The Art of Charm

In this episode, AOC Toolbox discusses networking and social capital basics. They highlight the importance of making genuine connections, adding value to interactions, and avoiding agenda-based networking. They also emphasize the power of giving without expectation and the importance of building social capital. Discover how to create valuable opportunities through connecting people and being an active consumer of information.

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #40! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:In the 21st century, who pays for what and when in the world of (American) dating?When is the right time to bring your serious significant other home to meet the family?Does your relationship have what it takes to level up?How does the responsible, punctual one stop feeling like a weird lurker while waiting for habitually tardy friends?When traveling alone, how do you meet people -- of any gender -- while making it clear that you're not hitting on them?How do you overcome the fear of giving a disastrous toast at a wedding?If you have outdated or inaccurate programming in your brain, you simply can't interpret things differently until you rewire your programming. Jordan talks about it a bit in this short video.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-40-disastrous-toasts-and-punctual-lurkers/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kabir Sehgal (@HiKabir) looks at biological, psychological, and external factors that help us make sense of how we interact with our dollars in his book Coined: the Rich Life of Money and How Its History Has Shaped Us.The Cheat Sheet:What happens in your brain when you think about money? There's a science for that, and it's called neuroeconomics.The anticipation of gaining money tends to provoke a stronger reaction than having money -- part of our survival wiring?The way we deal with money is coded on a genetic level -- in fact, about 20 percent of your credit score is influenced by your genetics.Why should you pay with cash if you're trying to save money (beyond the obvious reason of avoiding excessive interest payments)?Why is the sun a good business barometer?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kabir-sehgal-the-darwin-of-dollars-episode-468/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jay Samit (@jaysamit) is a leading technology innovator and serial entrepreneur who tells us how to master personal transformation, seize opportunity, and thrive in this era of endless innovation.The Cheat Sheet:Are you living your life, or are you just paying bills until you die?Whether by choice or what's already happening, your world will be disrupted by change. It's either an obstacle or an opportunity -- the choice is yours.You don't have to be a brilliant inventor to solve today's problems; examine how existing systems can be modified and combined for new solutions.What is the Zombie Idea -- and how and why should it be cultivated?You can hire expertise, but you can't hire persistence.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/jay-samit-disrupt-you-episode-467/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #39! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:When you don't feel like you have enough time or energy for dating, take a cue from Charlie Hoehn and just remember to save room in your life for fun, first and foremost.What do you do when you want to see your talented and passionate friend prosper, but they can't seem to break out of a perpetual cycle of despair and procrastination?Giving up a steady job with benefits can be a hard decision to make, but you also have to weigh it against your personal sanity and happiness.Does she really want to spend time apart in hopes of rekindling the romance that's been lacking, or should you face the painful possibility that the marriage is over?Are you always the friend, never the boyfriend? How do you become more of a "closer" when it comes to women?Where do you begin making the transformation from creepy to courtly?Do you ever feel especially lonely after catching up on your social media feeds? If so, you’re not alone.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-39-from-creepy-to-courtly/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jesse Itzler (@the100MileMan) is a powerhouse of boundless energy with a rigid discipline for time management who has never missed a day of work in 25 years. Still, he hired a Navy SEAL to help him up his routine's game and then wrote a book about it -- efficient!The Cheat Sheet:Loyalty is a rare quality in business today; Jesse tells a story about a now-famous former intern to demonstrate why it's still important.You can achieve more than you believe -- when you think you're done, you're only 40% done.Sometimes it pays to get your foot in the door first and figure it out later.Why is a big breakfast the least judicious meal of the day?Don't forget to make fun a priority!And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/jesse-itzler-the-100-mile-man-episode-466/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Adrienne Dorison (@adriennedorison) ditched over $45,000 in student debt in less than six months; follow her advice here and achieve your own financial freedom.The Cheat Sheet:Your beliefs about debt -- and your credit score -- don't (and shouldn't) define who you are.Having an attitude toward consumer debt as a normalized facet of modern living makes a lot of us suckers.Why is talking about sex less taboo than talking about money?Learn why creating an emotional attachment to money by using cash instead of credit is a good thing.What is a zero-based budget?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/adrienne-dorison-self-mastery-over-debt-episode-465/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #38! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:Is it possible to get out of the friend zone when you've been there since the game began?In science, we must remember that correlation does not imply causation.Here's why you shouldn't get testy when someone you're hitting on "tests" you.We usually talk about good habits to cultivate; here are some bad habits to avoid.Even good advice for someone dealing with a wayward family member is better with Bacon -- Caleb Bacon!Bars and clubs seem to be where the action is, but where can a straightedge guy meet women who don't drink?How do you respond when someone tells you something you already know?In this video, Jordan talks about how we process input from other people through our own emotional biases and how that leads to anxiety and depression -- and what we can do about it.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-38-correlation-does-not-imply-causation/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bobby Umar (@raehanbobby) believes we can change the world by recognizing the power of connection originating within and embracing our own leadership. He specializes in turning lost leaders into thought leaders.The Cheat Sheet:How does someone become a "top tweeter" like Bobby Umar?What is a "lost" leader?If you don't like what you're doing now, how do you figure out a direction you will like?Vulnerability can be an empowering and inspiring way to connect with people.Why should every single person blog or keep a journal (even if it's private)?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/bobby-umar-network-anytime-episode-464/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jeff Goins (@Jeff Goins) transitioned into his own dream job as a full-time writer; now he helps others overcome common myths and misconceptions about the journey so they can find and answer their own callings.The Cheat Sheet:Everyone has a calling -- how do we use our own life lessons to identify and follow that calling?Discovering what you were meant to do will probably surprise you.Why does fear so often keep us from taking risks?We're born knowing how to dance, but we learn shame.Learn how to make yourself more afraid of not trying than failing.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/jeff-goins-how-to-find-your-calling-episode-463/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices