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Greetings! I've got a whole slew of awesome questions for you today (you can read the questions in their entirety just below : ) Here are the Key Links that come up in today's episode, located at weturnedoutokay.com/353 You should go to that link above if you would like to see the video of this episode (instead of just listening in audio)… Cheers and thanks for listening! Karen Links that come up today: My free guide to raising happy readers: weturnedoutokay.com/readers If you'd like to get useful tools and parenting ideas in your inbox each week, without the guide to happy readers: weturnedoutokay.com/weekly Click here for one of the many wonderful Elephant and Piggy books by Mo Willems Click here for a book that your family might enjoy with new readers, You Read to Me, I'll Read to You How NOT to teach your child to ride a bike: https://weturnedoutokay.com/092-how-to-teach-your-young-child-to-ride-a-bike/ Click the following link for one of the very early episodes I did, about how kids develop grit: https://weturnedoutokay.com/002/ Click the following link for my conversation with Amy Anderson, about how to know if your young child is consenting: https://weturnedoutokay.com/066 Click the following link for my conversation with Carey Andersen, sharing her story of her child's nonconsent to a bad kindergarten situation and what they did about it: https://weturnedoutokay.com/045 Click the following link for my conversation with Debbie Reber of the TiLT Parenting Podcast: https://weturnedoutokay.com/350 Okay, just below are the questions! Thanks for reading and listening! Cheers! Tish: What do I say to my 6 year old who can't seem to keep his hands out of his pants? How do I win when trying to get 2 6 year old(s) to practice reading and not lose my mind?  It's a nightmare everyday. I've tried to bribe, threaten, prayed loudly, and I can't seem to find anything that works. It's not as bad when they are out of school and we can do it in the mornings but the evenings are a nightmare every. single. day.  Not doing it is not an option.  We'll be further behind than we are now. Whether we think this is "right" or not doesn't mean they will change their policy.  We are on Book 4 out of 12 we have to read to go the 2nd grade.   Surviving... because this too will pass.     Anonymous: We are in the midst of struggling mightily on [my five-year-old’s] second med trial for ADHD. This one is not making any difference at school except he’s even more talkative and then he’s having a huge emotional crash and sobbing meltdowns in the evenings. Working with the doctor to figure out a new plan this week! Other than that just powering through end of year work chaos. Trying to stay positive as I hear this is so common to have to try a few meds but it’s hard! So we are in survival mode but going to make the most of the holidays! [Karen:] FYI I have discovered some biases in myself, and as a result I'm going to do some more research into this whole issue – meds, ADD, ADHD, coping mechanisms both for kids and parents. This deserves at least an episode, and possibly a series. Stay tuned   Jen: My daughter, age 8 already, wants to ride a bicycle again. She had a typical bike fall a year ago (a scrape on the knee, just a run of the mill slow-speed fall that comes from learning how to balance) and has been avoiding the bike ever since. Typical for her high anxiety. She tells me she's afraid of falling again and she wants to ride on the school running track, which we did one time when she was 5, before we knew it wasn't allowed. She is also concerned that the training wheels send an unpleasant rumble into her body when she rides on asphalt. Uneven pavement or rocks or sticks make her afraid of falling. My concerns are the school rule, and driving 15 minutes or less. Our rural home has no paved areas at all, and so any riding involves packing up the car and driving to a safe place. But every time we talk about biking, and try to work out where we might go, she gets frustrated that nothing meets her criteria. We simply can't use the running track. She understands that intellectually, and she isn't asking me to break the rule. She's hoping, I guess, that I have some amazing cushiony place where she can fall without risk of hurting herself. Since I don't, she gets frustrated and cries that she'll never be able to ride a bike. She wants to get good enough to remove the training wheels, because she sees her 6yo sister without training wheels having a ball, and she doesn't want the unpleasant rumble that comes with leaning onto the training wheels. I'm at a loss here. How can I support her desire to practice, when the practice itself is too scary for her?   Mumma Bear: What’s in my mind is more emotional development tips and techniques. Im  still battling with somewhat ‘explosive’ outbursts from Lil Bear and I’d like a bigger range of tools for this moment in our lives. I feel like I’m pretty emotionally immature (although my best friend says, No way - listen to yourself!) and that I wasn’t really taught to process my feelings  (not a top priority  in the 1970s!) or really ‘deal’ with them. So I most frequently find myself thinking, “Just get a grip, kiddo!” So, for me, just keep those tips coming.       Celia: Once we can start doing “stuff” again, how do we make sure we don’t overdo it and still hold onto some of the unity and rhythm we’ve found as a family while we were isolated from other forces?   And... this year E turns 5 and “should” start kindergarten. She turns 5 in late august and our cutoff is sept 1. She’s already the “baby” in her preK class and I am assuming a lot of parents held their children back in 2019 since our district was virtual, so she’ll be likely joining kids who are already 6 and maybe even close to 7. How do we know if she is ready for kindergarten???   Thanks so much for all of your support this year! I have high hopes for your 2021 :)   Q: "Perhaps we should be instilling resilience by still expecting them to try their best. Because being emotionally healthy and trying one’s best are not mutually exclusive during Covid." 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Today I am so thrilled to share this conversation with a returning champion – Erik Wagter – and his wife, author Sally Wagter. Together Sally and Erik are raising a family, and their older son has autism. (My conversation with Erik, way back in episode 75, is located here. In fact when their son was young Erik and Sally were told "he will never live a normal life" because his autism would prevent him from using language meaningfully or even making meaningful connections with anyone. Thank goodness, Sally and Erik refused to believe that. They charted a different path for their family. Now their son has gone far beyond anyone's expectations, playing music beautifully, enjoying deep and meaningful friendships, and living a truly examined and thoughtful life. Sally has written a book about her experience raising their son, called Miracle in Slow Motion. You can find the link to this book, as well as Erik and Sally's podcast, at releasingmychildspotential.com. We talk about all this and more in today's conversation, even diving into one of my favorite topics, the toll raising children takes on parents (whether kids are typical or diagnosed with special needs). It's part of a digest episode, so you'll hear our wonderful conversation and then I will read you a recent newsletter that I wrote called "Changing bras," which looks the toll parenting takes on us from a slightly different angle (Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to get newsletters like this delivered into your inbox each week : ) Find this post, and the links we discuss, in your browser by going to weturnedoutokay.com/352 If you're interested in subscribing to the We Turned Out Okay Playbook, which I share about during today's episode, go to weturnedoutokay.com/playbook I hope you enjoy this episode! Cheers – Karen This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Enrollment is OPEN for the 2021 Year of Empowerment! Enroll now to save 33% on your Year of Empowerment: This special ends New Year's Eve, December 31 2020 at 11:59 PM EST. Don’t miss your chance to empower 2021 for you and your family. Details at weturnedoutokay.com/empowerment : ) "In 25 years, what will matter to me?" When Katherine Reynolds Lewis, author of the outstanding book The Good News About Bad Behavior and today's guest, shared this question during our conversation, I knew it had to be the title of the episode. It encompasses all the most important ideas that Katherine brings. The ones that keep reminding me about what's most important. It's not grades, or how perfectly our kids sit during online schooling. It's not the world's cleanest house, or how perfectly we manage our home. The most important thing – the thing that will matter most even 25 years from now – is the connection and the relationship that we have with our loved ones. Today's conversation is so full of connection, and love, and hope. It's part of a digest episode, so you'll hear our wonderful conversation and then I will read you a recent newsletter that I wrote called "Kind words." (Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to get newsletters like this delivered into your inbox each week : ) I hope you enjoy this episode! Cheers – Karen PS you can watch our conversation (instead of just listening) by going to weturnedoutokay.com/351… This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Hello! So quickie bonus episode with me are never as quickie as I imagine they would be, but this one will hopefully be informative for you! In it, I share about the only group coaching I'm offering in 2021. As a child development expert and parent coach I have given lots of thought on what I could offer that will have the most impact on the well-being of you, and your family, over the coming year. I've come up with something exciting! It's called the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program, and it will help you: – feel in charge of your destiny and your family's direction – know that you are making the right decisions for you and your family – live your best life and model that for your kids. Enrolling means you will spend 2021: – Getting good behavior from your children – Advocating for them, helping them love learning and get the best education possible, no matter how bad all of this feels right now – Feeling good about getting the self-care time that you need and deserve I expect that spots will fill up quickly, as there are only 20 to begin with and especially with the Black Friday special I'm offering, 50% off the cost of the program! To get notified when enrollment opens go to: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly If you've got any questions email me, Karen (at) weturnedoutokay (dot) com. Thanks for reading/listening and Cheers! Karen Click the link below to learn more about the 2021 Year of Empowerment: https://weturnedoutokay.com/empowerment Click the link below to get notified when enrollment opens: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly Here are the FAQs in written form: FAQs about the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program – What is the age range for people's kids in the program? Parents with kids in all ages and stages of childhood, from babies and toddlers on up to teens, are welcome. The issues that parents are confronting have kind of converged since the onset of the pandemic. There are no conventions anymore. Everything is unprecedented. Parents with children of every age are feeling this seismic shift. As a result the Year of Empowerment will be a great, supportive community for parents with kids of all ages. It will help you build the life that you really want within your family. – How will this program work? The 2021 Year of Empowerment Program has two main facets: 1. Each month of 2021 we will have a group coaching conversation, a powerful, in-depth, 90 minute call diving into the different aspects of empowerment including advocating for your kids, establishing boundaries so you only ever do what feels truly good for you, and modeling a wonderful and empowering life for your family. 2. A year’s subscription to the acclaimed We Turned Out Okay Playbook! The Playbook provides a place for you to envision and build out your life and your family’s future. The 2021 Year of Empowerment program includes a whole year – 12 issues – of the Playbook, one each month, delivered directly to your mailbox! (US only; internationally you’ll receive the digital version of the Playbook.) Each month you’ll receive this top-shelf publication that shapes your thinking in a very positive and gratitude-centered way. (Learn more about the Playbook at https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook) Between our monthly calls and the daily, positive and creative thinking opportunities the Playbook offers, the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program gives you extremely powerful tools to shape your life how you want it. – What if I can't make a meeting? That is absolutely fine… You can be committed and still not be able to get to every single meeting over the course of a whole year. So, each monthly meeting and the PDF of each month's We Turned Out Okay Playbook will be placed in the password-protected 2021 Year of Empowerment Resource Hub. That way, you'll be able to go back and watch meetings as often as you like, and you'll have PDFs of each Playbook as they come out. Any resources such as worksheets, notes, or links will also be placed in the resource hub, where you will have access to everything for the duration of the program. – What days and times will the meetings be? I want this program to work for you, wherever you live and whatever your time zone. As a result this is a crucial question, something very important to get right. In designing the program I am thinking either Saturday afternoons like 3 PM EST, or a weeknight with a very late EST start time, say, 10 PM, is where we will end up, perhaps even alternating months between these time periods. I really want to make it work for those of you who are considering making this commitment. Therefore I would love your feedback! What meeting times would work best for you? Just hit reply to this email and let me know. – What technology will be necessary? Will it be complex? Not at all, we're using basic, easy tech in the Year of Empowerment Program. You'll need only your email, your web browser, and Zoom (which we'll use for our monthly meetings.) Speaking as someone whose twitter name used to be StoneAgeTechie, I know the pain of complicated tech! I want to make this easily accessible for everyone who joins. – Will I be able to access the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program on my phone or tablet? Absolutely : ) It will be a mobile-friendly program, and of course will also be accessible on your laptop or desktop computer. – Will there be the choice of a payment plan? Yes, you'll have the option to pay either in full, or in three installments. I'll share the details on Monday 11/23 when I open enrollment in the Program. – Will there be refunds? The 2021 Year of Empowerment Program is for folks who are truly committed to building a great future for themselves and their family.There are no refunds.It will be worth every penny. – Are there any prerequisites to the Year of Empowerment Program? You do not have to have been in any program of mine before, whether workshops, courses, or the Ninja Parenting Community. The only prerequisites are your positive energy and your commitment to building the future that you want for your family. I anticipate that spots will go fast. Especially with the Black Friday special – normally the Program costs $3000, but if you join by Cyber Monday, November 30, 2020 you can join for half that, just $1500! Here are some quickie facts about the program: Enrolling in the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program means you will spend 2021 transforming your future, and your family’s. Each month you’ll experience the magic of my best, most transformative ideas and tools to build your life how you want it. There are only 20 spots available. This is the only group coaching I’m offering in all of 2021. I anticipate spots will fill up quickly. It’s for folks who are truly committed to building a great future for themselves and their family. It's the most affordable option to work with me in 2021. There are no refunds. It will be worth every penny. Enrollment will open this coming Wednesday 11/25/20, and when it does I will send an email to everyone who is in my email group sharing details and the link to enroll.… Click the link below to join the email group https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly In the meantime I hope you have a lovely weekend. Cheers and thanks for reading/listening This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

There are just 20 spots available in my 2021 Year of Empowerment coaching program for parents… Don't miss your chance to join this powerful program! Be notified when I open enrollment for the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program (enrollment begins 11/23!) by clicking the link below: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly I am super excited to bring you today's episode, which includes so much good that my heart is practically bursting : ) It's a digest episode, and the first part is my conversation with Debbie Reber, founder of the TiLT Parenting Podcast, http://tiltparenting.com, and author of one of my favorite books, Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. Somewhere in the first few minutes we decide to depart from a kind of standard interview, Q&A sort of conversation and dive into something much better and more fun! Here are some of Debbie's ideas that felt so transformative for me: – "I love that you mention taking care of your body…" Debbie goes on to share how important this idea is, and how often we truly do forget. (My forgetting, as I share today, landed me in the hospital just a few weeks before our conversation.) – "Asking "What if I had no agenda at all?""… Debbie brings this up in reference to children and learning. If we don't have an agenda, we are free to just be in the moment and enjoying the time with our children. And more – if we don't have an agenda we are free to allow our kids on a voyage of self-discovery. This is crucial, even more so with the world turned upside down from the pandemic. – "I have permission to do whatever I want and feel whatever I feel."… Debbie shares this as a way of diffusing judgment. Giving ourselves this permission is so freeing. I hope this conversation is transformational for you, too! In Part 2 I read an essay I wrote recently, called "A hard decision I have made." It shares about the decision I recently made to close my Ninja Parenting Community – and after I read it, I share about something I'm truly excited about, the group coaching program I'm offering for 2021 called "The Year of Empowerment." 2021: The Year of Empowerment Program: … Helps you combat the challenge of others walking all over you, so you feel in charge of your destiny and your family's direction. … Helps you overcome your fears about your child's behavior and others'' judgment of that behavior or your parenting. So you know that you are making the right decisions for you and your family. … Helps you stop feeling guilty or unworthy so you can live your best life and model that for your kids. Each month of 2021 you'll be empowered to truly take the reins in your family life. You will know how to get good behavior from your child. You will know how to advocate for them, to help them love learning and get the best education possible – no matter how bad all of this feels right now. You will know how to feel good about getting the self-care time you need and deserve. How will this program work? 1. Each month of 2021 we will have a group coaching conversation, a powerful, in-depth, 90 minute call diving into the different aspects of empowerment including: – The setting of proper boundaries to eliminate toxic people from your life – Learning to say "no," so you only participate in and do what feels truly good for you – Advocating for your child – Learning the tenets of positive discipline, so your child does not walk all over you anymore – Teaching your child about the world – Living a truly wonderful and empowering life – Consequently modeling "how to live a truly wonderful and empowering life" for your family 2. A year's subscription to the acclaimed We Turned Out Okay Playbook! The We Turned Out Okay Playbook provides a place for you to envision and build out your life and your family's future. The 2021 Year of Empowerment program includes a whole year – 12 issues – of the Playbook, one each month, delivered directly to your mailbox! Each month you'll receive the Playbook, my top-shelf publication that shapes your thinking in a very positive and gratitude-centered way. (Learn more about the Playbook at: https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook) Between our monthly calls and the daily, positive and creative thinking opportunities the Playbook offers, you have extremely powerful tools to shape your life how you want it. Cost and How to Enroll: The program costs $3000 for the year 2021. There are just 20 spots available. I'm offering a Black Friday special: 50% off! Just $1500 instead of the usual $3000! I'm opening up enrollment in the 2021 Year of Empowerment on Monday 11/23/20… Click the link below and sign up to get notified when enrollment begins! https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly Cheers! And thanks for listening/reading! Karen Karen Lock Kolp, M.Ed. Creator and Founder of https://weturnedoutokay.com View this post, video of our conversation, and all notes and links in your browser by clicking the link below: https://weturnedoutokay.com/350 This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

As a child development expert one of the most important jobs I have is to give parents permission to disagree with teachers or other authority figures in their children's lives. Starting at around the 50-minute mark we talk about that. It's coming up for many podcast listeners and Ninja Parents right now, and it's important to discuss! But first, I share three super important lessons that I learned the hard way recently, by ending up in the hospital with diverticulitis. It's the illness I had nine years ago that brought on the tendon condition that I lived with ever since, so there was some serious PTSD in getting it again! It was no accident that I got it now, in the pandemic with pressure mounting societally, in our home, and with the families I serve. I got it by failing to adhere to these lessons, which I will list for you right now: 1. On the Human-Dehumanized Axis, stay close to the Human side. Maybe it means unplugging, but it definitely means connecting more on a human level. Be sure that, when connecting with folks having to do with your child, that they are very human too. 2. Remember that sugar is an inflammatory food. What we need is good nutrition! I'm a living example of what happens when you don't get that. 3. Understand your own worth. How you think about yourself matters. I forgot that, and had to undergo a very painful and scary illness as a result. Most of all, in thinking about these three lessons I want you to think about where you are "coming from" with regard to them. This isn't about me telling you "here's a list of stuff you need to do." It's about coming from a place of human connection. It's about coming from a place of good nutrition, most of the time, without worry or pressure. It's about coming from a place of feeling worthy – both for ourselves, and for what we model for our children. Here are the links that come up in today's conversation: I am a featured speaker in the  Virtual Summit, which you can enjoy for free by clicking here: https://www.sarahscheldt.com/empoweryourparentingonlineseries Click here for episode 279, my conversation with picky eating coach Jacky Lemenzo For the first time since creating the We Turned Out Okay Playbook, as a result of my hospitalization I'm doing it myself (instead of just writing it for others)! Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook to learn more about the Playbook! Click here for episode 270, my conversation with creative coach Dan Blank. Thank you for being along on this journey with me! You rock! Cheers! And thanks for listening/reading to this, episode 349, which you can view on the web by going to: weturnedoutokay.com/349 Karen Karen Lock Kolp, M.Ed. Creator and Founder of https://weturnedoutokay.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

I’m so excited to bring you returning champions Evie Granville and Sarah Davis of Modern Manners for Moms and Dads today! You’ll learn why the kind of parent that we are matters, especially right now… and you’ll hear how these two wonderful educators take my very cynical Roundtable question and turn it around. You’ll also hear their awesome Roundtable questions for us all to discuss – one pertains to the election, and so I felt I had to publish this episode today, so you’ve got a couple weeks to listen! Evie and Sarah brought me onto their show in early March 2020, just before the pandemic changed everything. If you listen to that episode, you’ll notice that I identify myself as one kind of parent (what Evie and Sarah would now call a Crescent-style parent)… When I bring them onto my show in episode 340, just a few months later – but after our world has completely changed – my parenting style has completely changed too. I’ve become a Constellation-style parent. For all the wrong reasons! In the interview portion of today’s episode, I share about my current parenting style, a perfect split between Crescent and Constellation, and how I’ve made my peace with that. We also talk about their new book! It’s called Modern Manners for Moms and Dads, and you can download the first chapter for free by clicking here: http://evieandsarah.com/book! Did you notice, I referred to the “interview portion” of today’s episode? That’s because as I have moved into publishing every other week, it’s opened up really interesting and cool opportunities for making the show just a little different. We still talk about the same important things. It’s still all about helping you feel cared for, no matter what your circumstances are. I’m just doing that in different ways that never presented themselves when I released an episode every week. So for the first half hour or so, I share things like the Parenting News (a REALLY good one today) and some things I’m offering, like – this week’s Free Live Training on handling worries in a playful way (it’s this coming Friday 10/23/20, sign up here: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly) – the sweet, 3-months-for-the-rate-of-2 deal I’m offering on the We Turned Out Okay Playbook (https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook) – how much you’re enjoying the powerful, even magical private coaching calls so many of you have scheduled with me (schedule yours by going to https://weturnedoutokay.com/contact; they are completely free of charge and with no strings attached) – the Self-care Bootcamp we are doing throughout the American election week, 11/2-11/6, in the Ninja Parenting Community (you can try the Community for your whole first month for just $3, just by clicking https://weturnedoutokay.com/courage! Then Evie, Sarah, and I have our fantastic conversation… And after THAT I read you an essay that I’ve written. It’s called Socks and Medicine and Fear and Love (you can read it by clicking here.) I hope it helps you frame the small, daily choices that you have a little differently. If you, like me, are prone to coming from fear in these small daily choices, I hope it helps you come from a place of love for yourself. Because I truly believe that the only way you can come from a place of love for others. Click the following link if you’d like more essays like this in your life: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly. And click the following link to view this post in your browser: https://weturnedoutokay.com/348. Cheers! And thanks for listening/reading! Karen This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

With all the talk recently about something called “patriotic learning,” I wanted to bring you an episode to help you understand how education can become a political football, what that really means for your child, and what you can do about it. So I called on my friend, historian Gary Gregory. Gary runs a tour company, Lessons on Liberty, bringing folks into the history of the Revolutionary War. He also runs The Printing Office of Edes and Gill, where he uses the technology of the 1700s to create real documents from that time period, and to bring people into that time period. Gary knows a lot about history, both real and revisionist, and brings us his wisdom today! Hope you enjoy this episode! There are about a million links, and you can find all of them here: weturnedoutokay.com/347-part-2 Cheers! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Greetings! If this feels like a pretty ambitiously named episode, well, that's because this is where we are in fall 2020. We are on the bleeding edge of crisis parenting, and there is a feeling in the air of "this is where our society fails or succeeds." (At least that's how it feels to me! You are very welcome to disagree. Either way, I hope this episode gives you a roadmap to success on your parenting journey, and some hope.) Whether a society succeeds or fails is in large part dependent upon the how that society raises its children. In this episode I offer five ways to think about this idea: 1. A society will fail by operating from a place of fear… A society will succeed by operating from a place of love. 2. A society will fail by rejecting change and diversity… A society will succeed by accepting both of these key qualities and using them to move forward together. 3. A society will fail by looking past – ignoring – that which is right in front of it, but which is difficult to look at… A society will succeed by understanding what is right in front of it, the matter how difficult or upsetting that information is. 4. A society will fail by stunting and mis-shaping children's development… A society will succeed by embracing children, wherever they are in their development, and by playing to their children's strengths. 5. A society will fail by putting up barriers and excluding those who don't share similar beliefs… A society will succeed by choosing to connect on a human level, with compassion and empathy, regardless of beliefs. Thank you for listening! I hope you find this one helpful! (View this post on my website by going to weturnedoutokay.com/347-part-1) Announcements and Links… 1. I am a part of the Emergency Home Learning Summit, a 2-month long Virtual Summit that is free to watch in real time! My talk is coming up this Thursday, and that's not all. The creators of the Summit are making it possible for speakers to do really cool virtual things, like live Office Hours! Learn more and sign up for the Emergency Home Learning Summit here : ) 2. I am offering a Quarterly Membership to the Ninja Parenting Community (NPC.) NPC is where parents are learning how to: – Help their children adjust to virtual schooling – Handle it when teachers are, shall we say, less than kind – Deal with changes in the bedtime routine that results in a child's complete freak out – Bring a parenting partner on board with positive discipline strategies – Understand how their values and parenting style impacts their children's development … And that is just in the last few weeks! Click here to learn more and join NPC at the Quarterly Membership Rate – 3 months for the price of 2, every quarter that you're a member! 3. My monthly publication, the We Turned Out Okay Playbook, is getting some real accolades; licensed mental health counselor Janine Halloran calls it "A life raft for families who are adrift", and subscribers are saying it's "Worth every penny" and "Simple, and yet so powerful." Find out what all the fuss is about – Click the following link to learn more and subscribe to the Playbook: weturnedoutokay.com/playbook 4. Click here for episode 342, my conversation with coach Mariela Ortiz (where I first learned of the idea that we can come from just one of two places, fear or love.) 5. Click here for episode 339, my conversation with Shannon Connery, PhD, which I reference in today's episode. 6. Click here for episode 344, all about "the secret fears of a child development expert" (that's me.) 7. In this part of the episode I reference one of my all-time favorite books, Visual Intelligence by Amy Herman. She teaches first responders, FBI agents, and others how to overcome their own biases and truly see what is right in front of them. Herman's book is such a model for me, and today I hope to help you understand why what she teaches is so crucial to a society's success. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

If there was ever a time to call what we are all doing "crisis parenting," now is it. In this episode, I bring you a critical tool to help you keep going! I also share about why I called this show "We Turned Out Okay, The Modern Parent's Guide to Old-School Parenting." A mom in the WTOO Facebook group asked that question, and this Basics Bootcamp episode seemed like the perfect time to talk about that! Also today, I have three things to invite you into! In chronological order: 1. October's We Turned Out Okay Playbook The October 2020 issue of the We Turned Out Okay Playbook gives you tools for getting the behavior you WANT from your child – it goes to print at noon on Wednesday 10/23! Licensed mental health counselor and best-selling author Janine Halloran calls my Playbook ""A life raft for families." If a life raft seems like a good idea to you right now, click the link below! weturnedoutokay.com/playbook 2. The rate for my online private coaching practice is going up! I help parents and kids thrive every day in my online private coaching practice, the Ninja Parenting Community (NPC). Members have exclusive access to the WTOO Book Club, twice-monthly Live Members-Only Calls, and some low key, yet powerful, challenges we are doing this autumn! The rate for becoming a member will DOUBLE on Saturday 10/26, so if you've been on the fence about joining the Ninja Parenting Community, get in now before the rate goes up! You'll get your entire first month in NPC for free, too! weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC 3. I'm a Speaker at the Online Toddler Play Summit! My presentation is all about how to keep going while raising will kids, and it's out on Monday, September 28… Get your free ticket to the entire event (there are 20 of us speakers : ) by clicking here Go to weturnedoutokay.com/346 for video of this podcast episode… Other Key Links: Click here for Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, my first book. It comes up today because I share (without any detail whatsoever) of being sexually abused at age 7, a story that I tell in this book. Click here for The Success Principles by Jack Canfield. The tool I shared today comes directly from this book : ) This week's highlighted archive episode is located at weturnedoutokay.com/176, my conversation with Ingrid Alli and Hamilton Graziano. We discuss interracial marriage, parenting, and overcoming bias. It's a great past episode and I hope you enjoy it! Also in the pre-intro I talk about one of my personal heroes, Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, who we lost last week. I ask you to honor her life by being kind and compassionate. I also share about one of my favorite-ever books, Notorious RBG. Highly recommended reading! Hugs! We will get through this together! Cheers! Karen This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe