We Need To Talk with Paul C. Brunson

Dr. Julie Smith, a clinical psychologist and best-selling author, shares her insights on building secure relationships and embracing self-love. She discusses the emotional turmoil of achieving true self-compassion and offers practical strategies to manage fear and navigate uncertainty. Listeners learn how to transform anxiety into strength and recognize the hidden costs of conflict in relationships. Dr. Julie also emphasizes the importance of understanding personal values in cultivating happiness and enhancing self-esteem.

"I Proved Them All Wrong - One Direction Were Like Family"Join us for an inspiring episode as Cher Lloyd delves deep into her journey from a breakout star on X-Factor to overcoming the challenges of media scrutiny and personal transformation. At just 16, Cher quickly rose to fame, finishing fourth on the show and charting hits in both the US and UK. Yet, behind the scenes, she faced intense media torment that shaped her public image into something she didn’t recognise. In this heartfelt interview, Cher reveals the true self behind the 'villain' persona once painted by the press, sharing insights into the real-life impacts of fame and the media's role in it.Cher also opens up about her personal growth through motherhood and how it shifted her career trajectory, discussing the industry's cold shoulder during her pregnancy and her decade-long partnership with her husband, Craig. After a significant break from music, Cher is back, ready to reclaim her space in the music industry with newfound resilience and empowerment. Tune in to hear how Cher Lloyd transforms adversities into a powerful narrative of self-acceptance and determination, proving that stepping back can be a pathway to leaping forward.If you or someone you know needs support, please see the charities below:APNI (The Association for Post Natal Illness) - https://g2ul0.app.link/L4J3lVyowQbMind (useful contacts for post natal depression) - https://g2ul0.app.link/6IyLaUmowQbFollow Cher Here:Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/RajyCUByoQbCher's New Single 'Head Down’ - https://g2ul0.app.link/fWjunOvyoQbFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpodGet your tickets to 'An Evening with Paul C. Brunson' here: https://bit.ly/keeplove-megaphonePre-order Keep Love here: https://lnk.to/keeplovebookSections:00:00 Intro02:23 How are you feeling?04:13 Exploring Cher's Childhood06:48 Impact of Cher's Upbringing on Her Adult Life09:27 Cher's Life in the Romany Community15:42 UK Media's Negative Portrayal of the Traveller Community16:52 The Beginnings of Cher's Singing Career18:43 Why Cher Decided to Pursue a Pop Career22:18 Cher's Audition on X-Factor: A Look Back30:48 Advice Cher Would Give to Her 16-Year-Old Self32:41 Reality vs. Portrayal: Cher on the X-Factor37:34 Mental Health Support for Cher During X-Factor39:38 Inside Cher's Relationships with X-Factor Judges44:31 Living with Other Artists: Cher's Experience44:55 Reaction to Liam Payne's Post: A Discussion48:57 Negative Media Coverage of Cher During X-Factor51:01 Keep Love Ad51:57 Tinder Ad52:48 Cher Performs 'Stay': Reflecting on Her Uncle's Passing57:08 Paul's Admiration: Wishing He Could Sing Like Cher57:35 Cher's Career After the X-Factor: What's Next?58:51 Cher Reflects on 'Swagger Jagger' Years Later01:01:51 How the UK Media Labeled Cher Post-X-Factor01:05:22 Examining Sexism in the Music Industry: 2010 vs. Today01:11:23 Cher's Success in the US: A Detailed Look01:14:56 Cher Discusses Her Struggle with Belonging in the US01:19:39 Why Cher Returned to the UK01:20:10 Does the UK Now Love Cher?01:20:33 Cher's Future Career Plans Revealed01:22:29 Cher and Taylor Swift: A Musical Collaboration01:25:32 Cher Proudly Talks About Being a Great Mom01:26:25 How Parenthood Changed Cher: Becoming a Better Person01:28:07 Cher and Her Husband Craig: Their Relationship Story01:34:08 How Motherhood Transformed Cher01:36:40 Cher's Battle with Postnatal Depression01:42:25 Cher's Relationship with Social Media Explored01:45:02 Finding Empowerment01:46:32 Cher's Most Memorable Conversation01:51:04 Paul's Key Takeaways from Cher's Journey01:53:07 Adobe Express AdSponsored by:Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GBAdobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From her humble beginnings working at Hooters in Canada, to conquering the UK's comedy scene, Katherine Ryan's journey is nothing short of inspiring.In this candid interview, she opens up about her trials as a single mum breaking into the male-dominated stand-up world, her experiences with toxic relationships and overcoming personal setbacks, including her tragic miscarriages.Now, reconnected with Bobby, her high school sweetheart, Katherine's story embodies deep resilience, showing us how one can turn life’s challenges into empowering insights.Please be aware that this episode discusses sensitive topics.If you or someone you know needs support, please see the charities below:The Survivors Trust: https://g2ul0.app.link/sqvZqaAesPbMIND: https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJObFollow Katherine here:Katherine's Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/1LSdEcnweQb…And get tickets for Katherine's stand up tour, Battleaxe, which runs until 28th June.For tickets, visit Ticketmaster - https://g2ul0.app.link/xCXoMzpweQbFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpodGet your tickets to 'An Evening with Paul C. Brunson' here: https://bit.ly/keeplove-megaphonePre-order Keep Love here: https://lnk.to/keeplovebookSections:02:16 Differences Between Life In The USA, Canada, And The UK04:33 Katherine's Childhood And Upbringing In Canada05:40 Growing Up In Different Communities: Katherine's Experience07:30 What Katherine Thought About The UK As A Child09:00 How Katherine Discovered Her Passion For Performing09:50 What Was Katherine's Childhood Really Like?11:15 How Katherine Built A Strong Family Bond During Childhood12:57 Does Experiencing Trauma Make Someone A Better Comedian?15:45 What Katherine Wanted To Become At Age 1218:29 The Impact Of Katherine's Parents’ Divorce On Her Life25:53 Katherine's Early Dating Experiences And Relationships28:13 Generational Challenges: Alcohol And Violence In Katherine's Family29:33 The Story Of Katherine's Friendship With Jessica39:49 Behind The Scenes: Katherine's Job At Hooters47:47 The Truth About The "Keep Love" Ad Campaign48:39 What Happened Behind The Scenes Of The Tinder Ad49:34 How Katherine Started Her Comedy Career At 2151:31 Why The UK Is Considered The Stand-Up Comedy Capital Of The World53:06 Challenges Of Starting Out As A Female Comedian In Stand-Up55:38 Did Katherine Move To The UK For Love Or Her Career?56:44 Starting Her Comedy Career In The UK: Katherine’s Journey58:45 Becoming A Young Mother By Choice: Katherine's Story1:05:10 Katherine's First TV Break With The Show Campus1:05:51 Balancing Motherhood And A Growing Comedy Career1:08:09 Paul’s Reaction To Katherine's 2012 Appearance On 8 Out Of 10 Cats1:09:00 How Katherine Prepares For High-Pressure Panel Shows1:13:45 Why Stupidity Dominates Modern Politics1:15:59 Why Are Less Than 20% Of UK Comedians Female?1:18:21 How Diversity Is Shaping Today’s Stand-Up Comedy Scene1:24:22 Katherine's Relationships During Her Comedy Career Rise1:25:40 The Shocking Story Of Child Protection Services Investigating Katherine1:28:36 Surviving Coercive Control: Katherine’s Personal Experience1:37:00 Katherine's Life During Her Single Years1:38:33 Reconnecting With Her Childhood Romance: Bobby’s Story1:43:56 How Katherine Persuaded Bobby To Move To The UK1:45:19 Katherine And Paul's Heartbreaking Experience With Miscarriages1:51:15 Will Katherine And Bobby Have More Kids?1:53:07 Why Katherine And Bobby Schedule Intimacy In Their Relationship1:55:19 How Often Do People Really Have Sex?1:57:08 The Most Memorable Conversation Of Katherine's Life1:59:01 Key Takeaways From Paul’s Perspective2:01:18 The Inside Scoop On The Adobe Express Ad CampaignSponsored by:Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

CONTENT WARNING: This episode includes a conversation around suicide.“I had Death threats after cheating”Join us for an intimate journey with Pete Wicks as he reveals the truths behind his life in the spotlight.From deeply personal setbacks to pivotal lessons learned along the way, Pete opens up about his experiences from early life to his days on reality TV, and how he navigates his current world.This episode goes beyond entertainment; it’s a heartfelt exploration of authenticity, friendship, and the courage it takes to truly be oneself.CONTENT WARNING: This episode discusses sensitive topics, including suicide. If you or someone you know needs support, please see the charities below:Pete's Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/zjM1cB5I7PbSamaritans - https://g2ul0.app.link/AqoPIXcJ7PbCALM https://g2ul0.app.link/Xx7coefJ7PbFollow Pete Here:Watch Pete Wicks: For Dog's Sake on U https://g2ul0.app.link/F6dHawVY7PbDog's Trust https://g2ul0.app.link/ZYBsXCYY7PbBook Never Enough https://g2ul0.app.link/KZHnwQ0Y7PbFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk/https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod/Get your tickets to 'An Evening with Paul C. Brunson' here: https://bit.ly/keeplove-megaphone/Pre-order Keep Love here: https://lnk.to/keeplovebook/Sections:(00:00) Insights on Pete(01:40) Pete Is WNTT's Most Wanted Guest(06:20) Exploring Pete's Love for Dogs(15:48) Debunking Myths About Pete's Height(17:06) Introducing Harlow(18:30) The Roots of Pete: His Early Life(21:49) Tribute to Pete's Grandmother(26:00) The Impact of Pete's Parents' Divorce(28:25) How Pete's Parents' Divorce Shaped His Self-Esteem(33:33) Mental Health Challenges: Insights from Pete's Mother(36:33) Pete and His 12-Year-Old Self: A Relationship Study(40:11) How Pete's Childhood Influences His Adult Relationships(43:16) Pete Before Fame: His Employment Journey(47:57) Adobe Ad(48:54) Tinder Ad(49:46) The Start of Pete's Journey in Reality TV(52:59) TOWIE's Rise in Popularity with Pete(55:11) Comparing Reality TV Then and Now: Pete's Experience57:52 Public Reaction to Pete's Cheating Scandal with Megan McKenna(01:01:29) TOWIE's Impact on Pete's Personal Relationships(01:01:57) Unveiling the Two Sides of Pete(01:04:25) Pete Today: Does He Feel Sufficient?(01:06:33) Paul's Positive Affirmations for Pete(01:08:31) Paul's Praise for Pete: A Motivational Boost(01:11:48) Is Pete Truly Happy? Unpacking His Emotional State(01:16:52) Exploring Pete's Relationship with Maura Higgins(01:19:28) Pete and Sam Thompson: Analyzing Their Bond(01:21:12) Today's Crisis of Authenticity(01:25:58) Loneliness Epidemic and Male Mental Health: A Deep Dive(01:29:42) What Lies Ahead for Pete? Future Prospects(01:32:24) Pete's Journey to Self-Help Realization(01:36:38) Pete Discusses Vulnerability and Openness(01:38:15) Most Memorable Conversations with Pete(01:41:41) Paul's Closing Thoughts For Pete(01:46:16) Paul's Key Takeaways(01:48:54) Keep Love AdSponsored by:Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is the truth behind delaying sex in the early days of your relationship?Dive deep into the neuroscience of love, trust, and connection with Dr. Tara Swart, a renowned neuroscientist and psychiatrist.Explore the role of oxytocin and learn how neuro-plasticity is reshaping our brains and revolutionising our relationships.Dr. Swart provides practical tips on reigniting passion and maintaining closeness in relationships.Discover a neuroscientist’s secrets to sustaining a deep emotional connection with others and ensure your relationships thrive.Follow Dr Tara here:https://g2ul0.app.link/xkHuM1JgWPbFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpodSections:00:00 Intro01:57 How Brain Function Influences Relationships04:44 Dr. Tara's Definition of Love Explained09:00 Oxytocin: The Key Chemical in Relationships12:24 The Crucial Role of Dopamine in Emotional Health13:17 Understanding the Importance of Vasopressin in Human Bonds14:14 Ideal Timing for Intimacy in New Relationships24:30 The Impact of Brain Chemistry on Fatherhood28:19 Effects of Pornography on the Brain28:55 Brain Changes from Attending Sex Parties33:33 The Science Behind Attraction and Scent35:46 Factors That Shape Our Perception of Attractiveness40:03 Tinder Ad40:51 Exploring 'The Source': How to Access Your Inner Power42:22 Manifesting Desires: Practical Steps to Bring Dreams to Reality51:33 The Tetris Effect: How Activities Shape Our Brains57:16 How to Align Actions With Your Manifestation Goals1:03:01 Social Contagion: Understanding Its Influence1:06:25 Modern Strategies to Manage Cortisol1:12:53 The Impact of Cortisol on Brain Function1:19:58 Two Surprising Facts You Didn't Know1:22:39 Most Memorable Conversations: A Look Back1:23:42 Key Takeaways from Paul's Discussion1:27:34 Adobe Advertising ReviewSponsored by:Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

First Date Mistakes To Avoid in 2025!Join Paul as he explores the real-life dating from three remarkable guests: Jo, who at 44, has never been in a relationship; Heather who, as a single parent, is navigating the dating world after the tragic loss of her partner; and Emmalee, who recently lost her leg and is finding dating to be challenging.Also - stay tuned to meet Paul’s special guest - someone who many Married at First Sight fans will know all too well!Whether you're starting afresh, or looking for love under unique circumstances, this episode offers practical tools and invaluable insights to help you on your journey.Follow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpodSections:00:00 Introduction02:13 Meet Jo02:44 Self-Love Challenges03:48 Finding Love: Challenges and Solutions04:00 Living in the Moment: Techniques and Benefits04:19 Family Dynamics: Understanding Relationship Impacts07:12 Exploring Attachment Styles with Jo11:11 Jo's Love Life12:21 Has Jo Truly Been in Love?14:48 Modern Dating Tips with Jo18:44 Reconnecting with Fathers21:00 The Power of Letter Writing in Healing24:51 Changing Negative Beliefs30:14 Adobe Ad31:11 Introducing Heather: New Beginnings31:50 Why Heather Chose Therapy with Paul31:23 Inside Heather's Love Life: Current Status34:25 Relationship Analysis: Heather and Dave37:46 Is Heather Ready for Dating? Expert Assessment39:53 Are You Ready to Date? Paul's Test Explained43:45 Tips for Dating Again: Openness and Preparedness50:50 Creating a Vision Board: Steps and Benefits55:47 Dealing with Guilt: Effective Strategies56:39 Paul's Parting Advice: Lasting Thoughts58:27 Intro to Emmalee: A Soldier's Story00:59:03 Relationship Lessons from Military Life with Emmalee01:00:07 Healthy Relationships in the Military: Emmalee's Experience01:00:36 Coping with Injury and Military Exit: Emmalee's Story01:02:39 Dealing with Trauma: Emmalee's Leg Amputation Story01:03:24 Dating as an Amputee: Challenges and Insights01:04:58 Emmalee's Dating Life01:05:42 Emmalee Discusses Love01:06:30 Introducing Jay from Married at First Sight01:07:00 Why Emmalee Follows Jay01:07:36 Jay's Experience on MAFS as an Amputee01:08:52 Building Dating Confidence01:09:36 Addressing Fetishization in Disabled Dating01:13:08 Vulnerability in Dating: Amputee Experiences01:16:23 Tackling Anxiety in Social Situations: Emmalee's Techniques01:17:15 Confidence Building for Dating: Paul's Guidance01:22:00 Creating a Supportive Friend Network01:25:30 The Importance of Setting Boundaries in Relationships01:25:56 Emmalee's Revealing Conversations01:27:18 Memorable Conversations01:27:21 Paul's Key Takeaways01:30:40 Tinder AdSponsored by:Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“I Sleep with a Knife!”This second episode in a two-part series reveals Tulisa's honest reflections on her time in the spotlight during her stint on 'I’m A Celebrity’.We also dive into the shocking details of the drug sting that threatened to derail Tulisa’s career and life, and speak of the profound impact it had on her mental health.Hear directly from Tulisa as she recounts the intense anxiety and prescription drug dependence that followed, before leading to her courageous steps toward recovery.Please be aware that this episode discusses sensitive topics, including addiction.If you or someone you know needs support, please see the charities below:MIND: https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJObThe Survivors Trust: https://g2ul0.app.link/sqvZqaAesPbFollow Tulisa Here:Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/Cv7G7DkesPbFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpodSections:00:00 Intro02:30 'The Sting' Explained: A Detailed Analysis19:49 Resolving The Case: What Happened?22:47 Psychological Effects of 'The Sting' on Tulisa: An In-Depth Look25:51 Tulisa's Life Post-Trial: A Comprehensive Overview31:41 BBC Documentary Review: Tulisa’s Path to Redemption32:55 Legal Battle: The Controversy Behind 'Scream & Shout'36:44 Scandal Breakdown: The "Homewrecker" Story38:46 Tulisa’s Resilience in Showbiz: Secrets to Overcoming Adversity40:46 Huel Ad41:45 Tinder Ad42:36 The Success of N-Dubz: A Deep Dive46:10 Tulisa's Battle with Medication: A Personal Journey48:35 Tulisa on 'I'm A Celeb': Behind The Scenes Insights01:01:04 The Mystery of Tulisa’s Absence at the 'I'm A Celeb' Final01:05:25 Exploring Tulisa’s Demi-Sexuality: What Does It Mean?01:07:08 Tulisa and Celibacy: A Period of Self-Discovery01:11:00 Does Tulisa Still Believe in Love? Insights Revealed01:13:38 What Is Tulisa Looking for in a Partner? Dating Preferences Unveiled01:15:53 Exploring Tulisa's 'Fantasy Land': Dreams and Aspirations01:19:29 Paul’s TakeawaysSponsored by:Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Huel: https://huel.com/paul use code PAUL Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This first episode in a two-part series explores Tulisa's inspiring journey, through a turbulent childhood with family mental health challenges, to achieving widespread fame through her career with N-Dubz and X-Factor.This powerful conversation explores Tulisa's personal encounters with trauma and sexual assault, while highlighting her incredible resilience and self-belief, offering a path of empowerment and hope for those in similar situations.Please be aware that this episode discusses sensitive topics, including sexual assault and self-harm.If you or someone you know needs support, please see the charities below:The Survivors Trust: https://g2ul0.app.link/sqvZqaAesPbMIND: https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJObFollow Tulisa Here:Tulisa's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/Cv7G7DkesPbFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpodSections:00:00 Introduction to the Series02:22 Growing Up in Camden: A Personal Journey05:20 Family Life in Camden: Tulisa’s Childhood Explored07:14 The Complex Relationship Between Tulisa and Her Mother10:34 Tulisa's Role as a Caregiver: Personal Stories13:16 Mental Health Struggles in the Family: Tulisa's Insights14:50 Advice to My Younger Self: Tulisa Reflects16:47 Tulisa’s Father and Mungo Jerry: A Musical Legacy21:35 Understanding Attachment Styles with Tulisa25:27 First Love: Tulisa’s Early Romantic Experiences26:58 Tulisa’s Initial Sexual Encounters: A Candid Discussion29:09 Exploring Spirituality with Tulisa32:22 Addressing Sexual Assault: Tulisa's Harrowing Experience36:15 True Love in Relationships: Has Tulisa Experienced It?39:16 Wishing for a Different First Time: Tulisa's Regrets41:31 Adobe Express Advertisement42:29 Tinder Advertisement43:26 Paul’s Love for N-Dubz: A Fan’s Perspective47:39 The Impact of Dappy on Tulisa’s Life51:03 Coping with Uncle B’s Death: Tulisa’s Experience55:07 Celebrating Platinum Records: Tulisa’s Achievements57:47 Tulisa Discusses Her History with Self-Harm01:01:54 Class and Music: How It Shaped N-Dubz's Reception01:08:30 Starting on X-Factor: Tulisa's Initial Impressions01:12:36 Reality TV Exposed: The Fakeness Behind the Scenes01:14:12 Support Among X-Factor Judges: Tulisa’s Experience01:16:42 The Controversial 'Tape' Incident: Tulisa's Story01:27:57 Wrapping Up: Final Thoughts01:28:26 Teaser for Episode 2: What's Next?Sponsored by:Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/Huel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“I Thought Therapy Couldn’t Help” - Join us in this powerful episode featuring Daniel Middleton, better known as DanTDM, the UK’s most-followed YouTuber with over 29 million subscribers.Dan shares the untold story behind his rise to fame — from navigating childhood challenges such as social anxiety and the divorce of his parents, to his struggle with severe postnatal depression during early fatherhood.Learn how Dan overcame his mental health struggles through therapy and his advice on how to protect ones mental health through difficult times.If you’re affected by anything discussed in this episode, please contact the below organisations and charities who can provide support:Samaritans - https://g2ul0.app.link/1CRhatR7mPbCALM - https://g2ul0.app.link/YvmzhM17mPbMIND - https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJObFollow Dan here:YouTube - https://g2ul0.app.link/tjSbVHz7mPbInstagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/MEkgFAI7mPbX - https://g2ul0.app.link/341f8KC7mPbFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpodSections:00:00 Introduction To The Episode02:16 Being Compared To Michael Jackson02:46 The Origin Of The Name “Dan TDM" Explained03:34 Balancing Two Personalities04:33 A Look Back At Dan's Childhood05:27 How Divorce Shaped Dan's Childhood07:46 Surviving Secondary School12:53 How Dan Started His YouTube Career16:43 What Is Minecraft? A Beginner’s Guide18:32 How Minecraft Transformed Dan's Life21:18 When Dan Realized YouTube Could Be A Career22:49 Transitioning To Full-Time YouTube27:07 Why Dan Is One Of YouTube's Most Successful Creators34:48 Breaking Down The 2017 Forbes Article On Dan37:56 How Dan Coped With Sudden Fame42:33 Managing Fame As An Introvert44:06 Why Dan Is A Positive Role Model For Fans44:59 Dan’s Impact On His Young Audience47:39 Behind The Scenes Of Dan's Live Show51:17 Inside Dan's Relationship With His Wife54:20 Why Dan Got Married At 2155:26 How Dan's Wife Influenced His Success58:43 How Becoming A Father Changed Dan's Life01:01:26 Huel Sponsorship01:02:28 Tinder Ad Spot01:03:24 Dan Advocates For Men’s Mental Health01:06:16 Struggling With Mental Health During Lockdown01:09:18 Hitting Rock Bottom01:10:55 Dan's Honest Experience With Anti-Depressants01:12:05 Dan Opens Up About Suicidal Thoughts01:15:21 How Dan Shared His Feelings With His Wife01:17:45 Exploring Why Dan Felt The Way He Did01:20:01 What Early Fatherhood Taught Dan01:24:10 How Therapy Helped Dan Overcome His Struggles01:27:11 Creating YouTube Content While Battling Depression01:31:06 How Being A Man Shapes Dan’s Views On Mental Health01:34:18 Dan’s Advice For Those Struggling With Mental Health01:36:38 What’s Next For Dan? Future Plans Revealed01:41:38 Is Being A YouTuber A Sustainable Career?01:44:07 Dan’s Top Tips For Growing A Successful YouTube Channel01:46:43 How Many Subscribers Does Dan Have Today?01:47:02 Dan’s Most Memorable Conversation Ever01:49:48 Key Takeaways From This Episode01:52:33 Adobe SponsorshipSponsored by:Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/Huel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“If he upsets me - I get gifts!”In this episode, best-selling author and activist Chidera Eggerue (aka The Slumflower) joins us to discuss her transformative ideas on love, relationships, and self-worth.Known for creating the viral #SaggyBoobsMatter movement, Chidera challenges traditional heteronormative expectations and encourages women to recognise their inherent value, demand more from their partners, and create more equal, empowering relationships. With her provocative insights on love, money, and equality, she provides listeners with practical tools to break free from societal norms, set higher standards in their personal lives, and reclaim their power.Follow Chidera Here:https://g2ul0.app.link/T3GIV2Y0bPbFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod00:00 Intro00:02:13 History Of Chidera's Moniker 'Slumflower'00:04:30 Growing Up In Peckham/'Little Lagos'00:08:00 Chidera Cutting Her Mum Off And Ensuing Therapy00:10:57 Chidera's Relationship With Her Father00:13:11 Chidera's Early Romantic Relationships00:14:31 Was Chidera Loved By Anyone In Her Childhood/Adolescence?00:16:04 Chidera Has Never Had A Man At Her Flat00:17:31 How Chidera's Ideology Developed Over Time00:24:45 The Traditional Idea Of Love Is Damaging To Women00:27:31 What Does Love Mean To Chidera?00:29:25 Love, Feminism And Finance00:31:04 Chidera's Thoughts On The Male Loneliness Epidemic00:32:15 Is Chidera An Advocate For Marriage?00:33:41 Why Does Society Struggle With Finance When It Comes To Romance?00:41:49 Men And Self-Esteem/Ego00:45:19 'Marriage Is The Lowest Paid Form Of Sex Work'00:55:10 Huel Ad00:56:12 Tinder Ad00:57:06 Chidera's Definition Of Hypergamy00:59:40 4B Movement01:07:01 Chidera Being 'Grey A-Sexual'01:11:29 Chidera On BDSM And Being A Dominatrix01:16:14 How Do These Relationships Start?01:22:17 Chidera's 'Goddess Gina' Alter Ego01:27:46 A Letter From 'Slave Tux'01:37:51 Critiques Of Chidera01:41:24 Most Memorable Conversation01:46:57 Paul's Takeaways01:49:10 Fiver AdSponsored by:Huel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAULTinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices