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The Adversity Advantage with Doug Bopst

Terri Cole On Setting Boundaries, Codependency & How to Stop People Pleasing

Jul 21, 2022
57:55

Today’s guest is Terri Cole. Terri is a licensed psychotherapist. She's a relationship expert. She's an empowerment coach, author, and a total boundary boss. And I think this conversation is gonna help you out so much with all things mental health, relationships, boundaries, and more.    

We talk about the truth about narcissism and what makes one a narcissist, how setting boundaries in any relationship can save and strengthen it, why it is important to have a good relationship with yourself first and above any bonds, and so much more! 

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What to Listen For:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 01:12 What is narcissism?
  • 03:49 Can narcissists truly empathize?
  • 09:10 Codependency and toxicity in relationships
  • 16:14 Do a resentment inventory
  • 20:51 “Alcoholics and addicts don’t have relationships, they take hostages.”
  • 29:13 Pause and listen to what your children have to say
  • 33:28 What is the state of your relationship to yourself?
  • 35:26 It all comes back to setting boundaries
  • 44:30 Constantly making deposits into the well of Goodwill
  • 48:59 If you’re walking on eggshells everyday, that’s not healthy

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