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Greetings! Welcome to this first installment in my series on ADHD I am honored and thrilled to bring you this conversation with pediatric occupational therapist – and mom of toddlers – Holly Peretz! As you'll hear in our conversation, Holly knows lots about the challenges of raising young children. In fact she's built an entire virtual summit around addressing these challenges, and thriving (both you, and your kids thriving, I mean.) Click here to sign up for Holly's upcoming, amazing Toddler Play Conference – I am a speaker once again and so excited to be a part of this conference! In today's conversation, Holly shares her knowledge of ADD and ADHD. Specifically we discuss how to know if your child has one of these neurodiversities, what to do around this whole subject that is helpful, and what to avoid doing. Key links below – hope you enjoy this episode of We Turned Out Okay! Key Links Click here to register for the Toddler Play Conference, which begins Thursday 4/22/21! You can watch all the presentations for free in real time, and it's all online so you get to do it in your PJs if you wish! Holly talks about The Explosive Child by Ross Greene… Click here for this seminal book. I interviewed Tanya Trainor of Miss Tanya's Nursery Schools in an early episode of We Turned Out Okay; click the following link to listen! https://weturnedoutokay.com/167 If you'd like to read my first book, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, for free, click here. My masterclass, What's the pandemic doing to my child?, is SOLD OUT – before we even made it out of the Early Bird pricing! If you are signed up, I can't wait to work with you on this important topic! If you missed out on this one, stay tuned because I'll be offering other masterclasses soon. In fact, sign up for my free weekly newsletters, https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly, to find out about the next masterclass before the general public! The We Turned Out Okay Playbook, my subscription-only, quality monthly playbook for parents, is going digital! Starting with the May issue you can now get this essential tool for parental well-being either in your physical American snail mailbox, or digitally, if you live outside of the US – or if you'd rather enjoy a digital, than physical, copy! Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook for details, and to subscribe. Video, links, and show notes for this episode are all located at https://weturnedoutokay.com/361 Thanks for being here! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

There is no manual for emerging from a pandemic, just as there is none for living through one. So my private coaching client Kate's questions might be very familiar to you: – "Am I being selfish?" (To send her child to in-person school, or summer camp.) – How do we keep "the comfort of closeness" we've had during all this, but still foster a kid's independence? – What about kids' physical safety – when they are not right next to us, when they are off doing normal childhood things (like school or summer camp)? This is usually an off week for the podcast, but in speaking with Kate, the concerns she brought up and the stuff she is dealing with felt extremely relevant to what you are likely experiencing right now. If you, like Kate – like me – are wondering about any of this, you are going to LOVE this episode. Join us! Key Links In this conversation Kate shares about value she got from my book, Educating Happy Kids. For this and my other books, go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/books. Click here to register for the Toddler Play Conference, which begins Thursday 4/22/21! If you have young children you won't want to miss this, Holly Peretz's second annual deep dive into living, dare I even say enjoying life, with toddlers. You can watch all the presentations for free in real time, and it's all online so you get to do it in your PJs if you wish! My masterclass, What's the pandemic doing to my child?, is SOLD OUT – before we even made it out of the Early Bird pricing! If you are signed up, I can't wait to work with you on this important topic! If you missed out on this one, stay tuned because I'll be offering other masterclasses soon. In fact, sign up for my free weekly newsletters, https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly, to find out about the next masterclass before the general public! Video, links, and show notes for this episode are all located at https://weturnedoutokay.com/360.5 Thanks for being here! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

For this episode my guest, Julie Lythcott-Haims, wanted to be sure to let you all know: "this is not a show about parenting!" This one's about us, the grown-ups. Our lives, our choices, our challenges. Julie was Dean of Freshman at Stanford University for a decade, and in that time she helped the young adults who arrived at college become true grown-ups. She also learned a lot! In truth, Julie has learned a lot over her whole life. She is the New York Times best-selling author of How to Raise an Adult and one of my all-time favorite books ever, Real American (which chronicles her experience growing up Black and biracial in affluent circumstances in the United States.) Julie's latest book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult shares lots of her own stories as well as the stories of many other people, their challenges, and how they handled them. It's storytelling plus self-help with a beautiful result! Put it this way: I've been an adult for a lot of years and I learned so much from this beautiful book. I am OVER the MOON to bring you this awesome woman's ideas on how to handle the challenges that life sends your way. Join us for a fast-moving, fun, and educational conversation [with swears! Be sure to listen away from littles, or other sensitive ears.] There are all kinds of links just below, including to Julie's books, the two upcoming free virtual summits I'm speaking in… and info on how you can be invited to my birthday party, coming up on April 19th! View our conversation in video, as well as seeing all show notes and links, by going to: https://weturnedoutokay.com/360 Links That Come Up Today Click here for Julie's latest book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult Click here for Julie's memoir about growing up Black and biracial in affluent America, Real American Click here for her awesome book on parenting, How to Raise an Adult Julie has plans to open a Membership Club! Click here for more information : ) Free Virtual Summit 1: On Thursday, April 8 I am presenting in a free virtual summit called Raising Remarkable Kids… Click here to register and hear me speak along with nine other parenting experts! Free Virtual Summit 2: A bit later in April I'm speaking in the second annual Toddler Play Conference, run by the amazing Holly Peretz… Click here for details and to register for this conference, beginning April 21! I've got a big birthday coming up soon, and to celebrate I'm having a party! It's an "Insight/Wisdom Party," and I'm inviting you to come along and share what you've learned in this crazy-ass year! Only folks who receive my free weekly email newsletter will receive the invitation, so click the following link to join my email group: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly I'll see you at my party! Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/000 to hear my "about the podcaster" show, in which my four best buddies and I share about our unplanned adventures. Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/pdnt for your free copy of my first parenting book, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics! When I first met Julie, during her office hours in November 2020, I was so moved that I created an entire webpage sharing what I learned there: https://weturnedoutokay.com/julie Julie is one of the amazing speakers in the ParentinginPlaceMasterclass.com. Thank you so much for listening today! You rock! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Greetings! In today's conversation my guest, Jessica Lahey, and I discuss some big and weighty issues… This would be a good episode to listen to away from sensitive ears or wearing headphones. (It's an awesome episode, just awesome for us grown-ups : ) I feel an immense sense of gratitude to Jess for coming back on the show (she is a returning champion! Click this link to listen to our first conversation: https://weturnedoutokay.com/054.) Jess is the author of the new book The Addiction Inoculation (which you can order by clicking here! Squee!) Her ideas on educating kids, fostering a sense of trust while keeping children accountable to themselves, and her fearless examination of her own journey with substance abuse are what my gratitude is based in. But Jess brings so much more to our conversation. She's funny, not afraid to laugh at herself, and super supportive of her audience, her family, and fellow writers. Talking with Jess is a learning opportunity about: – What gaslighting is and how it hurts children – How we can protect our kids against addiction – How we can develop the most important habits (spoiler: it's through play and gamifying) ALSO! It's the first in our new segment, Triumphs & Misdemeanors, where we get to hear your voices and either celebrate how you have knocked it out of the park – or commune with you if you share an epic fail… Listen after my conversation with Jess to hear today's Triumph, and so you can write down the phone number and contribute your own Triumph, or Misdemeanor! Click weturnedoutokay.com/359 to view this conversation in video, and for the bazillion links too! Key Links Click here for Jess's new book, The Addiction Inoculation – you are going to love it! Celebrate my birthday with me on Monday evening April 19! I'm hosting a Wisdom/Insight Party, the chance to be in community together, learn from each other and support each other after more than a year in the pandemic. It's completely free with no strings attached. Just come and enjoy! Invitations are going out to those of you signed up for my free newsletter, so click this link to sign up: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly Click this link for the masterclass I'm teaching, "What's the pandemic doing to my child?"… https://weturnedoutokay.com/pandemicclass Click here for Jess's blog post, "Something Had to Give," about the alcohol addiction she confronted as she started writing her NYT bestseller, The Gift of Failure Click here for the book Quit Like a Woman by Holly Whitaker Click this link for my conversation with Ingrid Ali and Hamilton Graziano, the biracial couple Ben and I struck up a friendship with while we were on our second honeymoon, and they were on their first: https://weturnedoutokay.com/176 Click here for the Being Black at School organization begin by Kelly Wickham Hearst To help black children not feel gaslit Click here for the show Hot Ones with Sean Evans Click here for Shane Lopez's book, Making Hope Happen Click here for the documentary Follow Through, about a student of Jess's Click here for On Being 40 (ish) , and anthology which includes a piece from Jess Click here for the #AmWriting episode where Jess and cohost KJ brought me onto their show! Click here for OkayCon 2020, the Free virtual Summit, where I brought you 10 great conversations about getting through the pandemic (recorded in March and April 2020). Get my first book FREE… It's called Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, and parents find it extremely helpful in getting good behavior from their kids! Click this link: https://weturnedoutokay.com/pdnt Thank you so much for listening today! You rock! __________________________________________ This episode is located on the web at: https://weturnedoutokay.com/358 This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Greetings! Today I get to share a powerful conversation with Chloee, my one to one coaching client. Chloee has a toddler and the challenges she faces in caring for her daughter are likely concerns that you also have, regardless of the age of your children. Here's what you'll learn by listening: – How to address the challenges that Covid brings – How to make a crucial choice, one that we all must make every day – How to deal with temper tantrums, especially when we must say "no" to our kids I encourage you to be coached while you listen. By that I mean: when I ask Chloee a question, hit pause. Consider the question for yourself and your situation. Even, write down your responses. (And if you want to experience the power of coaching with me, I am opening up some spaces for a few completely free, no-strings-attached, deep and magical coaching conversations! If you'd like one of them to be yours, write me, karen (at) weturnedoutokay (dot) com !) I'm excited to listen back to this one with my Mom Hat on, because I'm sure I'll learn so much from this talk with Chloee about how to handle the concerns she raises with my own kids (who are 16 and 20!) This is a digest episode, which means that you should stay tuned after my conversation with Chloee! Listen for: – How to handle information overload – A new program I'm offering, "What's the pandemic doing to my child?" – An update – including the phone number! – for our new podcast segment, Triumphs and Misdemeanors (this segment starts in our next episode! Squee!) What's the Pandemic Doing to My Child? – A new program I'm offering you might be interested in… Working with private clients over these last several months, I’ve heard again and again of worries about what the pandemic is doing to children. As a child development expert, not only do I know the answer to that; I know what to do about it. Beginning in May 2021 I will offer a five-week program covering: – The toll that long-term confinement and sequestration from others can cause – Strategies to handle this long-term confinement and limit the negative impacts – Creating a home environment that supports the social and emotional development your child needs – Dealing with reentry including handling anxiety, bullies, and other social concerns All along we’ll be diving into your specific questions and issues. To make absolutely sure that you have a plan going forward we’ll spend our last class time together in a Q&A, so you can have all your concerns addressed and questions answered. We will even have an accelerator call – an extra session to spend together – before the program begins in May so I can be sure I’m addressing your concerns and giving you all the support I can. If that sounds good to you, I’m offering a special earlybird price… Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to be notified of this and other programs I offer: Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly Cheers! And thanks for listening!! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Greetings! In today's episode we examine the process of getting what our heart longs for, in a coaching conversation with one of my 1-to-1 coaching clients! As you'll hear, Regan is a mom and an attorney, currently (along with her husband) working from home while their children are home as well, in in virtual/hybrid school. Regan gets courageous and vulnerable with us today. She shares the dream of her heart for her kids… and what she's doing each and every day to help make that dream come true. In our conversation you'll learn: – How to get your heart's desire – The importance of big dreams and tiny action steps – Making both your superpower AND the dark side of that superpower work for you in achieving your dreams Lately I've been asking coaching clients "what makes my coaching magical?" (You'll hear Regan and I talk about this in this episode.) The answers I'm getting back are fascinating – it turns out that something I'm really good at is helping parents stop treading the conventional path and do what works for THEM, and their family. We all have dreams. What are you doing to make yours reality? If you're ready to go on the adventure of your life with me as your guide, write me, and let's talk! Plus… This is a digest episode, so in addition to our conversation I'm bringing you a story that I recently sent to the folks in my free email newsgroup! Click this link to get weekly letters like this delivered right to your inbox: weturnedoutokay.com/weekly I share about the "Parents Working from Home" free virtual summit that I'm honored to be included in (happening this coming Saturday 2/27, 10 AM to 1 PM EST). And, I give you an update on a new segment of this podcast: it's called Triumphs and Misdemeanors, and I hope you will be a part of it! Join us! Key Links: Click here for psychologist – and friend-of-the-podcast – Shannon Connery's recent episode of her Fix Yourself podcast, in which she talks about energy level and a way to think of it that's been really helpful for me recently. Maybe it will be helpful for you, too! Click here for the weekly planner that Regan and I discuss in this episode. The planner was once exclusively for people in my Ninja Parenting Community, but I am sharing it here with you today in hopes that it will help you to see your entire week in one half sheet piece of printer paper. Enjoy! Click here to sign up for the free Parenting While Working from Home Virtual Summit taking place Saturday February 27 from 10 AM to 1 PM EST. (Also I'll be stopping by the Facebook group associated with the Virtual Summit between noon and 1 PM EST. Maybe I'll see you there!) Click here to read the story that I share today in the latter part of this episode, called "What my Italian relatives know about the off-season." (This is also where you can see the picture I mention in today's episode, me in Venice in 1992, wearing *quite* a sweater : ) Click the following link to view the show notes from today's episode on my website: weturnedoutokay.com/357 _________________________________________________ Get my best advice for handling the challenges that come up on your parenting journey, through the We Turned Out Okay podcast: Listen in your favorite podcatcher! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Due to the content of our conversation, today's episode is going to be a good one to listen AWAY from sensitive ears… I think you're going to love today's conversation, I know I did! But some topics may be a little intense for, well, littles. Greetings! I am super excited to bring today's guest to you, educator and parent coach Sarah Scheldt, M.Ed.! In today's conversation I'll introduce you to Sarah, so you can come to know her and the incredibly helpful, giving person she is. Today Sarah discusses: - How to handle your kids' toughest days and biggest feelings - How to take care of yourself in the midst of everything going on in your life - Handling when we do push ourselves too far Early on in the pandemic Sarah wanted to reach parents outside of her classroom of kids. So she created an amazing free Virtual Summit on "empowering kids." I felt so honored to be included in the expert speakers for that summit! Sarah's second free online series, Kids' Healthy Bodies, starts on February 15! (Yay! Click here to sign up!) In our conversation today Sarah shares on how this upcoming free Virtual Summit will help you get a handle on talking to kids about potentially tough topics like their own bodies, sex, consent, and stopping child sexual abuse. I'm honored to be a part of this series as well, talking about what to do if you have been the victim of sexual abuse… and you are now raising kids. There will be experts on all kinds of topics around children and their healthy bodies, so be sure to sign up! I know you're going to love today's conversation… If you'd like to see us visually, in addition to listening, you can find the video for this conversation by clicking https://weturnedoutokay.com/356 I hope you find our talk super helpful! Cheers! Karen Links from today's conversation: Click here to sign up for Sarah Scheldt's upcoming Free Virtual Summit on Kids' Healthy Bodies – I'm one of the expert speakers, so I know how awesome this series is going to be. Click here for the Yo-Yo Ma documentary, Distant Echoes, on the time that Ma spent with the Bush People of the Kalahari Desert, learning how they make music – and meaning. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Greetings! Today I've got five ways that parents I work closely with are keeping going… Because even though we can see some hope on the horizon, circumstances on the ground are, shall we say, not ideal. So if you need a little help getting good behavior from your kids, feeling seen and heard and cared for in your life, or feeling happy inside, here are five ways you may not have considered yet to accomplish those tasks.… Plus the Parenting News Segment returns today, with reports on how to not use social-emotional learning for evil, and also something called "toxic positivity." Join us! Here are the links that come up today: This episode's home-on-the-web is weturnedoutokay.com/355 In the first few minutes of today's show I share (a little bit) about my experience of being sexually abused when I was seven years old. This comes up in my first book, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, in the chapter called How to Help if Something's Wrong; you can buy the book by clicking here I share about being hospitalized with diverticulitis last fall in episode 349: Kindergarten Evals, Parent-Teacher-Conferences, and Lessons I learned from being hospitalized last week, weturnedoutokay.com/349 Beloved Ninja Parenting Community alum Jen came on the show in summer 2019 to talk about how she got control over the direction her family is going: weturnedoutokay.com/288 In episode 300 of We Turned Out Okay, two amazing and close friends of mine, licensed mental health counselor Janine Halloran and veteran preschool teacher Tricia Tomaso came on the show, and unbeknownst to each other (or me) they both brought the same topic: Social Emotional Learning… Weturnedoutokay.com/300 Speaking of Janine Halloran, she's going to be an expert speaker in the Parenting in Place Masterclass Series this winter! Register for this awesome series by going to parentinginplacemasterclass.com Today I share that I am planning a new segment of the show… that it's going to include input from our wonderful listeners… and the first people who will know about it are those who get my free weekly newsletters! Find out what's up by subscribing for these newsletters yourself: weturnedoutokay.com/weekly If you want to start getting my free weekly newsletters AND you've got reluctant or unhappy readers at home, sign up for my free Guide to Creating Happy Readers at weturnedoutokay.com/readers Thank you for listening and reading! You rock! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Greetings and best wishes for 2021!! This is my annual goals and sharing of the Word of the Year. (Last year's: ENOUGH. I apparently was really prescient in January 2020... This year's: EXHILARATED. Should be fun!) As with everything in the pandemic, it's different from other New Year's episodes that have come before. But I hope it's helpful for you as you create a good life, and a good year, for your family and yourself. Some of my goals last year I completely, epically failed at bringing about. Some of them I did a little bit better with. One of the most important things I learned was to make a goal be "a place to come from," rather than something to work towards. Seriously, this has been a huge game-changer for me. I share about that process and give you ideas for trying it out yourself today. Finally I read you one of my most recent newsletters, "Hello 2021! Please be kind to us." You can get these newsletters delivered for free right into your inbox just by signing up for one of my free guides available at weturnedoutokay.com… Or go to weturnedoutokay.com/weekly Key Links: Click weturnedoutokay.com/312 for last year, January 2020's Goals and One Word episode. Listening back I was such a pre-pandemic naïve little baby then! I've grown a lot in 2020. I bet you have too. Ultimately this is a good thing, I think. We are such badasses now! Click here for a book I am loving, 100 Truths You Will Learn Too Late by Luca Dellanna Click weturnedoutokay.com/books to see the parenting books I have written Click here for my most recent newsletter, "Hello 2021! Please be kind to us." Click weturnedoutokay.com/354 to watch the video of today's episode. Cheers! I hope 2021 is REALLY kind to you This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Hi friends! This is a bonus episode that I recorded to help you in the wake of January 6, 2021's storming of the United States Capitol Building by domestic terrorists, or (as you'll hear in today's episode) people that featured WTOO guest and NYT best-selling author Joshilyn Jackson calls "known jackasses." I want to give you some resources to help you remain calm – because that is what your kiddo needs from you today. I am more grateful than I can say that you are listening, I can almost feel us holding hands and standing together today… I will have links posted (at weturnedoutokay.com/353-5) ASAP, but for now I just want you to be able to hear my words and know that you can remain calm, for your child and for yourself. No matter what is going on in your world, or in the wider world. And I am here with you. xoxo, Karen This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe