ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

"I want a boring sex life, said no one ever." —Alisa DiLorenzo What would happen to your marriage if you broke the sexual routine you've been in and brought back some fun into your bedroom? Many couples are experiencing a sex life that has become one more thing on the to-do list. Same sexual routine time and time again that leads both you and your spouse to wondering why you even have sex. Your sexual intimacy is the same way, at the same time and in the same position time after time. It’s great that you're having sex and yet you know there is more. The challenges your face is that there is nothing to look forward, no anticipation, no romance. Sex is routine and sometimes... Boring. You move this way. Your spouse moves that way.  You both know exactly how long it takes and you move on to the next thing on your list of to-d0's. No excitement. You're in a sexual routine. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why your marriage needs some fun and games to break the sexual routine you've been in. EPISODE SPONSOR | Win Your Very Own Sex Stack... One lucky winner will win their very own Sex Stack. This item is on our must have list for the bedroom and we’ve been talking about it for years. This is a great way to break out of your sexual routine. To try new things and explore one another. Enter now to win the Sex Stack. Fun Board Games to Spice up Your Sex Life Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s not your husband or your wife that’s the problem. The problem is the problem. Do you remember the part in your vows where it was spoken that the “two become one”?  That piece is talking about the two of you. The two of, now marriage, have became one. Newsflash: You are on the same team in your marriage and you need to start looking at life like you are on the same team not as rivals. You need to clearly identify your challenges / problems and know that these are not your spouse. Because when you are doing battle with each other, every interaction becomes another opportunity to win. Another chance to prove your point, to be right, to make your spouse see your point of view and take it. If your spouse is the problem then every challenge, argument, or interaction will have a winner and a loser. Someone who is right and someone who is wrong. Where is the love in that? There is no love and that’s why these conversations or arguments start to wear you out. You lose sight of what you're trying to accomplish in order to be right, to win. How many times have you been arguing (and it’s been going on for awhile) only to realize that you have no idea what the original problem was? Why is that? You are fighting each other instead of finding a solution to the problem. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why you need to recognize that the problem isn’t your spouse, the problem is the problem. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path He Zigs She Zags gives you the tools that you need to have the communication you desire. This is not just about looking into each other’s eyes and sharing your deepest feelings, this is about giving the two of you a map to better communication. Get He Zigs, She Zags today! 6 Forms of Intimacy to Build a Strong Marriage 128 - Playing on the Same TEAM Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 // Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Your wife does not want to be your mother! She is and desires to be your wife and your lover. Unfortunately, more often than not she is treat as your mother. She's the person in the house who picks up after you, makes sure your laundry is done for when you need it, and treated the same way you treated your mother when you were growing up. Here's the thing... She does not want to be your mothers. She doesn't want to consider you as another child in the house and yet when your behavior mirrors that of a child she is going to react and treat you as one. This is NOT good! Over the years we have had husbands share with us that they want their wife to be romantic, to be sexual, and to be interested in them. But they are not because there's a disconnect. You've been treating her as your mother and not as your lover and wife. If you want a wife and lover in your home it's time to show her. Do this by the words you use and the actions to show her that she is your wife and lover. You have to go beyond a quick grab of her breasts now and then? Yes, we did say a quick grab because that’s how kids treat their mothers.  Kids for the most part have no respect or awareness of their mother's body only their own needs. The longer your marriage stays in this vicious circle of emasculated man and wife as your mother, the harder it is for the two of you to relate as husband and wife and more importantly as lovers. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important for husbands to treat their wife as their lover and not their mother. EPISODE SPONSOR | 4 Simple Strategies to Rebuild Trust Trust can seem like such a tough mountain to climb when you are in the process of rebuilding. It can feel like you just don’t know what to do first, who to talk to or where to turn. Don’t stay in that place of feeling overwhelmed. Don’t get paralyzed and do nothing. Get started on rebuilding the trust in your marriage. Grab your free report. Strategic Coaching with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is there an emasculated man living in your home? For the purpose of this show emasculated means: Make a person weaker or less effective Deprive a man of his role or identity Wives, you have the opportunity to not have an emasculated man in your marriage by the thoughts and action you have toward your husband.  Husband's are being emasculated every day in their marriage, even ours has experienced this, and it happens in little ways. It’s not giving his suggestions equal billing in your marriage. It's not understanding and / or seeking to understand his role and the pressures he faces. It's putting him farther down on the priority list and as a result putting his needs behind everyone else’s. It’s assuming that because he used to be one way that he can never change, improve and grow. The thing is that you don't want another "child" to care for. You want a husband who is there for you emotionally, spiritually, physically and financially. You don't need an emasculated man anymore. You need a strong husband who... understands his value. feels your love, who knows that their home is a safe place, who knows that they will be encouraged and built up in that environment. feels that they are important for more than just bringing home a paycheck knows that they are a priority and will always be a priority in your life. understands that change is possible and that who they used to be or what they have done in the past does not define who they are forever. As the famous write Ralph Waldo Emerson stated, "A man’s wife has more power over him than the state has." You have the power right now to purposefully impact your husband. Take a step of faith and go do it! In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the problem of the emasculated man in marriage and how you as his wife can either build him up or tear him down. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don't Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Thursday July 28th at 6 PM PST. DURING THIS FREE WEBINAR YOU WILL LEARN: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register NOW! 332 - Releasing Resentment Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Intimacy Lifestyle was introduced to the ONE Family as a way for you and your spouse to not have to wonder if you were going to have sex or not. Unfortunately, over the years we have heard from couples who have started to only get derailed for one reason or another. Some of these reasons are... "We agreed to The Intimacy Lifestyle but it seems like I am always having to remind my spouse". "My spouse said that they were on board but it doesn’t really seem like they are into it". "We agreed to The Intimacy Lifestyle but it doesn’t seem to be working for us". A few weeks ago we did a podcast on The Intimacy Lifestyle and realized that there was a major piece missing from that show. A piece that might just change everything. We talked about what The Intimacy Lifestyle IS but we didn’t talk about what it is NOT. The Intimacy Lifestyle is NOT Something to half heartedly commit to. Something to just spring on your spouse. A band-aid for your marriage. Something to just pacify your spouse. Something you decide to do and then never talk about again. Something that is ONE size fits all. Something that is convenient, it’s truly a lifestyle choice. A sex tool, honestly it is a communication tool and a tool to enhance all areas of your marriage. A lifestyle choice is just that, it’s choosing a style of life. In this case The Intimacy Lifestyle is choosing a style of life that involves intimacy at all levels. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important to know what the intimacy lifestyle is NOT so that you can fully embrace all that it has to offer. EPISODE SPONSOR | Strategic Relationship Coaching with Alisa Imagine waking up each morning next to the person you love more than anything in the world. Not just a “roommate” or a person you “get on with”. But having the fairy tale marriage you've always dreamed of. Because it really is possible if you’re willing to put in the time. Start coaching today with Alisa. 328 - The Intimacy Lifestyle Dominion Card Game Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Resentment is a poison that builds slowly as it snowballs into extreme disconnect. What starts out as one disappointment becomes a laundry list of all of the ways that your spouse has hurt you, disappointed you, not been there for you, etc. The resentment that you harbor toward your partner can be masked as: Anger Boredom Indifference Withdrawal Disconnect What started out as something manageable now has become overwhelming for you and your partner. Right now, it’s feels virtually impossible to bridge that gap to reconnect. Both men and women experience resentment in different areas in the marriage. Some of these areas of resentment are... Staying home/working outside of the house Having to take care of the household Having to be the provider Always being the one to initiate Upside down priorities (kids, work, extended family, other friends) You now know why you are holding onto this resentment and yet do you know where it comes from? Resentment comes from... Ineffective communication Unvoiced expectations No clear vision direction Fear of rejection In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the negative consequences when resentment builds up in your marriage and what you can do to change that path. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get You Communication on the Same Path Remember how you felt when you first met your partner? How close you were? Like you were soul mates? Why because you spent so much time connecting and communicating. Now imagine having that same level of connection and intimacy for the life of your marriage. Become one of those couples that celebrates your 20th, 30th or even 50th wedding anniversary while you both are still completely in love with each other. Grab He Zigs, She Zags today. 046 - Are You Keeping Score? Dear Couples, Rejection Is Crushing Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Married couples perform both sex and making love. Would you agree? Sometimes it is intentional and sometimes it's because of circumstances. Sex happens when you only have 10 minutes before dinner for a quickie. You only have 10 minutes so it’s not going to be a marathon love making session. But if you are on vacation by yourselves with no kids now there’s no need to just have sex. You plan on making love while away. Making love is probably the easier one of these to understand, the slow and go with the emotional connection. On the other hand issues can arise when you and your spouse are only having sex. Let's be clear before you start to think that this is only about husband's using their wive's... This goes both ways! You may have even experienced this in your own marriage. So, as we dive into what it means to have sex and making love there is a very unique question to be answered... What would selfish sex look or be like for a married couple? In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the difference between having sex and making love and why knowing the difference matters in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP 19 Quick Questions will allow you and your spouse to get the conversation started about all things related to your sex life. Using these 19 questions gives you an opportunity to have those conversations, to think about your sex life. Take just one or 2 questions a day and talk about them outside of your bedroom, then enjoy discovering each other. Cleaning Up After Sex 3 Reasons Why Sex Isn’t a Dirty Word Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Last week we returned from our 20th anniversary trip to Peru. Our travels took us from San Diego to Lima, Peru, Cusco and then on to Machu Picchu.  The international trip involved two red eye flights through Dallas on the way there and then Miami on our way home. Once in country... 2 flights from Lima to Cusco and back. 5 van rides from various points of our travel 4 tour buses including one that was hugging the switchbacks up and back from Machu Picchu 2 trains rides And lots of walking We probably logged somewhere around 9,000 miles in just over 8 days. Lots of delays (weather, traffic, celebrations). A few detours due to that same weather, traffic and celebrations and a whole lot of time to think about marriage. We spent almost every moment together for just over a week and still came away smiling (there were some discouraging times during our trip and sad faces when we were leaving Peru.) There was excitement, exhaustion, and frustration. When you are spending so much time together and placed in so many different environments together you... CANNOT hide behind your busyness CANNOT ignore your challenges or your attitudes Everything comes to the surface, everything that looks easy really takes a lot of effort, everything that looks like it goes in a straight line isn’t always straight. Marriage is a lot like traveling... There are a lot of different ways to get to where you want to go. What you think will be the fast way can hold you up. What you think is the most direct way will have you going in circles and doubling back. In other words there will be detours on this adventure we call marriage. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of detours and delays that can lead to success in your marriage journey. EPISODE SPONSOR | Summer of Love Ultimate Bundle Flash Sale (June 28 - 30, 2016) It’s summer and what better time to... Enjoy Great Sex, Enhance Your Communication, Rebuild Trust & Connect Again! The Summer of Love Ultimate Bundle includes our most popular programs so that you can have the extraordinary marriage you desire. Grab the Summer of Love Ultimate Bundle and get up to 75% off! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What's the risk reward in your marriage? There's a risk in any relationship between two people. You risk being vulnerable. You risk being rejected. You risk being misunderstood. You risk hurt feelings. You risk anger. You risk silence. You risk the distance growing in your marriage. You risk losing your marriage. In many marriage the idea of risk reward is a recurring theme. Here's the thing about risk reward... IT'S ALL ABOUT FEAR! Fear will stop you in your tracks as you ask yourself statements similar to these: I never had the conversations I wanted to have. I never asked for what I wanted. I never did what I should have. Why? The RISK seemed too large and yet... what about the reward? The reward is... Deeper emotional connection. Living out your lives fully. You're loved more for who you truly are. Open and honest conversations. Long lasting marriage. Sex like never before. You get to choose each day what the risk reward is in your marriage. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the risk reward that you face when making a change in your marriage and why you need to focus on the reward not the risk. EPISODE SPONSOR | Strategic Marriage Coaching with Alisa You get help for every other area of your life, why not your marriage. If you have been struggling with areas of your marriage and are tired of the struggle, tired of not knowing what to do or say, now is the time to take action. You’ve heard the results on the show of clients who have had transformation. What are you waiting for? Learn more about a Strategic Marriage Coaching with Alisa today! 3 Ways to Overcome Your Fears Bo's Cafe 7 Days of Sex Challenge Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn how to implement The Intimacy Lifestyle into your marriage for a new level of closeness. Discover the importance of communication and initiation in enhancing the connection between spouses. Prioritize your marriage and seek fulfilling and meaningful connections with your spouse. Receive support and encouragement to strengthen your relationship.