Deep Listening - Impact beyond words - Oscar Trimboli
Oscar Trimboli
The world is a noisy place where you fight to be heard every day. Despite the fact that we have been taught at home and at school how to speak, none of us has had any training in how to listen. Multiple academic studies have shown that between 50% and 55% of your working day is spent listening, yet only 2% of people have been trained in how to listen.
We feel frustrated, isolated and confused because we aren't heard.
As a speaker, it takes absolutely no training to notice when someone isn't listening - they're distracted, they interrupt or drift away as you talk.
Yet the opposite is also true, without any training in how to listen we struggle to stay connected with the speaker and the discussion.
This results in unproductive workplaces where people fight to be heard and need to repeat themselves constantly, send emails to confirm what they said and then have follow-up meetings to ensure what was said was actually heard by those in the meeting. It's a downward spiral that drains energy from every conversation and reduces the productivity of organisations.
This podcast is about creating practical tips and techniques to improve your daily listening.
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We feel frustrated, isolated and confused because we aren't heard.
As a speaker, it takes absolutely no training to notice when someone isn't listening - they're distracted, they interrupt or drift away as you talk.
Yet the opposite is also true, without any training in how to listen we struggle to stay connected with the speaker and the discussion.
This results in unproductive workplaces where people fight to be heard and need to repeat themselves constantly, send emails to confirm what they said and then have follow-up meetings to ensure what was said was actually heard by those in the meeting. It's a downward spiral that drains energy from every conversation and reduces the productivity of organisations.
This podcast is about creating practical tips and techniques to improve your daily listening.
Listen for free
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Mar 6, 2020 • 33min
Listening to body language with Susan Constantine
Imagine if you had spent your life studying the silent messages you see when somebody is speaking. Susan Constantine is a world authority on interpreting body language and detecting deception. Susan has worked with the US department of defence, federal court judges, law enforcement agencies and many corporations. Author of 'The Complete Idiot's Guide to Body Language' and upcoming book, 'No Bull' - how to tell if someone is lying in seven seconds. Susan shares the common fallacies of reading body language, and why listening is contextual. Learn about the micro-expressions people exhibit, and why they're important in courtrooms. Hear about how Susan's deep knowledge in this field is being built into technology. Learn how to listen beyond the words, and gain an understanding of a speakers' body language. Listen For Free
Feb 21, 2020 • 37min
Listen like World Memory Champion Dr Boris Konrad
Do you struggle with your memory when you are listening? Our research says, that your memory is one of the top five reasons why people struggle with their listening. Rather than listening, you are trying to remember the name of the speaker or what they just explained. Dr Boris Konrad is well qualified to discuss this topic as a neuroscientist and a four-time Guinness World Record holder and an eight-time world champion in memory. You will learn practical tips to improve our memory while you listen. Boris demystifies the relationship between your mind and it stores what’s being communicated. He shares the techniques he uses to recall the order of an entire deck of cards and how he never forgets someone’s name, even when he hasn’t met the person yet. Learn how to take notes in the most effective way to retain information, and how to use visual images in your mind to store and recall when you are listening. Listen For Free
Dec 6, 2019 • 48min
The Art of Focus and Listening - Lessons from world champion sniper Christina Bengtsson
What does a world champion sniper, a 6 year old boy and a Swedish pig have in common? In this episode we listen carefully to Christina Bengtsson, who has a TED Talk and book on the Art of Focus. What is focus or lack of focus? What should you do when you notice your attention is distracted or exhausted? What is the of breathing for focus and listening? Learn what to do with internal and external distractions, how to use them as a springboard back to focus. Discover what you can use as your 'autumn leaf'. Listen For Free
Nov 22, 2019 • 33min
Can you listen while you sleep?
Can you listen while you're asleep? Why do we wake up when someone calls our name? And what exactly is the cocktail party problem? In this episode, Oscar speaks with Dr Thomas Andrillon about listening and sleep. Thomas is a research fellow at Monash University, an expert on the brain during sleep. Hear about what the brain can process while we sleep, and what it can teach us for our waking hours. Learn how the brain can listen to multiple things at once, and switch our attention between them when it matters. Learn Thomas's tips to remove distractions, before they even become distracting! Finally, can we make decisions, or even learn while we sleep? Tune in to find out. Listen For Free
Nov 8, 2019 • 48min
How to get your kids to listen with Dr Justin Coulson
We are listening role models for our kids. If our children don’t listen to us, we may need to begin with listening to ourselves. In this episode, Oscar speaks with global parenting expert, Justin Coulson. Father to 6 daughters, TED talk speaker and author of 6 books. Justin answers the question, ‘How do I get my kids to listen?’ A great way to begin an engaged conversation is to start with observation. You can learn about listening by noticing. Learn the importance of eye contact, eye level and how this honours the relationship whilst expressing the desire to communicate. Justin explains that parents may have to stop what we’re doing because we miss opportunities to connect with our kids if we never stop. Listen For Free
Oct 25, 2019 • 49min
The myth of multi-tasking: working memory and listening with Professor Stefan van der Stigchel
How good is your multi-tasking? Is it a skill you try to work on? On this episode of Deep Listening, Prof. Stefan van der Stigchel explains what happens when you multi-task, and why it might not actually exist at all. An expert in attention, Stefan shares how to write notes to best retain information and continue listening. He explains what your working memory is, and how distraction cuts your performance in half. Learn how to really pay attention when listening, and how to prepare your environment to minimise distraction. Listen For Free
Oct 23, 2019 • 2min
Register to learn your very own Listening Villain
If you would like early access to the Listening Villain quiz, visit www.listeningquiz.com In less than 20 questions you will get access to the questionaire and more importantly what to do about it
Oct 11, 2019 • 36min
A Masterclass in Level One Listening – Listening to yourself with Dr Romie Mushtaq
Dr Romie Mushtaq, M.D., ABIHM, is a neurologist whose expertise in Western medicine and Eastern wisdom helps people resolve stress-based illnesses, achieve peak performance, and harness the power of mindful leadership. Dr Romie's discussion with Oscar is a masterclass in Level One Listening - Listening to Yourself. She shares about the role of distraction, breathing and ego in your ability to listen effectively. Dr Romie draws a map from your ears all the way through the different parts of the brain, to help you understand what the journey is like to move from hearing to listening. How do you leave your ego at the door to better listen? Why to breath deeply for 3 minutes, and what to do if you don't have 3 minutes? Learn the answers to these questions and more in this episode with Dr Romie Mushtaq. Listen For Free
Sep 27, 2019 • 59min
The Five Levels of Listening - Listening for Meaning
Level Five listening is listening for meaning. It's the difference between listening to the speaker, and listening for the speaker. Recreational listening is listening to the speaker - just the words that they're saying. But when you're listening for meaning, you help the speaker to make sense of what they're really thinking. The meaning goes beyond the present conversation, and into the future. What are the consequences? In this episode, Oscar and Nell unlock how to listen for meaning for both individuals and for groups. Learn how to listen for the capital letters, and from real life examples and audience questions. Join us on the final step of the journey, to becoming a Deep Listener. Listen For Free
Sep 13, 2019 • 1h 14min
The Five Levels of Listening - Listening for the Unsaid
Listening for the unsaid is Level Four listening. It's the ultimate ninja move of a Deep Listener and it sounds counterintuitive. It's moving your orientation away from what's in it for you, but toward the speaker. Help the speaker understand what they're saying and thinking. Learn how to listen to silence like it's another word in the conversation. Learn how to navigate the labels of 'introvert' and 'extrovert'. Learn how to interpret body language. Tune in and take your listening to this new level; the next step on the journey to becoming a Deep Listener. Listen For Free
