ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

Are you living in your own little bubble with your head down, focused only on yourself, your needs, your wants... And yet your spouse may be there wondering if you even know what’s happening to them, what’s going on at work or at home, or how a recent event has impacted them. You haven't taken time to look up recently and in doing so you've forgotten that you are in a marriage with another person. Your community is being impacted. You have stopped seeing the needs of others are are ONLY focused on YOUR needs. Marriage was never designed to be a ME focused relationship. It was designed to bring two people together to be better and stronger than they would be on their own. The only way that you can be better together is if you shift your focus to look up and look at your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s time to turn your eyes skyward and look up to what’s ahead in your marriage. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Defeated. Worn out. Frustrated. Any of these and many more emotions can get you to a place where you have told yourself that you can't do anything right. Nope. Nothing. This is a lie and four words that will bankrupt you and your marriage. Before you say these words to yourself make sure you use the "3 P's". Pause. Pray. Proceed. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about getting past a place of disconnection especially when you say, "I can’t do anything right" to yourself and to your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs,She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Marriage counselling professionals agreed on the number one cause of divorce… “Poor Communication” but how do you get better communication skills and save your marriage? Your communication solution is He Zigs, She Zags! He Zigs, She Zags is amazing! There is no fluff, no unrealistic expectations, just down to earth, practical advice on having an incredible, Christ centered marriage. —Hannah W., Georgia Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you lost the spark, emotional, physical, or sexual, in your marriage? Has the fire you once had burning strong is now a flicker and dimming more and more with every day that passes? If the fire isn’t as hot as you would like it’s time to fan the flames and get it going again. For a fire to burn you need to fan the flames with oxygen, heat and fuel. It's time for you to pour each of these into your marriage and if one of these is missing you will have a difficult time trying to fan the flames of your sexual intimacy. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the 3 things that every fire needs and how you can apply these to the fan the flames needed in your bedroom. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Days of Sex Challenge The 7 Days of Sex Challenge makes it easy for busy couples like you to find some fun time together because it ELIMINATES the stress of figuring out what you need to do for 7 days that will be new and creative to try. You really HAVE to try new things in your sex life or you’ll both get bored. This boredom leads to your love life being no less stressful than the rest of your life. Start your challenge TODAY! [VIDEO] Look Into Each Other's Eyes Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

According to a 2014 article in The Economist, the average length of marriage in the USA is 8 years. When you factor in that many couples will wait 2-3 years after marriage to have kids you can see that there is a need to better understand the years and decade after having kids. The math from above if it plays out means that many divorces are happening midway through having kids introduced to the marriage. So... ...if this is the case then you need to be equipped and ready for the decade that follows your first child. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about making it through the first decade of parenting stronger than you started. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Days of Sex Challenge The 7 Days of Sex Challenge makes it easy for busy couples like you to find some fun time together because it ELIMINATES the stress of figuring out what you need to do for 7 days that will be new and creative to try. You really HAVE to try new things in your sex life or you’ll both get bored. This boredom leads to your love life being no less stressful than the rest of your life. Start your challenge TODAY! 193 - Divorce Is Off The Table Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The quickie can be an amazing sexual experience in your marriage if you know the secret to enjoying it together. In our own marriage, our sex life can be a bit off during the summer months. Different schedules, kids are home, vacations, and just hanging out. This change in seasons can be challenging if you and your spouse don’t discuss what is happening. When expectations are kept to yourself it sets the two of you up for frustration and failure. Not something either of you want. In this week's Tony and Alisa talk about setting up your quickie expectations and the necessity for both of you to enjoy a quickie in different seasons of your marriage. Episode Sponsor - The Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex Have you been at a loss for new ways to initiate sex? Do you do the same thing every time? It’s time to spice things up and get creative. Pick up your FREE copy of the The Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex. Scheduling Sex and The Intimacy Lifestyle Sexpectations Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you find yourself spending more and more time or being more and more distracted there is something going on. Maybe society wouldn’t call it a drug of choice. Maybe you even joke about “having a little problem”. The truth is that these choices can take you away from your spouse and pull you out of your marriage. You are “busy” and there are many demands on your time and yet you have a choice. Every relationship has it’s issues and there will be times and seasons where you will have to go through this with your spouse. In each time you get to determine how you choose to act. Numbing yourself with these other behaviors instead of dealing with them head on, doesn’t make the problem go away it only serves to postpone the inevitable that things are going to get worse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the seemingly little things that can have an impact on your marriage also known as your drug of choice. EPISODE SPONSOR – ***Flash Sale*** Connect Like You Did When You First Met Kindle Edition Packed with questions to get the conversation started in any area of marriage this is a must have for every couple. No more just asking “how was your day” it’s time to dig deep and move past the surface talk. What better way to do this than have 101 questions to ask each other. Grab Connect Like You Did When You First Met for $2.99 during this flash sale. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Financial stress is an intimacy killer. Plain and simple. It can keep you up at night and it keeps you worrying during the day. It’s hard to let down your guard when you are worried about paying the bills or having food on the table. The fear keeps you and your spouse from living the life, the marriage you were meant to have. Today it's time to make the decision that you are going to tell your money what to do. You are going to live an extraordinary life and it’s starts with making a change to the little expenses. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about you, your money and how getting your financial intimacy on the same page is important for your marriage, your bottom line and will allow you to have money in the bank. EPISODE SPONSOR – Connect Like You Did When You First Met Learn the most relevant and critical questions most of our couple clients have had to deal with. We categorized these questions by topic and gave them a natural, orderly sequential flow. The result? An easy to use, handy reference tool. A tool that will dramatically change the course and tone of those most critical discussions you need to have with your spouse… forever. HD AMped Antennae Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It starts with the sweet talk. Then it leads to both of you romancing each other all through the day. And then other times you just want a quickie. In all truth there is some form of communication going on between the two of you to get to the point that you are deciding to have sex. Foreplay starts (however short or long) and then it stops... Once you're past that point all there is between the two of you are a few moans or groans and the sigh of "is this over yet". The thing is that communication doesn’t end with foreplay. Each of you have to be giving each other feedback as to what is really good and what needs to be done differently. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it is important for both you and your spouse to share what you like after foreplay is over. Episode Sponsor - The Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex Have you been at a loss for new ways to initiate sex? Do you do the same thing every time? It’s time to spice things up and get creative. Pick up your FREE copy of the The Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There may have been seasons in your marriage when neither one of you stood up to lead the family. You, your spouse and your marriage were like a boat with no rudder, just going around and around in circles trying to get somewhere but going nowhere. The definition of insanity is, doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. If you aren't sure when, why or how to lead your marriage then it's time to begin learning. Your marriage needs leadership. You both have different skills and abilities that contribute to the marriage. Your strengths matter, learn what they are and then use them to both of your advantage to lead your marriage. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about ways that you can lead and share the leadership in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Sex Without Sheets Online Marriage Conference When you sign up for Sex Without Sheets you and your spouse will join the leading marriage experts who will be sharing proven tips to help you communicate your sexual needs to your spouse, the must- do steps for reigniting your romance, the guaranteed method to ensure you’re having enough sex, and so much more! Sex Without Sheets is being held on June 6, 2015. Sign up Today! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You spend time, effort and energy in maintaining your stuff and yet, you are not giving your marriage that same courtesy. Your expectations for your marriage is so much more. The problem is that you are not giving it the tools that you and your spouse need to be successful. In your life you may see the doctor once a year, go to the dentist for regular cleanings and get the oil changed on your vehicles every 3-5,000 miles. And then there’s your marriage... When was the last time you did some maintenance work, for example an oil change, on your marriage? This isn't about when the crisis hits, like when your engine seizes on the side of the road, but the regular maintenance to make sure that your marriage is going well. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the importance of regular maintenance, that oil change, in your marriage EPISODE SPONSOR | Sex Without Sheets Online Marriage Conference When you sign up for Sex Without Sheets you and your spouse will join the leading marriage experts who will be sharing proven tips to help you communicate your sexual needs to your spouse, the must- do steps for reigniting your romance, the guaranteed method to ensure you’re having enough sex, and so much more! Sex Without Sheets is being held on June 6, 2015. Sign up Today! 3 Tips to Read the Bible with Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices