The Terri Cole Show

I am thrilled to have Nedra Tawwab, best-selling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace, on the show to chat about her new book, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships. Because let's be honest, most of us come from dysfunctional families in one way or another. Nedra and I start by talking about boundaries and then move into what a dysfunctional family is or could look like, the types of dysfunction Nedra sees most often, what you can do about family dysfunction, codependency in family, and the pressures we face when we are the first to break a dysfunctional cycle within a family. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/503 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever left a doctor's appointment feeling confused, dismissed, or completely misunderstood? Do you find it challenging to communicate your preferences with medical professionals? Or are you at a loss for how to advocate for yourself to receive adequate healthcare? If you've had these experiences, this episode on creating healthy, effective boundaries with the medical community is for you. By the end, you will know the best way to prepare for a doctor's appointment and when it might be a good time to ditch your doc. I am passionate about medical boundaries because of my experience with a cancer diagnosis many years ago. It is at the forefront of my mind again because many of you are writing in about perimenopause and menopause and dealing with dismissive doctors. I wanted to give you some of my hard-earned wisdom because boundaries have everything to do with this. (Disclaimer: I am not an MD, so this information is not medical advice. I am sharing my story with you from a patient experience. Always consult your doctor.) Read the show notes for this episode at terricole.com/502. This episode is sponsored by Storyworth. Go to storyworth.com/terri for $10 off your first order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Laura Danger is one of my favorite people to follow on Instagram (@thatdarnchat). Her whole commentary on emotional labor and learned or weaponized incompetence is so refreshing and on point. She breaks down the negative stereotypes of men and women in society in an easy-to-understand way, too. I invited Laura on the show to chat more about creating equity at home, and she shares some great insights and solutions in this conversation. I hope you enjoy it as much as I enjoyed having it. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/501 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find yourself exploding when you finally set boundaries because you waited too long to communicate them? Is it difficult for you to assert your preferences and desires? Or does it feel like you can't control your tone of voice or the energy you bring to a boundary conversation? If this resonates, you are not alone. Many of my clients and students experience these challenges. And while it might feel like setting boundaries is ineffective right now, this does not have to be where your boundary journey begins and ends. Because I see this so often, this entire episode is about bringing the appropriate tone and body language to the boundary-setting process. You'll also get proactive boundary success steps to ensure your tone and body language match what you say and how you want it to be received. Read the show notes for this episode at terricole.com/500 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wanted to do something "big and scary" in your life? Like become an actor? Get your Ph.D? Change careers? Write a book? Then this episode is for you. Today's guest is Steven Pressfield, author of Put Your Ass Where Your Heart Wants To Be, which is a step-by-step guide to outsmarting your own resistance and do what you really want to do in life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/499 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you have a lot of responsibility as a child? Did you consistently make dinner for younger kids, babysit, clean the house, take care of a sick or compromised parent, or pick up siblings from school? If you handled adult responsibilities like these as a child, this episode is for you. I am breaking down the causes of parentification, the long-term impact of child parentification, and the steps you can take to begin to heal. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/498 This episode is sponsored by Green Chef. Go to GreenChef.com/terri60 and use code terri60 to get 60% off plus free shipping! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Decluttering expert Tracy McCubbin shares insights on becoming more intentional with our belongings, letting go of the past, the impact of clutter on our lives, finding happiness through connections, and the dangers of overgiving and resentment.

Do you minimize your negative past experiences? Or do you have selective memory, where you only remember the good from a painful relationship or time in your life? Almost like hyper-positivity with past experiences? Do you feel tempted to return to these toxic relationships or experiences? If you're nodding your head, you are not alone. I see this in many of my therapy clients, and I figured if it is happening with them, maybe you are experiencing this, too. In this episode, I am talking about euphoric recall – what it is, why it's dangerous, and how to protect yourself from falling back into old, toxic patterns or relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/496 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest is Rainier Wylde, a man who has lived many lives, from managing a Fortune 500 company, to becoming a psychotherapist, to helping people navigate the human soul. I found Rainier on Instagram - what he wrote about resonated so much that I invited him on the show. We largely talk about the messiness of being human -- dating unavailable people, our shadow selves, infidelity, grief, and so much more. Rainier has such a gentle soul, and I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/495 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains information about (gun) violence which may be triggering to survivors. Do you think something good can come from a traumatic experience? Or do you feel like awful things simply happen to us, and nothing productive comes from them? I explore these questions in today's episode on post-traumatic growth. I talk about the potential for positive experiences after traumatic events, and I share what I have witnessed as a psychotherapist and in the aftermath of my own traumatic experiences. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/494 This episode is sponsored by Green Chef. Go to GreenChef.com/terri60 and use code terri60 to get 60% off plus free shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices