ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

"Showing gratitude is one of the most simplest yet most powerful things that human beings can do for each other." —Randy Pausch Thanksgiving. It's a time dedicated to giving thanks and expressing gratitude to those you love. The act of expressing gratitude is important for your spouse who receives your gratitude as well as for you who is giving it. When you do this for and with each other it changes your perspective on your marriage. When you express your appreciation for what you have your world shifts. Your mind shifts. Life changes when you are thankful for things you have and can actually express that out loud. What you share doesn’t have to be anything earth shattering. It doesn’t have to be huge. But it has to be said. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important to express gratitude in your marriage and how you can incorporate this idea into the holidays. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"If her bra matches her panties when you take off her clothes, it wasn’t you who decided to have sex." —Anonymous When you are wearing sexy underwear it has a way of bringing you and your spouse together in a special way. A loose definition of sexy underwear is: underwear that has fun colors or patterns that hug you in all of the right places because they fit. Many folks dismiss the importance of underwear, seeing them as merely a functional piece of clothing and yet they have the potential to be so much more. Sexy underwear makes you feel sexy. It’s visually stimulating for both of you. You think about your partner throughout the day, knowing that they are going to be pleased with what they see. :) Your sexy underwear is another tool in your marriage tool box. Whatever constitutes sexy underwear for you the key is getting them and then wearing them often. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about your sexy underwear and why it’s not just a functional piece of clothing. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Sexy Lingerie Panties JINSHI Bamboo Underwear 051 - True Friendship 166 - Holey Underwear 7 Days of Sex Challenge Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Once you lie to me the first time, I’ll question everything else you say." —Anonymous When you lie to your spouse it's a cancer that multiplies over time. The lie starts off small and then grows with one lie after another. Eventually you have something so large and unrecognizable that the pain you are experiencing has to go. We are experiencing an epidemic in marriages, an epidemic of lying and it’s wreaking havoc on relationships. Lies can come in different forms such as... Not telling the truth. Leaving out bits and pieces. Not honoring your word. Little white lies. Big whopping lies. Research has shown that individuals will lie for different reasons. The most common are: Trying to protect yourself. Feeling shame over a decision. Wanting to avoid confrontation. The very things that you are trying to avoid are the things that you invite into the relationship by your lying. When you speak these lies you find yourself under attack as you constantly look over your shoulder wondering how or when your partner is going to find out about your secret. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about how lies become a cancer in your marriage and what you need to do to heal. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Snoring is a good indication that one person is asleep and no one else is." —Linda Poindexter It's been another long day as you prepare yourself for a good night sleep. You slide into bed, turn on your Sound+Sleep Machine as you enjoy a quiet house. Your eyelids begin to close and you are just about to fall asleep when… The snoring starts. Oh no! Another night of sleep is going to be a challenge. AGAIN. Marriages are struggling when one or both spouse's are snoring. According to the National Sleep Foundation, snoring affects some 90 million adults, 37 million on a “regular basis”.   If this is you in your marriage... you are not alone. But this doesn’t make it any easier for you. Snoring can cause many problems in marriage. Such as: Frustration, more arguments, more disconnection. Sleeping in separate rooms.  Arguments about whether or not it’s happening. Making your relationship a he said/she said. Your health. Now, the two of you don’t have to keep on suffering... In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens in your marriage when one of you is snoring so loud that it interrupts a good night of sleep. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Sound+Sleep Machine Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Sleeping Wedges Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Circumstances may cause interruptions and delays but never lose sight of your goal." —Mario Andretti Has there ever been a time in your marriage when you and your spouse were about to enjoy sex and then you hear a knocking at your door? Maybe you can relate to this scenario… All of the kids are in bed (or so you think) The house is quiet You’re locked in your room Your Sound+Sleep Machine is on as you begin to make romantic eyes at one another You start foreplay And there’s a knocking on the door. Who is it? It’s one of your kids, who you thought was asleep, needing some cuddle time. You head out of bed, help them get settled and then head back to your bedroom. Your spouse is waiting as you climb back into bed. You begin to get in the mood when again you hear... Knocking at your door. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens when someone’s knocking on your bedroom door in the middle of your time together. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Sound+Sleep Machine 332 - Releasing Resentment Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that is has taken place." —George Bernard Shaw When you have certain expectations, your spouse has expectations and yet neither of you communicate them to each other there will be unmet expectations. Each of you will have a level of frustration that you are experiencing. You may even be say things like: I don’t understand why he/she doesn’t know this by now. Isn’t the way we do __________ obvious? Why do I have to spell it out every time? These questions indicate that there are unmet expectations in the marriage. There are areas of your life and marriage that you want your spouse to know or do. And often there is this game played… I’ll wait to see what he/she does. Will my spouse get it right this time. I've said it before. With this attitude you are setting yourself up for frustration. Because... you are constantly growing and changing. your moods are not the same from one day to the next. life experiences have impacted the way that you see things in the relationship. Often your expectations are not being shared in a way that is beneficial to your relationship. You hint at them, voice them after the fact and even said when you are highly emotional. It doesn’t have to be that way. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why your unmet expectations aren’t so obvious to your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proved Questions for Couples 287 - The Impact of Tone and Timing Men’s Bamboo Boxer Briefs Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Desire creates havoc between two people when it is the ONLY thing between them or when it’s what’s missing." —Mignon McLaughlin Have you ever experienced: Lack of sexual desire Low libido No libido A take it or leave it attitude No expression of desire No sexual connection. A sexual connection with your spouse is a primary need. Unfortunately, a lack of sexual desire is impacting your marriage and the reasons for it are varied. It could be from: Stress or anxiety Health issues Resentment Rejection Kids in the bedroom Being over committed Unresolved forgiveness. Whatever the reason may be lack of sexual desire has always been addressed as "his problem" or "her problem" and yet how often do you stop to think that it’s really OUR problem. When there is a lack of sexual desire in your marriage this creates a divide, it builds a wall, it separates the two of you. When this happens you can begin to have feelings of: Anger Loneliness Doubt Fear Negativity Resentment. Instead of the two of you becoming more unified as a married couple a lack of sexual desire can have the two of you feeling more divided than ever. It can have you questioning your marriage and your role in it. It doesn’t have to be this way. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the impact that a lack of sexual desire has on you, your spouse and your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: 328 - The Intimacy Lifestyle 332 - Releasing Resentment Extra Strength Horny Goat Weed for Natural Libido Boost 7 Days of Sex Challenge: How to Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity. The order varies for any given year." —Anonymous When this show is first released on October 4, 2016, we will be 24 hours away from celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary. As with any milestone, we approached this anniversary with celebration. It also became a time to reflect on where we have been and where we are going. While 20 years married is a significant anniversary, it’s not the end of the road. We still have a lot of life left in this marriage and we want to keep doing what’s been working. So what have we learned in 20 years? What did we wish we knew at the beginning? For us it’s come down to 3 things that have played out time and again in our marriage and we’ve seen it in so many of the emails and voicemail messages from the ONE Family. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about 3 ways you can make sure that there is a celebration for your next anniversary and those to come. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Breaking Free: How to Improve Yourself to Improve Your Relationship 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP 193 - Divorce Is Off The Table Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Knowing is not enough we must apply. Willing is not enough we must do." —J W Von Goethe When you don’t know what works in the bedroom (or what doesn’t) you may be paralyzed wondering... Does my spouse like this? Is this position OK? Are they initiating? Is this a good time? Think about this for a minute. If you don’t know what your spouse likes, it’s hard to be fully present in the act of making love. If you don’t know how your spouse initiates or if they are initiating, there may be a lot of hurt feelings. Doubt creeps in and Doubt is NEVER a good thing in your marriage. When both of you don't know what works for the two of you this can create a disconnect. Disconnect leads to questions swirling in your head which then leads to a breakdown in your confidence. When you lose your confidence you wonder if you two even know each other anymore.  At this point you may stop trying because of the uncertainty you are faced with each day. What does this mean? Less sex More frustration More arguments Unhappiness There are enough things in the world that can cause frustration in your life, let’s not have it be wondering what works for you and your spouse in the bedroom. This is something that the two of you can control and talk about. Now you may not always agree. But you will know your spouse. Because when you know what works you’re not just shooting blindly in your bedroom. You are making a conscious decision as to how you are going to approach your sexual intimacy.   In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why what you don’t know about your spouse in the bedroom can hurt you and your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Breaking Free: How to Improve Yourself to Improve Your Relationship Many of you have said to us: "I know that there are areas that I need to work on." "My spouse is not ready to work on the marriage but I need to take action." "I want things to be different but I don’t know what to do." During this 4-week online group coaching workshop we will be covering sessions on how to overcome fear, creatively voice your expectations, lose the negative thoughts and how to be bold in your relationship. ONLY 20 men and 20 women will be accepted for this workshop which begins October 4. Don’t miss out on your chance to have your relationship transformed before the craziness of the holidays. Get all the details for Breaking Free NOW! 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Strategic Coaching with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"In all things there is a law of cycles." —Tacitus (Roman Historian) It is absolutely critical that you understand the female menstrual cycle for your sex life and for your marriage. A woman’s body is absolutely amazing and it’s hard wired to ebb and flow as the hormones fluctuate each and every month. As a woman’s hormones change during the menstrual cycle so does her husband’s responsiveness to her. Pretty cool. Here's the thing though... You need to know what's going on. When hormonal forms of birth control are being used this may impact the menstrual cycles thus impacting your sex life. Men you need to understand your wife’s monthly rhythms as it will absolutely change your sex life. Choosing not to know about her menstrual cycle is choosing to not to be fully engaged in your marriage. Not knowing about the cycles of sex puts the two of you at a distinct disadvantage. Why you might ask... Because KNOWING will change how the two of you relate to one another. KNOWING allows the two of you to connect throughout the month in different ways based on biology as well as emotional connection. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why knowing her menstrual cycle is important to your sex life. EPISODE SPONSOR | Breaking Free: How to Improve Yourself to Improve Your Relationship Many of you have said to us: "I know that there are areas that I need to work on." "My spouse is not ready to work on the marriage but I need to take action." "I want things to be different but I don’t know what to do." During this 4-week online group coaching workshop we will be covering sessions on how to overcome fear, creatively voice your expectations, lose the negative thoughts and how to be bold in your relationship. ONLY 20 men and 20 women will be accepted for this workshop which begins October 4. Don’t miss out on your chance to have your relationship transformed before the craziness of the holidays. Get all the details for Breaking Free NOW! Taking Charge of Your Fertility 7 Days of Sex Challenge Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices