What is a Good Life?

On the 137th episode of What is a Good Life?, I’m delighted to welcome Diane Button. Diane is a founding partner of the Bay Area End-of-Life Doula Alliance in Northern California, and the best-selling author of Dear Death: Finding Meaning in Life, Peace in Death, and Joy in an Ordinary Day and The Doula Tool Kit: The Complete Practical Guide for End-of-Life Doulas & Caregivers (co-authored with Angela Shook and Gabby Jimenez). She holds a master’s degree in Counselling Psychology, works as a practicing end-of-life doula, and serves as a lead instructor in the University of Vermont Larner College of Medicine’s End-of-Life Doula Certificate Program. Her latest book is the inspiring What Matters Most.In our conversation, Diane shares the profound insights she has gained through her work, emphasising the power of presence, the value of embracing all emotions, and the joy found in life’s simplest moments.Together, we explore how the beauty of ordinary days and the wisdom of those facing death can illuminate what it truly means to live well and meet life’s final chapter with grace.For Diane's latest book, What Matters Most:To buy your copy: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/768705/what-matters-most-by-diane-button/About the book: https://www.dianebutton.com/what-matters-mostWebsite: https://www.dianebutton.comContact me at mark@whatisagood.life if you'd like to explore your own lines of self-inquiry through 1-on-1 coaching, my 5-week group courses, or to discuss experiences I create to stimulate greater trust, communication, and connection, amongst your leadership teams.- For the What is a Good Life? podcast's YouTube page: https://www.youtube.com/@whatisagoodlife/videos- My newsletter: https://www.whatisagood.life/- My LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-mccartney-14b0161b4/00:00 Reflections on the book02:10 The depth of the role of an End of Life Doula04:45 Experiencing everything08:44 The cultivation of presence14:00 Pausing and slowing down17:00 An awareness of joy21:20 An expression of gratitude25:30 The process of writing the book31:55 Not waiting to celebrate life36:30 Distilling what matter most40:30 The simple moments43:30 Legacy work with the dying48:00 Regrets over the little things52:30 Self-love, acceptance, and authenticity1:00:00 Comfort with grief and conflicting emotions1:08:00 The importance of our small acts

On the 136th episode of the What is a Good Life? podcast, I’m delighted to welcome our guest, Aadita Chaudhury. Aadita is a researcher, writer and arts practitioner inhabiting the intersection of the arts, science, ecology, and spirituality. Her work is shaped by ethnographic approaches, poetic inquiry, embodied methodologies, sonic practices, photography, and encounters with mythology, folklore and ritual, guided by ethics of slow, non-extractive decolonial research. She is interested in perspectives from the Global South in relation to technoscientific imaginaries, decolonial, feminist and working-class social movements. Aadita has conducted research in the US, Canada, the UK, Italy, India and Mexico. Her academic and public work has appeared in International Relations, Conservation Letters and Al Jazeera.In this conversation, Aadita explores the themes of rootedness, belonging, and identity amidst a rapidly changing world. She reflects on her journey through liminal spaces, the impact of cultural expectations, and the quest for enough-ness. The discussion delves into the implications of human exceptionalism, the importance of direct communication, and the value of community connections. Ultimately, Aadita considers a good life as one that embraces honesty, embodiment, and the emergent flux of reality.For more of Aadita's work: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aadita/Website: https://www.aaditachaudhury.com/Contact me at mark@whatisagood.life if you'd like to explore your own lines of self-inquiry through 1-on-1 coaching, my 5-week group courses, or to discuss experiences I create to stimulate greater trust, communication, and connection, amongst your leadership teams.- For the What is a Good Life? podcast's YouTube page: https://www.youtube.com/@whatisagoodlife/videos- My newsletter: https://www.whatisagood.life/- My LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-mccartney-14b0161b4/00:00 Navigating Liminal Spaces04:00 A Practice of Presence06:00 Rootedness, identity, and preference09:55 Cultural expectations 14:30 The expectation of proving our worth16:30 Exploring human exceptionalism20:00 Conditional enough-ness26:00 Concepts from human exceptionalism 30:00 Fear of death and immortality 34:00 Moving from abstract to embodied42:30 Attentiveness to our community53:00 The repression of forced politeness59:15 An appreciation for directness1:06:00 Summary and what is a good life for Aadita?

Stephen Jenkinson, a cultural worker and author, dives deep into the complexities of life, love, and matrimony. He discusses the significance of ceremonies, emphasizing the importance of community in weddings and the bittersweet transitions they embody. Jenkinson contrasts longing with belonging, suggesting true connection comes from appreciating one’s ancestry and responsibilities to future generations. The conversation also highlights the need for meaningful endings in rituals, advocating for a collective memory that honors our shared human experiences.

In this engaging conversation, Mike Moss, a seasoned BACP registered Counsellor with over 40 years of experience, shares profound insights on the beauty of everyday life. He discusses the significance of being present and how a simple smile can transform connections. Mike emphasizes self-discovery and the importance of embracing life’s complexities. He invites listeners to find joy in ordinary moments and highlights the interconnectedness of our experiences, encouraging mindfulness as a pathway to recognizing beauty in the mundane.

Join Dr. Richard Claydon, a leadership strategist and creator of the Praxis Q framework, as he delves into the intricacies of navigating leadership in today's complex world. He discusses the need for authentic self-awareness and the importance of dialogue in fostering trust and interdependence. Claydon critiques traditional leadership models that lead to burnout, advocating for a more human-centric approach. He also explores how evolving trust dynamics can empower leaders to build resilient systems and make meaningful contributions to their environments.

Kate Arms, an expert in organizational systems and co-founder of the Neurodiversity Coaching Academy, discusses the complexities of human existence and how to thrive through life’s challenges. She navigates the interplay of grief and joy, advocating for mindfulness and presence. Kate shares insights on balancing intuition and analysis, as well as the importance of teaching resilience. She highlights the need for systemic change and the role of becoming a wise elder to foster a thriving future.

In this dialogue, Dave Bingham, founder of True Circles Training Ltd, shares his journey from the tech sector to facilitating transformative Council practices. He discusses the art of aligning life with authenticity and personal purpose, emphasizing the deep impact of heart-centered communication. Through stories of circle gatherings and men’s groups, Dave illustrates how creating safe spaces fosters vulnerability and connection. This conversation invites us to explore the healing power of emotions and the importance of listening from the heart.

On the 130th episode of the What is a Good Life? podcast, I’m delighted to welcome our guest, Ella Fryer-Smith. Ella is the founder of Do You Research, an agency established with the intention of drawing on over 15 years of research experience, collaborating with the amazing researchers she has met along the way, and maintaining a clear focus on inclusion to deliver exceptional research, consultancy, and training. Specialising in qualitative research methods, particularly film ethnography, her work has taken her around the world—observing people’s everyday lives and exploring everything from toilet roll and white goods to how people manage their money. She has also helped policymakers navigate the future of health services and travel. Ella is the Vice Chair of the Association of Qualitative Researchers (AQR) board and sits on the Market Research Society (MRS) Social Inclusion Group.In this engaging conversation, Ella shares her journey of embracing uncertainty and the paradox of confidence in admitting what we don't know. We explore the importance of presence in parenting, the significance of her parents as role models, freedom within constraints, and the need for research to reflect the voices of the unheard.For me, this discussion really emphasises the significance of lived experience in understanding—and truly seeing—each other.For more of Ella's work, check out the following:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ella-fryer-smith-91281723/Website: https://www.doyou-research.com/Contact me at mark@whatisagood.life if you'd like to explore your own lines of self-inquiry through 1-on-1 coaching, take part in my 5-week What is a Good Life? group courses, discuss experiences I create to stimulate greater trust, communication, and connection, amongst your leadership teams, or you simply want to get in touch.- For the What is a Good Life? podcast's YouTube page: https://www.youtube.com/@whatisagoodlife/videos- My newsletter: https://www.whatisagood.life/- My LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-mccartney-14b0161b4/- Exploring one-on-one coaching: https://www.whatisagood.life/p/one-on-one-coaching- What is a Good Life? Course: https://www.whatisagood.life/p/the-what-is-a-good-life-course00:00 Letting go of saying I know05:15 Arriving into confidence09:55 Embracing of the unknown12:15 Constraints within freedom and creativity 16:00 Prioritising presence with children21:30 The importance of parental role models28:10 We may have more flexibility than we think32:00 We are inundated with messaging35:00 Research for social issues39:30 The significance of meeting people42:00 Making sense of people’s lives44:30 Engaging with unheard voices52:30 Foregrounding lived experience more1:00:50 What is a good life for Ella?

On the 129th episode of the What is a Good Life? podcast, I’m delighted to welcome our guest, Neale Donald Walsch. Neale has written 40 books on contemporary spirituality and its practical application in everyday life, including his new book GodTalk: Experiences of Humanity’s Connections with a Higher Power. Neale is the bestselling author of the Conversations with God series, of which seven of the nine books made the New York Times bestseller list. Book One remained on that list for 134 weeks. His titles have been translated into 37 languages and have been read by millions of people around the world.In this conversation, Neale discusses his journey in exploring humanity’s relationship with God, emphasising that neither God nor love is transactional. He also shares the experiences that led to his first bestselling book and the life mission that emerged from those dialogues.This conversation invites us to engage with life in a way that contrasts with many cultural norms—by embracing love, deep understanding, and meaningful connection with others.For more of Neale's work, check out the following:Website: http://www.nealedonaldwalsch.com/Books: http://www.nealedonaldwalsch.com/Store/BooksContact me at mark@whatisagood.life if you'd like to explore your own lines of self-inquiry through 1-on-1 coaching, my 5-week group courses, or to discuss experiences I create to stimulate greater trust, communication, and connection, amongst your leadership teams.- For the What is a Good Life? podcast's YouTube page: https://www.youtube.com/@whatisagoodlife/videos- My newsletter: https://www.whatisagood.life/- My LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-mccartney-14b0161b4/- Exploring one-on-one coaching: https://www.whatisagood.life/p/one-on-one-coaching- What is a Good Life? Course: https://www.whatisagood.life/p/the-what-is-a-good-life-course00:00 How we are misunderstanding God04:20 A theologically revolutionary idea10:10 God’s love demands nothing in return13:40 Questioning religion but not a belief in God22:15 Conversing with God29:00 Not a case of right & wrong but what works & doesn’t33:22 The importance of our imagination41:10 God is speaking to us all the time44:45 The bias against a possibility48:30 Sharing conversations with God53:10 Reflecting on the success of the first book56:30 Discovering his life mission1:03:10 What is a good life for Neale?

On the 128th episode of the What is a Good Life? podcast, I’m delighted to welcome our guest, Shai Tubali, Ph.D. Shai is a philosopher, author, and teacher whose work bridges mysticism and academic philosophy. He explores how expanded states of consciousness can transform individual lives and influence our collective future.Shai holds a doctorate in the philosophy of religion and his academic publications include The Transformative Philosophical Dialogue (Springer, 2023) and Cosmos and Camus: Science Fiction Film and the Absurd. As the author of numerous books on inner transformation, his writings have reached readers in 14 languages. He has also developed several original, meditation-based methods for psychological transformation, including the medically researched Expansion Method.In this conversation, we explore profound questions about the nature of existence, the power of inquiry, and the tension between knowing and not knowing. Shai reflects on his journey of self-discovery, the absurdity of life, and the importance of embracing both reflective self-consciousness and the interconnectedness of all beings.This episode emphasises the significance of living an examined life, where questions lead to deeper insights and a more profound understanding of what it means to be human.For more of Shai's work, check out the following:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shaitubali/Website: https://shaitubali.com/Books: https://shaitubali.com/books/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ShaiTubali/featuredContact me at mark@whatisagood.life if you'd like to explore your own lines of self-inquiry through 1-on-1 coaching, take part in my 5-week What is a Good Life? group courses, discuss experiences I create to stimulate greater trust, communication, and connection, amongst your leadership teams, or you simply want to get in touch.- For the What is a Good Life? podcast's YouTube page: https://www.youtube.com/@whatisagoodlife/videos- My newsletter: https://www.whatisagood.life/- My LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-mccartney-14b0161b4/- Exploring one-on-one coaching: https://www.whatisagood.life/p/one-on-one-coaching- What is a Good Life? Course: https://www.whatisagood.life/p/the-what-is-a-good-life-course00:00 The energy and tension of the question03:00 What is it to be human?05:15 The aliveness of not knowing09:20 Being a distant observer of life16:30 Embracing life fully from nowhere21:30 Exploring absurdity, meaning & transcendence 32:55 The beginning of a spiritual path38:20 Longing for reality43:55 The interplay of absurdity and transcendence 50:53 The existential suffering of personalised existence55:45 The grand feeling of universality through science59:00 Summary of the conversation1:02:00 What is a good life for Shai?