Enneagram and Marriage

You need to know exactly what's getting in the way of the two of you in conflict, not only in terms of Enneagram type issues but also in terms of your meta-communication. In fact, if conflicts aren't addressed, they'll continue to control you from under the surface of your vices. On this brand new episode just for you, we are making the goal-getting deep and meaningful but also fun and practical with #1 rated marriage podcast experts Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo of One Extraordinary Marriage joining us. Christa first takes you briefly through the Enneagram system type by type vices so you can detect which issues you’re likely struggling with bringing into conflict and then we’ll leave it to Tony and Alisa to show us their creative and very helpful structure for processing conflict together better than ever before.  Show Links: Tony and Alisa's new book (with visuals!) on breaking conflict cycles is right here! Check out One Extraordinary Marriage for So Many Tips!!  You can also watch on the E + M YouTube Channel here! www.conflictresolutionbook.com Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  Research tells us kids struggle more post-Covid with mental health issues and it's often because they have a sense of hopelessness and culture. They look to what social media tells them, largely, about who they are., and yet come up empty every time they don't measure up. Why not gift them with the best awareness of themselves and their incredibly precious gifts as they navigate these times, so they too can find balance? Christa invites you here to life-changing tips for your child as they develop emerging personality traits Enneagram and learn the very best ways they can grow with love, wisdom, balance, and hope for the future once again. Don't miss out on this special episode as we approach Mother's Day! Show Links: Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week of Mother's Day, we work together on parenting goals as we look at the absolute best and worst researched-based practices with teens as they will influence marriage and sexual relationships with Sheila Wray Gregoire, Enneagram 8w7. We take both a microscopic and wide lens view of generational practices around sexual and faith norms across generations. From prior to Gen X to purity culture to now, there's still work to do around healthy teaching and training and we have the best tips for you!  Specifically, Christa invites expert Sheila Wray Gregoire of Bare Marriage to help us navigate: What parenting research is tied to marriage health and healthy marriages What teaching a girl about her period and healthy sex ed can do for healthy adulting What internalized masochism does to their future mental health, finding voice, and the belief that women talk more than men Why Gen X had better sex-ed than Millenials and why purity culture came in to roost after Gen X Show Links: Sheila's new book, She Deserves Better: Raising Girls To Resist Toxic Teachings on Sex, Self, and Speaking Up  Sheila's Website - Bare Marriage Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sometimes you just need to let down and read a really good book, and today Christa is joined by her daughter Melody Hardin, Enneagram Nine, to discuss exactly that - great books for each and every personality type! Join us for this exclusive episode where we wind down after a busy spring, and prepared to launch ourselves into summer with some levity, love, and, fun literature as well! Check out Melody's book club reads on her page on the E + M website here! Wes and Christa's Book Recommendations for Each Type Instagram Reel Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As we begin to refine our goals together this month, we're covering the area of sexual intimacy right off the bat with the wonderful sex educator you always wish you had, Carlie Palmer-Webb, MS! Carlie runs the popular Instagram account @theChristianSexEducator to teach people who may not have been given healthy tools about sex the chance to build beautiful intimacy together. We talk about sexual mindfulness, purity culture, low libido, differences in desire, and how we can build up sexual desire together if it's low, in seasons of raising kids, and how sharing the load helps this area to be managed well! Carlie has SO many resources on and off the air including 20 questions to ask your spouse about sex, guides for engaged and newlywed couples, and The Women-Tell-All Learning to Orgasm Guide. Listen up! Show Links: Carlie's Instagram is right here to educate you! The Women Tell-All Guide to Orgasm - Free Resource! Carlie's website and more tools! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this "Life" series, you're getting to listen in on the relationship stories of each of the Enneagram types. It's a time for you to experience sitting with an authentic person of each personality type in a very authentic fashion as you join us for a meaningful chat as we finish our last dripping of the Enneagram type series of chats, ending with Christa's hubby Wes today, who helps us learn more about the Type 1! Christa and Wes have shared over twenty five years of growth together and so you're in for a treat as you dive deep with us as we don't shy away from the super big questions you've always wanted to ask a One and all the ways you want and need to grow (and glow!) with a One as well! Specifically, you will hear about: Marriage and family with a One The Way the Compliance/Dependence Stance Present Orientation from the One perspective When you feel like your One is super stressed/critical When a One is working too hard and angry And more!  For a Deep Dive on Type One, share here! Wes and Hannah's special father-daughter project!  Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What's preventing you from reaching your goals, from thriving personally, relationally, or at work? It's often so more than just circumstantial, but something you could actually get a handle on by increasing your emotional intelligence quotient with the Enneagram of personality, including your Enneagram instincts, defense strategies, triads, core fears, and more. Scott Allender, Enneagram 3 (3-4 pairing), is here to talk about all of this with us as you take steps to move your life, business, or family into a healthier direction with his deep dive into this truly next-level Enneagram training so you can truly thrive with newfound energy and goals! Tune in to hear about his brand new book, The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence: A Journey to Personal and Professional Success, and learn with us about how you can truly find your way through the biggest blocks to purposes you're meant for. Show Links: Join the E + M Collective for Marriage Support! Open only till April 25! Scott's book! Scott's website, writing, and podcast offerings Scott's Instagram Account Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How can those who struggle with sobriety create mindfulness around alcohol, especially since the struggle affects all of us culturally as the leading substance issue today? Join us today for a compassionate and thoughtful conversation with author, sobriety coach, and spiritual director Erin Jean Warde, Enneagram 6. Erin shares practical ways we can honor one another's experiences more gracefully and allows for rich conversations as we walk towards virtue together individually, in relationships, in community, and globally as well, as she shares her beautiful new Brazos Press book, Sober Spirituality, with us right here!   Show Links: Join the E + M Collective for Marriage Support! Open only till April 25! Erin's website, writing, and Substack offerings Erin's Instagram Account Contact Erin   Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So many individuals and couples depend on faith for life's sustenance as well as a purposeful call together in relationships, and yet many times there are often so many faith or cultural disillusionments that send us far away from the rhythms of life wrapped up with God and communities of faith, especially at this precarious moment in culture wars. Prolific author Sara Billups, Enneagram 4 (4-5 pairing) invites us into a deep and curious dive into the past as well as movements for going forward in culture with meaningful, compassionate, and justice-oriented faith rhythms in her brand new book Orphaned Believers: How a Generation of Christian Exiles Can Find Their Way Home, that we talk about together today with you. Show Links: Get Sara's book here on Amazon! Sara's website writing and offerings Sara's Instagram Account Sara's beautiful Substack account Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this "Life" series, you don't just get to hear about relationships with each of the Enneagram types but for you to experience sitting with an authentic and open person of each personality type in a very down-to-earth fashion, too. Join us for another fascinating chat as we continue to drip out an Enneagram series with this week's guest Kirsten Barker, who is not only an E + M Certified Coach, but also a 2 who has been doing her work for a long time! Kirsten is also a wife, mom, and an Enneagram teacher as well. Most of all, she's willing to dive deep with us about all the super big questions you've always wanted to ask or help a Two with and all the ways you want and need to grow (and glow!) with a Two as well! Specifically, you will hear about: Marriage and family with a 2 The Compliant/Dependent Stance Present Orientation from the Two perspective When you feel like your Two is thought-inhibited (thinking only about relationships) When a Two is attention seeking And more! Show links: Give Kirsten's website links a browse and check out her coaching! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices