The Trouble with Sex

Our culture teaches men that masculinity in the bedroom is about performance not pleasure - and that's where many misconceptions around sex begin. Dr. Tammy talks with veteran sex therapist Dr. Barry McCarthy about the myths around what makes a 'real man', Viagra and how to ensure you have a satisfying sex life now and well into your 80's and 90's.PROMO CODES & DEALS!Want a simple, luxurious lubricant that comes in a discreet and elegant bottle?  We know you do! Check out uberlube.com and get 10% off your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA.  DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.GUEST BIODr. Barry McCarthy is an integrative sex therapist, relationship expert, marriage counselor, and he is professor at American University in Washington DC.  Over his impressive career, Dr. McCarthy has published more than 75 professional articles, 20 book chapters, and co-authored 12 books about relationships and sexuality. He has presented over 300 professional workshops both nationally and internationally. For more of Dr. McCarthy's advice and perspective,  check out Rekindling Desire, Enhancing Couples Sexuality, and his most recent book Contemporary Male Sexuality. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Is lack of sex ruining your relationship? Do you long to reignite passion and intimacy in the bedroom? Dr. Tammy talks with sex advisor and desire advocate Susan Bratton about how to improve your bedroom communication, hot techniques for men and women, and creating a sexual soulmate pact.PROMO CODES & DEALS!Want a simple, luxurious lubricant that comes in a discreet and elegant bottle?  We know you do! Check out uberlube.com and get 10% off your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA.  DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. GUEST BIOSusan Bratton  is an author, award-winning speaker and serial entrepreneur who teaches passionate lovemaking techniques to her fans around the world. Susan has been featured in The New York Times and on CNBC and the TODAY show as well as appearing on ABC, CBS, The CW, Fox, and on NBC as the “Marriage Magician. Her fresh approach has helped millions of people of all ages and across the gender spectrum transform sex into passion.Susan’s straight-talking, fearless approach is rooted in her personal experience of watching her sex life wither while she and her husband pursued dynamic careers. When their relationship hit a crisis point, the couple made a fierce commitment to do whatever it took to keep their family together and revive the passion in their marriage. She now teaches the techniques that helped she and her husband transform their sex life and save their relationship. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy gets personal with author and sex therapist Susan Wenzel about her choice to open up her marriage, navigating the complexities of polyamory, family, outside lovers and her book A Happy Life in an Open Relationship.PROMO CODES & DEALS!Want a simple, luxurious lubricant that comes in a discreet and elegant bottle?  We know you do! Check out uberlube.com and get 10% off your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. GUEST BIOSusan Wenzel is a certified sex therapist, relationship expert, clinical sexologist, and psychotherapist with years of experience working with individuals and couples and leading seminars and workshops. She holds Bachelor of Arts and a Master of Arts degrees in Counseling from Providence University College in Manitoba. She is a certified sex therapist with The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counsellors and Therapists (AASECT). She is also a Canadian certified counsellor with the Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association (CCPA). She is the author of A Happy Life in an Open Relationship: The Essential Guide to a Healthy and Fulfilling Nonmonogamous Love Life. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

What the heck is a sex partner when it comes to sex? Is it legal? How does it work? How do you find a practitioner? Join Dr. Tammy as she talks with surrogate partners and intimacy experts Nicole Ananda and Brian Gibney about this controversial form of therapy.WHAT'S YOUR TROUBLE WITH SEX? DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER ALL OF YOUR QUESTIONS about Love, Sex & Relationships. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.PROMO CODES & DEALS!Want a simple, luxurious lubricant that comes in a discreet and elegant bottle? Check out uberlube.com and get 10% off your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. -Uberlube ships for free within the USA.GUEST BIOS:NICOLE ANANDA is a surrogate partner, life coach, reiki master, advanced integrated energy, shamanic and tantra practitioner. She is the  owner of Ananda Integrative Healing .  Nicole works with clients of all genders and orientations to holistically address their sexuality issues through mind/body coaching, surrogate partner & touch therapy, tantra, and energy work. She helps clients with personal and sexual concerns, including: social anxiety, low sexual confidence, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, body image, orgasm blocks, late-life virginity, and performance issues.  She is co-founder of the Surrogate Partner Collective, a network of surrogate partner therapy practitioners and collaborating clinicians, providing certification, continuing education, advocacy, and outreach. BRIAN GIBNEY is a certified IPSA Surrogate Partner Therapist.  He is also a surrogate partner member of the Institute for Mind Body Therapy, Ananda Integrative Health Group, and AASECT (American Association of Sex Educators Counselors & Therapists). Brian is a founding member of the Surrogate Partner Collective and Chair of AASECT’s Somatic Sexuality Professionals Special Interest Group.​Brian helps his clients create foundational self-knowledge that enables them to effectively navigate healthy and fulfilling intimate relationships. He works with women who struggle to establish or maintain intimate connections due to physical limitations, trauma, poor self-image or lack of experience. ​THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy opens up about the highs and lows of her career as she honors the tragic passing of her mentor Rich Simon and shines the light on the importance of self-care and mental health - especially during these challenging times.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. PROMO CODES & DEALS!Want a simple, luxurious lubricant that comes in a discreet and elegant bottle? - We know you do! Check out uberlube.com and get 10% off your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats. Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy covers it all with the prolific sex educator Bianca Laureano as they talk about sex throughout different stages of life, creating intimacy during the pandemic, race & sex, disability justice and equity vs equality. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.PROMO CODES & DEALS!Want a simple, luxurious lubricant that comes in a discreet and elegant bottle? - We know you do! Check out uberlube.com and get 10% off your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA. GUEST BIO:Bianca I Laureano is an award-wining educator, curriculum writer, facilitator, and sexologist. She is a Foundress of the Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN), The LatiNegrxs Project, ANTE UP!, Virtual Freedom Professional Development School for Justice Workers and hosts LatinoSexuality.com. She has written several curricula for communities of color,  and she wrote the sexual & reproductive justice discussion guide for the NYC Department of Health and Mental Hygiene. Bianca has been on the board of CLAGS, the LGBTQ Center at CUNY, The Black Girl Project, and  SisterSong Women of Color Reproductive Justice Collective. She is the Lead Educator for the Netflix film Crip Camp (2020) and is leading the efforts to create a curriculum that is rooted in disability justice practice, self-determination, and social-emotional learning competences. She has an honorary PhD for her work of justice, equity, and inclusion in the field of sexuality.Create Your Personalized Emergency Safety Plan!Who are the emergency contacts for you, your partner, your kids, your parents?Who do you trust to have keys to your home, access to your bank and important files?Do you need a safety contact who can  communicate in a language other than English?If you are a person of color, consider asking a white friend to help advocate with law enforcement or legal issues that may arise.What is your pandemic plan or emergency plan if a natural disaster strikes?THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats  Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy and Dr. Ari Tuckman get personal as they dive into the minds of people with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, and how couples often struggle, yet can overcome their differences, when ADHD complicates their partnership and intimacy.  DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.PROMO CODES & DEALS!Want a simple, luxurious lubricant that comes in a discreet and elegant bottle? - We know you do! Check out uberlube.com and get 10% off your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA. GUEST BIO:Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST is a psychologist, certified sex therapist, international speaker, and author of four books, the most recent of which is ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship.Ari's 'Rome from Home' Cocktail Recipe1 oz Cynar1/2 oz Fernet Branca1/2 oz Gin1/4 oz Lime juice2 Dashes orange bittersSeltzerDirections: Stir with ice then top with seltzer. This is for the cocktail nerds out there but without any obscure ingredients or weird infusions. I named this after my cancelled trip to Italy in March due to the pandemic.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats  and Getting the Sex You WantInstagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Join Dr. Tammy as she talks with legal professor, historian and reproductive rights specialist Mary Ziegler as she explains why it's essential to understand the federal and state laws in effect today, what's really at stake and why, and what you can do about   protecting women's rights.While this episode was recorded before the Amy Coney Barrett's Supreme Court nomination, its release during her confirmation hearing, and the lead up to the upcoming election is intentional. Get informed and please VOTE!   DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. PROMO CODES & DEALS!Want a simple, luxurious lubricant that comes in a discreet and elegant bottle? - We know you do! Check out uberlube.com and get 10% off your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA. GUEST BIO:Mary Ziegler is the Stearns Weaver Miller Professor at Florida State University College of Law. She specializes in the legal history of reproduction, the family, sexuality, and the Constitution. She earned both her undergraduate and law degree from Harvard.Her most recent book, Abortion in America: A Legal History, Roe v. Wade to the Present, was published by Cambridge University Press in 2020.Her first book, After Roe: The Lost History of the Abortion Debate, was published by Harvard University Press in 2015 and won the 2014 Harvard University Press Thomas J. Wilson Memorial Prize for best first manuscript published by the press in any discipline. Her second book, Beyond Abortion: Roe v. Wade and the Fight for Privacy, was published by Harvard University Press in 2018.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats  and Getting the Sex You WantInstagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy talks with renown grief specialist David Kessler about the heartache of loss, death, life and love. David discusses his own grieving process after experiencing multiple tragedies, as well as loss in the time of Covid and finding meaning as we face great changes throughout life.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationships and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.PROMO CODES & DEALS!Want a simple, luxurious lubricant that comes in a discreet and elegant bottle? - We know you do! Check out uberlube.com and get 10% off your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA. GUEST BIO:David Kessler is the world’s foremost expert on grief and loss. His experience with thousands of people on the edge of life and death has taught him the secrets to living a happy and fulfilled life, even afterlife’s tragedies. He is the author of six books, including the new bestselling book, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. He coauthored two books with Elisabeth Kubler Ross, including On Grief and Grieving updated her 5 stages for grief. His first book, The Needs of The Dying received praise from Saint (Mother) Teresa.David’s volunteer work includes being an LAPD Specialist Reserve for traumatic events as well as having served on the Red Cross’s disaster services team. He worked for over a decade in a three-hospital system. He was trained for bio -terrorists’ events as well as epidemics/ pandemics. He is the founder of www.grief.com which has over five million visits yearly from 167 countries.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats  and Getting the Sex You Want.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

This fan favorite was originally released on June 19, 2019, but the advice Dr. Tammy offers is more important than ever! Dr. Tammy dissects monogamy, infidelity and how we unknowingly spilt off and shut off parts of ourselves throughout our lives - putting our relationships and our happiness at risk.  Learn why people in long term partnerships often need to work on their erotic relationship twice as much as their companionship. Find out tips on surviving infidelity, and how to be honest with yourself and your partner(s) by always living with integrity – even if You’re the One Who Cheats. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationships and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats  and Getting the Sex You Want.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson