ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

Strength training your marriage isn't just about you as an individual. It's about strength training your marriage so that you and your spouse create a healthy, vibrant and growing marriage. The first 11 years of our marriage. we didn’t do much strength training in our marriage. We read a few devotionals, we had done a few small groups at church for married couples, occasionally we went out on date night or got a weekend by ourselves but that was about it. The foundation of our marriage was awful: distance, disconnected, and loneliness. When we decided to start strength training our marriage muscles a shift occurred. A shift that let’s us look at each day with excitement, with expectation that the best is yet to come. The same thing can happen in your marriage. Find your personal marriage trainer (hopefully us), so you can live your marriage with a plan, a purpose and excitement for what's to come. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why strength training isn’t just something for the gym but rather something that your marriage needs as well. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Financial Peace University by Dave Ramsey One-on-One Coaching  Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Husbands get a bum rap in media, books, movies, tv--out of touch, unfeeling, sexed up, jerks. And yet your husband your husband is a good husband. You may look at yourself and even say that you are a good husband and one that doesn't even compare to how the media portrays you. Your're a husband who does dishes, change diapers, makes dinner and much more. A Husband who rubs your wife's feet, starts a bath plus you join in and sends love letters to your wife throughout the year. Is every husband like this? No. But every husband has the potential. It’s a matter of unlocking this in your marriage and both a husband and a wife can do this. When this happens a husband understands his role as the rock for his wife, children and for those around. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of acknowledging and giving praise to your husband because a good husband isn’t so hard to find. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar. Taking Charge of Your Fertility 56 Simple (But Super Effective) Compliments To Encourage Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Making love to your spouse is one of the most intimate times you two have together. It's a time when everything else falls away while you bask in each others arms. Now when you make love twice in one day that double the pleasure... Well is it? It sure is because it changes things up in your marriage and your sexual intimacy. This brings on a new and fresh perspective that you may have not seen. When you are making love multiple times in a day sexual intimacy becomes a priority as it puts the focus back on the two of you. You learn that sex can be quick and playful or lingering and romantic, there’s place for both in your marriage (you get to decide which one you want to do). Variety is good for both of you which can be a plus for new adventures down the road. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of stepping outside your sexual comfort zone as we share about making love twice in one day. EPISODE SPONSOR | Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex In this free resource learn the proven ways you can initiate that have worked for thousands of couples around the world. Even if you're not the one who usually initiates you can learn how to break the sexual tension and have your spouse responding in no time, have fun in the situation while LOVING and respecting each other, set yourself up for success in just 5 minutes or less and much more. Grab the Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex today! 7 Days of Sex Challenge: Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage Episode 140 - Scheduling Sex Romance Your Spouse With These Sexy Text Messages Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s that time of year when you are thinking about the New Year and what's ahead for your marriage. You've thought about what happened over this past year and what you want this next year to look like. During this time you may be taking a serious look at your marriage and how you can strengthen each of the six intimacies. Your are counting down to the New Year and wondering how you can make it your best year ever. Starting this year or a new season of your life without a plan means that you are going to be at the mercy and whim of the world around you. When you are reactive you leave many aspects of your marriage floating around to "just happen". You couldn’t do your job if you didn’t have any idea of what was expected of you, why should our marriages be any less. In our marriage we are fortunate to be surrounded by couples who have been proactive about what's ahead for their marriage. What separates them and their marriage is that they are being intentional. Here’s a little secret... You can too. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what you can do right now so that you can create the best year ever in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | 15 Everyday Libido Boosting Habits Need to boost your libido? Simply use one of the 15 easy everyday habits we’ve put together for you… and never worry about a fizzling sex drive again! Get the #1 Tip we share with thousands of listeners on how to relax before sex, get this wrong and no tip we give can help! Plus, we share how to “schedule sex” so you can take the guess work out of when you’re going to “get some!” (this alone has hundreds of marriages saved marriages!) Sign up now for your FREE 15 Everyday Libido Boosting Habits Our Six Questions (Free Resource) He Zigs She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path  Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation  Core Values Workshop  One-on-One Coaching Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The presents are wrapped and under the tree, the stockings are hung, the cookies are baked and you’re exhausted. As a couple you find yourselves rushing through life, rushing through your marriage and missing out on being present with your spouse. Here's the thing... There will always be stuff to do in every season of your marriage. There will always be distractions in your life. In our 19 years of marriage we can attest to this. What sets your marriage apart is how you make each other a priority. This is so important! The two of you really need time together, just the two of you, and no one else. This means dates without the kids or a group of adults. Time alone walking, driving, playing a fun board game or cuddling on the couch listening to your favorite music. The two of you are so busy doing for others (your kids, your boss, your friends) that you need to make sure you are being present for one another. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about being present with your spouse during each season of life. EPISODE SPONSOR | Audible 30-Day Free Trial Here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage we already know that you like to listen to great content through your phone or your computer. We also know that you like to have your content available everywhere you go. With audible you can Choose from over 180,000 titles. One that we will be talking about on the show is David Finch’s The Journal of Best Practices. Get this or any other title with your Audible 30-day FREE trial. Four Fun Moments You Can Share With Your Spouse [VIDEO] Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This time of year can be challenging for so many marriages. You are trying to hold it together for the family, for the kids, for the holidays and for yourself. Over the last weeks and months you have noticed that you and your spouse have begin to drift. You're living in survival mode, dealing with one thing after the next and yet you were designed to thrive. How did the drift begin in your marriage? For many of us we are TOO busy. There are his schedule, her schedule, the kids’ schedules, volunteering, getting together with friends. So much going on that there was little to no time to truly connect with one another. You and your spouse are not listening to each other. In the precious moments that you have together there is a rush to get through whatever you have to say OR you are so distracted that listening becomes secondary to whatever else you are doing. Also, opportunities to spend time with one another are eclipsed by whatever was on the to do list. This has to get done, we’ve got to do this, etc. etc. You are drifting apart right now from your spouse and there is no end in sight. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens when drift begins to happen in your marriage and what you can do to connect once again. EPISODE SPONSOR | Holiday Book Bundle Christmas is next week and you might be thinking, “What do I get my husband or wife?” We’ve got the perfect solution for you but you are going to have to act fast because there are only 30 of these available... It’s the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Holiday Book Bundle. Softcover copies of our two most popular titles: Connect Like You Did When You First Met 101 Proven Questions for Couples AND 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Improve your emotional intimacy and your physical intimacy this Christmas season. Get both of these titles for only $19 for the bundle, that’s a 56% savings. Grab your Holiday Book Bundle Today! Good or God by John Bevere Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What you choose to listen to does and will impact the decisions that you make. You have voices that are marriage enriching, which foster your relationship and are strong when the two of you are making time for each other, sharing your lives with each other both emotionally and physically. Then there are those voices encouraging you to be selfish. They begin to get louder when there is a disconnect in your emotional, physical, spiritual and financial intimacies. It gets harder to listen to those positive marriage enriching voices when the two of you have let everything else get in the way of your marriage. Don't let these competing voices distract you any longer. Make a choice, daily, sometimes minute by minute that you are going to stop and ask the question, is this choice, is this decision supporting my marriage? Am I choosing to be selfless or selfish in this moment... Selfless, go with it. Selfish, stop in your tracks and determine if this is the path you want to start down. Make sure that those situations, (business trips, electronics, friends, co-workers, etc) that continue to arise that you implement guardrails around. In doing so you will hear the voice that will enrich your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about those competing voices in your head, the ones that encourage you to build your marriage and the ones that justify taking dangerous actions. EPISODE SPONSOR | 101 Easy and Creative Gift Ideas Christmas is almost here and you might be scrambling, trying to figure out just what to give your spouse. Take a deep breath, our team here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage has done the hard work for you. We have compiled a list of 101 Easy and Creative Gift Ideas, everything from body scrub to a hot tub. Gifts for him, for her and for the two of you. It can be hard to find just that special something but this list makes it easy for you. Mind Mastery Cards Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step." —Laozi In your marriage there have been joyous times when you look around and think to yourself, " I never thought I would be here" and tough times when you never thought you would be here. Either way you are here right now. What you choose to do at this time will be instrumental in where you are heading in your marriage journey. What we have enjoyed doing over our 19 years of marriage is to celebrate and remember these times. They are a part of us and our testimony of faith, growth, and love. All in all we never thought we would be here! Six year after starting the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show our marriage journey has ebbed and flow and still continues. In this week's show Tony and Alisa share as their journey continues in their marriage, the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show and listener feedback from the ONE Family. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Your to-do list is a mile long as the holidays and the end of the year approaches. You have meetings, parties, shopping, last minute errands, cleaning the house, end of the year reports, travel, kids out of school, and more that need to get done. There is so much to do and yet your sexual intimacy gets push aside for this "season", to another day, another week, or maybe you'll wait until next year. Yes you'll celebrate New Year’s together. Hugging, kissing and then starting the new year cuddled together under the sheets. Right? Hopefully, but usually not. This is NOT the season to put your marriage and your sexual intimacy on the back burner. When you are not intentional about your marriage during the holidays the smiley faces come out, but deep down there is hurt, anxiety and frustration. Both of you begin to push each other away, as other things become more important and you drift apart hoping it will be better on New Year's Eve. You may be thinking that you don’t want to start next year the way that this year is ending... Disconnected, lack of communication and not having sex. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about being intentional with all aspects of your marriage, especially your sexual intimacy during the holiday season. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar. 15 Ways to Romance Your Spouse Over the Next 30 Days Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The word thankful means, "feeling or expressing gratitude; appreciative." As a married couple you should take time each day, week, and month to share with your spouse how truly thankful you are for them. For how they have had a positive impact in your life. With the end of the year and the holidays upon you it is a perfect time to share with your spouse why you are truly thankful for them over the past year. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about expressing gratitude to your spouse about why you are truly thankful for them over this past year. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don't Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar. 285 - Words of Encouragement Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices