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"Is this something that I care about, or is this something that someone else thinks I should care about?" – Shari Medini That's what I almost called today's episode (but used another excellent quote from today's guest for brevity's sake : ) If you want a conversation about handling all the stuff that is flying at you… If you want to feel better about the choices that you have that maybe you didn't even realize… You will love this talk with Shari Medini, one half of the duo at Adore Them Parenting! Shari and her cofounder Karissa Tunis have written a great book, Parenting While Working from Home, and offer their help and support to parents from their website. They brought me into their virtual summit this winter – you can hear the audio from my presentation at the end of today's episode in fact, presenting on a subject that is near and dear to my heart! I know you're going to love our conversation! Video of my conversation with Shari and my presentation for the Adore Them Summit: https://weturnedoutokay.com/365 Cheers! And thank you for listening! Karen PS I have an invitation for you: if you haven't already, get to know me a little better by signing up for my weekly newsletter. It's free, and I promise to hold your email address – and thus your heart – in both my hands… The newsletter is where I share my best essays, stories, and tools. Because it's more personal, it's even better than the podcast! Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up : ) Listen to We Turned Out Okay in your favorite podcatcher! Here are a few choice spots: Apple Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOApple Spotify... http://bit.ly/WTOOSpotify Stitcher Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOStitcher This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Greetings! Yes, on its surface this is a conversation (with 6-time returning champion Janine Halloran! So excited to bring her back to you!) about ADHD. But it's about so much more. It's about expectations, and how they create the roles our children inhabit. It's about us, the roles we inhabit, and how we got here. It's about what we can do that would be detrimental, or helpful – again, not just with the concerns of ADHD. But with so much more. I'm excited to welcome you into this conversation, and I'm grateful that you are here! Key links and video located at https://weturnedoutokay.com/364 Key Links Click here for the video that I share in the intro, in which six photographers were told six different things about the same man – and as a result of their different expectations, they produce six completely different portraits of that man. Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/191 for the conversation I share about in the intro, me talking with my 13-year-old son… He accuses me of being "Pollyanna-ish." It's a fascinating chat even if you don't happen to be this boy's mother! Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up for my weekly newsletters… Each is an invitation to go deeper with me. To get to know me better, to correspond, and to get support for your challenges. Completely free, just bring your open heart Click http://copingskillsforkids.com to check out all of the useful and fun stuff that Janine is doing! Click here for the amazing Rick Riordan book series about Percy Jackson and the Olympians. Click here for an article about one of Dav Pilkey's Captain Underpants books, which the author withdrew from publication recently. Click here for the Angst movie. Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/194 for my conversation with awesome author Joshilyn Jackson, a New York Times best-selling fiction author (who shares on my show that she didn't feel empathy until she became a parent. A fascinating conversation!) Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/324 for my conversation with Janine during OkayCon 2020, the video series I did to support parents during the pandemic… It was called "Why your child's behavior may be worse now than usual, and what to do about it, with Janine Halloran, LMHC" Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/300 to hear my roundtable conversation with Janine, today's guest, and special-needs preschool teacher Tricia Tomaso. Two of my favorite humans on the whole planet, together in a fabulous roundtable discussion! Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/361 for the first in this ADHD series, called "ADHD is not a result of parenting" – talking with pediatric occupational therapist Holly Peretz today!" Listen to We Turned Out Okay in your favorite podcatcher! Here are a few choice spots: Apple Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOApple Spotify... http://bit.ly/WTOOSpotify Stitcher Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOStitcher This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Greetings! THERE ARE SWEARS TODAY… So be sure to listen away from sensitive ears : ) My guest, Washington Post Parent Columnist Meghan Leahey, recorded this conversation with me back in February… and it feels even more relevant now, than when we recorded. This episode will help you: – Put important stuff in perspective – Lay to rest a childhood demon or two – Appreciate the absurdity inherent in our lives right now Watch our conversation by going to https://weturnedoutokay.com/363 Key links just below. Cheers! And thank you so much for listening! Key Links Connect with Meghan – and get her book, Parenting Outside the Lines! – at MLparentcoach.com Today, the Parent Encouragement Program comes up because Meghan use to be part of that program! Check it out at https://pepparent.org/ My conversation with Katherine Reynolds Lewis (another Parent Encouragement Program alum) comes up today… Listen by going to https://weturnedoutokay.com/351 The We Turned Out Okay Playbook, my subscription-only, quality monthly playbook for parents, has gone digital! You can now get this essential tool for parental well-being either in your physical snail mailbox, or digitally! Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook for details, and to subscribe. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

What's next? For many, that feels like the question of the moment. As I recorded this episode, there were some hopeful notes in the air, but also some serious uncertainty. A little more than a year ago everyone's lives were completely disrupted, and the stress and worry and fear that we've lived with for so long feels impenetrable. What's next? This may be a frightening question. But it's also an exhilarating one, when looked at in a certain light. If any or all of that is on your mind, I hope my conversation with author and community-builder Gail Clanton is helpful for you. Gail brings wonderful energy and ideas to your ears today! You will learn: – how to tap into your own creativity – how to foster community, even with the way that we have been living since early 2020 – 3 ways to share your stories It's a fantastic conversation, and I'm so grateful to Gail for coming on the show! You can watch the video of our conversation by going to https://weturnedoutokay.com/362 Key Links just below. Thanks for reading! Cheers! Key Links Gail has just published a beautiful memoir, Sparkle in the Rain; click here to see! Her anthology Living in the Key of Joy comes out next month – click here to check it out : ) The Parenting in Place Masterclass comes up in our conversation; this masterclass has been a lifesaver for me and many others over the past year. Click this link to check it out: http://parentinginplacemasterclass.com A couple writing resources that come up in our conversation today: temi.com KDP In the preshow I share about two recent episodes that have helped me figure out "what's next"… My conversation with Julie Lythcott-Haimes in episode 360 of the podcast My conversation with coaching client Kate about pandemic survivor's guilt and so much more, episode 360.5 of the podcast The We Turned Out Okay Playbook, my subscription-only, quality monthly playbook for parents, is going digital! You can now get this essential tool for parental well-being either in your physical snail mailbox, or digitally, if you'd rather enjoy a digital, than physical, copy! Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook for details, and to subscribe. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Greetings! Welcome to this first installment in my series on ADHD I am honored and thrilled to bring you this conversation with pediatric occupational therapist – and mom of toddlers – Holly Peretz! As you'll hear in our conversation, Holly knows lots about the challenges of raising young children. In fact she's built an entire virtual summit around addressing these challenges, and thriving (both you, and your kids thriving, I mean.) Click here to sign up for Holly's upcoming, amazing Toddler Play Conference – I am a speaker once again and so excited to be a part of this conference! In today's conversation, Holly shares her knowledge of ADD and ADHD. Specifically we discuss how to know if your child has one of these neurodiversities, what to do around this whole subject that is helpful, and what to avoid doing. Key links below – hope you enjoy this episode of We Turned Out Okay! Key Links Click here to register for the Toddler Play Conference, which begins Thursday 4/22/21! You can watch all the presentations for free in real time, and it's all online so you get to do it in your PJs if you wish! Holly talks about The Explosive Child by Ross Greene… Click here for this seminal book. I interviewed Tanya Trainor of Miss Tanya's Nursery Schools in an early episode of We Turned Out Okay; click the following link to listen! https://weturnedoutokay.com/167 If you'd like to read my first book, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, for free, click here. My masterclass, What's the pandemic doing to my child?, is SOLD OUT – before we even made it out of the Early Bird pricing! If you are signed up, I can't wait to work with you on this important topic! If you missed out on this one, stay tuned because I'll be offering other masterclasses soon. In fact, sign up for my free weekly newsletters, https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly, to find out about the next masterclass before the general public! The We Turned Out Okay Playbook, my subscription-only, quality monthly playbook for parents, is going digital! Starting with the May issue you can now get this essential tool for parental well-being either in your physical American snail mailbox, or digitally, if you live outside of the US – or if you'd rather enjoy a digital, than physical, copy! Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook for details, and to subscribe. Video, links, and show notes for this episode are all located at https://weturnedoutokay.com/361 Thanks for being here! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

There is no manual for emerging from a pandemic, just as there is none for living through one. So my private coaching client Kate's questions might be very familiar to you: – "Am I being selfish?" (To send her child to in-person school, or summer camp.) – How do we keep "the comfort of closeness" we've had during all this, but still foster a kid's independence? – What about kids' physical safety – when they are not right next to us, when they are off doing normal childhood things (like school or summer camp)? This is usually an off week for the podcast, but in speaking with Kate, the concerns she brought up and the stuff she is dealing with felt extremely relevant to what you are likely experiencing right now. If you, like Kate – like me – are wondering about any of this, you are going to LOVE this episode. Join us! Key Links In this conversation Kate shares about value she got from my book, Educating Happy Kids. For this and my other books, go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/books. Click here to register for the Toddler Play Conference, which begins Thursday 4/22/21! If you have young children you won't want to miss this, Holly Peretz's second annual deep dive into living, dare I even say enjoying life, with toddlers. You can watch all the presentations for free in real time, and it's all online so you get to do it in your PJs if you wish! My masterclass, What's the pandemic doing to my child?, is SOLD OUT – before we even made it out of the Early Bird pricing! If you are signed up, I can't wait to work with you on this important topic! If you missed out on this one, stay tuned because I'll be offering other masterclasses soon. In fact, sign up for my free weekly newsletters, https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly, to find out about the next masterclass before the general public! Video, links, and show notes for this episode are all located at https://weturnedoutokay.com/360.5 Thanks for being here! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

For this episode my guest, Julie Lythcott-Haims, wanted to be sure to let you all know: "this is not a show about parenting!" This one's about us, the grown-ups. Our lives, our choices, our challenges. Julie was Dean of Freshman at Stanford University for a decade, and in that time she helped the young adults who arrived at college become true grown-ups. She also learned a lot! In truth, Julie has learned a lot over her whole life. She is the New York Times best-selling author of How to Raise an Adult and one of my all-time favorite books ever, Real American (which chronicles her experience growing up Black and biracial in affluent circumstances in the United States.) Julie's latest book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult shares lots of her own stories as well as the stories of many other people, their challenges, and how they handled them. It's storytelling plus self-help with a beautiful result! Put it this way: I've been an adult for a lot of years and I learned so much from this beautiful book. I am OVER the MOON to bring you this awesome woman's ideas on how to handle the challenges that life sends your way. Join us for a fast-moving, fun, and educational conversation [with swears! Be sure to listen away from littles, or other sensitive ears.] There are all kinds of links just below, including to Julie's books, the two upcoming free virtual summits I'm speaking in… and info on how you can be invited to my birthday party, coming up on April 19th! View our conversation in video, as well as seeing all show notes and links, by going to: https://weturnedoutokay.com/360 Links That Come Up Today Click here for Julie's latest book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult Click here for Julie's memoir about growing up Black and biracial in affluent America, Real American Click here for her awesome book on parenting, How to Raise an Adult Julie has plans to open a Membership Club! Click here for more information : ) Free Virtual Summit 1: On Thursday, April 8 I am presenting in a free virtual summit called Raising Remarkable Kids… Click here to register and hear me speak along with nine other parenting experts! Free Virtual Summit 2: A bit later in April I'm speaking in the second annual Toddler Play Conference, run by the amazing Holly Peretz… Click here for details and to register for this conference, beginning April 21! I've got a big birthday coming up soon, and to celebrate I'm having a party! It's an "Insight/Wisdom Party," and I'm inviting you to come along and share what you've learned in this crazy-ass year! Only folks who receive my free weekly email newsletter will receive the invitation, so click the following link to join my email group: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly I'll see you at my party! Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/000 to hear my "about the podcaster" show, in which my four best buddies and I share about our unplanned adventures. Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/pdnt for your free copy of my first parenting book, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics! When I first met Julie, during her office hours in November 2020, I was so moved that I created an entire webpage sharing what I learned there: https://weturnedoutokay.com/julie Julie is one of the amazing speakers in the ParentinginPlaceMasterclass.com. Thank you so much for listening today! You rock! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Greetings! In today's conversation my guest, Jessica Lahey, and I discuss some big and weighty issues… This would be a good episode to listen to away from sensitive ears or wearing headphones. (It's an awesome episode, just awesome for us grown-ups : ) I feel an immense sense of gratitude to Jess for coming back on the show (she is a returning champion! Click this link to listen to our first conversation: https://weturnedoutokay.com/054.) Jess is the author of the new book The Addiction Inoculation (which you can order by clicking here! Squee!) Her ideas on educating kids, fostering a sense of trust while keeping children accountable to themselves, and her fearless examination of her own journey with substance abuse are what my gratitude is based in. But Jess brings so much more to our conversation. She's funny, not afraid to laugh at herself, and super supportive of her audience, her family, and fellow writers. Talking with Jess is a learning opportunity about: – What gaslighting is and how it hurts children – How we can protect our kids against addiction – How we can develop the most important habits (spoiler: it's through play and gamifying) ALSO! It's the first in our new segment, Triumphs & Misdemeanors, where we get to hear your voices and either celebrate how you have knocked it out of the park – or commune with you if you share an epic fail… Listen after my conversation with Jess to hear today's Triumph, and so you can write down the phone number and contribute your own Triumph, or Misdemeanor! Click weturnedoutokay.com/359 to view this conversation in video, and for the bazillion links too! Key Links Click here for Jess's new book, The Addiction Inoculation – you are going to love it! Celebrate my birthday with me on Monday evening April 19! I'm hosting a Wisdom/Insight Party, the chance to be in community together, learn from each other and support each other after more than a year in the pandemic. It's completely free with no strings attached. Just come and enjoy! Invitations are going out to those of you signed up for my free newsletter, so click this link to sign up: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly Click this link for the masterclass I'm teaching, "What's the pandemic doing to my child?"… https://weturnedoutokay.com/pandemicclass Click here for Jess's blog post, "Something Had to Give," about the alcohol addiction she confronted as she started writing her NYT bestseller, The Gift of Failure Click here for the book Quit Like a Woman by Holly Whitaker Click this link for my conversation with Ingrid Ali and Hamilton Graziano, the biracial couple Ben and I struck up a friendship with while we were on our second honeymoon, and they were on their first: https://weturnedoutokay.com/176 Click here for the Being Black at School organization begin by Kelly Wickham Hearst To help black children not feel gaslit Click here for the show Hot Ones with Sean Evans Click here for Shane Lopez's book, Making Hope Happen Click here for the documentary Follow Through, about a student of Jess's Click here for On Being 40 (ish) , and anthology which includes a piece from Jess Click here for the #AmWriting episode where Jess and cohost KJ brought me onto their show! Click here for OkayCon 2020, the Free virtual Summit, where I brought you 10 great conversations about getting through the pandemic (recorded in March and April 2020). Get my first book FREE… It's called Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, and parents find it extremely helpful in getting good behavior from their kids! Click this link: https://weturnedoutokay.com/pdnt Thank you so much for listening today! You rock! __________________________________________ This episode is located on the web at: https://weturnedoutokay.com/358 This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Greetings! Today I get to share a powerful conversation with Chloee, my one to one coaching client. Chloee has a toddler and the challenges she faces in caring for her daughter are likely concerns that you also have, regardless of the age of your children. Here's what you'll learn by listening: – How to address the challenges that Covid brings – How to make a crucial choice, one that we all must make every day – How to deal with temper tantrums, especially when we must say "no" to our kids I encourage you to be coached while you listen. By that I mean: when I ask Chloee a question, hit pause. Consider the question for yourself and your situation. Even, write down your responses. (And if you want to experience the power of coaching with me, I am opening up some spaces for a few completely free, no-strings-attached, deep and magical coaching conversations! If you'd like one of them to be yours, write me, karen (at) weturnedoutokay (dot) com !) I'm excited to listen back to this one with my Mom Hat on, because I'm sure I'll learn so much from this talk with Chloee about how to handle the concerns she raises with my own kids (who are 16 and 20!) This is a digest episode, which means that you should stay tuned after my conversation with Chloee! Listen for: – How to handle information overload – A new program I'm offering, "What's the pandemic doing to my child?" – An update – including the phone number! – for our new podcast segment, Triumphs and Misdemeanors (this segment starts in our next episode! Squee!) What's the Pandemic Doing to My Child? – A new program I'm offering you might be interested in… Working with private clients over these last several months, I’ve heard again and again of worries about what the pandemic is doing to children. As a child development expert, not only do I know the answer to that; I know what to do about it. Beginning in May 2021 I will offer a five-week program covering: – The toll that long-term confinement and sequestration from others can cause – Strategies to handle this long-term confinement and limit the negative impacts – Creating a home environment that supports the social and emotional development your child needs – Dealing with reentry including handling anxiety, bullies, and other social concerns All along we’ll be diving into your specific questions and issues. To make absolutely sure that you have a plan going forward we’ll spend our last class time together in a Q&A, so you can have all your concerns addressed and questions answered. We will even have an accelerator call – an extra session to spend together – before the program begins in May so I can be sure I’m addressing your concerns and giving you all the support I can. If that sounds good to you, I’m offering a special earlybird price… Sign up for my FREE weekly newsletter to be notified of this and other programs I offer: Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly Cheers! And thanks for listening!! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Greetings! In today's episode we examine the process of getting what our heart longs for, in a coaching conversation with one of my 1-to-1 coaching clients! As you'll hear, Regan is a mom and an attorney, currently (along with her husband) working from home while their children are home as well, in in virtual/hybrid school. Regan gets courageous and vulnerable with us today. She shares the dream of her heart for her kids… and what she's doing each and every day to help make that dream come true. In our conversation you'll learn: – How to get your heart's desire – The importance of big dreams and tiny action steps – Making both your superpower AND the dark side of that superpower work for you in achieving your dreams Lately I've been asking coaching clients "what makes my coaching magical?" (You'll hear Regan and I talk about this in this episode.) The answers I'm getting back are fascinating – it turns out that something I'm really good at is helping parents stop treading the conventional path and do what works for THEM, and their family. We all have dreams. What are you doing to make yours reality? If you're ready to go on the adventure of your life with me as your guide, write me, and let's talk! Plus… This is a digest episode, so in addition to our conversation I'm bringing you a story that I recently sent to the folks in my free email newsgroup! Click this link to get weekly letters like this delivered right to your inbox: weturnedoutokay.com/weekly I share about the "Parents Working from Home" free virtual summit that I'm honored to be included in (happening this coming Saturday 2/27, 10 AM to 1 PM EST). And, I give you an update on a new segment of this podcast: it's called Triumphs and Misdemeanors, and I hope you will be a part of it! Join us! Key Links: Click here for psychologist – and friend-of-the-podcast – Shannon Connery's recent episode of her Fix Yourself podcast, in which she talks about energy level and a way to think of it that's been really helpful for me recently. Maybe it will be helpful for you, too! Click here for the weekly planner that Regan and I discuss in this episode. The planner was once exclusively for people in my Ninja Parenting Community, but I am sharing it here with you today in hopes that it will help you to see your entire week in one half sheet piece of printer paper. Enjoy! Click here to sign up for the free Parenting While Working from Home Virtual Summit taking place Saturday February 27 from 10 AM to 1 PM EST. (Also I'll be stopping by the Facebook group associated with the Virtual Summit between noon and 1 PM EST. Maybe I'll see you there!) Click here to read the story that I share today in the latter part of this episode, called "What my Italian relatives know about the off-season." (This is also where you can see the picture I mention in today's episode, me in Venice in 1992, wearing *quite* a sweater : ) Click the following link to view the show notes from today's episode on my website: weturnedoutokay.com/357 _________________________________________________ Get my best advice for handling the challenges that come up on your parenting journey, through the We Turned Out Okay podcast: Listen in your favorite podcatcher! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe