Enneagram and Marriage

Discover how each Enneagram type navigates attachment needs in marriage. Explore unique challenges that hinder intimacy and learn practical strategies for deeper emotional connections. The hosts share exciting news about an upcoming book that promises to enhance your understanding of the Enneagram in relationships. Delve into why secure attachment is crucial for a healthy partnership and gain insights that can transform your marriage dynamics. Join for valuable resources and engaging discussions!

Do you ever feel like your spouse truly misses out on what your greatest attachment needs are? You may even wonder occasionally if you're doomed as a couple for not agreeing on what secure attachment really looks and feels like. In today's mini-episode, Christa walks you through the reasons those who lead with their hearts, minds, or bodies, tend to feel differently about what secure attachment really looks like, and more, how you can begin to live life more securely together. This is an episode you don't want to miss as you lean into love and into one another with an understanding of your mutual strengths and shadows. Today's show links: Here's the Attachment Project Quiz! Post episode: Congrats to winners of the last episode's contest on Monday @rhhorstman and @annamariereilly for guessing Kate and Adam's types (9 and 5) correctly, as well as to all of the others who did as well (and thanks for playing even if you didn't!! They win one of Kate's brand new Enneagram books and one of our Supper Sleuths Mystery Dinner Games! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As you kick back a bit from work this opening summer Monday, we hope you take some time to chill during this fun conversation together with author Kate Hallock. As you learn about Kate, her husband, and their process for undertaking the first Enneagram mystery novel, Nine Ways to Die: An Enneagram Murder Mystery, we also have a mystery to solve together right on air! Join us here to examine what type Kate and her husband are for a chance to win a copy of Kate's novel and one of our mystery dinner games! Post episode: Congrats to winners of the contest @rhhorstman and @annamariereilly for guessing Kate and Adam's types (9 and 5) correctly, as well as to all of the others who did as well (and thanks for playing even if you didn't!! They win one of Kate's brand new Enneagram books and one of our Supper Sleuths Mystery Dinner Games! Watch the live interview with Christa and Kate on YouTube! Get Kate's book Find Kate's bio and Instagram here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We each bring something valuable and beautiful to our marriages in terms of worldview but also bring an accompanying shadow to the relationship as well. Today we are talking about what each of us brings in terms of worldview to our marriage via our Enneagram type. We are also going through an exercise that gives you briefly a chance to move toward one another when you hit a roadblock in achieving your goals together. Today's show links:  Check out Dr. Wyatt, PsyD relationship course starting this week for those who want to dive in deeper with tips and practice coaching with an ICF certified program! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Did you feel different when you fell in love? Love does indeed change our brains, and wonderfully, love can even support us with emotional bonding. However, the intensity of love can also have negative effects on the activity within the brain.  Today on the podcast, we demystify the brain and practically hack our way through the best ways we can allow our thinking and activities to support us in our goals together!  Join Christa with an exclusive look at how to boost your brain with healthy hacks as we sit at the feet of neuroscientist Dr. Krissy Thomas, Ph.D, Enneagram Three. It's a powerful and fun episode as we dissect the very best ways to boost your joy and life together! Learn the hacks around: Why & how crying releases endorphins as stress is released The sympathetic & parasympathetic nervous process Dopamine (our feel-good brain chemical) Serotonin (a mood-boosting brain chemical) Oxytocin (a relationship, "love chemical") Endorphins (natural pain relievers for relieving mood) Mirror neurons and how we can help each other Sleep and its housekeeping role for our life and marriage And SO much more! Show Links: Watch the live interview with Christa and Dr. Krissy on YouTube! Visit Dr. Krissy on her fabulous Instagram for regular brain hacks! Visit Dr. Krissy's website here for more info about her and her life coaching assistance! Congrats to our contest winner @KollerCommentary Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this unabashedly romantic and just-for-fun episode, Christa and Hannah curl up in the 7 space with some decaf chai and invite listeners to grab a cup and join them in another personality-type excavation! This time we invite our audience to Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan characters with us across their cinematic history of slow-burn and enemies-to-lovers tropes together. We visit the magical mutual pining in Sleepless in Seattle, revisit the modern Pride and Prejudice in You've Got Mail, and make a brief touchdown into Joe Versus the Volcano in this new rom-com Enneagram typing episode just for you!  Show Links: Contest fun! We invite you to cast your votes of each type on our Instagram account for this episode too for a chance to win a pairing guide for you or a friend here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You need to know exactly what's getting in the way of the two of you in conflict, not only in terms of Enneagram type issues but also in terms of your meta-communication. In fact, if conflicts aren't addressed, they'll continue to control you from under the surface of your vices. On this brand new episode just for you, we are making the goal-getting deep and meaningful but also fun and practical with #1 rated marriage podcast experts Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo of One Extraordinary Marriage joining us. Christa first takes you briefly through the Enneagram system type by type vices so you can detect which issues you’re likely struggling with bringing into conflict and then we’ll leave it to Tony and Alisa to show us their creative and very helpful structure for processing conflict together better than ever before.  Show Links: Tony and Alisa's new book (with visuals!) on breaking conflict cycles is right here! Check out One Extraordinary Marriage for So Many Tips!!  You can also watch on the E + M YouTube Channel here! www.conflictresolutionbook.com Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  Research tells us kids struggle more post-Covid with mental health issues and it's often because they have a sense of hopelessness and culture. They look to what social media tells them, largely, about who they are., and yet come up empty every time they don't measure up. Why not gift them with the best awareness of themselves and their incredibly precious gifts as they navigate these times, so they too can find balance? Christa invites you here to life-changing tips for your child as they develop emerging personality traits Enneagram and learn the very best ways they can grow with love, wisdom, balance, and hope for the future once again. Don't miss out on this special episode as we approach Mother's Day! Show Links: Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week of Mother's Day, we work together on parenting goals as we look at the absolute best and worst researched-based practices with teens as they will influence marriage and sexual relationships with Sheila Wray Gregoire, Enneagram 8w7. We take both a microscopic and wide lens view of generational practices around sexual and faith norms across generations. From prior to Gen X to purity culture to now, there's still work to do around healthy teaching and training and we have the best tips for you!  Specifically, Christa invites expert Sheila Wray Gregoire of Bare Marriage to help us navigate: What parenting research is tied to marriage health and healthy marriages What teaching a girl about her period and healthy sex ed can do for healthy adulting What internalized masochism does to their future mental health, finding voice, and the belief that women talk more than men Why Gen X had better sex-ed than Millenials and why purity culture came in to roost after Gen X Show Links: Sheila's new book, She Deserves Better: Raising Girls To Resist Toxic Teachings on Sex, Self, and Speaking Up  Sheila's Website - Bare Marriage Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sometimes you just need to let down and read a really good book, and today Christa is joined by her daughter Melody Hardin, Enneagram Nine, to discuss exactly that - great books for each and every personality type! Join us for this exclusive episode where we wind down after a busy spring, and prepared to launch ourselves into summer with some levity, love, and, fun literature as well! Check out Melody's book club reads on her page on the E + M website here! Wes and Christa's Book Recommendations for Each Type Instagram Reel Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices