The Adversity Advantage with Doug Bopst

Today’s guest is Steve Magness. Steve is a world-renowned expert on health and human performance. He is the co-author of the best-selling Peak Performance and The Passion Paradox, and the author of The Science of Running. He's the co-host of two podcasts, The Growth Equation Podcast and On Coaching with Magness and Marcus. Steve has served as a consultant and speaker for NASA, the Houston Rockets, Murphy Oil, the Brooklyn Nets, the Cleveland Guardians, the Seattle Sounders, the New Orleans Pelicans, and more. The occasion for today's chat is his latest book, Do Hard Things: Why We Get Resilience Wrong and The Surprising Science of Real Toughness.  We talk about how being in the moment matters when aiming for success, confidence requires work and consistency, why perfectionism isn’t sustainable, how to use failure as motivation to keep going, and so much more! Thanks to this episode's sponsor: Join Thrive Market today to get 40% off your first order and a free gift worth over $50. Visit thrivemarket.com/dougfitness. What to Listen For: 00:00 Intro 02:04 We focus so much on what’s going on externally 04:00 Using doubt in a productive way 06:59 Pressure and discomfort narrow us 11:21 Psychological debriefing with friends 17:14 Accept what you’re capable of in the moment 20:18 Confidence demands evidence 22:51 The real boost to your self esteem 26:26 High level of demandingness of parenting doesn’t work 31:26 Doing hard things and embracing difficult things 35:35 How do you change your relationship with discomfort? 39:54 Our doubts are normal 43:37 Perfectionism is not sustainable 46:07 If you succeed all the time, motivation plummets Episode Resources: Steve Magness | Website, Instagram, Twitter, Books, Facebook Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s guest is Terri Cole. Terri is a licensed psychotherapist. She's a relationship expert. She's an empowerment coach, author, and a total boundary boss. And I think this conversation is gonna help you out so much with all things mental health, relationships, boundaries, and more.     We talk about the truth about narcissism and what makes one a narcissist, how setting boundaries in any relationship can save and strengthen it, why it is important to have a good relationship with yourself first and above any bonds, and so much more!  Thanks to this episode's sponsor: Organifi: Try the new Green Juice Crisp Apple to hydrate, energize, and support cortisol balance. Visit ORGANIFI.COM/DOUG and use code DOUG for 20% off any item. What to Listen For: 00:00 Intro 01:12 What is narcissism? 03:49 Can narcissists truly empathize? 09:10 Codependency and toxicity in relationships 16:14 Do a resentment inventory 20:51 “Alcoholics and addicts don’t have relationships, they take hostages.” 29:13 Pause and listen to what your children have to say 33:28 What is the state of your relationship to yourself? 35:26 It all comes back to setting boundaries 44:30 Constantly making deposits into the well of Goodwill 48:59 If you’re walking on eggshells everyday, that’s not healthy Episode Resources: Terri Cole | Website, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn The Terri Cole Show Boundary Boss Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s guest is celebrity trainer Don Saladino. Don is one of the most trusted names in health and fitness and has a reputation for training some of your favorite movie stars. His client roster includes Ryan Reynolds, Hugh Jackman, Sebastian Stan, and Blake Lively. Don's wisdom and expertise on fitness, nutrition, and getting shredded is unmatched and I think you're really going to enjoy our discussion.  We talk about why and why not a calorie deficit diet works, how your body type and lifestyle determines which type of fitness routine to follow, how to get started on a routine for the best results, and so much more!  Thanks to this episode's sponsor: Join Thrive Market today to get 40% off your first order and a free gift worth over $50. Visit thrivemarket.com/dougfitness. What to Listen For: 00:00 Intro 01:44 Taking care of your health while traveling 05:23 The small wins = non-scale victories 09:35 Understand what you are trying to create 11:52 How calorie deficit works 17:58 The importance of the 3 macronutrients 20:45 Common fitness misconceptions online 27:31 Don’t dehydrate yourself 32:11 What do you do if you want to have a beach-body ready? 37:00 Measure your macronutrients 41:15 What’s your training history like?  Episode Resources: Don Saladino | Website, Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, Facebook Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s guest is Jordan Lee Dooley. Jordan is the national bestselling author of Embrace Your Almost and Own Your Everyday and is the host of the top rated podcast, SHE. She's also the founder of the Own It Academy, a digital education company, as well as Soul Scripts, a word company known for its phrase, "Your brokenness is welcome here." We talk about finding clarity when you’re going through moments of adversity, why you shouldn’t allow one story to become your identity, identifying your priorities first prior to taking a step forward, how to get out of a difficult situation when you feel hopeless, and so much more!  Thanks to this episode's sponsors: Organifi: Try the new Green Juice Crisp Apple to hydrate, energize, and support cortisol balance. Visit ORGANIFI.COM/DOUG  and use code DOUG for 20% off any item. Masszymes: Masszymes can help ensure that all the protein that you consume breaks down into absorbable amino acids. Go to masszymes.com/DOUGFREE and you will automatically get access to your unique coupon code to claim your free bottle. What to Listen For: 00:00 Intro 01:45 How it all started 04:50 Consider what you really want in life 09:37 How we can make it less painful 14:38 It’s part of embracing it 18:03 When your story becomes your identity 23:01 Uncover underlying thoughts and beliefs that aren’t true 25:54 Success is what’s enriching your life 28:35 First, define what your priority is 33:37 Start doing one normal thing a day 38:26 Are our expectations reasonable? 40:59 What does real contentment look like? 46:12 What do you really want? Episode Resources: Jordan Lee Dooley | Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest Own It Academy Soul Scripts Embrace Your Almost  Own Your Everyday SHE with Jordan Lee Dooley Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s guest is Dr. Laurie Santos who's a professor of psychology and head of Silliman College at Yale University. Dr. Santos is an expert on human cognition and the cognitive biases that impede better choices. Her course, Psychology and the Good Life, teaches students what the science of psychology says about how to make wiser choices and live a life that's happier and more fulfilling. The class is Yale's most popular course in over 300 years and has been adapted into a free Coursera program that has been taken by over 3.9 million people to date. Dr. Santos has been featured in numerous news outlets including the New York Times, NBC Nightly News, Today's Show, CBS This Morning, NPR, GQ Magazine, and much more. Dr. Santos is a winner of numerous awards both for her science and teaching from institutions such as Yale and the American Psychological Association. She has been featured as one of Popular Science's Brilliant 10 Young Minds and was named Times' leading campus celebrity. Her podcast, The Happiness Lab, which launched in 2019, has over 72 million downloads.   We talk about what real happiness is, how our choices affect our happiness, why being happy all the time is not ideal, why we shouldn’t focus on predicting what will make us happy, staying optimistic when things don’t go as we plan them to, and so much more!  Thanks to this episode's sponsor: Join Thrive Market today to get 40% off your first order and a free gift worth over $50. Visit thrivemarket.com/dougfitness. What to Listen For: 00:00 Intro 01:39 Do you think happiness is a choice? 03:03 Simple behaviors and mindsets that can improve wellbeing 05:25 The common misconceptions about being happy all the time 08:31 Focus on the things that you can control 11:03 The arrival fallacy 14:50 Emotional contagion: “You are the people you surround yourself with.” 19:07 Being there to listen is the work 21:01 Changing habits and strategies to make children happier 26:13 Our minds suck at predicting what will make us happy 28:11 How can we feel optimistic when things fall apart? 32:57 How does money affect your happiness? 36:11 Correlation between physical health and happiness Episode Resources: Dr. Laurie Santos | Website, Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, Facebook Group The Happiness Lab Podcast Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s guest is fitness icon, Mark Bell. You may recognize Mark from his popular podcast, which I was fortunate to be a guest on or from his innovative fitness products, or perhaps from his entertaining social media content. But Mark is so much more than that. He is one of the most respected people in the health and fitness space and has tons of life lessons and wisdom as well as an incredible story to share which we are going to unpack today.     We talk about body transformation, how one can stay consistent to achieve a fit body, mastering patience and calmness daily, forming habits that promote self respect, the challenges of parenthood, and so much more!  Thanks to this episode's sponsor: Organifi: Try the new Green Juice Crisp Apple to hydrate, energize, and support cortisol balance. Visit ORGANIFI.COM\DOUG and use code DOUG for 20% off any item. What to Listen For: 00:00 Intro 01:21 “I love a good comeback story.” 03:29 Staying grounded and humble through fitness 08:38 There are many versions of pain 16:41 How do you earn your self respect? 25:01 How do you stay attached to your positive habits? 28:23 The need to lose weight 36:21 Reestablishing a healthier relationship with food 43:33 How do you win a mental game? 51:43 Learning the virtue of patience as a parent 56:47 Mastering patience and calmness 01:00:21 What does being strong mean to you? Episode Resources: Mark Bell | Website, Instagram, Twitter, TikTok, YouTube Mark Bell’s Power Project Podcast Mark Bell Sling Shot Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s guest is Craig Siegel, founder and creator of the rapidly growing CLS podcast and brand. What you may or may not know is that Craig has an incredible story. Craig had a successful career on Wall Street financially, before finding himself miserable during the pandemic. After hitting rock bottom, mentally and emotionally, Craig dove deep into running and personal development to cultivate a transformative identity shift. Craig's energy and passion for life and personal growth is infectious and entertaining, and it is the driving force behind his success today, personally and professionally.    We talk about how transformative staying active can be in anyone’s life, why identifying non-negotiables in your life opens a path for better opportunities, how to overcome the negative thoughts in your head, the type of validation you should be seeking, and so much more!  Thanks to this episode's sponsor: Join Thrive Market today to get 40% off your first order and a free gift worth over $50. Visit thrivemarket.com/dougfitness. What to Listen For: 00:00 Intro 01:30 Who was Craig Siegel before? 04:25 “Running plays a big role in my life.” 11:41 You have to be a match for the abundance out there 15:09 Does the law of attraction work? 18:07 You have to have non-negotiables 23:30 How do you get negative thoughts out of your head? 28:49 Be around people who are upgrading and growing 32:25 The opinions of others isn’t our business 35:37 Anything worth doing in life comes with a price 38:20 The past you and the present you 43:58 Delegation has been a challenge 47:17 Being present is a portal for expansion 50:53 Realize that you don’t know everything Episode Resources: Craig Siegel | Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, TikTok, Website The CLS Experience Podcast Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest is Mollie West Duffy. Mollie is the co-author of the Wall Street Journal bestselling book, No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work. She's an expert in organizational development and leadership development. You may also recognize her from her highly popular Instagram page, @lizandmollie, where she and her co-author, Liz Fosslien, share on all things life, mental health, feelings, and more. The occasion for today's chat is their latest book, Big Feelings: How to Be Okay When Things Are Not Okay. And I think y'all are gonna get so much out of this discussion.      We talk about our emotional wellbeing, the strength in finding the courage to be open about your vulnerability, why we shouldn't discredit our achievements no matter how little they may seem, using envy to push ourselves to become better, what can we do to prevent burnout, and so much more! Thanks to this episode's sponsor: Masszymes: Go to masszymes.com/DOUGFREE and you will automatically get access to your unique coupon code to claim your free bottle. What to Listen For: 00:00 Intro 01:47 Working on a book about emotional wellbeing 06:08 Sharing some things you’re afraid of sharing 11:43 Uncertainty 15:33 Myth about resiliency 18:39 Start with, “Where am I today?” 22:48 We usually discount how far we’ve come 24:57 The feeling of comparison and jealousy 30:09 Using envy positively 34:43 How do you deal with comparison? 38:29 Let’s discuss burnout 43:44 Be open about your personal schedule 51:43 Why we put so much value in social media  Episode Resources: Mollie Duffy | Website, Instagram, Twitter No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work Big Feelings: How to Be Okay When Things Are Not Okay Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s guest is David McRaney, host of the popular science podcast, You Are Not So Smart. And David seeks to shed light on the surprising psychology about why people change their minds and how we can persuade others. In his latest book, How Minds Change: The Surprising Science of Belief, Opinion, and Persuasion, David delves into the latest psychological and neuroscientific research and explains that to change mind, we must do what the science suggests, avoid debates and start having conversations.   We talk about how our minds work, how our circumstances and the environment we have affect our thought process, why our beliefs make it difficult to change our perspective, how we should process the information we get exposed to, and so much more!  Thanks to this episode's sponsor: Join Thrive Market today to get 40% off your first order and a free gift worth over $50. Visit thrivemarket.com/dougfitness. Earth Echo Foods/Cacao Bliss: www.earthechofoods.com/dougbopst Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order  What to Listen For: 00:00 Intro 01:25 Our mind changes a lot of times 04:35 The difference between belief and value 08:50 Understanding how do minds change? 13:44 We are motivated reasoners 18:57 What leads us into a polarized state 27:31 People arrive at their conclusions through a long process 32:47 When you have negative self talks and limiting beliefs 42:04 The reason why it’s difficult to change our minds 46:52 We favor what we currently believe 50:22 Treat everything as hypothetical 52:01 How do we decipher which information is real and not real? Episode Resources: David McRaney | Website, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, Books  You Are Not So Smart Podcast How Minds Change Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest is wellness influencer, Aurora Culpo. Aurora is a mother of two and a certified yoga instructor and has a passion for providing real, raw, and relatable insights on all things wellness, parenting, mental health, relationships, and more Aurora has quite the story of her own and today we're going to get into all the things. Also, be sure to check out the Culpo Family reality show that is set to premiere later this year on Discovery+.       We talk about the positive and negative effects of too much social media exposure, being authentic and vulnerable at the same time, not allowing negative feedback to get in the way of expressing your thoughts freely, how yoga can change someone’s life, and so much more! Thanks to this episode's sponsor: B3 Sciences: Ride the B3 Band wave today! Checkout https://B3Sciences.com/ to order your own B3 Band. It comes with a 30-day money back guarantee for any B3 Band purchase.  What to Listen For: 00:00 Intro 00:49 Editing photos to post on social media 05:16 How does editing photos make people feel? 08:15 There are different kinds of addiction 11:39 Some of the life lessons you’re still learning 16:18 It’s always good to not feel alone 20:55 Finding the courage to post your thoughts 26:41 You’re never your old self after having a child 30:23 Finding balance between food and exercise to get the most energy 33:57 Staying grounded in your peace 40:10 Why I started doing yoga 43:21 Was there a sisterly rivalry? 47:14 Looking forward to the Culpo Family reality show  50:01 Future plans and projects 51:35 Having a background in education  Episode Resources: Aurora Culpo | Instagram Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter   ***Please note that B3 Sciences is a DSM company. I am not affiliated with B3 Sciences and this advertisement is for the B3 Sciences band only and NOT to join their DSM pipeline. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices