The Art of Charm

Meditation is for doers who seek personal top performance -- from entrepreneurs to professional athletes like Kobe Bryant."If you hand a top performer a potential advantage, they're going to try it." -Tony StubblebineThe Cheat Sheet:What benefits will life coaching offer the high-performing person vs. the low-performing person? (02:30)Meditation is more than a spiritual haven -- it's a mental strength exercise for people from hedge fund managers to professional athletes. (11:13)Three abilities are enhanced by meditation: awareness of your thoughts and emotions, control over your focus, and calm. (17:26)When meditating for mental strength, why will someone with a distracted, wandering mind get more out of the experience than someone who is too blissful and focused? (18:30)Tony guides us through a simple meditation. (39:55)And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/tony-stubblebine-ruthless-meditation-episode-446/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your talents, abilities, and intelligence aren't fixed traits -- they can be expanded and improved at any age with a mindset motivated toward growth."It's exciting to be progressing and doing things you never thought you could do; it's less exciting to just keep proving yourself over and over -- often by staying in your comfort zone." -Dr. Carol DweckThe Cheat Sheet:Learn the differences between the fixed mindset and the growth mindset. (02::31)What's the first step toward breaking out of a fixed mindset once you've identified it within yourself? (08:05)How you define success helps pinpoint your dominant mindset. (10:24)By the same token, mindsets change the very meaning of failure. (16:58)How can we raise children to lean more toward a growth mindset than a fixed mindset? (24:48)And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/dr-carol-dweck-the-motivated-mindset-episode-445/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #28! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:If the pervasive drunken collegiate environment isn't offering any appealing friend/date prospects in your new town, you're probably playing below your league. Aim higher by considering these options you probably didn't realize you have.How does someone who's partially blind make up for the non-verbal communication cues they're missing out on when engaged in conversation?How do you screen for a potential partner who's as interested in improving themselves as much as you are without wasting too much time on those who aren't?Breaking the romantic connection with a casual partner who you still value as a friend can be rough if they're not getting the hint. Sometimes you just have to go beyond hints and directly address the situation.How does someone with a conservative mindset toward physical intimacy date in a world where casual sex is often accepted as part of the deal? What's the best way to find others who are more in tune with taking things slow?Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-28-stop-aiming-below-your-dating-league/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Even if it seems like you've got the world figured out and you should be loving life, you might be among a surprising number of high-performing people who find happiness, confidence, and connection elusive."The high performer only ever really sees the gap between themselves and everyone else -- and how much worse they are without realizing what's great about them." -Jason ConnellThe Cheat Sheet:Sleep deprivation isn't a status symbol. (04:24)Regarding motivation: do you usually find yourself being pushed toward a path of action, or pulled to it? (08:42)Take yourself on a date. (10:34)Indulge your inner kid (but avoid paintball). (18:53)Do you believe in magic? (30:18)And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/jason-connell-ignited-leadership-episode-444/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #27! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:The past may be the past, but it's the best indicator of what's to come when that friend with a troubled history becomes more than just a friend.A healthy, balanced group dynamic needs more than one person reaching out to make plans -- especially if you're that one person.If you feel guilty for making profit on something you used to give away for free, ask yourself this question: would you buy it?Are people more interested in being right than they are in finding the most correct answer? Is it hard for you to admit when you're wrong?Want to avoid feeling manipulative when drumming up business among connections? Dig your well before you're thirsty -- build your network before you need it (and be prepared to give before you take).Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-27-why-does-profit-make-me-feel-guilty/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Thinking big and acting bigger means doing hard work and owning your role -- leading by example while keeping your ego in check. But the rewards make it all worthwhile."That's what you have to start to learn about thinking big -- for any person or company, any age or size -- is to own who you are because you can." -Jeffrey HayzlettThe Cheat Sheet:What's the secret to success that the charlatans won't tell you? (5:37)Fear of failure (and not being willing to take risks) is almost always more dangerous than the actual consequences of failure. (6:45)Learn The Katelyn Rule and how it applies to thinking big and acting bigger. (12:09)Does your job meet your conditions of satisfaction? (17:25)Never lose sight of what's happening in your business -- clean your own bathroom! (22:52)And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/jeffrey-hayzlett-think-big-act-bigger-episode-442/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You don't have to quit your day job in order to follow your entrepreneurial aspirations."I live in a state of constant retirement." -Ben KovacsThe Cheat Sheet:What does the recreational fisherman know that the rich man does not?Working for "The Man" and pursuing entrepreneurial urgings don't have to be mutually exclusive concepts -- in fact, they can (and should) complement each other.You don't have to be rich or famous for people (from clients and investors to partners and workmates) to like you and want to hang out. You just have to be interesting and genuine.Being incredibly honest with yourself and others will force you to evaluate what you can do yourself and what requires help -- which allows you to get more done in a day than you once believed possible.Is what you're doing with your time helping you get more out of what you love from life, or taking it away?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/ben-kovacs-everyone-is-an-entrepreneur-episode-441/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #26! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:What do you do when balding causes more than your hairline to recede?When is the most ideal time in your life to become an entrepreneur?Like practicing martial arts, picking up social dynamics skills won't turn you into a different person -- just a more confident one.Learning to English like Jordan may be hazardous to your job interview. (We recommend shadowing dialogue from Three's Company and Baywatch reruns.)Even if it gets you a dream job in the short term, telling a lie on your resume or unjustly badmouthing competition may haunt you for decades.What's the benefit of information binging -- like listening to an Art of Charm podcast marathon or reading 10 books on self-improvement over the weekend -- if you can't apply everything you learn?Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-26-receding-confidence-and-short-term-ethics/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You don't have to be afraid of math (or anything) when you adapt techniques that make you excel at other things. "You can do way more than you think you can do." -Barbara Oakley The Cheat Sheet: Why is following your passion not always your best option? (10:35) Gaining smooth, practiced "chunks" of knowledge is invaluable in art, sports, math, language -- and even charm. (19:50) Is "mathphobia" a global phenomenon? (21:05) Why do we procrastinate, and what can we do to fend it off? (23:56) Learn how to get motivated instead of overwhelmed. (29:54) And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/barbara-oakley-learning-how-to-learn-episode-440/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover how lessons learned by a special forces veteran can be applied to the worlds of business, finance, strategy, and marketing."It's not survival of the fittest; it's survival of the most adaptable." -Robert Patrick LewisThe Cheat Sheet:The worst time to plan for an emergency is after it's already happened.Understand the importance of teamwork, but be prepared to rely on your own strengths and adapt to a situation for those times when teamwork falls through.How much could you write if you never had writer's block?Why is there a disconnect between veterans and the HR departments of companies that want to hire them?How can military and combat experience be used in the business world?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/robert-patrick-lewis-green-beret-mba-episode-439/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices