The Trouble with Sex

Dr. Tammy covers it all with the prolific sex educator Bianca Laureano as they talk about sex throughout different stages of life, creating intimacy during the pandemic, race & sex, disability justice and equity vs equality. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.PROMO CODES & DEALS!Want a simple, luxurious lubricant that comes in a discreet and elegant bottle? - We know you do! Check out uberlube.com and get 10% off your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA. GUEST BIO:Bianca I Laureano is an award-wining educator, curriculum writer, facilitator, and sexologist. She is a Foundress of the Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN), The LatiNegrxs Project, ANTE UP!, Virtual Freedom Professional Development School for Justice Workers and hosts LatinoSexuality.com. She has written several curricula for communities of color,  and she wrote the sexual & reproductive justice discussion guide for the NYC Department of Health and Mental Hygiene. Bianca has been on the board of CLAGS, the LGBTQ Center at CUNY, The Black Girl Project, and  SisterSong Women of Color Reproductive Justice Collective. She is the Lead Educator for the Netflix film Crip Camp (2020) and is leading the efforts to create a curriculum that is rooted in disability justice practice, self-determination, and social-emotional learning competences. She has an honorary PhD for her work of justice, equity, and inclusion in the field of sexuality.Create Your Personalized Emergency Safety Plan!Who are the emergency contacts for you, your partner, your kids, your parents?Who do you trust to have keys to your home, access to your bank and important files?Do you need a safety contact who can  communicate in a language other than English?If you are a person of color, consider asking a white friend to help advocate with law enforcement or legal issues that may arise.What is your pandemic plan or emergency plan if a natural disaster strikes?THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats  Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy and Dr. Ari Tuckman get personal as they dive into the minds of people with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, and how couples often struggle, yet can overcome their differences, when ADHD complicates their partnership and intimacy.  DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.PROMO CODES & DEALS!Want a simple, luxurious lubricant that comes in a discreet and elegant bottle? - We know you do! Check out uberlube.com and get 10% off your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA. GUEST BIO:Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST is a psychologist, certified sex therapist, international speaker, and author of four books, the most recent of which is ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship.Ari's 'Rome from Home' Cocktail Recipe1 oz Cynar1/2 oz Fernet Branca1/2 oz Gin1/4 oz Lime juice2 Dashes orange bittersSeltzerDirections: Stir with ice then top with seltzer. This is for the cocktail nerds out there but without any obscure ingredients or weird infusions. I named this after my cancelled trip to Italy in March due to the pandemic.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats  and Getting the Sex You WantInstagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Join Dr. Tammy as she talks with legal professor, historian and reproductive rights specialist Mary Ziegler as she explains why it's essential to understand the federal and state laws in effect today, what's really at stake and why, and what you can do about   protecting women's rights.While this episode was recorded before the Amy Coney Barrett's Supreme Court nomination, its release during her confirmation hearing, and the lead up to the upcoming election is intentional. Get informed and please VOTE!   DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. PROMO CODES & DEALS!Want a simple, luxurious lubricant that comes in a discreet and elegant bottle? - We know you do! Check out uberlube.com and get 10% off your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA. GUEST BIO:Mary Ziegler is the Stearns Weaver Miller Professor at Florida State University College of Law. She specializes in the legal history of reproduction, the family, sexuality, and the Constitution. She earned both her undergraduate and law degree from Harvard.Her most recent book, Abortion in America: A Legal History, Roe v. Wade to the Present, was published by Cambridge University Press in 2020.Her first book, After Roe: The Lost History of the Abortion Debate, was published by Harvard University Press in 2015 and won the 2014 Harvard University Press Thomas J. Wilson Memorial Prize for best first manuscript published by the press in any discipline. Her second book, Beyond Abortion: Roe v. Wade and the Fight for Privacy, was published by Harvard University Press in 2018.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats  and Getting the Sex You WantInstagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy talks with renown grief specialist David Kessler about the heartache of loss, death, life and love. David discusses his own grieving process after experiencing multiple tragedies, as well as loss in the time of Covid and finding meaning as we face great changes throughout life.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationships and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.PROMO CODES & DEALS!Want a simple, luxurious lubricant that comes in a discreet and elegant bottle? - We know you do! Check out uberlube.com and get 10% off your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA. GUEST BIO:David Kessler is the world’s foremost expert on grief and loss. His experience with thousands of people on the edge of life and death has taught him the secrets to living a happy and fulfilled life, even afterlife’s tragedies. He is the author of six books, including the new bestselling book, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. He coauthored two books with Elisabeth Kubler Ross, including On Grief and Grieving updated her 5 stages for grief. His first book, The Needs of The Dying received praise from Saint (Mother) Teresa.David’s volunteer work includes being an LAPD Specialist Reserve for traumatic events as well as having served on the Red Cross’s disaster services team. He worked for over a decade in a three-hospital system. He was trained for bio -terrorists’ events as well as epidemics/ pandemics. He is the founder of www.grief.com which has over five million visits yearly from 167 countries.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats  and Getting the Sex You Want.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

This fan favorite was originally released on June 19, 2019, but the advice Dr. Tammy offers is more important than ever! Dr. Tammy dissects monogamy, infidelity and how we unknowingly spilt off and shut off parts of ourselves throughout our lives - putting our relationships and our happiness at risk.  Learn why people in long term partnerships often need to work on their erotic relationship twice as much as their companionship. Find out tips on surviving infidelity, and how to be honest with yourself and your partner(s) by always living with integrity – even if You’re the One Who Cheats. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationships and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats  and Getting the Sex You Want.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Looking for dating tips? We've been saving the release of this episode until more of the country began to reopen. Join Dr. Tammy as she talks (pre Covid shutdown & the recent Black Lives Matter protests) with the hilarious author of A Black Girl's Guide to Dating White Men - Niki McElroy. Niki gives us her dating advice about living life to the fullest, not settling, dating as a single mom and interracial relationships. -If you're dating during the pandemic, please practice social distancing, wear a mask and continue to practice safe sex.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationships and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.PROMO CODES & DEALS!DAME PRODUCTSIT'S TIME FOR PLEASURE!  Enjoy solo play or enhance sex with your partner with Toys from DAME. Visit dameproducts.com/troublewithsex and type in promo code DRTAMMY at check out for 15% OFF your order!GUEST BIO:Niki McElroy is an accomplished actor, screenwriter, dating expert and author of a Black Girls Guide to Dating White Men.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats  and Getting the Sex You Want.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy talks with the hilarious Pamela Madsen about how she helps women conquer their fears, improve their relationships and connect their mind, heart, belly and vulva in order to live a more embodied life and discover pleasure.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationships and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.PROMO CODES & DEALS!DAME PRODUCTSIT'S TIME FOR PLEASURE!  Enjoy solo play or enhance sex with your partner with Toys from DAME. Visit dameproducts.com/troublewithsex and type in promo code DRTAMMY at check out for 15% OFF your order!GUEST BIO:Founder of BACK TO THE BODY, Pamela Madsen is a pioneer in fertility and sex advocacy. Pamela founded, and was the first Executive Director of The American Fertility Association. She is a fearless advocate for women’s health and integrated sexuality who leverages her raw honesty and well-informed wit to help strip the stigma from infertility, female desire and body image.Pamela, a certified Somatic Sex Educator with a Master's degree in Education has coached hundreds of women on their own personal journey back into their bodies, and their own expression of their Divine Feminine. Pamela is a veteran speaker, educator, and renowned blogger for The Huffington Post, Psychology Today, The Fertility Advocate, and Care2.She is the author of Shameless: How I Ditched The Diet, Got Naked, Found True Pleasure and Still Got Home In Time To Cook Dinner (Rodale, January 2011). Pamela has appeared on 60 Minutes, Oprah, CNN, AARP Primetime Radio, The Dr. Laura Berman Show, The Jane Pratt Show, and Playboy Radio. As well as countless other media outlets.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats  and Getting the Sex You Want.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Wish you enjoyed sex more? Are you looking to better satisfy your partner?  Join Dr. Tammy and Dr. Laurie Mintz as they discuss why our culture's emphasis on intercourse and the male orgasm perpetuates pleasure inequality in the bedroom, and how becoming cliterate will create much more excitement between the sheets. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationships and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.PROMO CODES & DEALS!DAME PRODUCTSIT'S TIME FOR PLEASURE!  Enjoy solo play or enhance sex with your partner with Toys from DAME. Visit dameproducts.com/troublewithsex and type in promo code DRTAMMY at check out for 15% OFF your order!GUEST BIO:Dr. Laurie Mintz is an award-winning professor at the University of Florida, where she teaches the Psychology of Human Sexuality.  Dr. Mintz has published over 50 scholarly articles in academic journals and six chapters in academic books. For almost 30 years, Dr. Mintz has also maintained a small private practice, working with both individuals and couples on general and sexual issues. She is also the author of two popular press books—both written with the aim of empowering women: A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex and Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters—And How To Get It. Dr. Mintz a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, indicating that her work has had a positive national influence on the field of psychology. Watch her recent Tedx Talk: A New Revolution for Orgasm Equality.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats  and Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy and Shadeen Francis, LMFT dive in deep to discuss everything from millennials, to pleasure, shame, racism and how the choices we think we are making have most often been chosen for us...IMPORTANT NOTE: This episode was recorded before the murders of George Floyd and Rayshard Brooks. While these horrific events are not directly addressed, Shadeen Francis does help to explain how historical, societal beliefs and the institutions we have created, perpetuate racism, sexism, heteronormativity, fear and shame. If you are struggling with recent events, please contact us. We are here to help.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationships and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.PROMO CODES & DEALS!DAME PRODUCTSIT'S TIME FOR PLEASURE!  Enjoy solo play or enhance sex with your partner with Toys from DAME. Visit dameproducts.com/troublewithsex and type in promo code DRTAMMY at check out for 15% OFF your order!GUEST BIO:Shadeen Francis, LMFT is a marriage and family therapist, professor, and author that specializes in sex therapy and social justice. She has been featured on numerous platforms like 6abc, CBC, the New York Times, and the Huffington Post to share her unique expertise on relationships and wellness. Because of her ability to tackle difficult subjects with warmth and humor, she is sought internationally to speak on topics such as sexual self-esteem, building intimacy, and boundary negotiation. Whether in her office, on television, or at a community event, all of Shadeen’s work is inspired by her commitment to helping people live lives full of peace and pleasure.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats  and Getting the Sex You Want.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy gets personal with D. Edward Delmar, author of the gay erotica series Thruplicity, about open monogamy, sharing your fantasies and the complications of sexual intimacy. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationships and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.PROMO CODES & DEALS!DAME PRODUCTSIT'S TIME FOR PLEASURE!  Enjoy solo play or enhance sex with your partner with Toys from DAME. Visit dameproducts.com/troublewithsex and type in promo code DRTAMMY at check out for 15% OFF your order!GUEST BIO:D. Edward Delmar (Edward, to those who know him) is an award-winning director of film and stage, as well as a memoirist, novelist, and humorist. In his series of gay erotic novellas, Thruplicity, he's bringing open relationships (and their complications) out of the closet. When he's not writing erotic thrillers, he's painting pictures, writing poetry, and dreaming dreams with his husband and their bossy cat.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name.·  Book an ONLINE Couples or Individual Session with Dr. Tammy during COVID-19. Email: drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats  and Getting the Sex You Want. ·  Listen to our full theme song here! NoTroublewithSex_ThemeSong Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson