Healing Childhood Trauma

In this episode of healing childhood trauma, the anxious and avoidant attachment style dynamic is explored. It’s why the relationships that seem to make sense in the beginning, often end up in frustration and dissatisfaction. In this episode you’ll understand where anxious and avoidant attachment begins How these patterns show up in the early stages of a relationship Why people with anxious attachment are drawn to people with avoidant attachment Why people with avoidant attachment can appear to be secure in the early stages of a relationshipand lots moreThis is the in-depth answers to attachment that you’ve been looking for that help you to improve your attachment patterns Previous episode on attachment 4 Attachment Styles in Relationships [Ep 2]Subscribe and watch the free training Stop Doing Relationships Like Your ParentsConnect on TikTokConnect on Instagram and share what you want to hear on upcoming episodes. Support the show

Lizandra is a trauma informed psychotherapist who works with relational trauma in adults. Healing Childhood Trauma is a mental health podcast about healing from the past, breaking unhealthy patterns and becoming secure, so you can have the best relationships.This podcast is for you if you find yourself asking questions such asHow do I heal from Trauma? Can I change my attachment style? Why am I a people pleaser? How do I get over my fear of being alone? Why do I feel triggered by my partner’s behaviour? How do I set boundaries with toxic family members? Why do I not feel good enough even when things are going well? What are signs of childhood trauma affecting me as an adult? In this episode, Lizandra reveals her own personal experience and insight into managing when you feel emotionally overwhelmed? Key points: A trauma-informed approach to emotional wellbeing when you have experienced trauma The importance of connecting with your body for effective trauma healingThis episode is like a relaxed conversation with a friend but with psychological tips to help you get out of feeling the freeze response and shutting down when overwhelmed How to regulate your nervous system and being more in connection with yourself for secure attachment Connect on TikTokConnect on InstagramJoin the Mailing List and receive your free Attachment Healing Guide Support the show

In this episode we explore the root cause of an insecure attachment and father wounds in daughters.Attachment is often related to romantic relationships but the patterns of abandonment and rejection are often much deeper. As a therapist that works with childhood relational trauma, psychotherapist Lizandra offers insights from clinical practice and experience. Key learnings: How to consider your safety when working with trauma so that you don't feel overwhelmed. When happens when you are the daughter of the emotionally absent or critical fatherWhy do you feel drawn to relationships where you never feel good enough? At the end - you'll hear three key steps to begin healing from father wounds to feel more secure in yourself and the relationships that are important to you. 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra Connect on TikTokConnect on InstagramSee the websiteAre you enjoying the podcast? Do me a huge favour and scroll to the bottom of the episode and tap on the stars to leave a rating. This helps more wonderful souls like you to find the show. Support the show

Join psychotherapist and relationship therapist Lizandra for this real talk episode that unpacks red flags in relationships and dating. Do you ignore the early warning signs in relationships? Ever wish you could have spotted the signs of a toxic relationship early on? In this episode you'll discover how we repeat relationship patterns we've learned from our parentsThe early signs to spot problematic and narcissistic behaviours you shouldn't ignoreWhy we normalise toxic behaviours in relationshipsand The patterns of behaviour that indicate a lack of boundaries Subscribe and watch the free training Stop Doing Relationships Like Your Parents**Currently Accepting Clients** 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra Connect on TikTokConnect on Instagram⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Are you enjoying the podcast? Do me a huge favour and scroll to the bottom of the episode on apple podcasts and tap on the stars to leave a rating. This helps more wonderful souls like you to find the show. Support the show

In this episode, we dive deep into the struggles of maintaining your sense of self in relationships when you have an anxious attachment style. If you find yourself constantly overthinking, people pleasing, or feeling like you’re "too much," this episode is for you. We’ll explore why anxious attachers often lose themselves in relationships, how childhood trauma plays a role, and practical steps to regain self-worth and emotional independence.Key Takeaways:Understanding anxious attachment and why it leads to self abandonment in relationships.How early attachment wounds from childhood create patterns of overdependence and fear of rejection.Practical strategies for maintaining boundaries, building self-trust, and staying grounded in your identity while still being in a relationship.What makes your triggers worse when you don’t pay attention to your relational needs A secure attachment approach to having relationships and meeting your own needs If you’re ready to stop losing yourself in relationships and start healing from anxious attachment, don’t miss this episode. Listen now and take the first step toward emotional freedom and secure relationships. For more support, download my free guide on healing attachment patterns, and join the conversation in my Facebook group, Becoming Secure.Previous episode mentioned:How to heal from anxious attachment Good news! Clients are currently being accepted.📱Book your free intro call with Lizandra to get started.Connect on TikTokConnect on InstagramHave you rated the podcast yet? It would mean a lot to me if you would scroll to the end of the episode and tap the stars on apple podcasts. This helps the podcast to grow. Thanks so much!Support the show

What do you do when the most toxic person you know is your mother?It’s hard dealing with a narcissist. It's even harder when that person is your mother. In this episode we explore the dynamic of mother daughter relationships and the traits that narcissist mothers have with their daughters. Find out the seven signs of a narcissistic motherWhat this means about your own attachment style How this can impact your friendships, romantic relationships and how you parentand A surprising way that narcissistic mothers handle dealing with boundaries If you’ve been wondering how to heal from this toxic dynamic, stick around until the end to find out how to heal from the past.  As a daughter of a narcissistic mother, learn what you need to do for yourself to heal your attachment wounds so you can have better relationships.  Lizandra is a psychotherapist who works in private practice helping women to heal from the past so they can thrive in life, work and relationships. Ready to start your healing journey? If you are in the UK and EU you can book your 1:1 therapy session  📱** Book a free intro call with Lizandra here**Visit the website Connect with Lizandra on Socials: on TikTok  on Instagram⭐️ Did you enjoy this episode? Leave a review on apple podcasts. Scroll to the bottom and hit the stars to share your feedback. This helps other people to find the episodes too and helps the podcast to grow.Join the Mailing List and receive your free Attachment Healing Guide Support the show

Do you get anxiety about having anxiety?In this episode we explore the mind and body approach to working with the physical and mental signs of anxiety. Experienced psychotherapist Lizandra discusses an integrative approach from clinical practice that helps clients to recognise their signs of overwhelm and stress to feel calmer. This episode also includes anxiety strategies that help to regulate your nervous system and why there can be a benefit to experiencing anxiety. The Anxiety Workbook referenced in the show - learn these skills and more to reduce your anxiety and emotional triggers. **Are you enjoying listening to the show? Don’t forget to rate and leave a review. This helps other people to find the podcast too.**Support the show

This episode is all about understanding the dismissive avoidant attachment style. This attachment style is often misunderstood so in this episode we unpack:Where dismissive avoidant attachment comes from What to look out for when identifying avoidant attachment How this attachment style can negatively impact your relationships if you don’t address your childhood wounds and lots more to understand if you or your someone you know has avoidant attachment traits in relationshipsWant to know more about attachment in relationships and breaking the cycle to have secure attachment? Sign up now to watch the free attachment training  Join the Facebook groupBook a free 15 minute consultation with Lizandra**Did you enjoy this episode? Don’t forget to rate and subscribe! **Support the show

We have often been conditioned to focus on romantic love when healing from anxious attachment or avoidant attachment. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, prioritising your friendships and your own identity is the key to developing your sense of self and having healthy reciprocal relationships.This episode explores how female friendships and friendships in safe spaces can support you in healing from an insecure attachment. Even if you’ve been conditioned to see your value in being chosen and finding ‘the one’ by our very patriarchal standards in society. You’ll learn how friendship can support you in nervous system regulation What you need to look out for in friendship in order to feel loved and heal abandonment woundsHow friends can help in changing your anxious or avoidant attachment style to secureand the message that Sex and The City taught us about relationships, that was overshadowed by the romance of Carrie and Big. If decentering romance and men is your intention for 2025, this is the episode that offers validation and inspiration to help you on that journey. FREE TRAINING: Want to break the cycle of unhealthy relationships and learn more about attachment healing? Sign up to watch the video and join the mailing listJoin the Facebook groupLearn more about the attachment healing program for women, Secure Support the show

In any relationship it’s impossible to avoid hard conversations. Many people think of conflict as a negative thing that destroys relationships. When you change how you approach conflict and how to have difficult conversations with someone you love, you can build a stronger connection. These tips apply to any kind of relationship with someone you care about. In this episode you’ll learn:Why conflict arises Techniques for managing challenging conversations Things to let go of when managing conflict How to have better conflict And Why you tend to avoid conflict and hard conversations in your relationshipsIf you or your partner has an avoidant attachment style and you avoid conflict, this is the episode you want to hear. Did you enjoy this episode? Don’t forget to subscribe! Join the Facebook group Connect on TikTokConnect on Instagram Book a free 15 minute consultation with Lizandra Support the show