Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast

We’re back with another episode in our T&A Alphabet Series, where we tackle big topics one letter at a time (with plenty of laughs along the way)! Originally aired as live trainings in our Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Community, this episode is all about the letter F—and oh boy, do we have some fabulous F-words for you!From the most famous F-word (F*ck, obviously) to all the fun, freaky, and fascinating F-words that spice up our sexual & polyamorous lives, we’re diving deep into:🔥 The 4 Fs (there’s more than one version—listen in to find out!)💋 First dates (the good, the bad, and the fumbly)👩‍❤️‍👨 Foursomes (and the juicy dynamics of 3+ connections)🌈 Sexual Fluidity (because labels are flexible, just like us)🍆 Fornicating & Fellatio (because we’re here for pleasure)🎩 Fly Jockey (with a throwback to '70s porn & why sex clubs need coat hooks!)🏳️‍🌈 Friend of Dorothy & Friend of Bill (and the fascinating origins of these phrases)🚃 Frotteurism & Frotteuristic Disorder (yep, we go there)😱 FEAR (the F-word we love to hate—and all the ways it shows up)But that’s not all! We also take a deep dive into Fetishes, Fetishism, and Racial Fetishization—breaking down stigmas and normalizing sexuality in all its fantastic and fluid forms.So grab your favorite F-drink (Fireball?? Fanta?), find a comfy spot, and let’s f*cking talk about it! 🔥🎧If opening your relationship or exploring polyamory is a lot less FUN than you imagined or your constantly putting out FIRES, (and not the sexy kind) our Poly Newbies Course can help. It’s designed to guide you step-by-step on building a secure foundation so you can experience the pleasure and enjoyment you imagined when you first decided to become non-monogamous. Find out more here: https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferShow Resources:Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠Join the waitlist and be the first to find out when our Little Book of Poly Love is out with all the FUN words from A-Z! ⁠https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlistLooking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail.comLooking for coaching support?  Book a consultation call with Tara - ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠ 

Welcome to the fifth instalment of our T&A Alphabet Series, where we break down big topics one letter at a time complete with stories and some laughs along the way! Originally recorded as a live training in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community and on YouTube, this episode is all about the letter E:✨ E is for Ethical Non-Monogamy: What Makes It Ethical?You might be thinking…Wait… Didn’t you already cover this in C is for Consensual Non-Monogamy, Communication… and Cookies!?Great question! While consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) are often used interchangeably, there are some subtle differences which is why someone might use one or the other. We explore what those differences are and what truly makes a relationship ethical (or not).💡 Other Key Topics:🔹 Why transparency is essential for avoiding misunderstandings & drama🔹 The risks & rewards of openly declaring your non-monogamy🔹 What happens when one partner wants to be monogamous and the other doesn’tWe also answer some community questions including:✅ Is a Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell (DADT) policy still ethical?✅ Is breaking an agreement unethical?✅ Can there be cheating in ENM?✅ When and why do we need to announce that we’re non-monogamous?📢 Plus, we toss in some bonus E words: ejaculation, erotocentrism, and the difference between envy vs. jealousy!Tara also shares personal experiences from coming out to her family as polyamorous and the challenges that followed. Want more? Check out related videos in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook group (links in the show notes!).🎧 Hit play & let’s talk polyamory!Show Resources:Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠Video: How to talk to parents about being polyamorous or in an open relationship - https://youtu.be/UxYecGOZ3WY?si=OaNmNcBea2bA27sH Guide 4: Hot Topics in group where coming out videos are housed: https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly/learning_content/?filter=230771232079665 Be the first to find out when our Little Book of Poly Love is out. Join the waitlist here: ⁠https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlistLooking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail.comLooking for coaching support?  Book a consultation call with Tara - ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠ 

Welcome to the fourth instalment of our T&A Alphabet Series where we tackle big topics one letter at a time (and throw in some laughs along the way). Originally broadcast as live trainings in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook Community and on YouTube, this episode is all about the letter D with our topic D is for DRAMA: 5 Things to Address Drama & Chaos in Relationships.With so many fun D-words out there (we know what you’re thinking… 🍆), why focus on drama? Because at the time of recording, we had just navigated a “dramatic episode” in our own relationships—something rare for us but important to work through. In this episode, we break down exactly how we handled it and the lessons we learned.Unnecessary relationship drama often comes down to a few key issues: a need for control, poor communication, a craving for validation, or a lack of self-awareness. Drama doesn’t just show up uninvited—you either create it, invite it, or surround yourself with people who bring it.In this episode we cover:✅ How drama manifests in relationships✅ How to recognize when you’re escalating it (or causing it)✅ The 5 things you can do to de-escalate drama and restore balance✅ The connection between attachment styles and dramaAnd a lot more!If opening your relationship or exploring polyamory has felt like a never-ending cycle of drama, conflict, and emotional fires, our Poly Newbies Course can help. It’s designed to guide you step-by-step on building a secure foundation so you can experience the pleasure and enjoyment you imagined when you first decided to become non-monogamous. You can find out more here - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferShow Resources:Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠Be the first to find out when our Little Book of Poly Love is out. Join the waitlist here: ⁠https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlistLooking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail.comLooking for coaching support?  Book a coaching consultation call with Tara - ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠ 

After jealousy, time management is often the number 2 reason why people feel that being non-monogamous and having multiple relationships wouldn't work for them at all.And one of the most common things we hear from our listeners is that they struggle with balancing multiple relationships, personal time, and life responsibilities.In this brand new episode of the Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast, we discuss a much requested topic - Time Management in Polyamory: How to Avoid Burnout & Overcommitment.In this episode we cover: What is time management and why is it important? Why time management can become an issue when non-monogamous Strategies and tools for scheduling and managing time How to avoid polysaturation Our Not-To-Do list for time management in relationshipsShow Resources: Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠.  Need support in having wildly successful, secure and sexy non-monogamous relationships? Join us for the Poly Newbies Digital Course -https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail.com Looking for coaching support?  Book a consultation call with Tara - ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠  Article by Sarah Zoloth - https://www.nshss.org/resources/blog/blog-posts/time-management-what-is-it-and-why-is-it-important/  Article in More Than Two About Time Management - https://www.morethantwo.com/polytime.html 

Dive into the world of consensual non-monogamy, exploring various relationship styles from polyamory to swinging. Communication is highlighted as the backbone of successful non-monogamous relationships, filled with playful anecdotes and tips. Plus, discover the connection between cookies and polyamory—sweet surprises await! The hosts challenge traditional relationship labels, advocating for autonomy and self-awareness. Enjoy light-hearted discussions while tackling deeper topics like jealousy and health in intimate connections. It's a fun and informative journey!

Ever had someone question your polyamorous or non-monogamous relationships—or share misconceptions about what polyamory really is? If you’re new to exploring non-monogamy, you might even find yourself wondering the same things! In this episode, we bust five of the most common and persistent myths that have shaped public perceptions, created unnecessary fears, and discouraged people from exploring non-monogamous relationships—even when they know monogamy isn’t the right fit: 🚫 Polyamory is only about sex 🚫 Polyamorous people can’t commit or do the work of being in a monogamous relationship 🚫 Polyamory is unnatural 🚫 Polyamory always leads to jealousy 🚫 Polyamory is just a phase until you find the "right person" + if you truly loved someone, you wouldn’t need anyone else We dive into why these myths simply aren’t true, sharing personal stories, real-life examples, and insights from our years of coaching, therapy practices, and lived experiences in the polyamorous community. 💡 Whether you’re poly-curious, have been practicing non-monogamy for years, or simply want to understand more about consensual non-monogamy, this episode is packed with eye-opening truths and valuable takeaways. We’d love to hear your thoughts! If you’re listening on Spotify, drop us a comment. Join our Let's Talk Polyamory private Facebook group to ask questions, share your experiences, and connect with others. 🎧 Tune in now to debunk these myths and discover the truth about polyamory and non-monogamy! Show Resources: Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠  The Little Book of Poly Love - Join the list to be informed when it’s released -  https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist  Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality,  by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá. Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail.com Looking for coaching support?  Book a consultation call with Tara - ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠ 

Dive into the multifaceted world of bisexuality, where identity and expression take center stage. The discussion uncovers common myths and stereotypes, highlighting the importance of visibility amidst societal misconceptions. Listeners will appreciate personal anecdotes about navigating relationships and the significance of self-definition. The conversation also touches on sexual pleasure, the nuances of communication, and the emotional challenges faced by bisexual individuals. With humor and insight, it’s a compelling exploration of love, identity, and acceptance.

Dive into the fascinating world of anorgasmia, a condition more common than many realize! The conversation challenges the myth that orgasms are the only goal for pleasure, emphasizing the journey instead. Personal stories provide insight into the emotional aspects of intimacy and sexual self-advocacy. Communication is highlighted as key for enhancing pleasure, while unique family dynamics add a heartfelt touch. With humor and honesty, the hosts navigate the complexities of sexual desire and fulfillment.

Who doesn't want to make their way through the holidays with ease and comfort and as little drama as possible? The holiday season means time spent with friends, family and lovers. And it also can mean a few other things… having to make tough choices on where to be and when to be there, WHO to be with?  having to deal with family members that don't necessarily agree with your relational choices or partner(s) needing to de-stress & prioritize fun and sexy times in between all the holiday obligations And if anything is feeling shaky in terms of your non-monogamy journey, the holidays can be, as André describes "miracle grow for your feelings" and amplify those issues making things stressful or uncomfortable. In this podcast episode we talk in detail about 5 things you can do now to set your holidays up for success and start 2025 feeling much more secure: Reflect on the past year Conduct a thorough RAADAR Relationship Review to assess the health and dynamics of your relationships and connections using the  Do some pre-planning - the who, what, where, when, and how Sharpen your effective communication skills and communicate your needs, wants and desires to partners Prepare and build your toolkit and get direct or indirect support! Interwoven in this discussion as always are a ton of gems of knowledge and stories from their personal experiences and those of friends and people we work with. And if you're looking for holiday gift that keeps on giving for your partner and yourself that will allow you start 2025 feeling FAB-U-LOUS-LY SECURE, sign up for our 7-module Poly Newbies Digital Course! And don't worry about having to do it all right away, you'll have a full 6 months to get it all done! We have a special offer for our podcast listeners and Let's Talk Polyamory community. Find out more here - ⁠https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer⁠ Show Resources: Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Open Relationship & Polyamory Mastery Program - https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery  Let’s Talk Polyamory Private Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly  Multiamory Podcast - https://www.multiamory.com/podcast  Fit Feels Good by Oonagh Duncan (the health and fitness program Tara is a part of) - https://www.fitfeelsgood.com/  Need support and curious about coaching or therapy? Book a consultation call with us: https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue  Find out more about us and services, programs and more at ⁠https://taraandandre.com/ ⁠

What essentials need to be in your Poly Newbie Survival Kit?Are you new to non-monogamy or opening up a relationship? In this episode, we’ll equip you with a list of the tools, insights, and strategies you need to thrive—and avoid some of the most common challenges along the way. These essential steps are drawn straight from our 7-module Poly Newbies Digital Course, designed to set you up for success:1️⃣ The Basics of Non-Monogamy: Key definitions, identifying your “why,” and navigating your hopes and fears.2️⃣ Choosing Your Style: Exploring what kind of non-monogamy aligns with your needs and desires.3️⃣ Mastering Communication: Building connection, eliminating toxic patterns, and speaking your truth effectively.4️⃣ Rightsizing Jealousy: Understanding this complex emotion and cultivating greater security.5️⃣ Attachment Styles: Discovering yours and moving toward secure attachment.6️⃣ Boundaries & Agreements: Creating personal boundaries and our signature Values-Based Relationship Agreements™.7️⃣ Keeping It Awesome: Relationship check-ins, dating tips, and maintaining the spark!✨ Plus, we dive into juicy extras, including:The stages of polyamory—from curious newbies to seasoned veterans.Whether there’s a “right” age to explore non-monogamy.Surprising challenges when opening up an already solid relationship.All this and personal stories from our own non-monogamy journey! 🎉Hit play and start your journey toward thriving in non-monogamy! 🎧💖Show Resources & Special Offers: Poly Newbies Digital Course Community Offer at $97 for 6 months of access - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Poly Diaries Docs-Series - Subscribe and listen to our diary entries and others at ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@PolyDiaries⁠ Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at ⁠andreturcottepsych@gmail.com⁠  Have questions about our course or looking for private individual or couple’s coaching? Book a consultation call with host Tara at ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/15mincoffeechat⁠ Join the Community: Connect will other polyamorous folk here - ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠ Learn more: Explore our services, programs and more at ⁠⁠⁠https://taraandandre.com/