenting has had on their family. I am so grateful to Lucy, Sarah, Belinda, Vicki, and Vivian for taking the time to join this conversation and share some of what they love about Aware Parenting. I hope you find their stories and reflections to be inspiring and helpful. Thank you to everyone who has given up their time to come on my podcast over the last 100 episodes and to everyone who has listened and shared the podcast, and messaged me about it. And a huge thank you to Dr. Aletha Solter for her amazing work, research and expertise about humans. Thank you also to Marion Rose for the wonderful way that she has supported me and hundreds of other parents to understand and embody this beautiful approach. If you would like support on your parenting journey, I am here for you and I encourage you to get in touch support@awareparenting.com.au Or visit my website www.awareparenting.com.au/parenting-coaching/

In this episode I respond to a question from a listener who is thinking about taking her child out of school and wanting to know more about the connection between aware parenting and natural learning/homeschooling. I share some of the ways that I see aware parenting and homeschooling fitting together so well and some of the advantages that I perceive of not sending our children to school. If you want to learn more about my Aware Parenting and Natural Learning monthly online circle, please visit https://awareparenting.com.au/circles/ If you want to read my articles about homeschooling and aware parenting please visit https://awareparenting.com.au/articles/?_select_a_category=homeschoolingandnaturallearning If you want to listen to the Aware Parenting and Natural Learning podcast with Marion Rose and myself, please visit https://soundcloud.com/awp-and-nl-podcast?utm_source=clipboard&utm_medium=text&utm_campaign=social_sharing To listen to other podcasts where I share about my journey with homeschooling, here’s the resources page link https://awareparenting.com.au/certified-parent-coach/resources/ Aletha Solter’s Principles of Learning can be found here http://www.awareparenting.com/learning.htm

This episode I talk about how to offer the balance of attention to our children and why this is necessary in order for them to release and heal from stress and trauma. I describe what the balance of attention is and how it works. I then offer lots of suggestions about how to give our children an embodied experience of safety and connection on the one hand, and connection to the past feelings of distress on the other in a way that then supports them to use their powerful natural recovery processes to heal. If you would like support on your parenting journey, I am here for you and I encourage you to get in touch support@awareparenting.com.au or visit my website www.awareparenting.com.au/parenting-coaching/ To read Aletha Solter’s book Healing your Traumatized Child, the link is here To read Marion Rose’s book I’m Here and I’m Listenting, the link is here

This episode is a response to a request from a listener to talk about the times when we can’t parent the way we want to, when we feel overwhelmed or in really big feelings ourselves. It is always such a pleasure to share these conversations with Danni Willow. Danni is an aware parenting instructor and has 2 children. In this conversation we talk about overwhelm in parenting. We share some of the reasons why it can feel overwhelming for us all to be practising Aware Parenting. We share how important it is to learn to offer ourselves compassion in the challenging times and to be receiving that from others too. We talking about finding ways to meet our own needs and how to support ourselves through the tough times. To learn more about Danni’s work, please visit www.thewayofthewoman.com or follow her on social media at Danni Willow. If you would like support on your parenting journey, I am here for you and I encourage you to get in touch support@awareparenting.com.au Or visit my website www.awareparenting.com.au/parenting-coaching/

In this episode I welcome Kirsty Fernandes back to the show. Kirsty joined me in episode 44. Kirsty is an Aware Parenting Instructor in New Zealand and is passionate about supporting mothers in the post-partum period and offering birth debriefing. She is the mother of 2 children and shares her work supporting mothers through her business Honouring Māmā. In this conversation we share our own experiences of trauma in giving birth. We talk about what birth trauma is and some of the ways in which the current system often results in trauma for parents. We talk about how birth trauma can affect birthing women, their partners and children and share the profoundly transformative experience of receiving support to process and heal, by sharing our stories and having all our complex, layered feelings about our births welcomed, witnessed and validated. To learn more about Kirsty’s work, including her birth debriefing, please visit https://www.honouringmama.com and follow Kirsty on Instagram and Facebook at Kirsty Fernandes Honouring Mama. If you would like support on your parenting journey, in relation to birth trauma or any other aspect of aware parenting, I am here for you and I encourage you to get in touch support@awareparenting.com.au Or visit my website www.awareparenting.com.au/parenting-coaching/

This episode dives into why children so often need to cry. I talk about many of the different challenging and stressful experiences that children face, from their time in utero all the way through childhood and share some of the painful feeling they then experience. I offer compassion and support to parents listening so that they can offer compassionate understanding and support to their children. I normalise frequent big feelings for all children and remind parents how important it is to be taking care of ourselves and finding ways to try to meet our own needs in order to be able to take care of our children. If you would like support on your parenting journey, I am here for you and I encourage you to get in touch support@awareparenting.com.au or visit my website www.awareparenting.com.au/parent-coaching/ To learn more about needs and feelings, please visit www.cnvc.com

This episode dives into how we can support our children when they suck their thumbs or fingers. Often in sessions parents express their concern and frustration about these behaviours so if this is happening in your family, you are not alone. I talk about why children suck their thumbs/fingers, how we can support ourselves and how we can support them to not need to do this anymore. To learn more about the Exploring Aware Parenting Community with Danni and Joss, please visit www.awareparenting.com.au/community To learn more about my new Aware Parenting Workshop, please visit https://awareparenting.com.au/my-courses/parenting-workshops/

In this episode I have a conversation with Lavinia Brown. Lavinia is a trauma-informed psychodynamic coach who supports mamas to become the conscious parents they want to be through healing their inner child. Through acknowledging and integrating unprocessed pain from the past, overcoming unconscious patterns and learning how to accept, love themselves and assert healthy boundaries, mamas stop feeling ashamed, anxious, guilty and angry, and can show up as the authentic parent, partner and woman that they want to be, instead of who their primary caregivers thought they should be. Lavinia lives with her partner and 3 children in the UK. In this episode Lavinia shares how she came to do this work after feeling overwhelmed and desperate as a parent herself. She explains what an inner child is and how these younger parts of us show up during the course of our day-to-day life as parents, as partners and in many of the interactions and experiences that we have. We talk about how to connect with our inner child and explore what is coming up for us, going towards the feelings and then supporting the integration of those painful experiences so we can become freer from the activations of our inner child wounding. To learn more about Lavina, please visit www.laviniabrown.com and follow her on social media at the.innerchild.healing.expert. The link to her podcast is here https://open.spotify.com/show/0NvSnxZWCG4uVTAUR4WRdc. Her partner’s work with fathers can be found here www.andrewlynn.net and https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads/ To learn more about Marion Rose’s Inner Loving Presence Process course, please visit https://innerlovingpresenceprocess.com To learn more about the Exploring Aware Parenting Community with Danni and Joss, please visit www.awareparenting.com.au/community

I really love that I get to have regular conversations about Aware Parenting with Danni Willow. In this episode we talk about the parallel journey of parenting our children and reparenting ourselves. We share the on-going invitation that aware parenting our children offers us to be tending to ourselves, to be exploring our emotional reactions, unpacking our cultural conditioning and core beliefs, reconnecting with our own authenticity and learning to speak the language of compassion in order for our children to be able to be who they truly are, without having to also carry our baggage. We share examples of how we have seen this in our own families. We share how important it is to be getting support, compassion and connection with others on this journey. And we describe more about our Exploring Aware Parenting Community, which is starting its 3rd year in the coming weeks. It is a compassionate and connected community to support parents to develop a truly embodied understanding of Aware Parenting. And it also powerfully supports members on their own reparenting journey. If you would like to learn more about the Exploring Aware Parenting Community, please visit www.awareparenting.com.au/community. If you would like to go on the waitlist to receive a significant discount only available for the first week of sign up from 9th September 2024, please email support@awareparenting.com.au. If you are listening to this at another time and would like to join the community at a different time, we re-open the doors every September. To learn more about Danni Willow, please visit www.thewayofthewoman.com.au