The Trouble with Sex Love By Design
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Jan 23, 2026 Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, award-winning social psychologist and TED speaker, shows how to design lasting love. She contrasts fleeting sexual chemistry with renewable attraction. She talks boundaries, curiosity across generations, tech and AI’s impact on intimacy, and practical habits to keep attraction alive.
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Book Born From Research And Responsibility
- Sara Nasserzadeh wrote Love by Design to translate long-term relational research into practical guidance for future generations.
- She aimed to move beyond anecdotes to evidence-based strategies that help relationships thrive, not just survive.
Share Wisdom With Curiosity And Clarity
- Hold a safe, curious space for younger people and then share hard-earned lessons to save them time and pain.
- Offer clear practical guidance rather than leaving them to repeat avoidable mistakes.
Shared Media Creates Divergent Realities
- Digital media fragments shared meaning so partners can live under the same roof but interpret different worlds.
- Couples must intentionally exchange daily emotional 'clips' to stay aligned and speak the same language.
