The Art of Charm

Jessica Tracy (@ProfJessTracy) is a professor of psychology at the University of British Columbia in Vancouver, Canada, where she also directs the Emotion & Self Lab. She is the author of Take Pride: Why the Deadliest Sin Holds the Secret to Human Success. The Cheat Sheet: Pride is a universal human emotion and a force that can be harnessed to help humans succeed -- it's a key ingredient to confidence. Understand the difference between hubristic and authentic pride -- why we should seek out one but try to minimize the other. Learn how pride intersects with grit (per episode 526 guest Angela Duckworth). Identify pride to gain an advantage in shifting our own behavior and knowing how to react to others. Discover how the statuses of dominance and prestige are affected by pride. And so much more... Over at the Mind Pump Podcast, hosts Adam Schafer, Justin Andrews, and Sal Di Stefano “pull back the curtain on the mythology, snake oil, and pseudo-science that pervades the fitness industry." Check it out here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/596/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Joi Ito (@joi) is the director of the MIT Media Lab, a professor of practice in media arts and sciences at MIT, and co-author of Whiplash: How to Survive Our Faster Future. [Photo by Andy Ryan] "Education is what people do to you, and learning is what you do to yourself." -Joi Ito The Cheat Sheet: How does someone who dropped out of college three times wind up directing a lab at MIT? The pros and cons of formal learning vs. informal learning. Why does diversity make for better problem solving? What's the secret to building a deep and diverse network? What do running a World of Warcraft guild and spinning records as a club DJ have to do with motivating groups and accomplishing big goals? And so much more... Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/595/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Minisode Monday, we talk about the pointless habit we all have of mentally reliving embarrassing moments in our lives and what we can do to stop it. Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: There are times when we all mull over embarrassing moments from our past. Like worrying, it's a pointless exercise. Ivan Pavlov proved that he could anchor a dog's feelings to stimuli. As humans, we're even better at doing this to ourselves. We beat ourselves up over a story we've built around a feeling and reinforce this negative pattern. The challenge: every time you start mulling over an event that makes you feel bad about yourself, try to remind yourself of a moment in which you triumphed -- an event that made you feel good. Try to think of something new each week that's positive and helpful toward breaking the habit of gravitating toward the negative. To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444. Also be sure to check out our Social Capital Intensive here! Let us know about how you put today's Minisode Monday into practice! Tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response or write to Jordan directly: jordan@theartofcharm.com (he actually reads everything)! Listen to The Art of Charm, The Forbes List, and hundreds of your favorite podcasts with the free PodcastOne app (on iOS and Android) here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/mm42/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

John Lee Dumas (@johnleedumas) is the founder and host of EOFire, an award-winning podcast where he chats with today's most successful entrepreneurs seven days a week -- with over 1400 interviews under his belt. How is he so productive? He shares some of his secrets with us here. The Cheat Sheet: How does John stay focused enough to put out a new podcast every single day and have a life? Does social media promote de-evolution? Where does John find new books to read (and what's been worth reading twice)? How does John cultivate the discipline to fight back against weapons of mass distraction? John shares some literal war stories. And so much more... Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/john-lee-dumas-discipline-mastery-bonus/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: Understanding people in person can be challenging enough. So how do we read between the lines when people write to us to determine the best advice to give? How do you remind yourself to do the doorway drill (as discussed on episode 582)? You don't really need to listen to The Art of Charm podcast anymore because you've got a handle on this stuff, right? Dr. Carol Dweck would probably disagree. Jordan is SUPER EXCITED TODAY! It's okay to be more respectful than you think you need to be. How do you get a cab in a busy city? Want our advice but you don't want your question made public? We can give you a secret identity! Need to make some ice, ice, baby? Jordan takes a strong Stance on socks. Do you tweet? Sweet! You can reach Jordan here and Jason here. Shoutouts to Jeff Ammons, Philip "Foxy" T, and Alex Kouts, for that matter! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! What's the art of mastering the nap? Check out the Ben Greenfield Fitness Podcast here once you're done hitting the snooze button for the 17th time! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/fmf103/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) trio of Johnny, AJ, and Jordan goes over the importance of resilience and how we can develop it to be ready for anything life throws our way. [Photo by Art Bromage] The Cheat Sheet: What is resilience and why is it so important? Consider resilience as a bedrock mindset upon which other improvements are built. Johnny, AJ, and Jordan share personal examples of the role resilience has played in their lives here at AoC. "Bend, don't break." Learn actionable techniques for developing resilience that will make you ready for anything. And so much more... Order clothes online and try before you buy with JackThreads! Go to JackThreads.com and enter code CHARM when you submit your try-out for 20% off anything you keep! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/594/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Roy Wood Jr. (@roywoodjr) was on Variety's 10 Comics to Watch For list in 2016, is currently a correspondent on The Daily Show with Trevor Noah, and is the star of Father Figure on Comedy Central. The Cheat Sheet: Learn how a youthful indiscretion was "the most important thing" that led Roy Wood Jr. to pursue a life of comedy. Discover how a forgiving journalism school and a deal with his mother gave Roy's comedy career the low-stakes structure it needed to grow early on. Find out how Roy took being booed off stage as an opportunity to learn rather than as a soul-crushing defeat. How does a performer stay visible and relevant in such a hyper-competitive landscape? Understand how comics practice nuances you may not even notice to punctuate their presentations (and how Roy learned to lose some of his bad habits by observation). And so much more... Are you trying to hire the right person for your business, but the best candidates keep slipping away? Let ZipRecruiter -- the fastest way to hire great people -- help you screen only the best here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/593/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jonathan Raymond, author of Good Authority: How to Become the Leader Your Team Is Waiting For, tells us how we can let go of resistance to change by using the DANCE Method. If you've ever struggled with time management, you'll really appreciate the example he demonstrates! Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: D: Define the problem simply. A: Assess the impact. N: Name the underlying dynamic. C: Create the smallest next step you can. E: Establish personal accountability. To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444. Also be sure to check out our Social Capital Intensive here! Let us know about how you put today's Minisode Monday into practice! Tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response or write to Jordan directly: jordan@theartofcharm.com (he actually reads everything)! Listen to The Art of Charm, The Forbes List, and hundreds of your favorite podcasts with the free PodcastOne app (on iOS and Android) here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/mm41/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kerry Dolan (@KerryDolan), Assistant Managing Editor of Wealth at Forbes, curates the Forbes World Billionaires List. The Forbes List, hosted by Jordan Harbinger, reveals the details behind the lists that don't make it to the magazine or online. You'll get a deeper look at what it takes to put together Forbes' lists of the top companies, wealthiest people, and biggest celebrities in the world. In this first episode, Forbes Assistant Managing Editor Kerry Dolan joins Jordan to discuss: How Forbes verifies wealth. How list makers spend their money. How inherited and self-made billionaires differ. How list makers respond to rank. The drastic measures one billionaire took to get off the list. And so much more... Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kerry-dolan-the-forbes-list-bonus/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: Jordan really does read everything. Per episode 572's reverse interview with Gabriel Mizrahi, how do you figure out what to pursue that is uniquely you? The thought of a lifetime of chronic pain after an injury is menacing. What can you do to face it? Does your life have room for people who make you feel small and undeserving? A lot of self-appointed gurus who preach the importance of hustle are doing it without the muscle. Identifying and addressing your own bad patterns should be empowering, not defeating. Jordan talks about a past vacation destination most sane people wouldn't choose. Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Need personalized coaching or business consulting from the convenience of your location at a schedule that works for you? Find out what Matt Reynolds and the Starting Strength Online Coaching team can do for you here! Listen to The Art of Charm, The Forbes List, and hundreds of your favorite podcasts with the free PodcastOne app (on iOS and Android) here! Over at the Mind Pump Podcast, hosts Adam Schafer, Justin Andrews, and Sal Di Stefano “pull back the curtain on the mythology, snake oil, and pseudo-science that pervades the fitness industry." Check it out here! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/fmf102/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices