ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

Throughout the day you are transitioning from waking up, heading to work, coming home, going to bed to doing it all over again. The heading out times always seem to be easier, except for you parents of little ones that are leaving for the first time and there is crying to no end. Walking in the door time can be a "witching hour" for you. Whether you’ve been away for a few hours, or a few months or even just locked in your office during the day. Transitioning from your work day and walking in the door has a huge impact on your marriage. It’s the difference between a screaming match and cuddling, the difference between the silent treatment and a goodnight kiss, the difference between strife and peace. Understanding  how you transition and how your spouse transitions is key for your marital growth. It allows the two of you to give each other space based on what works for the two of you, but the only way that you are able to learn this is if you TALK about it. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about walking in the door from the end of the work day back into your marriage and family life. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags  Your marriage can be better than ever. With effective communication you will… Stop feeling angry and frustrated with your spouse (and avoid this affecting other areas of your life), develop lasting solutions for your marriage so you can get through anything together, restore honesty, openness and transparency with each other so you can live together with love and trust, but most importantly... create the “happily ever after” that you both deserve. Grab He Zigs, She Zags today and get started! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The idea of running below empty is nothing new. What is new is how running below empty is impacting marriages. Possible even having a negative affect on you right now. When you are below empty what suffers the most is not your job or your obligations to others... ...instead what often suffers are your personal relationships. Specifically the one with your spouse. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about when you are running below empty and the impact that doing too much has on your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Romance the Write Way Imagine your spouse finding your love letter placed under their pillow one night and the surprised look on their face. Imagine their eyes lighting up as they open it and read the perfectly crafted message from their caring wife or husband. Imagine knowing what to say and how to say it AND having the time to make it all happen. We know you are saying YES, show me how. Check out Romance the Write Way for all of the details. 3 Ways to Create a More Intimate Bedroom Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It can be hard to step out of your comfort zone, to try something new, to be adventurous. This can be as simple as changing your hair color (Alisa went RED once), to eating at a new restaurant, to wearing new clothes, shoes, or trying a different wardrobe style, to experimenting with a new position sexually or even GASP a new way to initiate. Your mind might be racing with questions, such as: How will I be received? What will he or she think of me? Will I be able to pull this off? What if it doesn’t work? What if I am embarrassed? This time you are pushing past all of these questions and putting on the trenchcoat and high heels. Figuratively for some of you and literally for others. You're stepping out of your comfort zone. You challenge yourself to do something you’ve never done so that you can experience something you never have. You chose to be strong in a situation that may have caused you to feel week. Each time you experience a new level of sexual intimacy with your spouse because you stepped out of your comfort zone. Each step is a baby step that leads you to be courageous in your life and your marriage. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about stepping out of what you’ve always done to surprise your spouse when you initiate sex. EPISODE SPONSOR | Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation Discover How Small (And Large) Breaches Of Trust Damage Your Marriage And How To Handle Them In A Healthy Way. Trust is the foundation of every marriage. But over the years little things eat away at your relationship. Little things you might not even notice. So you have to ask yourself... is your Trust Tank at 100%? Learn how-to rebuild the trust in your marriage during the Trust Me! Online Workshop. 21 Ways to Initiate Sex with Your Spouse Connect Like You Did When You First Met Strategic Marriage Coaching Session Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Distance in your marriage can be tough. This can happen in your home or it could be when you and your spouse are miles apart. This can be for work, family illness, deployment, moving to a new city, or any other reason. As much as the old saying goes, distance makes the heart grow fonder, this usually isn't the case. Distance can cause heartache, anxiety, frustration and loneliness. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about ways that you can strengthen your marriage no matter if you're together daily or living apart for a period of time. EPISODE SPONSOR | Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation Discover How Small (And Large) Breaches Of Trust Damage Your Marriage And How To Handle Them In A Healthy Way. Trust is the foundation of every marriage. But over the years little things eat away at your relationship. Little things you might not even notice. So you have to ask yourself... is your Trust Tank at 100%? Learn how-to rebuild the trust in your marriage during the Trust Me! Online Workshop. Romance the Write Way Qalo Rings Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You've decided that it's time. It's time to change because what's been happening isn't what you want to continue doing. You've decided to make some changes. Well... ...your spouse has just noticed that something is up and is asking, "Why are you acting like this?" You know why and yet it's a bit difficult to explain to your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens in your marriage dynamic when you start to work on yourself and your spouse starts wondering why you are acting differently. EPISODE SPONSOR | Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation Discover How Small (And Large) Breaches Of Trust Damage Your Marriage And How To Handle Them In A Healthy Way. Trust is the foundation of every marriage. But over the years little things eat away at your relationship. Little things you might not even notice. So you have to ask yourself... is your Trust Tank at 100%? Learn how-to rebuild the trust in your marriage during the Trust Me! Online Workshop. Question Behind the Question by John G. Miller Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Preparation is one of the biggest gifts that you and your spouse can give to each other and your family. And yet it’s hard to think about our own mortality. People often say that it’s the teenagers that think that they are invincible but in reality most of you think you have all the time in the world. Be prepared. When you have a document, Our Family Emergency List, you are setting yourself and your family up for a smoother transition. Not having this type of information prepared and easily accessible can leave those left behind not only grieving but frustrated, scared and lost as they try and piece things together. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what you need to do to be prepared in the event of a family emergency. EPISODE SPONSOR | Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation Discover How Small (And Large) Breaches Of Trust Damage Your Marriage And How To Handle Them In A Healthy Way. Trust is the foundation of every marriage. But over the years little things eat away at your relationship. Little things you might not even notice. So you have to ask yourself... is your Trust Tank at 100%? Learn how-to rebuild the trust in your marriage during the Trust Me! Online Workshop. Our Family Emergency List Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hope is in short supply in our world. From news reports talking about all of the ugliness to televisions shows that are completed scripted to bring you down. Here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage it has been our goal to bring you hope each and every week. Sharing with you how your marriage can not only survive but thrive after challenges as well as for the long haul. Every hug is a story of hope, every picture on the love you guys wall of fame, ALMOST every review on iTunes (there are a few that just come from the haters) but overall it's about hope and we love hearing about your stories. It's time to put legs on the hope you have. Hope without action is just a fantasy, it’s a wish, a want. Hope with action is a force. It’s time to take action in your life and your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the ray of hope you have in your marriage and using it as a force to create transformation. EPISODE SPONSOR | Contract of Reconciliation You’ve had enough of your spouse’s antics. The word “Separation” or “Divorce” have been said in hurtful ways and now you are really considering one or both. The Contract of Reconciliation is for when you feel you need to separate to gain clarity in your marriage with the goal of being together again. 170 - What's Wrong With My Marriage... I AM Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sprinters are amazing at short bursts of energy for a short period of time. However, if your vows were anything like ours they had something like “as long as life shall last” (until death do us part, forever, etc). That is not a short period of time, that’s not until the next commercial break, or until this gets too hard. Marathoners or distance runners know that they have to pace themselves. They're in it to run the race. For them to complete it they need know that... Nutrition matters Supporters are key Planning makes a difference Shoes and clothes will impact the results. The same thing plays out in your marriage... instead of all of the different facets of a race, it’s knowing what is important for you to run the race. These include your: Emotional Intimacy Physical Intimacy Spiritual Intimacy Recreational Intimacy Financial Intimacy In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what's you need to do to run the race as you view your marriage as a marathon not a sprint. EPISODE SPONSOR | Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking the Intimacy in Your Marriage Remember back to your wedding day.  We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt.  Your marriage was going to last forever.  You were sure of that.  And then…reality set in.  You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while.  You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same.  Is it just a part of life?  Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes?  You don’t have to! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Looking at the world, especially your marriage, from only your point of view is short sighted. By doing this... you are only taking your feelings, wants and desires into account. Over time this lack of perspective can lead to little consideration from the perspective of your spouse. What they may be going through, how the world looks to them, what they are struggling with. It's time to have some introspection time about being able to see what your marriage looks like from your spouse's eyes. Here’s the thing. Many of us are horrible at seeing things from another’s point of view. We are inherently selfish and use our perceptions, our point of view as the point of view that we focus on...this can lead to a short sighted view of your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about looking at your marriage through your spouse’s eyes, not just through your own narrow lens. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags  Your marriage can be better than ever... With effective communication you will… Stop feeling angry and frustrated with your spouse (and avoid this affecting other areas of your life), develop lasting solutions for your marriage so you can get through anything together, restore honesty, openness and transparency with each other so you can live together with love and trust, but most importantly... create the “happily ever after” that you both deserve. Grab He Zigs, She Zags today and get started! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Having sex is a beautiful experience that you and your spouse get to enjoy together. Unfortunately, there are times when having sex goes by the way side. It's at this moment when you realize that it's time to change it up. The 7 Days of Sex Challenge is just the way to have a new experience and learn about yourself and your marriage. Here's a few things you can expect to learn during a challenge: It’s a way to put each other first, even for us there can be times where we take each other for granted. It requires that you focus on all aspects of intimacy for a concentrated amount of time. This allows you to see where you need to pay more attention and be more intentional in your marriage. It’s fun, challenging and a goal you complete together. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the three marriage lessons they have learned from completing their fifth 7 days of sex challenge over the last six years. EPISODE SPONSOR - 7 Days of Sex Challenge: Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage Life is stressful, but when you are too busy (or tired) to find some time for sexual intimacy, it can really seem unbearable. The 7 Days of Sex Challenge makes it easy for busy couples like you to find some fun time together because it ELIMINATES the stress of figuring out what you need to do for 7 days that will be new and creative to try. Meet Jeff & Mandy from Marriage More Meet Casey & Meygan from Marriage365 Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices