ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

"Right NOW is the most important moment in your life." —Gail Lynne Goodwin Another day comes to an end and you and your spouse are tired. Earlier in the day you both were romancing each other and had every intention to enjoy one another. But it's another night of you falling asleep even before you start foreplay and leaving you both frustrated with your sexual intimacy. There is much on your plates and yet it's time to prioritize your marriage so that you both enjoy your sexual intimacy. It means making choices about when you are going to be sexually intimate. There is no rule, no law, that states that sex is ONLY at the end of the day. It's time to change things up in your marriage and enjoy awake sex! Sex when you both are fully engaged and ready to experience the orgasms you desire for one another. Sex that is a bit loud, in a different position and a room brightened by the sun. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about how powerful it is to have sex when you are fully awake, not just going through the motions at the end of the day. EPISODE SPONSOR | 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom With this FREE resource you can get creative with the gifts that you are going to put under the Christmas tree this year. No more wondering about what to get. Discover a hit-list of all the top items we’ve used in the last 20 years of marriage to ignite intimacy, connection and comfort in the most important room of all -- the bedroom! Grab your 11 Must Have Items Now. Other Resources: 140 - Scheduling Sex 21 Ways to Initiate Sex with Your Spouse Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Sometimes all you do is smile. Move on with your day, hold back the tears and pretend everything is OK." —Anonymous The holiday season is a busy time of year. You are are pulled in many directions and feel overwhelmed with the responsibilities of job, family, kids, volunteering, Christmas parties, and everything else that is on your plate. It's a time when you may feel like there is too much going on and you’re holding on by a thread. And then your spouse asks you something like… What’s wrong with you? How are you doing? What's going on? Since everything is at the tipping point, you lock the true answer inside and simply say, “I’m Fine”. More often than not when you say, "I’m FINE", it’s usually a code word for I’m feeling broken in some area of my life. When you say "I’m Fine" you put a wall, an obstacle in your marriage. Then one of you checks out. Either you or your spouse.  I’m FINE leads to disconnect because you aren’t sharing what’s going on with you I’m FINE leads to resentment because you won’t let this person, YOUR SPOUSE, into your world. It's time to eradicate I'm Fine from your vocabulary. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the impact two words, I’m Fine, have on your marriage and your intimacy. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path The ability to talk to each other is vital to all areas of your marriage. Here's the thing...if there is unease when talking, tension or bickering you know the stress that it places on you. You're drained. It’s time to take control of the communication in your marriage. There is so much that is happening in your life each and every day that if you do not take the time to learn how to best connect with your spouse you are going to struggle for years to come. Grab He Zigs, She Zags Now! Other Resources: Oils & Intimacy Facebook Group 287 - The Impact of Tone and Timing 332 - Releasing Resentment Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"What do brushing your teeth, taking a shower and making time to shave all have in common? They all improve your chances in the bedroom." —Alisa DiLorenzo Interestingly enough we have never tackled the topic of personal hygiene, even though it’s something that we frequently discuss in our marriage. Things like morning breath, unshaven legs, and manscaping is what we're talking about. When you are aware of what works for you and for your spouse it makes a difference in your sexual intimacy. We have experienced this in our own marriage and have recently made a change to our personal hygiene that has benefited our marriage. There are a number of personal hygiene options you have. Some of them are: Shaving  Waxing Sugaring Facials Haircut Shower Bath Oils Taking time to care for yourself has a number of physical and mental benefits. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the mental and physical benefits of personal hygiene for you and your spouse, especially in the bedroom. EPISODE SPONSOR | Engaged Marriage Intimacy Reignited Reigniting the spark in the bedroom doesn’t have to be difficult. In fact, there are simple techniques that work incredibly fast. And will continue to work (no matter how long you’ve been married). Plus they're proven to work... even if you're extremely busy. Having an amazing sex life with your spouse. One that your friends would be totally jealous of.And wonder how you keep the spark alive.All because you know the “secrets” to a loving and intimate marriage. Grab Intimacy Reignited Now! Other Resources: 7 *Merry* Days of Sex Challenge 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life Mangroomer Ultimate Pro Body Groomer Fresh Balls Lotion Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Showing gratitude is one of the most simplest yet most powerful things that human beings can do for each other." —Randy Pausch Thanksgiving. It's a time dedicated to giving thanks and expressing gratitude to those you love. The act of expressing gratitude is important for your spouse who receives your gratitude as well as for you who is giving it. When you do this for and with each other it changes your perspective on your marriage. When you express your appreciation for what you have your world shifts. Your mind shifts. Life changes when you are thankful for things you have and can actually express that out loud. What you share doesn’t have to be anything earth shattering. It doesn’t have to be huge. But it has to be said. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important to express gratitude in your marriage and how you can incorporate this idea into the holidays. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"If her bra matches her panties when you take off her clothes, it wasn’t you who decided to have sex." —Anonymous When you are wearing sexy underwear it has a way of bringing you and your spouse together in a special way. A loose definition of sexy underwear is: underwear that has fun colors or patterns that hug you in all of the right places because they fit. Many folks dismiss the importance of underwear, seeing them as merely a functional piece of clothing and yet they have the potential to be so much more. Sexy underwear makes you feel sexy. It’s visually stimulating for both of you. You think about your partner throughout the day, knowing that they are going to be pleased with what they see. :) Your sexy underwear is another tool in your marriage tool box. Whatever constitutes sexy underwear for you the key is getting them and then wearing them often. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about your sexy underwear and why it’s not just a functional piece of clothing. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Sexy Lingerie Panties JINSHI Bamboo Underwear 051 - True Friendship 166 - Holey Underwear 7 Days of Sex Challenge Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Once you lie to me the first time, I’ll question everything else you say." —Anonymous When you lie to your spouse it's a cancer that multiplies over time. The lie starts off small and then grows with one lie after another. Eventually you have something so large and unrecognizable that the pain you are experiencing has to go. We are experiencing an epidemic in marriages, an epidemic of lying and it’s wreaking havoc on relationships. Lies can come in different forms such as... Not telling the truth. Leaving out bits and pieces. Not honoring your word. Little white lies. Big whopping lies. Research has shown that individuals will lie for different reasons. The most common are: Trying to protect yourself. Feeling shame over a decision. Wanting to avoid confrontation. The very things that you are trying to avoid are the things that you invite into the relationship by your lying. When you speak these lies you find yourself under attack as you constantly look over your shoulder wondering how or when your partner is going to find out about your secret. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about how lies become a cancer in your marriage and what you need to do to heal. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Snoring is a good indication that one person is asleep and no one else is." —Linda Poindexter It's been another long day as you prepare yourself for a good night sleep. You slide into bed, turn on your Sound+Sleep Machine as you enjoy a quiet house. Your eyelids begin to close and you are just about to fall asleep when… The snoring starts. Oh no! Another night of sleep is going to be a challenge. AGAIN. Marriages are struggling when one or both spouse's are snoring. According to the National Sleep Foundation, snoring affects some 90 million adults, 37 million on a “regular basis”.   If this is you in your marriage... you are not alone. But this doesn’t make it any easier for you. Snoring can cause many problems in marriage. Such as: Frustration, more arguments, more disconnection. Sleeping in separate rooms.  Arguments about whether or not it’s happening. Making your relationship a he said/she said. Your health. Now, the two of you don’t have to keep on suffering... In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens in your marriage when one of you is snoring so loud that it interrupts a good night of sleep. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Sound+Sleep Machine Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Sleeping Wedges Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Circumstances may cause interruptions and delays but never lose sight of your goal." —Mario Andretti Has there ever been a time in your marriage when you and your spouse were about to enjoy sex and then you hear a knocking at your door? Maybe you can relate to this scenario… All of the kids are in bed (or so you think) The house is quiet You’re locked in your room Your Sound+Sleep Machine is on as you begin to make romantic eyes at one another You start foreplay And there’s a knocking on the door. Who is it? It’s one of your kids, who you thought was asleep, needing some cuddle time. You head out of bed, help them get settled and then head back to your bedroom. Your spouse is waiting as you climb back into bed. You begin to get in the mood when again you hear... Knocking at your door. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens when someone’s knocking on your bedroom door in the middle of your time together. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Sound+Sleep Machine 332 - Releasing Resentment Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that is has taken place." —George Bernard Shaw When you have certain expectations, your spouse has expectations and yet neither of you communicate them to each other there will be unmet expectations. Each of you will have a level of frustration that you are experiencing. You may even be say things like: I don’t understand why he/she doesn’t know this by now. Isn’t the way we do __________ obvious? Why do I have to spell it out every time? These questions indicate that there are unmet expectations in the marriage. There are areas of your life and marriage that you want your spouse to know or do. And often there is this game played… I’ll wait to see what he/she does. Will my spouse get it right this time. I've said it before. With this attitude you are setting yourself up for frustration. Because... you are constantly growing and changing. your moods are not the same from one day to the next. life experiences have impacted the way that you see things in the relationship. Often your expectations are not being shared in a way that is beneficial to your relationship. You hint at them, voice them after the fact and even said when you are highly emotional. It doesn’t have to be that way. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why your unmet expectations aren’t so obvious to your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proved Questions for Couples 287 - The Impact of Tone and Timing Men’s Bamboo Boxer Briefs Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Desire creates havoc between two people when it is the ONLY thing between them or when it’s what’s missing." —Mignon McLaughlin Have you ever experienced: Lack of sexual desire Low libido No libido A take it or leave it attitude No expression of desire No sexual connection. A sexual connection with your spouse is a primary need. Unfortunately, a lack of sexual desire is impacting your marriage and the reasons for it are varied. It could be from: Stress or anxiety Health issues Resentment Rejection Kids in the bedroom Being over committed Unresolved forgiveness. Whatever the reason may be lack of sexual desire has always been addressed as "his problem" or "her problem" and yet how often do you stop to think that it’s really OUR problem. When there is a lack of sexual desire in your marriage this creates a divide, it builds a wall, it separates the two of you. When this happens you can begin to have feelings of: Anger Loneliness Doubt Fear Negativity Resentment. Instead of the two of you becoming more unified as a married couple a lack of sexual desire can have the two of you feeling more divided than ever. It can have you questioning your marriage and your role in it. It doesn’t have to be this way. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the impact that a lack of sexual desire has on you, your spouse and your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: 328 - The Intimacy Lifestyle 332 - Releasing Resentment Extra Strength Horny Goat Weed for Natural Libido Boost 7 Days of Sex Challenge: How to Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices