The Trouble with Sex

Dr. Tammy sits down with relationship, sex and trauma psychotherapist Silva Neves about sex, porn, trauma and the difference between compulsive behaviors and addiction.OUR GUESTSilva Neves is UK based psychotherapist and an award-winning, COSRT-accredited and UKCP-registered psychosexual & relationship psychotherapist, and a trauma therapist. He is a Pink Therapy Clinical Associate, and a member of the editorial board for the leading international journal Sexual and Relationship Therapy. Silva is an international speaker and author of two award winning books: Compulsive Sexual Behaviours, A Psycho-Sexual Treatment Guide for Clinicians, AND Sexology: The Basics.  He is the co-edited two textbooks with Dominic Davies: Erotically Queer and Relationally Queer.Find out more about Silva and follow him at:Website: https://www.silvaneves.co.uk Facebook: Silva Neves – Psychotherapy  X: @SilvaNeves3 Instagram: @silvanevespsychotherapy Threads: @silvanevespsychotherapy Bluesky: @silvaneves.bsky.social DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy talks with Skirt Club founder Genevieve LeJeune about how women all over the world have found a community to explore female sexuality and pleasure - helping to empower them in all aspects of their lives.OUR GUESTGenevieve LeJeune is the founder of Skirt Club, a private members club for bi-curious & bisexual women. With more than 25,000 members globally, Genevieve is going to share how she believes women are more interested in each other than ever. Born in England and raised in Hong Kong, Genevieve has lived in many of the world’s major cities. Her career has spanned financial marketing, sales, branding and journalism, but ten years ago she left the corporate world behind, to pursue a vision of advancing women’s sexual confidence.Genevieve was the first to curate luxurious global events where women can put their own desires first and gain confidence in bedroom, and then bring that confidence into the boardroom. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Narcissism has been a huge buzzword the last several years. Join Dr. Tammy as she talks with expert psychologist, Dr. Ramani Durvasula, about what narcissism really is, how to deal with being in a relationship with a narcissist, when to leave, and how to heal.OUR GUESTDr. Ramani Durvaslua is a licensed clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, a Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles. She is also the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. Dr. Ramani is an author of several books including Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship with a Narcissist, and “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility. Her cutting edge work around narcissism, and has been featured at SXSW, TEDx, Red Table Talk, the Today Show, and Investigation Discovery. Dr. Ramani's Youtube channel has accumulated millions of views, and she recently launched a podcast, Navigating Narcissism with Dr. Ramani –focusing on narcissism and its impact on relationships.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy and Dr. Marty Klein explore the controversy around the concept of sex addiction as they dive into pornography, relationships, expectations and the complexity of human sexuality.GUEST BIODr. Marty Klein is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist. He is a dedicated educator, international lecturer, media and courtroom expert, and author of seven books as well as  over 100 published articles. Dr. Klein is known for challenging the concepts of sex addiction and porn addiction, as well as the anti-pornography movement. He believes that public policy relating to sexuality should be driven by scientific data rather than emotion, "tradition" or popular but untrue myths.Dr. Klein  is a national board member of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality. His book America’s War On Sex  was honored as Book of the Year by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, & Therapists. His latest book Sexual Intelligence, explores the role of your mindset when it comes to sex ,and gives practical advice & tips of how to improve your sex life and sexual experience. For more information, visit his website:  www.SexEd.org.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy talks with therapist and author, Kate Loree about building conscious, compassionate open relationships, and healing yourself in the process.OUR GUESTKate Loree, LMFT, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities and the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships.In addition to her master’s in marriage and family therapy, she also has an MBA and is a registered art therapist (ATR). She is an EDSE certified sex educator and an EMDR certified therapist with additional training in the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma. Kate cohosts her own sex-positive podcast, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy has a fascinating and troubling discussion with expert and advocate Jackie Rotman about digital censorship and how the sexual health and pleasure of women, and genders other than male, continue to be discriminated against on social media and other advertising platforms - And why it matters. OUR GUESTJackie Rotman is the Founder and CEO of the Center for Intimacy Justice . CJI fights Meta’s discriminatory censorship of sexual information for women and people of unrepresented genders. In 2022 Jackie led an investigation that was published in The New York Times and 80 other media outlets, revealing that ALL of the 60 womens's health businesses interviewed or surveyed, ads were rejected on Facebook and Instagram. Within months of the investigation Meta changed several of its global advertising policies toward sexual health. Jackie holds an MBA from Stanford Graduate School of Business, an MPA from Harvard Kennedy School, and BA in Public Policy from Stanford. She speaks around the world on topics including digital censorship of sexual and reproductive rights, and other issues at the intersections of sexuality and technology. She regularly briefs US Senators, state Attorneys General, and other technology and human rights leaders on the findings of CIJ’s investigations. Jackie’s 2019 investigative op-ed “Vaginas Deserve Giant Ads, Too,” was published in the New York Times Opinion. She has also written creative nonfiction for Boston Globe Magazine.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New MonogamyInstagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Amid the devastating LA fires, Dr. Tammy talks with the esteemed Dr. Gabor Maté about how our childhood wounding impacts our families, relationships, and our sex lives.  OUR GUESTGabor Maté is a retired physician who, after 20 years of family practice and palliative care experience, worked for over a decade in Vancouver’s Downtown East Side with patients challenged by drug addiction and mental illness. The bestselling author of five books published in 43 languages, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, Gabor is an internationally renowned speaker highly sought after for his expertise on addiction, trauma, childhood development, and the relationship of stress and illness.  For his groundbreaking medical work and writing he has been awarded the Order of Canada, his country’s highest civilian distinction, and the Civic Merit Award from his hometown, Vancouver. His latest book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture remains a Canadian best seller and was a 19-week New York Times best seller. To learn more, join his e-news list at www.drgabormate.com. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New MonogamyInstagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelsonInstagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

What happens when a sex therapist and a rabbi fall in love?...  Dr. Tammy talks with Sylvia Rosenfeld and Terry Bookman about how they found love later in life, spiritual connection, and how to move past the shame around sex that some religions teach so you can deepen your relationship and enjoy the sex you deserve at any age. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.OUR GUESTSSYLVIA ROSENFELD & TERRY BOOKMANSylvia Rosenfeld, LCSW is an Imago trained, AASECT certified Sex Therapist and supervisor and has been a couples and relationship therapist for 40 years. She has trained with Dr. Harville Hendrix as well as the late Dr. Helen Singer Kaplan at the Human Sexuality Program of New York Hospital-Cornell Medical Center. Sylvia also trained with Dr. Pat  Love to present and teach the Hot Monogamy Program.  Sylvia has expanded her practice to include Ketamine Assisted Couples Therapy and retreats, and together, she and Jayne are working with people to help them go deeper both personally and in their relationships. Terry Bookman is a respected and nationally known Jewish leader, author, educator, coach, and the co-founder of Eitzah: The Center for Personal and Community Transformation. Through his teaching, writing, and coaching, Terry has reached thousands of rabbis and community leaders both nationally and internationally. Bookman holds a Doctor of Divinity as well as numerous academic degrees and distinctions. He was voted one of the “Top Pulpit Rabbis in America” by Newsweek Magazine.   Terry Bookman is also the author of three books on Jewish spirituality, three CDs of contemporary Jewish songs and music, as well as the co-author of one on synagogue life—This House We Build. His newest book, Beyond Survival: How Judaism Can Thrive in the 21st Century (May 2019), challenges the current limiting agenda of the Jewish establishment while offering a coherent vision for the future in which Judaism can thrive. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New MonogamyInstagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy talks with Juliane Taylor Shore about how setting boundaries can change your neurobiology to help you rewire your brain to feel safe, connected, and empowered in your relationships.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.OUR GUESTJuliane Taylor Shore is a therapist, author and teacher who creates spaces where people can move into more self-compassion, self-trust, empowerment, and integrity. She is an Associate Instructor with the Coherence Institute, and a core faculty member with Therapy Wisdom. She teaches and speaks to people around the world,  translating new understandings in neurobiology into practices that can support brain change. Juliane is the author of Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected and Empowered. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New MonogamyInstagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Join Dr. Tammy as she chats with Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, a renowned licensed clinical psychologist and author, known for her expertise in relationships. They dive into the complexities of becoming an empty nester and how ambition impacts intimacy. Discover the importance of self-awareness in relationships and practical tips from her latest book. They also discuss navigating sexuality, the failures of traditional sex education, and the power of gratitude to deepen connections. It's a journey of love, growth, and understanding!