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I'm thrilled to bring you this conversation with world-class coach Mike Harris! (FYI: There is some mild adult language in here, so maybe listen away from sensitive ears or use ear buds : )  Mike is currently writing a book on the value he holds most dear, freedom. He's a deep thinker who understands the importance of irreverence – in fact I almost called today's episode after something Mike says in our conversation: "There is a certain irreverence in having choice." He brings playful energy, a fascinating life journey that brought him where he is today, and at heart a vision for how we can all enjoy the pants off of our lives! Here are some other mic drops you'll hear Mike share: "The world is skewed toward a linear expression of how things are supposed to go." "What if play weren't a reward in a transaction?" "What if we lived our entire lives in the value of freedom?" It's so good! A couple notes: 1. This was originally supposed to be two episodes… I chose to keep the tape running, instead bringing you one longer one. If the ideas are flying at you fast and furious, and you need to pause and come back, I wanted to give you the choice of when and how to do that. But I bet that you, like me, will dive in and this time will go so quickly! 2. Fellow world-class coach Marilyn Dollar was planning to join us but there was a technological snafu… You'll hear us talk about her, and while she doesn't make it into today's conversation she will be coming on the show. So stay tuned : ) I hope you love this conversation as much as I did! Here are the links that come up in today's episode: Mike's home-on-the-web, MikeFHarris.com Books that have had a huge influence on Mike: Crazy Good by Steve Chandler Tao Te Ching Books that have had a huge influence on me: The Courage to Heal The Jeeves and Wooster books by PG Woodhouse (I cite one in this conversation, The Jeeves Omnibus. But they're all amazing) Office Space, the movie 100 Truths You Will Learn Too Late, an amazing book Cory Wong, the awesome song by Vulfpeck featuring guitarist Cory Wong Episode 363, my conversation with Washington Post Parent Columnist Meghan Leahey Episode 48, my conversation with author and poet Daniel Wolff This episode's home on the web: weturnedoutokay.com/371 Listen to We Turned Out Okay in your favorite podcatcher! Here are a few choice spots: Apple Podcasts… http://bit.ly/WTOOApple Spotify… http://bit.ly/WTOOSpotify Stitcher Podcasts… http://bit.ly/WTOOStitcher This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Maybe it's not quite true, the title of this episode. Maybe today's value isn't quite as all-encompassing as that makes it sound. But it sure comes close for me. We started this series back in episode one with a question, and I want to wrap up in the same way. Today's is: If there was only one thing that we needed, what would it be? Thank you so much for listening! This has been an exercise in vulnerability for me, sharing these values with you. It means SO much – more than you will ever know – to have you along for this ride. I am full of love and appreciation for you, in this moment and always Karen PS I have an invitation for you: if you haven't already, get to know me a little better by signing up for my weekly newsletter. It's free, and I promise to hold your email address – and thus your heart – safely, in both my hands… Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up : ) This episode's home-on-the-web: https://weturnedoutokay.com/370 The link to the fourth episode in this series (this is the fifth, and final)… https://weturnedoutokay.com/369 Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/364 for Janine Halloran's most recent appearance on We Turned Out Okay! It was super good, and perhaps not coincidentally about ADHD as a superpower – that's what Janine often tells her clients, when they get this diagnosis. Listen to We Turned Out Okay in your favorite podcatcher! Here are a few choice spots: Apple Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOApple Spotify... http://bit.ly/WTOOSpotify Stitcher Podcasts... Http://bit.ly/WTOOStitcher This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

If I know you – and if you're a longtime listener – I bet you saw the words "not play" and immediately said "D'oh! Where Karen is concerned, play is always a thing!" But not today. No, today's value eats play for breakfast. Thank you so much for listening! I am glad you're here Karen PS I have an invitation for you: if you haven't already, get to know me a little better by signing up for my weekly newsletter. It's free, and I promise to hold your email address – and thus your heart – safely, in both my hands… Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up : ) This episode's home-on-the-web: https://weturnedoutokay.com/369 The link to the third episode in this series (this is the fourth)… https://weturnedoutokay.com/368 Click here for the Mindfulness Coach app by the American Veterans Administration. It's AMAZING. Listen to We Turned Out Okay in your favorite podcatcher! Here are a few choice spots: Apple Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOApple Spotify... http://bit.ly/WTOOSpotify Stitcher Podcasts... Http://bit.ly/WTOOStitcher This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

I'm playing my little game again today, trying to guess what you'll think the next value in our series is… (For those of you keeping score, this is Part 3 of 5.) Today's is something even cooler, even bigger, and even more mind-blowing than exhilaration. Which is saying something, because Exhilaration is my 2021 Word of the Year! Thank you so much for listening! I am glad you're here Karen PS I have an invitation for you: if you haven't already, get to know me a little better by signing up for my weekly newsletter. It's free, and I promise to hold your email address – and thus your heart – safely, in both my hands… Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up : ) This episode's home-on-the-web: https://weturnedoutokay.com/368 The link to the second episode in this series (this is the third)… https://weturnedoutokay.com/367 Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/360 for my conversation with the amazing Julie Lythcott-Haims, which sometimes I still listen to and feel knocked on the head all over again – in a good way. Listen to We Turned Out Okay in your favorite podcatcher! Here are a few choice spots: Apple Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOApple Spotify... http://bit.ly/WTOOSpotify Stitcher Podcasts... Http://bit.ly/WTOOStitcher This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

So, as I'm doing this series on the values that I hold most dear, I'm playing a little game with myself. I'm imagining you, asking yourself "can I guess today's value?" All I can say is, if you guess creativity, you are wrong… But not completely wrong. Thank you so much for listening! I am glad you're here Karen PS I have an invitation for you: if you haven't already, get to know me a little better by signing up for my weekly newsletter. It's free, and I promise to hold your email address – and thus your heart – safely, in both my hands… Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up : ) This episode's home-on-the-web: https://weturnedoutokay.com/367 The link to the first episode in this series (this is the second)… https://weturnedoutokay.com/366 Click here for the link to the TED talk that I reference today, called The Birth of a Word. It is awesome and you've got to listen to it! Listen to We Turned Out Okay in your favorite podcatcher! Here are a few choice spots: Apple Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOApple Spotify... http://bit.ly/WTOOSpotify Stitcher Podcasts... Http://bit.ly/WTOOStitcher This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

I am excited to bring you into this, the first in a five-part series on really important subject – and a fun one too! But I don't want to say too much about it. I want you to listen, and see if what you hear resonates. For this first part though, I do have one question: What should you be, in a world where you can be anything? Thank you so much for listening! I am glad you're here Karen PS I have an invitation for you: if you haven't already, get to know me a little better by signing up for my weekly newsletter. It's free, and I promise to hold your email address – and thus your heart – safely, in both my hands… Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up : ) This episode's home-on-the-web: https://weturnedoutokay.com/366 Listen to We Turned Out Okay in your favorite podcatcher! Here are a few choice spots: Apple Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOApple Spotify... http://bit.ly/WTOOSpotify Stitcher Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOStitcher This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

"Is this something that I care about, or is this something that someone else thinks I should care about?" – Shari Medini That's what I almost called today's episode (but used another excellent quote from today's guest for brevity's sake : ) If you want a conversation about handling all the stuff that is flying at you… If you want to feel better about the choices that you have that maybe you didn't even realize… You will love this talk with Shari Medini, one half of the duo at Adore Them Parenting! Shari and her cofounder Karissa Tunis have written a great book, Parenting While Working from Home, and offer their help and support to parents from their website. They brought me into their virtual summit this winter – you can hear the audio from my presentation at the end of today's episode in fact, presenting on a subject that is near and dear to my heart! I know you're going to love our conversation! Video of my conversation with Shari and my presentation for the Adore Them Summit: https://weturnedoutokay.com/365 Cheers! And thank you for listening! Karen PS I have an invitation for you: if you haven't already, get to know me a little better by signing up for my weekly newsletter. It's free, and I promise to hold your email address – and thus your heart – in both my hands… The newsletter is where I share my best essays, stories, and tools. Because it's more personal, it's even better than the podcast! Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up : ) Listen to We Turned Out Okay in your favorite podcatcher! Here are a few choice spots: Apple Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOApple Spotify... http://bit.ly/WTOOSpotify Stitcher Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOStitcher This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Greetings! Yes, on its surface this is a conversation (with 6-time returning champion Janine Halloran! So excited to bring her back to you!) about ADHD. But it's about so much more. It's about expectations, and how they create the roles our children inhabit. It's about us, the roles we inhabit, and how we got here. It's about what we can do that would be detrimental, or helpful – again, not just with the concerns of ADHD. But with so much more. I'm excited to welcome you into this conversation, and I'm grateful that you are here! Key links and video located at https://weturnedoutokay.com/364 Key Links Click here for the video that I share in the intro, in which six photographers were told six different things about the same man – and as a result of their different expectations, they produce six completely different portraits of that man. Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/191 for the conversation I share about in the intro, me talking with my 13-year-old son… He accuses me of being "Pollyanna-ish." It's a fascinating chat even if you don't happen to be this boy's mother! Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up for my weekly newsletters… Each is an invitation to go deeper with me. To get to know me better, to correspond, and to get support for your challenges. Completely free, just bring your open heart Click http://copingskillsforkids.com to check out all of the useful and fun stuff that Janine is doing! Click here for the amazing Rick Riordan book series about Percy Jackson and the Olympians. Click here for an article about one of Dav Pilkey's Captain Underpants books, which the author withdrew from publication recently. Click here for the Angst movie. Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/194 for my conversation with awesome author Joshilyn Jackson, a New York Times best-selling fiction author (who shares on my show that she didn't feel empathy until she became a parent. A fascinating conversation!) Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/324 for my conversation with Janine during OkayCon 2020, the video series I did to support parents during the pandemic… It was called "Why your child's behavior may be worse now than usual, and what to do about it, with Janine Halloran, LMHC" Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/300 to hear my roundtable conversation with Janine, today's guest, and special-needs preschool teacher Tricia Tomaso. Two of my favorite humans on the whole planet, together in a fabulous roundtable discussion! Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/361 for the first in this ADHD series, called "ADHD is not a result of parenting" – talking with pediatric occupational therapist Holly Peretz today!" Listen to We Turned Out Okay in your favorite podcatcher! Here are a few choice spots: Apple Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOApple Spotify... http://bit.ly/WTOOSpotify Stitcher Podcasts... http://bit.ly/WTOOStitcher This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Greetings! THERE ARE SWEARS TODAY… So be sure to listen away from sensitive ears : ) My guest, Washington Post Parent Columnist Meghan Leahey, recorded this conversation with me back in February… and it feels even more relevant now, than when we recorded. This episode will help you: – Put important stuff in perspective – Lay to rest a childhood demon or two – Appreciate the absurdity inherent in our lives right now Watch our conversation by going to https://weturnedoutokay.com/363 Key links just below. Cheers! And thank you so much for listening! Key Links Connect with Meghan – and get her book, Parenting Outside the Lines! – at MLparentcoach.com Today, the Parent Encouragement Program comes up because Meghan use to be part of that program! Check it out at https://pepparent.org/ My conversation with Katherine Reynolds Lewis (another Parent Encouragement Program alum) comes up today… Listen by going to https://weturnedoutokay.com/351 The We Turned Out Okay Playbook, my subscription-only, quality monthly playbook for parents, has gone digital! You can now get this essential tool for parental well-being either in your physical snail mailbox, or digitally! Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook for details, and to subscribe. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

What's next? For many, that feels like the question of the moment. As I recorded this episode, there were some hopeful notes in the air, but also some serious uncertainty. A little more than a year ago everyone's lives were completely disrupted, and the stress and worry and fear that we've lived with for so long feels impenetrable. What's next? This may be a frightening question. But it's also an exhilarating one, when looked at in a certain light. If any or all of that is on your mind, I hope my conversation with author and community-builder Gail Clanton is helpful for you. Gail brings wonderful energy and ideas to your ears today! You will learn: – how to tap into your own creativity – how to foster community, even with the way that we have been living since early 2020 – 3 ways to share your stories It's a fantastic conversation, and I'm so grateful to Gail for coming on the show! You can watch the video of our conversation by going to https://weturnedoutokay.com/362 Key Links just below. Thanks for reading! Cheers! Key Links Gail has just published a beautiful memoir, Sparkle in the Rain; click here to see! Her anthology Living in the Key of Joy comes out next month – click here to check it out : ) The Parenting in Place Masterclass comes up in our conversation; this masterclass has been a lifesaver for me and many others over the past year. Click this link to check it out: http://parentinginplacemasterclass.com A couple writing resources that come up in our conversation today: temi.com KDP In the preshow I share about two recent episodes that have helped me figure out "what's next"… My conversation with Julie Lythcott-Haimes in episode 360 of the podcast My conversation with coaching client Kate about pandemic survivor's guilt and so much more, episode 360.5 of the podcast The We Turned Out Okay Playbook, my subscription-only, quality monthly playbook for parents, is going digital! You can now get this essential tool for parental well-being either in your physical snail mailbox, or digitally, if you'd rather enjoy a digital, than physical, copy! Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook for details, and to subscribe. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe