The Jefferson Fisher Podcast

Civility Media
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66 snips
Oct 28, 2025 • 19min

Top Conflict Coach Shares the Key to Staying Cool Under Attack

Discover how to maintain your composure when faced with anger or blame. Learn the powerful technique of 'observe, don’t absorb' to manage your reactions. Find out how intentional breathing can help ground you before you respond. Simple yet effective rules, like keeping your answers brief, can prevent miscommunication and protect your position. Get ready to transform conflict into a calm conversation with practical tools and mindsets that keep you cool under pressure.
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Oct 21, 2025 • 12min

You’ve Been Talking All Wrong in Difficult Conversations

Discover how small changes in language can transform difficult conversations. Learn why 'you' statements create defensiveness and how 'I' statements foster understanding. Find out how weak disclaimers can undermine your message and why sometimes silence is more powerful. Jefferson shares techniques for reframing discussions to avoid circular arguments and clarify next steps. Equip yourself with these insights to communicate with impact and respect!
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Oct 14, 2025 • 51min

Dr. Becky: How to Stay Patient When You’re Triggered

Dr. Becky Kennedy, a clinical psychologist and founder of the Good Inside parenting platform, shares insights for parents on understanding children's behavior. She emphasizes reframing misbehavior as a skill deficit and the importance of a generous mindset in parenting. Becky discusses practical strategies like validating feelings with 'I believe you' and using 'you really wish' to teach frustration management. She also highlights the value of sibling arguments for developing problem-solving skills and stresses that connection can be rebuilt after parenting mistakes.
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Oct 7, 2025 • 21min

Being Nice Won’t Save You in Difficult Conversations

Navigating difficult conversations? Discover how being overly nice can leave you steamrolled. Learn the crucial difference between superficial niceness and genuine kindness. Jefferson shares practical tips for standing your ground while maintaining respect, emphasizing that honesty is key. With actionable phrases and a refreshing perspective, you'll see kindness as a powerful tool rather than a weakness. Remember, it's not about pleasing everyone but cultivating deeper, more honest connections.
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117 snips
Sep 30, 2025 • 15min

STOP Trying to Be Calm. This Is How You Actually Handle Emotional People

Being told to "calm down" rarely helps. Instead, it often stirs up resistance. The key is to aim for a grounded connection, allowing you to stay present and honest in conversations. Jefferson shares valuable techniques like using a calm tone and engaged body language. He also emphasizes observing conversations to understand their long-term impacts. Plus, he reveals three witty comebacks for when someone tells you to chill out. These insights might just transform how you navigate emotional exchanges!
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Sep 23, 2025 • 16min

What They Really Mean When They Belittle You

Belittling comments reveal more about the speaker's insecurities than about the person they target. Discover why these remarks are often power plays and learn to decode the intentions behind them. Gain practical tips on how to respond effectively, such as asking pointed questions to regain control. You'll find out how to keep your composure, even if the belittler acknowledges their intent. This insightful discussion will empower you to navigate conversations with confidence and clarity.
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183 snips
Sep 16, 2025 • 60min

Dr. John Delony: Why Your Body Can’t Tell Real Fights From Fake Ones

Dr. John Delony, a mental health expert and best-selling author, discusses the hidden anxiety hurting relationships. He highlights how unresolved childhood experiences manifest in adulthood, fueling imaginary conflicts. John shares effective strategies: spread calmness and prioritize honesty to enhance communication. They explore the fear of abandonment and the importance of open dialogue in overcoming emotional turmoil. Personal anecdotes about navigating panic and isolation, especially in the age of social media, add depth to this enlightening conversation.
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127 snips
Sep 9, 2025 • 22min

How To Stay In Control! Even When Conversations Turn Emotional

In this enlightening discussion, listeners discover how to stay calm during emotional conversations. The host shares personal strategies for managing intense feelings, like anger and sadness, and emphasizes the importance of self-awareness. Grounding techniques and personal affirmations are highlighted as tools for maintaining emotional balance. Setting healthy boundaries is also explored, ensuring that conversations remain productive without losing control. This guide empowers individuals to navigate challenging dialogue with composure and empathy.
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Sep 2, 2025 • 17min

3 Communication Mistakes That Are Making You Lose Control

Struggling to maintain control in arguments? Discover how over-explaining and quick reactions can undermine your message. Learn practical strategies to stay calm and confident, even in heated discussions. Embrace the power of silence and mindful pauses to enhance your communication. Plus, enjoy a light-hearted moment about the joys of crunchy snacks, particularly masa chips, adding some flavor to the conversation! Equip yourself with tools to engage effectively and keep power on your side.
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134 snips
Aug 26, 2025 • 15min

3 Courtroom Tricks That Work in Everyday Conversations

Transform your conversations with techniques drawn from the courtroom! Discover how switching 'buts' to 'ands' can foster cooperation instead of conflict. Learn to recognize when to step back and focus on what truly matters, saving your energy for meaningful discussions. Master the art of pacing and enunciation to ensure your words resonate clearly, turning tense exchanges into constructive dialogues. These practical tools will empower you to communicate with confidence, no matter the disagreement!

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