The Trouble with Sex

Do you know your sex script? We all have subconscious stories we tell ourselves when it comes to love. In this episode, Dr. Tammy talks with acclaimed therapist and New York Times Best Selling author, Dr. Ian Kerner, about his latest book, and how we can reframe our stories to improve our relationships and our sex lives.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationships. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.GUEST BIOIan Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist and sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. Ian  has recently been featured in The Atlantic, The New York Times, The Economist and on NPR .  He contributes regularly on the topic of sex for CNN Health and lectures frequently, including his TED TALK 2021. His New York Times best-selling author She Comes First (Harper Collins) has been translated into more than a dozen languages, and his latest must read, So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives is available now!THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy talks with pleasure-based sex educator and author ofAll the F*cking Mistakes, Gigi Engle, about owning your sexuality, dating, alien dildos and why sexting may be the greatest equalizer and key to the best sex of your life.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.GUEST BIOGigi Engle, ACS, CSE, CSC, is an award-winning feminist author, certified sex educator, and psychotherapist in training .She is the author of All the F*cking Mistakes, and as a sex expert with Lifestyle Condoms and Feeld, she promotes and teaches about pleasure-based sex education, masturbation, and safer sex practices.Gigi’s work regularly appears in many publications including Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire,  Elle Magazine, Teen Vogue, Glamour and Women's Health. Her articles have been shared over 150 million times. In 2019, Gigi was named Journalist of The Year at the Sexual Freedom Awards.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy and Dr. Marty Klein explore the controversy around the concept of sex addiction as they dive into pornography, relationships, expectations and the complexity of human sexuality.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.GUEST BIODr. Marty Klein has been a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist. He is a dedicated educator, international lecturer, media and courtroom expert, and author of seven books as well as  over 100 published articles. He  is known for challenging the concepts of sex addiction and porn addiction, as well as the anti-pornography movement. He believes that public policy relating to sexuality should be driven by scientific data rather than emotion, "tradition" or popular but untrue myths. Dr. Klein  is a national board member of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality. His book America’s War On Sex  was honored as Book of the Year by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, & Therapists. His latest book Sexual Intelligence, explores the role of your mindset when it comes to sex ,and gives practical advice & tips of how to improve your sex life and sexual experience. For more information and access to Marty's work, visit his website:  www.SexEd.org.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats. Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Join Dr. Tammy and the acclaimed Ted Talk speaker/author of Girls & Sex and Boys & Sex, Peggy Orenstein, as they discuss how, as parents, educators and role models, we often fall short when teaching our kids about intimacy, sex, consent, reciprocal pleasure and the power discrepancies that are still perpetuated in our culture. What do teenagers today think about sex? How do we teach them open communication when we ourselves are not very good at it? And why is silence the biggest negative teacher of all?DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.GUEST BIOPeggy Orenstein is the New York Times bestselling author of Boys & Sex, Don’t Call Me Princess, Girls & Sex, Cinderella Ate My Daughter, Waiting for Daisy, Flux, and Schoolgirls. A contributing writer for the New York Times Magazine and Afar, she has also been published in New York, The Atlantic, The New Yorker, and other publications. Her TED Talk has received over four million views. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

*This episode originally aired June 2020. Enjoy!Wish you enjoyed sex more? Are you looking to better satisfy your partner?  Join Dr. Tammy and Dr. Laurie Mintz as they discuss why our culture's emphasis on intercourse and the male orgasm perpetuates pleasure inequality in the bedroom, and how becoming cliterate will create much more excitement between the sheets.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST? Visit  the ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.  GUEST BIO: Dr. Laurie Mintz is an award-winning professor at the University of Florida, where she teaches the Psychology of Human Sexuality.  Dr. Mintz has published over 50 scholarly articles in academic journals and six chapters in academic books. For almost 30 years, Dr. Mintz has also maintained a small private practice, working with both individuals and couples on general and sexual issues. She is also the author of two popular press books—both written with the aim of empowering women: A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex and Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters—And How To Get It. Dr. Mintz a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, indicating that her work has had a positive national influence on the field of psychology. Watch her recent Tedx Talk: A New Revolution for Orgasm Equality.    THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats  and Getting the Sex You Want.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Whether you’re having sex or not – this episode is a must! Dr. Tammy invites author, Dr. Ina Park to demystify and educate us all on how common sexual transmitted infections (STIs) really are, the surprising ones on the rise, and how we can protect ourselves - and our partners - while enjoying our sex lives. One in five people have a sexually transmitted infection. It doesn't matter if you're straight, queer, in a monogamous relationship, or if you have multiple partners - get tested. STI's are curable or manageable.  Protect your health, your fertility and the health of your partners (now and in the future). Knowledge is power. Ask your doctor or visit https://gettested.cdc.gov to find out where to get tested.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.  INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST? Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.GUEST BIOIna Park MD, MS is an associate professor at the University of California San Francisco School of Medicine, Medical Consultant at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Division of STD Prevention, and Medical Director of the California Prevention Training Center. Dr. Park served as a co-author of the 2020 CDC STD Treatment Guidelines and is a contributor to the Department of Health and Human Services STI Federal Action Plan. She is a fierce advocate for public health, and the author of Strange Bed Fellows: Adventures in Science, History, and Surprising Secrets of STDs.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy talks with Dr. Lee Phillips about what you can do when chronic illness, pain, the pandemic, or any other major life change, impacts your relationship and sexual connection with your partner. Learn how to get physically creative and harness curiosity as a key to improving your relationship no matter what challenge (big or small) you may be forced to face.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST?Visit  the ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. GUEST BIODr. Lee Phillips is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, a Certified Sex Therapist, and a Certified Sex and Couples Therapist. He specializes in working with individuals and couples on sexuality after chronic illness. He has been a featured expert in Teen Vogue, Healthline, and The Lily Newspaper. He writes for Psychology Today. His first book is in the works - Sex and Love When You’re in Pain, which helps couples overcome shame and the sexual limitations caused by illness. He also hosts of the Sex & Chronic Illness Podcast which features stories from individuals, couples, and other experts in the field on overcoming shame and the sexual limitations caused by illness and disability. Follow Dr. Lee on Instagram @drleephillips.  THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Whether you are breast feeding, going through perimenopause, menopause, cancer treatment, or any life change that causes a shift in your hormones, every woman will experience vaginal discomfort or pain at some point.  In this episode, Dr. Tammy gets hopeful tips and answers from OB/GYN, Dr. Sherry Ross, about how to care for your lady parts so you can enjoy your body - and sex - throughout all stages of life.  DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST? Visit  the ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.  GUEST BIODr. Sheryl A. Ross, aka “Dr. Sherry”—Ob/Gyn, author, and health expert—has been a passionate advocate for women’s health for over 25 years.Her first book She-ology: The Definitive Guide to Women’s Intimate Health. Period was named one the six Most Life Changing Wellness Books of 2017 by Prevention.com and Women’s Health Magazine.Her second book, she-ology, the she-quel, Let’s Continue the Conversation launched in February 2020.Dr Sherry continues the conversation with Sarah Hyland and Ellen Digital Network with Lady Parts which recently launched in the Fall of 2020. Having received nearly every “Top Doctor”, “Super Doctor” and “Patient’s Choice” award in the United States, Dr. Sherry was honored with The John Wayne Cancer Institute Auxiliary Angel Award for her contributions in advancing the narrative of women’s health care. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy talks with therapist, meditation & transformation teacher, and psychedelic medicine expert John Harrison, about the potential and limitations of using plant medicine to responsibly explore relationships, sex and intimacy.PROMO CODES & DEALS!Want a simple, luxurious lubricant that comes in a discreet and elegant bottle?  We know you do! Check out uberlube.com and get 10% off your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA.  DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.GUEST BIOAfter spending over two years as a fugitive, and another two and a half years in prison on erroneous drug charges, John Harrison became a lifelong seeker of personal transformation, healing, and a student and teacher of Zen meditation.  As a principal investigator for MAPS (Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies) pilot study, John explored the efficacy of the psychedelic plant medicine Ibogaine in the treatment of Opiate addiction. As a therapist, he prepares patients for Ibogaine treatments and helps them to integrate the lessons learned from the dream-visions during a transformative Ibogaine experience. John is also a long-time student of the potentials and limitations of psychedelic medicines in the treatment of various addictions, depression, PTSD, relationship issues, and in the facilitation of personal transformation. He has a Masters degree in Clinical Psychology, and he is currently working on his Doctorate at Pacifica Graduate Institute. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

No matter what stage of life you're in, loving your body and your sex life can have its ups and downs. In this episode, Dr. Tammy talks with OB/GYN, and midlife sexuality expert, Dr. Susan Hardwick-Smith about how to embrace change, the wisdom that comes with age, and the power of exploration to have the best sex of your life after menopause, divorce or any challenge life throws your way.PROMO CODES & DEALS!Want a simple, luxurious lubricant that comes in a discreet and elegant bottle?  We know you do! Check out uberlube.com and get 10% off your first order with promo code: DRTAMMY. Uberlube ships for free within the USA.  DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.GUEST BIODr. Susan Hardwick-Smith is an award-winning, board certified OBGYN. She recently retired as the Founder and President of Complete Women’s Care Center which she opened as a solo practitioner in 2002 and grew to be the largest all-female OB/GYN group in the country. In 2020 Dr. Susan decided to start her “second act” as the Founder of Complete Midlife Wellness Center, a concierge practice in Houston, focused on helping women find their full aliveness in midlife and celebrate the amazing opportunities that menopause brings. Her book Sexually Woke is a thought-provoking look at midlife sexuality based not only on wisdom gained from sharing intimate stories with thousands of patients, but also on her own very candid journey as a menopausal woman navigating life post-divorce. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson