Conversations around furniture are frequent in couple's sessions. Where couples sleep, how they sit, where they eat - all of this carries meaning to every couple. In other words, the setting for the stories we tell matters. How does the way you set up your home matter to your marriage? There are many intimacies lost and found in the way we organize the furnishings in our home, vie for power, and distance, struggle, and lament can result. Listen to this essential E + M mini to get tips for crafting a home that is intimate and yet offers the autonomy and creative solutions you need. Tune in to this must-listen mini here!Email enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com to enter the "Thank you for loving" Review contest! (Just submit a copy of your new or old E + M book or podcast review)To get one of Christa's Mystery Dinner Games for 25% off, use code MYSTERYFUN here! www.suppersleuths.comWatch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/TkY9HS6M5DoSpread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-saleWe would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-usSign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96oInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today's must-listen podcast episode is a vital piece of the sex talk you never got - a conversation about sexual issues as they show up in almost every marriage as a result of shame and contempt born of most men's first encounters with sex because of the earliest introductions to sex via pornography and other counterfeit distortions with marriage therapist and author, Sam Jolman, Type 4 (4-4 pairing). Here we bring a respectful conversation geared toward the reminders of the God-given gift of wonder, awe, and innocence that you can truly bring into your marriage for a renewed sense of heartfelt love and mutual partnership. Sam also courageously brings forth an introduction to a necessary book that deals with these issues with kindness and courage with life-changing practical tips and insights. Sam's book, "The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality," has been cited by John Eldredge (Wild at Heart) as "the most important book on sexuality you will ever read." Join us as we delve into our lives and the conversations we need to have about a healthy expression of sexuality, as well as the best ways to heal.“At last. A kind, wise and poetic guide to the complex and beautiful issue of our sexuality and a path toward the wholeness every man longs for. I’m serious—this is the most important book on sexuality you will ever read.” -JOHN ELDREDGE BESTSELLING AUTHOR OF WILD AT HEARTShow Notes:Find Sam Jolman's (foreword by John Eldridge) book, "The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality" here: https://a.co/d/fFPhBAsFind Sam Jolman's website here: https://www.samjolman.com/Connect with Sam on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/samjolman/?hl=enFind Sam's Substack here: https://www.samjolman.com/writing/Watch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/lOqUgZYsnigEmail enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com with your Enneagram in Marriage book receipt for your digital copy of The Hidden Chapter (on Sex) in The Enneagram in MarriageSpread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-saleWe would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-usSign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96oInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In our quest to ensure our needs are met, it’s very common to start the work by getting self-care and then getting irritated with our spouse when they don’t know exactly how to meet our needs. Today’s mini-podcast helps you to get unstuck when you’re in process and trying to move through conflict in healthy ways and then find a disconnection ensues. Whatever you do, don’t withdraw away from the most important conflicts you need to have, instead listen to this mini episode for encouraging tips on how to get back to peace together right here! Get Christa's best-selling book, "The Enneagram in Marriage" here! https://a.co/d/boS3XFxEmail enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com with your book receipt for your digital copy of The Hidden ChapterWatch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/Ku9cc9rE2RYSpread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-saleWe would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-usSign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96oInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Trauma is so psychologically destructive largely because our brain is not able to create a coherent and empowering narrative out of what happened without support. Today on the podcast, writing teacher and coach Mara Eller, MA, Type 4 (4-7 pairing), gives us that support as she shows us how at the right time and with the right support, we can relive some of those stories in a supportive context where we are safe, and as well as move past these hurts with wisdom and integration. Mara also shares beautiful strategies for narrative writing from her class called, Unearthing Beauty that she shares about on the podcast as well today and invites you to join her there as well for an even deeper dive! Join us on the slow and careful yet empowering walk through the hardest peaks and valleys of your story with a shifting, empowering process today right here.Mara Eller is a teacher, writer, editor, and coach with a passion for transforming pain into purpose through the power of story. Her signature writing program, Unearthing Beauty, teaches students a repeatable process for unearthing a fuller picture of who they are and claiming authorship over their lives, while also producing a polished personal essay. Grab a free exercise to find the heart of your story at maraeller.com/heartofyourstory.Find Mara on her website: https://www.maraeller.com/unearthing-beauty-classTransform your pain with purpose: Learn more about Mara’s Unearthing Beauty writing class here: https://www.maraeller.com/unearthing-beauty-classLearn about Mara’s professional editing services here: https://www.maraeller.com/editingFollow Mara’s Substack here: https://maraeller.substack.com/Find Mara's free resources here! https://www.maraeller.com/classes/#heart-of-your-storyWatch the uncut version on YouTube: https://youtu.be/g4Cyl7FRSi4Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-saleWe would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-usSign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96oInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today in this E + M special, we take the justice-fighting lens together as a community to bring awareness to the issue of sex trafficking and sexual exploitation in relationships and around the world. We have a leading world expert with us to talk about it today, Exodus Cry founder, filmmaker, and artist, Benjamin Nolot (Enneagram 4), who shares the mission and issues involved on all sides of sex trafficking and exploitation, from pornography to sex trafficking. Make sure you tune in as we break down understanding of cycles of disempowerment, why people get caught up in these cycles, and most of all, work together to bring awareness and abolish sex trafficking, porn use, and other disempowering and unhealthy ushame-and-power-based sexual practices and to protect our next generation from being exposed and exploited as well.Read Raised on Porn: https://shop.exoduscry.com/products/raised-on-porn-bookJoin the Freedom Gala in Dana Pt, California this Oct 26! https://exoduscry.com/gala/Follow Exodus Cry on social media/Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CXfFGu3pI49/Follow the website here: www.exoduscry.comWatch YouTube: https://youtu.be/JpL4Af047X4Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-saleWe would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-usSign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96oInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Culturally, it's very hard for busy, overwhelmed individuals to take time to sit with and process emotions. Yet today's podcast guest, renowned trauma and StoryWork therapist Adam Young, (The Place We Find Ourselves podcast) Enneagram 8 (8-9 pairing), encourages us to do exactly that - sit in the hard and allow yourself time and attention to what's holding you back from thriving so you can heal together with support. This is a must-listen episode as we examine his journey on this, why many people ignore their own issues in favor of helping others with theirs, and what we must do to truly find health and healing from our past.Deep dive with Adam Young and his therapy and trauma tips with conversations on his podcast, The Place We Find Ourselves: https://open.spotify.com/show/36bU2hcguX97EDOi9Ja0tQPre-order Adam's book, "Make Sense of Your Story: Why Engaging Your Past with Kindness Changes Everything," here: https://a.co/d/7KVJJ2FFind Adam's website: https://adamyoungcounseling.com/Follow Adam on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adamyoungcounseling/Watch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/riP-QQqsRP0Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-saleWe would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-usSign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96oInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Discover essential tactics for repairing relationships after conflict. Learn how different Enneagram types respond to hurt and strategies for effective communication. The discussion emphasizes vulnerability as a key to reconnecting. Personal stories and tailored advice illuminate the path to healthier interactions. This insightful conversation is a must-listen for anyone seeking to strengthen their bond and navigate the challenges of love.

It's one thing to be vulnerable by choice and quite another to find yourself unwittingly so. Today, we discuss the healthiest ways to share our human vulnerabilities with expert Raleigh Sadler, Enneagram Type 6 (The MercyCast ) in a rich conversation on what vulnerability is and how hard it is to be vulnerable in relationships, especially when we've been burned or haven't known how to navigate sensitive terrain. Here you'll find tips for when to lean in, when to set some distance, and when rest is needed after a vulnerable event. We also specifically give tips for men seeking a culture of healthy vulnerability, since there are often extra layers of barriers here. Lastly and most urgently, we touch on some of the most vulnerable populations out there as Raleigh's outreach largely surrounds the most vulnerable in our population, sex trafficking victims, with his world outreach, Let My People Go.Find Raleigh Sadler's deep conversations on his podcast, The MercyCast: www.mercycast.comFind Raleigh's book, Vulnerability here!: https://a.co/d/h3ZJX51Find Raleigh's website: www.RaleighSadler.comFind Raleigh on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raleighsadler/?hl=enWatch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/a_mIf39iCFwSpread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-saleWe would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-usSign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96oInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When spouses don't align on their deepest core values, it's hard to get along and yet many spouses find it hard to articulate what those core values even are for them. Today Christa walked you through a few simple exercises to get in touch with the values inside of you so you can live most authentically as yourself, and also learn to appreciate those values your spouse brings to the table, disparate though they may be. Listen right here on this brand new mini-episode just for you as you align with yourself and one another again or for the very first time! Values List: https://emeriti.usc.edu/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Values-list-Brene-Brown.pdfEmail enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com with your book receipt for your digital copy of The Hidden ChapterWatch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/KYQQBvn-0VcSpread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-saleWe would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-usSign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96oInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When heartbreak happens, you're not alone. Yet often our first human instincts involve shutting down fast and then isolating ourselves, spilling grief into unhealthy corners such as overworking, overly seeking commendation, or just disconnecting from God and others in our lament. Today we talk with author and poet Tanner Olson, Type 3 (3-5 pairing), @Written to Speak about instead bringing these laments into the light. Tanner takes us on a deep dive into his experience of finding the light of Christ even in the darkness of life's unexpected twists and turns, including unexplained infertility. Whatever your experience of uncertainty in the midst of waiting or grief, don't miss this episode that also includes a conversation about Tanner's marriage and pairing, encouraging tips for you, and even a live reading of one of his poems from his acclaimed book, "Walk a Little Slower," as you too find your most authentic ways to share and bring light to the darkness.Find Tanner on Instagram here: https://www.writtentospeak.com/about-tanner-olsonFind Tanner’s highly acclaimed “Walk a Little Slower” here: https://a.co/d/fDvVZvPLearn more about Tanner’s speaking, project, and books here: www.WrittentoSpeak.comEmail enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com with your book receipt for your digital copy of The Hidden ChapterWatch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/rYSNLcb1OJwSpread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-saleWe would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-usSign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices