Enneagram and Marriage

Is artificial intelligence becoming the third party in your marriage? In this timely episode, we explore the growing trend of couples turning to AI for relationship advice, planning, and emotional processing. Based on survey data from real couples, Christa unpacks three major benefits AI brings to marriage—from vacation planning to communication tools—and three significant concerns about emotional bypassing, digital intimacy, and false authority. Drawing from relationship research and real-world examples, including insights from Simon Sinek about the importance of authentic conflict, this episode offers practical guidelines for using AI to enhance rather than replace genuine marital connection. Whether you're AI-curious or concerned about technology's impact on relationships, this is a MUST-LISTEN as you gain clarity and conviction on how to navigate artificial intelligence's role in your most important human connections!! To sign up for the E + M Collective membership group for time live on Zoom with Christa, ⁠⁠⁠visit here!⁠⁠⁠ To sign up for the Enneasummit on Subtypes, ⁠⁠⁠sign up here!⁠⁠⁠ Get the all-access pass to the Enneasummit where Christa is speaking ⁠⁠⁠here! Head on over to ⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠ | ⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠ here!⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this special Memorial Day episode, Enneagram Type 2 Kristen Strong shares her powerful journey as a social Enneagram 2 giver and also military wife who spent two decades moving across the world, constantly rebuilding friendships and community. Author of "Desperate Woman Seeks Friends," Kristen offers vulnerable insights into the acute loneliness facing all of us in the busy culture of today and practical wisdom for anyone struggling to make meaningful connections through busyness, loneliness, trust-breaking, and more. Through her experience as a military spouse and her Type 2 heart for helping others, Kristen addresses the crisis of friendship with both solid hope and actionable direction. Whether you've ever felt the sting of rejection, cringed at awkward friendship encounters, or wondered if you're the only one struggling to make friends, Kristen's honest conversation and game plan for building lasting relationships will encourage your heart. Join us for this heartfelt tribute and hopeful discussion about the friendships we all desperately need right here! Show links: Visit Kristen's website here! https://kristenstrong.com/ Read Kristen's new book here! Desperate Woman Seeks Friends: Real Talk About Connection, Rejection, and Trying Again for the Friendships You Need - https://a.co/d/0vZqsZ1 To sign up for the E + M Collective membership group for time live on Zoom with Christa, ⁠⁠visit here!⁠⁠ To sign up for the Enneasummit on Subtypes, ⁠⁠sign up here!⁠⁠ Get the all-access pass to the Enneasummit where Christa is speaking ⁠⁠here! Head on over to ⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠ | ⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠ here!⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What does it truly mean to love someone with your whole being? In this transformative episode, we explore the essential practices needed to move beyond surface-level connection into profound, soul-nourishing love. Drawing from both Enneagram wisdom and practical relationship insights, we unpack how your personality type influences your capacity for love, and offer compassionate strategies for breaking through the childhood patterns and defense mechanisms that limit your ability to love completely. Whether you're in a new relationship or a decades-long marriage, you'll discover actionable wisdom for loving more intentionally, vulnerably, and wholly—creating the foundation for the deeply connected relationship you desire. To sign up for the membership group for time live on Zoom with Christa, ⁠visit here!⁠ To sign up for the Enneasummit on Subtypes, ⁠sign up here!⁠ Get the all-access pass to the summit ⁠here! Head on over to ⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠ | ⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠ here!⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Influencer and Coach (Enneagram & Coaching) Hillary McCaskey, 9w8 joins Christa to explore how her Enneagram type shapes her marriage to an 8. Together they discuss how Hillary's 972 Tritype influences her ability to support her Type 8 husband's dreams while finding her own voice—culminating in both a healthier and more attuned marriage as well as their bold decision to embrace a comfortable life on the road as the traveling duo @VanKaskeys on YouTube. Hillary also shares her powerful journey through grief and strength rising after losing her mother, a pivotal experience that awakened her strong 8 wing and transformed her approach to life and relationships. She opens up about navigating the challenges of conflict styles with her husband as well as fatigue as a 9 while accessing newfound strength. This episode offers valuable insights into the harmonious yet dynamic 8-9 pairing, showing how different types can complement each other while maintaining individual growth. Between these meaningful discussions of personality and relationships, Hillary and Christa share lighthearted moments about dogs, favorite coffee, and the unexpected joys of intentional living. Listen here to be inspired! Explore Hillary's Coaching Practice: https://enneagramandcoaching.com/ Explore Hillary's Popular Enneagram & Coaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandcoaching/?igsh=NzM2eDgxd3B2Yzdl# Follow the VanCaskeys on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/vancaskeys or at their website here: https://www.youtube.com/c/vancaskeys To sign up for the membership group for a live on Zoom with Christa, ⁠visit here!⁠ To sign up for the Enneasummit on Subtypes, ⁠sign up here!⁠ Get the all-access pass to the summit ⁠here! Head on over to ⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Christa takes you on a journey through the subtle influences of Enneagram wings in marriage relationships. In this illuminating episode, she explores how our wing tendencies can sometimes take over our interactions with our spouse without us even realizing it. From the silent withdrawal of a 1w9 to the stubborn resistance of a 9w8, Christa breaks down real examples of how each type's wings manifest in marriage - both helping and hindering connection. Discover practical strategies for finding balance and appreciating your partner's full Enneagram makeup while learning to temper your own wing influences when they become domineering. You're also invited to join our Enneagram + Marriage membership community, where we dive deeper into these dynamics every month! Plus, don't miss the upcoming EnneaSummit this summer - tickets are available now. Listen for all the summer fun and relationship wisdom packed into this episode! To sign up for the membership group for a live on Zoom with Christa, visit here! To sign up for the Enneasummit on Subtypes, sign up here! Get the all-access pass to the summit here! Join E + M Coach Alicia Larkey's retreat here! Head on over to ⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Just in time for Mother's Day, this special episode features Wall Street Journal bestselling author Jessica Turner sharing hard-earned wisdom about rebuilding when life veers dramatically off-script. Whether you didn't get to have kids, your marriage is different than what you wanted, or like Jessica, your marriage took a turn in a different direction, Jessica discusses how to navigate heartache, as she had to at the end of her 16-year marriage after her husband came out, transforming heartbreak into a powerful story of resilience that's now the foundation of her upcoming book "I Thought It Would Be Better Than This." As Mel Robbins notes, Jessica's journey will "speak right to your soul if you're wrestling with disappointment, heartache, or the curveballs life throws at you." Through a heartfelt lens with Jessica, today we process grief, reclaim identity, and find moments for self-care during life's biggest transitions. This conversation goes beyond typical Mother's Day sentiments to honor the strength it takes to write a new story when the original draft falls apart. Jessica's authentic insights offer both practical strategies and emotional permission to anyone standing at the intersection of "this isn't what I expected" and "where do I go from here?" Get Jessica's powerful book here for a mom you love: https://a.co/d/1BgPDuy Follow her blog and visit her website here: www.JessicaNTurner.com Follow her on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/jessicanturner/?hl=en Head on over to ⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this illuminating mini-episode for anyone who finds themselves in a reactive Enneagram Eight space, Christa unveils tools for finding and accessing the hidden vulnerability healthily beneath the Eight armor. Whether you're an Eight, have an Eight wing or arrow connection, or love someone with Eight energy, this episode offers crucial insights into navigating those critical moments when an Eight hits their wall. Learn why fight-or-flight responses are so instinctive for Eights and discover the powerful "3-3-3 Method" for processing emotions without feeling exposed. This episode goes beyond basic type descriptions to explore how Eights can access their strength through acknowledging vulnerability, and how loved ones can create safe containers that honor the Eight's need for both power and authentic connection. A must-listen for anyone seeking to understand the complex interplay of protection and vulnerability in the protective Eight's journey. Head on over to ⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this stance episode, Christa helps you to explore how our emotional regulation patterns impact our closest relationships through the lens of stances. This episode dives into the three stress stances—moving against, moving away, and moving toward—and how understanding these unconscious reactions can transform your marriage. Whether you're caught in criticism-defensiveness cycles or pursuer-distancer dynamics, you'll discover practical tools to recognize your patterns, regulate your responses, and create a deeper connection with your spouse. Learn how to turn triggering moments into opportunities for growth and intimacy in this thoughtful exploration of emotional intelligence in marriage. Head on over to ⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's all been done. I can't start until it's perfect. What if the critics come? In this episode, Christa talks with Mary Marantz, Enneagram 4, about her journey from growing up in a trailer in rural West Virginia to becoming a Yale Law graduate, successful entrepreneur, and author, only to learn she was still underestimating herself. This empowering conversation explores how to overcome self-doubt, silence your inner critic, and stop playing small. Mary's powerful message will help you move from stuck to start, providing both inspiration and practical steps to push past fear and excuses. Join us for this transformative discussion with the host of the iTunes Top 200 podcast "The Mary Marantz Show" about embracing your worth and creating the impact only you can make, just as Mary shares insights from her perspective as an Enneagram 4 and discusses her brand new book "Underestimated" releasing tomorrow! Watch on YouTube Follow Mary here: https://marymarantz.com/ Get Mary's brand new book, Underestimated, here! https://youtu.be/bwETc01Hdtw https://www.instagram.com/marymarantz https://www.facebook.com/groups/marymarantzshow Head on over to ⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ever wonder why personal growth seems to follow predictable patterns of progress and plateau? In this illuminating episode, we dive into one of the Enneagram's most fascinating but rarely discussed aspects: moving around the whole Enneagram system. Learn how this powerful concept applies to everything from skill-building to relationship development, and why certain growth points require conscious attention to move forward. Whether you're an Enneagram enthusiast wanting deeper understanding beyond type descriptions or someone curious about the hidden rhythms of personal transformation, this episode offers practical insights for recognizing where you are in various growth cycles and how to navigate the journey more consciously, both individually and in partnerships. Join us as we decode relationships and explore how we can continue to find personal growth, relationship challenges, and spiritual development. Head on over to ⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices