The Jefferson Fisher Podcast How to De-Escalate a Shouting Match
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Jun 10, 2025 Navigating heated conversations can feel like dodging verbal projectiles. Discover three practical strategies to stay calm and maintain control when tempers flare. Learn how using pauses and strategic questions can transform a shouting match into a constructive dialogue. Plus, find out how to handle conflicts without losing your cool!
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Refuse to Raise Your Voice
- When someone yells at you, do not raise your voice to match theirs. Stay calm, keep your voice low, and this can encourage them to lower their volume naturally.
Yelling Signals Losing Control
- People who yell tend to feel in control and get a dopamine hit from dominating the interaction. However, this actually shows a weak position because they have triggered a fight-or-flight response.
Yelling Exposes Vulnerability
- When a person yells in a quiet space, they feel overexposed and vulnerable. This discomfort naturally causes them to lower their volume when the other party remains calm.
