Deep Listening - Impact beyond words - Oscar Trimboli
Oscar Trimboli
The world is a noisy place where you fight to be heard every day. Despite the fact that we have been taught at home and at school how to speak, none of us has had any training in how to listen. Multiple academic studies have shown that between 50% and 55% of your working day is spent listening, yet only 2% of people have been trained in how to listen.
We feel frustrated, isolated and confused because we aren't heard.
As a speaker, it takes absolutely no training to notice when someone isn't listening - they're distracted, they interrupt or drift away as you talk.
Yet the opposite is also true, without any training in how to listen we struggle to stay connected with the speaker and the discussion.
This results in unproductive workplaces where people fight to be heard and need to repeat themselves constantly, send emails to confirm what they said and then have follow-up meetings to ensure what was said was actually heard by those in the meeting. It's a downward spiral that drains energy from every conversation and reduces the productivity of organisations.
This podcast is about creating practical tips and techniques to improve your daily listening.
Listen for free
We feel frustrated, isolated and confused because we aren't heard.
As a speaker, it takes absolutely no training to notice when someone isn't listening - they're distracted, they interrupt or drift away as you talk.
Yet the opposite is also true, without any training in how to listen we struggle to stay connected with the speaker and the discussion.
This results in unproductive workplaces where people fight to be heard and need to repeat themselves constantly, send emails to confirm what they said and then have follow-up meetings to ensure what was said was actually heard by those in the meeting. It's a downward spiral that drains energy from every conversation and reduces the productivity of organisations.
This podcast is about creating practical tips and techniques to improve your daily listening.
Listen for free
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Nov 20, 2020 • 39min
The secrets of listening for emotions in the workplace
Marc Brackett is the Founder and Director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence a Professor in the Child Study Center of Yale University. He is the lead developer of RULER, an evidence-based approach to social and emotional learning that has been adopted by nearly 2,000 pre-K through high schools across the United States and in other countries. He is developed a companion application called Mood Meter which I’ve been using since preparing for this interview As a researcher for over 20 years, Marc has focused on the role of emotions and emotional intelligence in learning, decision making, creativity, relationships, health, and performance. He has published 125 scholarly articles and received numerous awards Most recently he published Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help Our Kids, Ourselves, and Our Society Thrive Marc mission is to educate the world about the value of emotions and the skills associated with using them wisely. “I want everyone to become an emotion scientist”, he says. “We need to be curious explorers of our own and others’ emotions so they can help us achieve our goals and improve our lives.” and then they are carefully listening to then support people in understanding what they might be feeling based on what the speaker shared. Listen for Free
Nov 16, 2020 • 40min
Four Habits That Derail Listening
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Nov 6, 2020 • 56min
Being a better listener by suspending shrewd judgement
Daniel has learned to “see” using a form of echolocation. He clicks his tongue and sends out flashes of sound that bounce off surfaces in the environment and return to him, helping him to construct an understanding of the space around him. In a rousing talk, Kish shows how this works – and asks us all to let go of our fear of the dark unknown. His 2015 talk at TED Global has been viewed millions of times Daniel and I did this interview at the end of a sunny California summer day and he asked me if it was ok to do this interview while he took his afternoon walk – he also did the interview via video so it was great to get to know Daniel’s cat and neighbourhood. Listen for Free
Nov 2, 2020 • 30min
Deep Listening Uncut Bonus - Listening while in a video conference
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Oct 23, 2020 • 40min
How to easily listen when people lie to you
Chase Hughes is THE leading military and intelligence behaviour expert creating the most advanced behaviour skills courses and tactics available worldwide: He is the author of the worldwide #1 bestselling book on advanced persuasion, influence and behaviour profiling. Chase teaches elite groups, government agencies and police in behaviour science skills including behaviour profiling, nonverbal analysis, deception detection, interrogation, and advanced behavioural investigation. Listen carefully, when Chase discovers that despite over 150 interviews, I ask the question that no one else asks and the only question that MATTERS. Listen for Free
Oct 9, 2020 • 29min
Deep Listening A life or death opportunity
Garth Paine is a composer, scholar and acoustic ecologist. He crosses art-science boundaries with his community embedded work on environmental listening and creative place-making in addition to his environmental musical works and performances. His research drives toward new approaches to acoustic ecology and the exploration of sound as our lived context including the application of virtual reality health Garth's current research centres around the Listen Project, on acoustic ecology project that focuses on field recording and community building. He co-directs the Acoustic Ecology Lab at Arizona State University. He will explain passive listening, active listening, and directed listening AND How Deep Listening nearly cost him, his life Listen for Free
Sep 18, 2020 • 40min
The hidden power of listening to and for emotions
Mona Thompson is an improv performer, teacher, and creative facilitator. She has performed and taught in Norway, Finland, the Netherlands, the United States as well as at Stanford and Harvard, MIT and Stanford. She has co-founded Collective Capital, a change and innovation consultancy that helps organisations become more curious, generous, and resilient using tools from improv and design thinking. Mona is a master of listening beyond the words, beyond the facts and listening to emotions and listening for inferences. Listening for emotions isn’t something most of us have been taught. Listening for emotions is another part of listening. Listen for Free
Sep 4, 2020 • 41min
The Five Secrets About Listening And Your Breathing
Jenny Taylor is passionate about conscious connection between our breathing and our productivity. A member of the international breathwork foundation, Jenny is an expert teacher and education on the connection between better breathing and a more productive and fulfilled life. Jenny explains the connection between breathing and listening and takes the time to create simple practical exercises that you can do each day to improve your breathing. Jenny reinforces many of the stories and theories from our discussion with James Nestor in Episode 74 Unlock the ancient secrets between listening and breathing. In this very practical discussion Jenny helps me make sense of a big part of my teenage years and the impact of breathing on me. Listen for Free
Aug 28, 2020 • 29min
The secrets of listening like a spy
Today we get the opportunity to listen to a retired FBI Special Agent and Chief of the Counterintelligence Behavioural Analysis Program. Robin has taken his life's work of recruiting spies and broken the art of leadership and relationship building. Robin has crafted his Code of Trust for quick results and maximum success. Author of Sizing People Up: A Veteran FBI Agent's User Manual for Behavior Prediction and It’s not all about Me My favourite story about Robin’s life as a marine and what that taught him about how he wasn’t listening and the consequences on a bombing range. Lets listen to Robin Listen for Free
Aug 21, 2020 • 37min
Your listening is at best, a wonderful guess
In this episode I listen to Tracey and Mark -the co-founders of TRUTHPLANE – one of the most compelling global organisations in the field of business communication. Tracey advises the world’s top companies and individuals on their biggest questions around communication and body language. Mark Bowden has been voted the #1 Body Language Professional in the world for two years running Tracey and Mark highlight the importance of the host, the chair of the meeting or your role as a participant in the meeting exploring Level Four – Listening FOR their UNSAID Listen for Free
