ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

"Marriage doesn’t have the power to bind-only the actions of two people can do that. Forever and happy endings aren’t a given." —Leah Mercer You can make changes to your marriage no matter how long you've been married. For us it was at the 11 year make that we got radical when we started and completed the 60 Days of Sex Challenge. What you'll began to realize is that it’s never too late to stop the ineffective patters and behaviors. Here's the thing though... ...you'll need to made a decision to get back to the basics in different areas of your marriage. Because if you don't: Life will get in the way and you fall into your old, comfortable and ineffective patterns. You don’t know how to do what you think you need to do so you don’t do it. Fear of the unknown will keep you from doing anything. Living in this place you experience an increased level of frustration for you and your spouse. You know things need to change. You know that you need to do something different. So let's do it! In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important to stop those old, comfortable and ineffective patterns and instead take action in order to create transformation in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path He Zigs She Zags gives you the tools that you need to have the communication you desire. This is not just about looking into each other’s eyes and sharing your deepest feelings, this is about giving the two of you a map to better communication. Get He Zigs, She Zags today! Schedule a Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa 7 Days of Sex Challenge Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"When you start using senses you’ve neglected, your reward is to see the world [and your marriage] with completely fresh eyes." —Barbara Sher Your marriages may be experiencing some struggles due to the fact that you are loving each other with only one or two of the 5 senses you have. You may have fallen into what’s comfortable for you in your marriage and not necessarily what’s best for your marriages. Using each of your 5 senses can bring a heightened experience to your marriage that may have become dormant. The 5 Senses: Sight Hearing Touch Taste Smell Just as your marriage needs all 6 forms of intimacies firing, you marriage needs ALL of your 5 senses involved in the marriage. When you are only loving with one or two of the senses you BOTH are missing out on an incredible level of connection. It’s incomplete. It’s a fraction of what it could be. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about loving one another using each of your 5 senses to stimulate excitement in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Top 11 Must Haves Items for Your Bedroom Discover a hit-list of all the top items we’ve discovered in the last 19 years of marriage to ignite intimacy, connection and comfort in the most important room of all -- the bedroom! From fun toys, to those fabulous little items that set the mood, this is a list that you are going to want to have. Get your copy today! 338 - Beautiful Wife 287 - The Impact of Tone and Timing 56 Simple (But Super Effective) Compliments To Encourage Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Never judge someone on their past because they are no longer in that stage of life." —Alisa DiLorenzo Sex before marriage can be a roadblock to deep sexual intimacy. If you had sex before marriage you may have feelings of guilt, shame, and resentment. On the other side your spouse may have had sex before marriage with other partners and now you question the level of their commitment, you compare yourself to theses previous partners or you grew up knowing you should not have had sex together, but you did. We get it. We’ve been there. We both had sex before marriage with other partners and each other. Because we had sex before marriage it impacted our relationship for many years. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about breaking free from the guilt and shame you may carry because you had sex before marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path He Zigs She Zags gives you the tools that you need to have the communication you desire. This is not just about looking into each other’s eyes and sharing your deepest feelings, this is about giving the two of you a map to better communication. Get He Zigs, She Zags today! Schedule a Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa 4 Cool Statistics About Abstinence in the USA 319 – ESP (Extrasensory Perception) The Bondage Breaker Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You've been sharing with your wife that she is beautiful to you inside and out. You see her as this amazing, incredible gift from God. A gift that honestly you cannot wait to unwrap. You want her to realize that it's not a sin to acknowledge her own beauty and sensuality without feeling dirty and yet your wife doesn't see herself as beautiful. Your wife doesn't feel the same way about herself as you see her. There is a struggle you both face with reconciling the expectations in the bedroom with the discouraging words that she has received through her life. Additionally when she looks in the mirror and at her life: she feels stuck unattractive no where near beautiful. Yet you see her as an amazing woman, wife and mother, but you know there is a  disconnect that is hurting your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why your marriage needs the phrase my beautiful wife. You'll be challenged to use this with your spouse and yet it’s important. EPISODE SPONSOR | One Question To Instantly Kickstart Your Communication Did you know that one question can change the entire dynamic of your marriage? One question when asked in an environment of love, one question where the answer is listened to and acted upon can transform the way that the two of you relate to one another. Want to know what the question is? Of course you do... Grab your One Question now! Schedule a Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"I want a boring sex life, said no one ever." —Alisa DiLorenzo What would happen to your marriage if you broke the sexual routine you've been in and brought back some fun into your bedroom? Many couples are experiencing a sex life that has become one more thing on the to-do list. Same sexual routine time and time again that leads both you and your spouse to wondering why you even have sex. Your sexual intimacy is the same way, at the same time and in the same position time after time. It’s great that you're having sex and yet you know there is more. The challenges your face is that there is nothing to look forward, no anticipation, no romance. Sex is routine and sometimes... Boring. You move this way. Your spouse moves that way.  You both know exactly how long it takes and you move on to the next thing on your list of to-d0's. No excitement. You're in a sexual routine. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why your marriage needs some fun and games to break the sexual routine you've been in. EPISODE SPONSOR | Win Your Very Own Sex Stack... One lucky winner will win their very own Sex Stack. This item is on our must have list for the bedroom and we’ve been talking about it for years. This is a great way to break out of your sexual routine. To try new things and explore one another. Enter now to win the Sex Stack. Fun Board Games to Spice up Your Sex Life Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s not your husband or your wife that’s the problem. The problem is the problem. Do you remember the part in your vows where it was spoken that the “two become one”?  That piece is talking about the two of you. The two of, now marriage, have became one. Newsflash: You are on the same team in your marriage and you need to start looking at life like you are on the same team not as rivals. You need to clearly identify your challenges / problems and know that these are not your spouse. Because when you are doing battle with each other, every interaction becomes another opportunity to win. Another chance to prove your point, to be right, to make your spouse see your point of view and take it. If your spouse is the problem then every challenge, argument, or interaction will have a winner and a loser. Someone who is right and someone who is wrong. Where is the love in that? There is no love and that’s why these conversations or arguments start to wear you out. You lose sight of what you're trying to accomplish in order to be right, to win. How many times have you been arguing (and it’s been going on for awhile) only to realize that you have no idea what the original problem was? Why is that? You are fighting each other instead of finding a solution to the problem. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why you need to recognize that the problem isn’t your spouse, the problem is the problem. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path He Zigs She Zags gives you the tools that you need to have the communication you desire. This is not just about looking into each other’s eyes and sharing your deepest feelings, this is about giving the two of you a map to better communication. Get He Zigs, She Zags today! 6 Forms of Intimacy to Build a Strong Marriage 128 - Playing on the Same TEAM Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 // Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Your wife does not want to be your mother! She is and desires to be your wife and your lover. Unfortunately, more often than not she is treat as your mother. She's the person in the house who picks up after you, makes sure your laundry is done for when you need it, and treated the same way you treated your mother when you were growing up. Here's the thing... She does not want to be your mothers. She doesn't want to consider you as another child in the house and yet when your behavior mirrors that of a child she is going to react and treat you as one. This is NOT good! Over the years we have had husbands share with us that they want their wife to be romantic, to be sexual, and to be interested in them. But they are not because there's a disconnect. You've been treating her as your mother and not as your lover and wife. If you want a wife and lover in your home it's time to show her. Do this by the words you use and the actions to show her that she is your wife and lover. You have to go beyond a quick grab of her breasts now and then? Yes, we did say a quick grab because that’s how kids treat their mothers.  Kids for the most part have no respect or awareness of their mother's body only their own needs. The longer your marriage stays in this vicious circle of emasculated man and wife as your mother, the harder it is for the two of you to relate as husband and wife and more importantly as lovers. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important for husbands to treat their wife as their lover and not their mother. EPISODE SPONSOR | 4 Simple Strategies to Rebuild Trust Trust can seem like such a tough mountain to climb when you are in the process of rebuilding. It can feel like you just don’t know what to do first, who to talk to or where to turn. Don’t stay in that place of feeling overwhelmed. Don’t get paralyzed and do nothing. Get started on rebuilding the trust in your marriage. Grab your free report. Strategic Coaching with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is there an emasculated man living in your home? For the purpose of this show emasculated means: Make a person weaker or less effective Deprive a man of his role or identity Wives, you have the opportunity to not have an emasculated man in your marriage by the thoughts and action you have toward your husband.  Husband's are being emasculated every day in their marriage, even ours has experienced this, and it happens in little ways. It’s not giving his suggestions equal billing in your marriage. It's not understanding and / or seeking to understand his role and the pressures he faces. It's putting him farther down on the priority list and as a result putting his needs behind everyone else’s. It’s assuming that because he used to be one way that he can never change, improve and grow. The thing is that you don't want another "child" to care for. You want a husband who is there for you emotionally, spiritually, physically and financially. You don't need an emasculated man anymore. You need a strong husband who... understands his value. feels your love, who knows that their home is a safe place, who knows that they will be encouraged and built up in that environment. feels that they are important for more than just bringing home a paycheck knows that they are a priority and will always be a priority in your life. understands that change is possible and that who they used to be or what they have done in the past does not define who they are forever. As the famous write Ralph Waldo Emerson stated, "A man’s wife has more power over him than the state has." You have the power right now to purposefully impact your husband. Take a step of faith and go do it! In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the problem of the emasculated man in marriage and how you as his wife can either build him up or tear him down. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don't Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Thursday July 28th at 6 PM PST. DURING THIS FREE WEBINAR YOU WILL LEARN: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register NOW! 332 - Releasing Resentment Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Intimacy Lifestyle was introduced to the ONE Family as a way for you and your spouse to not have to wonder if you were going to have sex or not. Unfortunately, over the years we have heard from couples who have started to only get derailed for one reason or another. Some of these reasons are... "We agreed to The Intimacy Lifestyle but it seems like I am always having to remind my spouse". "My spouse said that they were on board but it doesn’t really seem like they are into it". "We agreed to The Intimacy Lifestyle but it doesn’t seem to be working for us". A few weeks ago we did a podcast on The Intimacy Lifestyle and realized that there was a major piece missing from that show. A piece that might just change everything. We talked about what The Intimacy Lifestyle IS but we didn’t talk about what it is NOT. The Intimacy Lifestyle is NOT Something to half heartedly commit to. Something to just spring on your spouse. A band-aid for your marriage. Something to just pacify your spouse. Something you decide to do and then never talk about again. Something that is ONE size fits all. Something that is convenient, it’s truly a lifestyle choice. A sex tool, honestly it is a communication tool and a tool to enhance all areas of your marriage. A lifestyle choice is just that, it’s choosing a style of life. In this case The Intimacy Lifestyle is choosing a style of life that involves intimacy at all levels. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important to know what the intimacy lifestyle is NOT so that you can fully embrace all that it has to offer. EPISODE SPONSOR | Strategic Relationship Coaching with Alisa Imagine waking up each morning next to the person you love more than anything in the world. Not just a “roommate” or a person you “get on with”. But having the fairy tale marriage you've always dreamed of. Because it really is possible if you’re willing to put in the time. Start coaching today with Alisa. 328 - The Intimacy Lifestyle Dominion Card Game Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Resentment is a poison that builds slowly as it snowballs into extreme disconnect. What starts out as one disappointment becomes a laundry list of all of the ways that your spouse has hurt you, disappointed you, not been there for you, etc. The resentment that you harbor toward your partner can be masked as: Anger Boredom Indifference Withdrawal Disconnect What started out as something manageable now has become overwhelming for you and your partner. Right now, it’s feels virtually impossible to bridge that gap to reconnect. Both men and women experience resentment in different areas in the marriage. Some of these areas of resentment are... Staying home/working outside of the house Having to take care of the household Having to be the provider Always being the one to initiate Upside down priorities (kids, work, extended family, other friends) You now know why you are holding onto this resentment and yet do you know where it comes from? Resentment comes from... Ineffective communication Unvoiced expectations No clear vision direction Fear of rejection In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the negative consequences when resentment builds up in your marriage and what you can do to change that path. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get You Communication on the Same Path Remember how you felt when you first met your partner? How close you were? Like you were soul mates? Why because you spent so much time connecting and communicating. Now imagine having that same level of connection and intimacy for the life of your marriage. Become one of those couples that celebrates your 20th, 30th or even 50th wedding anniversary while you both are still completely in love with each other. Grab He Zigs, She Zags today. 046 - Are You Keeping Score? Dear Couples, Rejection Is Crushing Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices