The Art of Charm

Lewis Howes (@LewisHowes) discusses his new book, The School of Greatness, and its framework for achieving real, sustainable, and repeatable success.The Cheat Sheet:What is a lifestyle entrepreneur?While interviewing successful people, Lewis Howes found eight common themes that they tend to share -- he calls them The Eight Principles of Greatness.Greatness looks different to everyone, but it's rare that anyone ever achieves it by accident.What is your dream? Are you striving to realize it, or are you hoping it falls in your lap by sheer luck?What do you do when your failures become bigger than your vision?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/lewis-howes-school-of-greatness-episode-456/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Therapist finding expert Kimberly Seltzer shares her five-step process for finding the right therapist. Highlights include debunking therapy stigmas, exploring different therapy modalities, and tips for choosing the right therapist for your needs.

Alex Kouts (@akouts) returns to The Art of Charm to talk about how to get hired at a startup (and if the startup life might -- or might not -- be a good fit for you).The Cheat Sheet:What is a startup?How does a startup find a sustainable product/market fit?What kind of person chooses the potentially unstable startup life over the safer options their parents keep nagging them to consider?The startup life is not a get rich quick scheme -- if you choose it, you'll probably work harder than you ever have before (but with the potential rewards to match).Why aren't you getting any startup job offers even though you've submitted your resume dozens -- or hundreds -- of times online?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/alex-kouts-getting-hired-at-a-startup-episode-455/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #33! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:Sometimes your partner will complain just to vent about something that's bothering them, and other times they want legitimate solutions to their problems. How do you tell one from the other?Emotional conditioning can be a powerful force. A listener with a PhD in psychology chimes in about some advice we gave in Fan Mail Friday #31.Is tragedy a prerequisite for success and wealth, or can normality ever hope to compete?What happens when you can talk the talk to find a partner, but your skills lack in the sack?Immigrant insecurity is a real thing -- and it comes with a whole tapestry of negative feelings about self and society that can be hard to overcome.Contrariwise is a real word, and lack of vulnerability might be what makes your attempts at a long-term relationship so...vulnerable.True success needs no comparisons.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-33-contrariwise-bedroom-superheroes/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mark Manson, author and blogger about psychology and personal development, discusses topics such as the toxic habit of feeling owed in relationships, the basics of setting boundaries, the empowering and limiting nature of world travel, and the importance of realizing that everything you do doesn't matter. They also explore the concept of unconditional communication, the mindset of successful individuals, covert contracts in relationships, and treating your partner as a best friend.

Zachary Stockill (@zfstockill) shows us how overcoming retroactive jealousy and possessiveness is as easy as learning to let go.The Cheat Sheet:All jealousy is related to insecurity in some way.How should we deal with the complex cultural politics of social media in 2015 as they relate to retroactive jealousy?What are your values?Jealousy and possessiveness often cause us to stay in unhealthy relationships for far too long.Is it fair to judge our partners based on their past? Or is the present all that really matters?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/zachary-stockill-retroactive-jealousy-episode-453/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #32! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:While it might not be the end of the tunnel, it's good that you're seeing the light -- just make sure it's the right light.How do you practice genuine gratitude without coming across as a kiss-ass -- especially in the workplace?25-year-old virgins aren't as uncommon as you may think. (But if you're among them and you don't want to be, here are a few tips.)You may be aware that you're making progress in your life goals, but how do you quantify that progress?When you're giving a presentation, how do you deal with a question you don't really want to answer?How do you save time with one simple email?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-32-advice-for-the-25-year-old-virgin/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Neil Strauss tells The Truth about past transgressions in his latest book, but it's more than just a head-cleaning confession -- it's an exploration of options most people probably haven't considered."Nobody's making you do anything. You have complete freedom of choice at all times. You just have to accept the consequences of that choice." -Neil StraussThe Cheat Sheet:We may look up to -- and even envy -- the rich and famous without realizing that fame just amplifies the flaws people already have. (05:59) We're not going on the line to say this is true in all cases, but many relationships get stronger after a tell-all confession. (08:18)What should you do first when you love your partner but you have a sexual desire for someone else? (12:11)How do people in non-traditional, non-monogamous relationships separate love and sex? (13:59)Two different people can be doing the exact same thing -- one for healthy reasons; the other for unhealthy reasons. But how? (24:28)And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/neil-strauss-the-truth-episode-452/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Amy Port, an expert in public speaking and storytelling, shares transformative techniques to captivate any audience. She emphasizes the importance of structured narratives using Aristotle's three-act structure. Port explains how a compelling story can be crafted from personal experiences and highlights common pitfalls in storytelling. She also discusses the significance of emotional stakes and preparation while engaging listeners with her insights on making stories resonant and memorable, ultimately guiding non-actors to become effective speakers.

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #31! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:How do you learn to trust yourself and your instincts (especially when it comes to money)?A doctor brings a medical perspective to some advice we gave a listener in a difficult relationship back in Fan Mail Friday #27.Do phrases like "staying at home" and "left at home" make it sound like the person raising the kids and maintaining the sanctuary is doing something less than the person who goes out and brings home the paycheck?How do you overcome a negative association with something that is unfairly lumped in with a bad experience?Stop asking if you can afford to leave a job you hate if the real question is: can you afford not to? It all depends on your risk tolerance.Sometimes the best treatment for a case of Imposter Syndrome is a dose of keeping it real.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-31-homemakers-of-the-world-unite-and-take-over/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices