ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

Married couples perform both sex and making love. Would you agree? Sometimes it is intentional and sometimes it's because of circumstances. Sex happens when you only have 10 minutes before dinner for a quickie. You only have 10 minutes so it’s not going to be a marathon love making session. But if you are on vacation by yourselves with no kids now there’s no need to just have sex. You plan on making love while away. Making love is probably the easier one of these to understand, the slow and go with the emotional connection. On the other hand issues can arise when you and your spouse are only having sex. Let's be clear before you start to think that this is only about husband's using their wive's... This goes both ways! You may have even experienced this in your own marriage. So, as we dive into what it means to have sex and making love there is a very unique question to be answered... What would selfish sex look or be like for a married couple? In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the difference between having sex and making love and why knowing the difference matters in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP 19 Quick Questions will allow you and your spouse to get the conversation started about all things related to your sex life. Using these 19 questions gives you an opportunity to have those conversations, to think about your sex life. Take just one or 2 questions a day and talk about them outside of your bedroom, then enjoy discovering each other. Cleaning Up After Sex 3 Reasons Why Sex Isn’t a Dirty Word Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Last week we returned from our 20th anniversary trip to Peru. Our travels took us from San Diego to Lima, Peru, Cusco and then on to Machu Picchu.  The international trip involved two red eye flights through Dallas on the way there and then Miami on our way home. Once in country... 2 flights from Lima to Cusco and back. 5 van rides from various points of our travel 4 tour buses including one that was hugging the switchbacks up and back from Machu Picchu 2 trains rides And lots of walking We probably logged somewhere around 9,000 miles in just over 8 days. Lots of delays (weather, traffic, celebrations). A few detours due to that same weather, traffic and celebrations and a whole lot of time to think about marriage. We spent almost every moment together for just over a week and still came away smiling (there were some discouraging times during our trip and sad faces when we were leaving Peru.) There was excitement, exhaustion, and frustration. When you are spending so much time together and placed in so many different environments together you... CANNOT hide behind your busyness CANNOT ignore your challenges or your attitudes Everything comes to the surface, everything that looks easy really takes a lot of effort, everything that looks like it goes in a straight line isn’t always straight. Marriage is a lot like traveling... There are a lot of different ways to get to where you want to go. What you think will be the fast way can hold you up. What you think is the most direct way will have you going in circles and doubling back. In other words there will be detours on this adventure we call marriage. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of detours and delays that can lead to success in your marriage journey. EPISODE SPONSOR | Summer of Love Ultimate Bundle Flash Sale (June 28 - 30, 2016) It’s summer and what better time to... Enjoy Great Sex, Enhance Your Communication, Rebuild Trust & Connect Again! The Summer of Love Ultimate Bundle includes our most popular programs so that you can have the extraordinary marriage you desire. Grab the Summer of Love Ultimate Bundle and get up to 75% off! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What's the risk reward in your marriage? There's a risk in any relationship between two people. You risk being vulnerable. You risk being rejected. You risk being misunderstood. You risk hurt feelings. You risk anger. You risk silence. You risk the distance growing in your marriage. You risk losing your marriage. In many marriage the idea of risk reward is a recurring theme. Here's the thing about risk reward... IT'S ALL ABOUT FEAR! Fear will stop you in your tracks as you ask yourself statements similar to these: I never had the conversations I wanted to have. I never asked for what I wanted. I never did what I should have. Why? The RISK seemed too large and yet... what about the reward? The reward is... Deeper emotional connection. Living out your lives fully. You're loved more for who you truly are. Open and honest conversations. Long lasting marriage. Sex like never before. You get to choose each day what the risk reward is in your marriage. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the risk reward that you face when making a change in your marriage and why you need to focus on the reward not the risk. EPISODE SPONSOR | Strategic Marriage Coaching with Alisa You get help for every other area of your life, why not your marriage. If you have been struggling with areas of your marriage and are tired of the struggle, tired of not knowing what to do or say, now is the time to take action. You’ve heard the results on the show of clients who have had transformation. What are you waiting for? Learn more about a Strategic Marriage Coaching with Alisa today! 3 Ways to Overcome Your Fears Bo's Cafe 7 Days of Sex Challenge Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn how to implement The Intimacy Lifestyle into your marriage for a new level of closeness. Discover the importance of communication and initiation in enhancing the connection between spouses. Prioritize your marriage and seek fulfilling and meaningful connections with your spouse. Receive support and encouragement to strengthen your relationship.

The truth is that every couple goes through cycles of good times and tough times. The bigger issue is when those cycles last indefinitely and no one takes action. I want out. I don’t want to do this anymore. It’s too hard. You may have said these to your spouse or vise versa. Either way it's time to shift the tide in your marriage before it is to late. According to couples therapist, Carrie Cole: The average couple waits six years from the time they recognize relationship problems until the time they try therapy. By then, it's often too late—the problems in the marriage can corrode it to the point where it may be unsalvageable. So play it safe and schedule a coaching session if you're struggling. Why? Because by the time you hear I want out... Your spouse has been dealing with the situation for years. They have checked out. They have often stopped caring and have begun making plans to do life on their own. If you marriage has disconnect in it If you are too busy to spend time together If you are not talking If you are not having sex Then it is time to be intentional and take action in your marriage so you will never hear the words I want out again. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about what to do when one of you says to the other -- I want out, I’m done! EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Steps to Save Your Marriage In this free report you will receive The 7 simple steps to salvage even the most damaged and beyond repair marriage (these are the same steps that brought our own marriage back from the brink of divorce). Grab 7 Steps to Save Your Marriage today! 7 Signs You're In a Loveless Marriage How I Saved My Marriage Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s summertime and like a lot of things your sexual intimacy can take a back seat to vacations, family visitors and even the kids being home. Make sure you have a plan for summertime sex this year and for years to come. The areas that you need to be aware of when it comes to summertime sex are: Setting expectations BEFORE you travel on vacation. When family or friends are in town how do you make sure you're being sexually intimate. Kids are home for the summer and this can put a kink into your Intimacy Lifestyle. There are different schedules, more time hanging out with folks, it gets darker later... so now is the time to get creative as you make use of the time that you have. Whatever your plans are this summer be intentional about finding opportunities for when you'll be sexually intimate. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of having a clear plan for summertime sex and what you need to do to make it happen. EPISODE SPONSOR | Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex Summertime is here! It’s time for relaxing and for fun. It’s so important that with all that you have going on this summer that initiating does NOT take a back seat to all of the other activities that the two of you have going on. Make sure that the two of you have a summer to remember. Grab you Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex today! 178 - Sexpectations 7 Days of Sex Challenge: How-to Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do either of these sound familiar… "I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded(husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part." OR "Will you have this woman/man to be your wife/husband, to live together in the covenant of marriage? Will you love her/him, comfort her/him, honor, and keep her/him in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to her/him as long as you both shall live?" Yep, these are wedding vows. Promises made for a permanent relationship and yet all too often these wedding vows are becoming temporary in our society. Marriage is not a temporary situation until something better comes along. Marriage is not just for as long as this “works” for you or as long as you feel like staying engaged. When did your wedding vows switch to a wedding contract? You’ll stay in the marriage, stay faithful, stay engaged, as long as you ___________(fill in the blank). WAKE UP!!! You need to make the shift back. Both husbands and wives, need to honor these permanent vows. Not just when things are easy, but especially when things are hard. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens to your marriage when you treat your wedding vows as temporary instead of permanent. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Steps to Save Your Marriage  (Even if your spouse is unwilling) This report is going to give you the 7 steps that you need to take starting right now. It’s going to outline the costs of your decisions AND share with you the #1 mistake that almost all broken couples make when trying to get help. Don’t wait another day to take action to save your marriage. Grab 7 Steps to Save Your Marriage  (Even if your spouse is unwilling) today! 174 - Covenant or Contract 6 Forms of Intimacy to Build a Strong Marriage Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present." —Jim Rohn Have you ever said: My husband doesn’t make me happy anymore My wife doesn’t make me happy anymore I’m not happy in marriage This isn’t making me happy Don’t I deserve to be happy Where is my happiness Why can’t I be happy There is an epidemic... An epidemic of people who aren’t happy in their life, with their job and in their marriages. You have an expectation that your spouse and your marriage are supposed to make you happy all of the time. In our comparison happy culture (hello social media) you are constantly bombarded by images of people who you perceive as better, prettier, happier and who have more. What you see is their good parts version -- compared to -- your everyday reality and the two are not matching up. This quest for to reach a state of happiness is driving a wedge in your marriage. The expectation that your spouse is going to make you happy all the time, that your marriage is always going to be good, is unrealistic. You are dealing with another human being who is dealing with their own stuff. Besides... happiness is a feeling and feelings are fleeting. You can be happy because it’s a sunny day. You can be happy because your spouse left you a note. You can be happy because the kids didn’t fight (that much) today. In each of these situations happiness is dependent on another person, their actions or outside circumstances. What happens when they don’t do those things... when it’s rainy, what do you do? The days that you don’t get a note from your spouse, what do you do? The days that the kids fight, what do you do?   In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the keys to unlocking happiness in you so it flows throughout your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Live Training TRUST. Five letters that have so much power in your marriage. When trust is present, it feels like you can handle everything. When trust has been broken, you find yourself questioning everything. If you have ever said or thought, "I love you but I don’t trust you" the JOIN US for the "I Love You But I Don't Trust You Live Training" on May 19th, 2016. Contract of Reconciliation It’s Not All Good or All Bad Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Day after day we hear from couple after couple that their marriage is not what they wanted or expected. There is no romance. The sex is OK, at times. There is a struggle with communication. There are many disconnects. Digging deeper into each relationship, sex has been a part of most of these relationships from the very beginning. Before these couples truly knew each other, they were involved in one of the most intimate acts a couple can face, sex. As a couple who has been in this place we know all to well the struggles that happen for couples who have sex early in a relationship. When sex becomes an integral part of the relationship from the very beginning there are skills that don’t get developed. Because of this sexual connection the two of you have to work in your marriage to develop the skills that you did not develop from the beginning. Plain and simple sex feels good and yet it’s a distraction when the two of you are having challenges. Sex cannot be the only glue that holds your marriage together. Your marriage needs for the both of you to be emotionally, spiritually, and financially intimate as well as physically intimate. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why sex is not always the answer to the challenges your facing in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | FreshBooks FreshBooks is a super simple invoicing solution that lets you create and send professional looking invoices in seconds. It also makes managing your expenses, staying on top of who owes you what, and tracking your time the easiest part of your day. Try FreshBooks FREE for 30 days on us. Get your free trial today. Texting Is Not Talking Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Knowing how to initiate sex in your marriage can be a very real challenge. You're not sure what to do or when you do if your spouse even realizes that you're initiating. On the other side of this is a frustrated who doesn't understand why you can’t or decide not to initiate. For them it’s similar to living in a constant state of rejection. Think about it. If you rarely initiate then it is always up to your spouse to make a move. If you're not interested, too tired, not in the mood, then they get shot down. They express desire to you and yet there is no similar expression of desire in return. NEW FLASH... This is NOT something that only happens to men or only women. Both men and women struggle when it comes to know how to initiate sex. When only one of you is initiating or when neither of you is initiating sex it’s time to take a look at what is going on between the two of you. If you can’t initiate it’s often because you don’t know how or what you have tried in the past hasn’t worked so you don’t know what to do. Maybe you got the message growing up that “good girls don’t do that” or “you shouldn’t be so bold”. Maybe you were told that you should always be pursued. Maybe you’re afraid that you are going to hear no or some other excuse for why you spouse doesn’t want to be with you. Maybe you just don’t know what to do. OR Maybe your spouse doesn’t know when you are initiating... Check out our Top 10 Ways To Initiate Sex With Your Spouse TONIGHT to get some ideas on how you can begin to initiate. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why now is the time for you to share with your spouse on how you initiate in and outside the bedroom. EPISODE SPONSOR | FreshBooks FreshBooks is a super simple invoicing solution that lets you create and send professional looking invoices in seconds. It also makes managing your expenses, staying on top of who owes you what, and tracking your time the easiest part of your day. Try FreshBooks FREE for 30 days on us. Get your free trial today. Discover the Top 10 Ways To Initiate Sex With Your Spouse TONIGHT Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices