The Jefferson Fisher Podcast Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap
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Jun 3, 2025 Ever felt like you're talking to a wall? This discussion dives into how to handle interactions with narcissistic personalities without losing your cool. It reveals the cyclical nature of their manipulative behavior and introduces practical strategies for effective communication. Learn about the 'praise or provoke' dynamic, and discover how to respond calmly while involving others in conversations. By understanding these tactics, you'll protect your peace and navigate the challenges of dealing with difficult individuals more effectively.
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Understanding the Praise or Provoke Game
- Conversations with narcissists are a rigged game called "praise or provoke."
- They seek control by either basking in praise or provoking conflict when ignored.
Use Neutral Statements
- Use short, flat, neutral responses like "noted" or "okay" when talking to narcissists.
- These statements prevent them from twisting your words or provoking emotion.
Limit Interaction Time
- Keep interactions with narcissists short and limit time spent engaging.
- Avoid emotional conversations as they cannot process empathy or accountability.
