The Trouble with Sex

The Trouble With Sex
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Nov 13, 2025 • 56min

Reignite Your Desire

Has stress in your life killed your mojo? Do you feel disconnected from pleasure or your partner? Dr. Tammy sits down with sex therapist and host of the Sexology Podcast, Dr. Nazanin Moali, to discuss how trauma and stress reshape desire, and how to reclaim your sensuality and erotic connection with your partner.OUR GUEST Dr. Nazanin Moali is a Clinical Psychologist, Dr. Nazanin Moali is a sex and relationship expert who helps individuals and couples improve their sex lives to achieve passionate connections with their partners.Her top rated Sexology Podcast has over an impressive 500 episodes. Each week, Dr. Nazanin Moali interviews experts, psychologists and researchers to explore the most intriguing findings in psychology of sex and intimacy.Dr. Moali launched a similar, highly-rated podcast in Farsi in 2016. She has extensive training in treatment of eating disorders and addiction from some of the nation’s leading experts. She is a published researcher who regularly speaks at major universities and international conferences. She is also a media advisor for local television shows.FREE OFFER! Want to re-ignite your sex life? Start your Erotic Recovery with Dr. Tammy's Six Weeks to Erotic Recovery for Singles e-book.  Email drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com, and we will send you your free e-book!DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson
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Oct 30, 2025 • 57min

How Resource Tapping & EMDR Based Treatments Help Heal Trauma

Dr. Tammy shares the trauma of her recent assault with the leading expert on EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and Resource Tapping, Dr. Laurel Parnell. Together they explore how these therapies can rewire the brain to help heal trauma, restore balance and improve relationships.OUR GUESTLaurel Parnell, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and Executive Director of the Parnell Institute and co-director of the non-profit Trauma Assistance Program International (TAP-IN). One of the world’s leading experts on Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), she is the originator of the EMDR-related therapies Attachment-Focused EMDR and Resource Tapping. Since 1995 she has trained thousands of clinicians in EMDR both nationally and internationally. Dr. Parnell is the author of several books and demonstration videos on EMDR, including, Attachment-Focused EMDR: Healing Relational Trauma, (W.W. Norton, 2013), A Therapist’s Guide to EMDR (W.W. Norton, 2007),  Rewiring the Addicted Brain with EMDR-Based Treatment (W.W. Norton, 2020), and Tapping In (Sounds True. 2008). Dr. Parnell has served on the faculty of the California Institute for Integral Studies and John F. Kennedy University. Considered a master clinician, Dr. Parnell brings a client-centered attachment-focused approach to the work and emphasizes the importance of a compassionate, safe, therapeutic relationship. She sees the adaptation of protocols and procedures according to the psychological, emotional, cultural, and developmental needs of the individual client as essential. Dr. Parnell is informed by research in contemporary neuroscience and uses a holistic approach to healing trauma that focuses on the integration of body, mind, and spirit. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson
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Oct 17, 2025 • 1h 2min

Deconstructing Purity Culture

Dr. Tammy has a deeply personal conversation with psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Andreya Jones who shares her story of growing up in a cult-like religious community shaped by Christian purity culture — a movement that’s left lasting impressions on how many women understand their bodies, sexuality, and sense of self.  Andreya offers insight, hope, and a path forward for anyone who’s been burdened by shame and is ready to reclaim their pleasure, their power, and redefine their life.OUR GUESTDr. Andreya Jones grew up in Papua New Guinea and Senegal, West Africa. She began her career in psychology as a case manager who worked with sexually abused children. After obtaining her master's degree in social work, she worked with troubled teens and their families, before entering the world of private practice. Andreya has a doctorate in clinical sexology, is a licensed clinical social worker, and is an AASECT certified sex therapist, who owns a private practice in Pennsylvania. Andreya is also the author of Deconstructing Purity Culture To Embrace Sexual Pleasure.  Her book addresses how women from controlled religious communities often report difficulty with religious sexual shame and how its teachings have affected the sexuality and pleasure of generations of women sexual desire, pain during sex, and sexual dysfunction. “Deconstructing Purity Culture” provides guidance and tools needed to identify and evaluate the messages women received about sex, pleasure, and their roles as women so they can decide which beliefs they would like to preserve and which they would like to change or discard as they move forward in their lives.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson
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Oct 3, 2025 • 1h 5min

The Healing Power of Fantasy

Join Dr. Tammy as she talks with LA based Dominatrix, Ashley Randall, aka Irreverent Femme, about the therapeutic benefits of erotic exploration, and how she uses BDSM, kink and fantasy to help her clients overcome shame, face their fears, and build greater trust, intimacy and pleasure into their relationships.OUR GUESTAshley Randall, aka Irreverent Femme, is an LA based, certified Sex, Intimacy and Kink Coach and Dominatrix based in Los Angeles, offering transformative coaching for individuals and partners seeking deeper intimacy, sexual confidence, and authentic connection. Through her practice, Irreverent Love, she helps clients through embracing parts of themselves often considered taboo—creating space where they feel seen, accepted, and sexy. Her work removes shame and stigma, particularly around BDSM, kink, and non-traditional relationship structures, empowering people to lead richer lives, relationships, and sex. She offers experiential coaching that guides individuals and partners through the emotional and practical terrain of emotional and sexual intimacy and also utilizes therapeutic BDSM. Ashley’s approach is deeply personal and focused on connection, allowing clients to explore safely and confidently.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson
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Sep 19, 2025 • 48min

Cultivating the Space Where Your Relationship Lives

Mary Kay Cocharo, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and Evie Shafner, an experienced clinical psychologist, dive into the dynamics of relationships. They discuss how anxiety and trauma can disrupt intimacy and suggest practical tools like intentional care for the 'space between' partners to nurture connection. The duo highlights the challenges younger generations face with communication and intimacy in a tech-saturated world, and they offer creative ways to enhance date nights and revitalize passion in relationships.
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Aug 29, 2025 • 33min

RE-RELEASE: Could Open Monogamy Work for You & Your Partner?

HAPPY END of SUMMER!  We'll be back in September with all new episodes. In the meantime, please enjoy Dr. Tammy's introduction to Open Monogamy, and continue to explore what's important to you and those you choose to love. The idea of monogamy and marriage  are no longer simple concepts. Can you have a loving, trusting relationship while exploring new direction as a couple? In this episode,  Dr. Tammy introduces the concept of Open Monogamy by answering listener questions and talking with a couple first-hand about what open monogamy means to them and how they successfully began redefining  their traditional relationship over ten years ago!DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOCHECK OUT DR. T'S NEW BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson
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Jul 31, 2025 • 34min

RE-RELEASE: Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex

Do you know your sex script? We all have subconscious stories we tell ourselves when it comes to love. In this episode, Dr. Tammy talks with acclaimed therapist and New York Times Best Selling author, Dr. Ian Kerner, about his latest book, and how we can reframe our stories to improve our relationships and our sex lives.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationships. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.GUEST BIOIan Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist and sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. Ian  has recently been featured in The Atlantic, The New York Times, The Economist and on NPR .  He contributes regularly on the topic of sex for CNN Health and lectures frequently, including his TED TALK 2021. His New York Times best-selling author She Comes First (Harper Collins) has been translated into more than a dozen languages, and his latest must read, So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives is available now!THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson
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Jul 4, 2025 • 49min

RE-RELEASE: Understanding Adult ADHD to Improve Your Relationship & Sex Life

Dr. Tammy and Dr. Ari Tuckman get personal as they dive into the minds of people with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, and how couples often struggle, yet can overcome their differences, when ADHD complicates their partnership and intimacy.  DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.GUEST BIO:Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST is a psychologist, certified sex therapist, international speaker, and author of four books, the most recent of which is ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson
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Jun 20, 2025 • 53min

How Anxiety Affects You & Your Relationships

Dr. Tammy explores the rise of anxiety in our post-pandemic, politically charged, social media driven world, and its impact on our closest relationships. Learn tools to reconnect with yourself and your partner, communicate better, and find calm amid the chaos.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson
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Jun 5, 2025 • 1h 1min

Your Body, Your Power – Navigating Menopause and Beyond

Dr. Tammy sits down with OB/GYN, Dr. Sheryl Ross to help educate and guide women on what to expect as their bodies change through the decades, and the safe and healthy options to explore during perimenopause, menopause and through the rest of your sexy life. OUR GUEST Dr. Sherry is an OB/GYN, author, and health expert. She has been a fierce advocate for women’s health and reproductive rights for over 25 years. Her books, “She-ology: The Definitive Guide to Women’s Intimate Health. Period”, and “She-ology the She-quel - Let’s Continue the Conversation” are both award winning bestsellers in women’s health.  Dr. Sherry continues the conversation with Sarah Hyland and Ellen’s Digital Network on the Critics’ Choice Real TV Awards nominated series - Lady Parts.Having received the “Top Doctor” and “Patient’s Choice” award, Dr. Sherry was also honored with The John Wayne Cancer Institute Auxiliary Angel Award for her contributions in advancing the narrative of women’s health care. In her pursuit to empower women and men to take charge of their sexual health, Dr. Sherry created Dr. Sherry Sexual Wellness products.  In 2026, Dr Sherry will be launching Oneself, a multigenerational women’s intimate skincare and hormonal wellness brand. Learn more about Dr. Sherry at: https://www.drsherry.com/ Follow her on:Facebook Instagram @drsherryr Twitter @DrSherylRoss DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy. Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

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