Social Skills Coaching

Take Rapid Action: Get Productive, Motivated, & Energized; Stop Overthinking & Procrastinating By Patrick King00:04:28 Follow the Ostrich’s Lead00:09:41 The Premortem Analysis00:15:56 The Don’t-Do List00:31:04 Err on the Side of Action00:32:19 Get a Little Uncomfortable00:39:04 Tiny Steps00:45:25 The 40-70 Rule 00:50:14 Beat IndecisionHear it Here - https://bit.ly/takerapidactionkinghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B082YZ95LVPractical, psychological methods to turn your thoughts into reality, instead of endless avoidance and laziness.Transform from struggling with getting off your butt, to a machine of productivity and self-discipline. Create an action bias in your life -- starting now.How to break inertia, overthinking, paralysis, sloth, and insecurity.Take Rapid Action deconstructs the psychology of laziness and why tomorrow always sounds like a better idea. This book is many things at once: a shot of motivation, a spark of fire, an understanding of your brain, and a list of techniques to get into motion. This is one of the most valuable skills you’ll ever gain, because only action matters in life, not good intentions.Gain the ability to get things done and hit your goals, no matter the circumstances.Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience.Stop saying “I’ll do it later/tomorrow…” and overhaul your mindset for productivity and efficiency.•The Premortem Analysis and the Ostrich Theory -- how they can quiet your overthinking.•How comfortable inaction is sabotaging you.•Actionable and applicable rules to get started before you feel 100% ready.How to create motion and take the first step from complete stillness.•How to defeat procrastination by “bundling.”•Strategically plan your days to prevent laziness and distraction.•What you think is action, but is actually a waste of timeBecome a machine of proactive energy and activity.Action and results are the only things that matter in the world. Not your planning, intentions, or nice thoughts. This book puts action at the forefront of your brain and makes it nearly impossible to stay still. That’s precisely what will get you ahead in life. Taking that first step is always hard, but it doesn’t have to be.The more action you take, the luckier you become. Take that first step by scrolling up and clicking the BUY NOW BUTTON at the top right of this page!This is the sixth book in the “Clear Thinking and Fast Action” series as listed below:1. The Science of Getting Started: How to Beat Procrastination, Summon Productivity, and Stop Self-Sabotage2. The Art of Clear Thinking: Mental Models for Better Reasoning, Judgment, Analysis, and Learning. Upgrade Your Intellectual Toolkit.3. 10-Minute Philosophy: From Buddhism to Stoicism, Confucius and Aristotle - Bite-Sized Wisdom From Some of History’s Greatest Thinkers4. Practical Intelligence: How to Think Critically, Deconstruct Situations, Analyze Deeply, and Never Be Fooled5. Learn To Think Using Thought Experiments: How to Expand Your Mental Horizons, Understand Metacognition, Improve Your Curiosity, and Think Like a Philosopher6. Take Rapid Action: Get Productive, Motivated, & Energized; Stop Overthinking & Procrastinating7. Relentless Focus: 27 Small Tweaks to Beat Procrastination, Skyrocket Productivity, Outsmart Distractions, & Do More in Less Time#DontDoList #DrRobertLeahy #GaryKlein #Leahy #OstrichTheory #Overthinking #Plutarch #PremortemAnalysis #TakeRapidAction #Uncertainty #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #TakeRapidAction #StopOverthinking

Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home00:03:25 Why Stories Matter00:05:23 Four Elements of a Good Story00:09:28 Be Natural ... But Have a Plan00:17:16 USING WITTY BANTER IN BUILDING RAPPORT00:22:35 Technique 2: Use the Element of Surprise00:24:03 Technique 3: Sarcasm 00:26:25 Technique 4: Being Self-Referential00:28:15 Banter WarningsHear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI• Though the real foundations of a good conversation are humility, curiosity, and open-mindedness, it’s still worth learning how to tell engaging and entertaining stories. Storytelling is human, and anyone can be a good storyteller. But a story’s value is in how it’s perceived by the audience.• The best stories have an attention-grabbing hook; they’re short, precise, and have a relevant emotional core. In conversation, a story is meant to create connection and rapport, not showcase you as interesting. Prepare somewhat by building a story “library” beforehand, then use natural transition phrases such as “You know, that reminds me of . . .”to introduce the story. Remember that telling a story is still a kind of conversation.• Witty banter is playful, clever, amusing conversation that speeds up rapport and builds closeness very rapidly. Anyone can learn to banter as long as they follow the rules: start small and build, banter WITH someone, not AT them, and a little goes a long way.• Self-deprecating or self-referential humor helps you drop your ego and shows strength and maturity, putting people at ease. Be brief and very obviously exaggerate something you’re actually comfortable with. Be unexpected and use the element of surprise to grab attention and create spark and spontaneity. Flaunt conversational norms with playful sarcasm. The focus is always on building rapport, not on entertaining or impressing people.#AndyRichter #Banter #Sarcasm #ScottYoung #SelfDeprecatingHumor #Selfdeprecation #Selfreferential #WITTYBANTERINBUILDINGRAPPORT #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #MakeFriendsEasily #TurningOnTheCharm

How To Say No: Stand Your Ground, Assert Yourself, and Make Yourself Be Seen (Without Guilt or Awkwardness) (Be Confident and Fearless Book 7)By: Patrick King 00:02:05 Why Saying No is So Essential00:10:26 Why We Struggle to Say No00:20:53 The Psychological Root of Never Saying No: Codependency00:36:51 Getting Rid of Counter-Mindsets00:44:54 Change Strategies for Counter-Mindsets00:46:19 Rewriting the Script that Saying No Makes You a Bad Person00:55:31 Rewriting the Script that Saying No Means You Don’t CareHear it Here - https://adbl.co/3vU090qhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0918PNTZVFinally get what you deserve and stop “letting it slide” - without guilt, fear, or awkward tension.Saying no - just thinking about it sounds awkward, right? But that’s the barrier between you living your own life, and living for others. Get what you want, starting immediately.Stop sacrificing your own needs. Quit the agreeableness and accommodation habit.How to Say No examines the psychology of those unable to stand up for themselves. It’s not as simple as wanting to avoid awkwardness, and it’s not about the correct sequence of words. You’l dive deep and learn about your beliefs that are holding you back, as well as how to conquer them in short time.Saying no is the most liberating thing you can do for yourself, and this book tells you how to get there from inside to out.Swift tactics to gain respect, set boundaries, and ask for what you really want.Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience.How to decisively say NO and stop being taken advantage of.•The counter mindsets you must change, and the mindsets you must replace them with•A multitude of categories for how to asset yourself•The easiest and least tense ways to simply say NO•An examination of your beliefs surrounding acceptance, love, and self-worth•Boundaries and how to ruthlessly enforce themStop putting others first and start treating yourself better.Who are you living your life for? Do you feel like you are exhausted by the time you can finally pay attention to your own needs?Do you finally wish that you could free yourself from self-imposed burdens and put yourself first? Learning how to say no and assert yourself is the most amazing tool that no one ever taught us. Start changing your life today. #Burnout #Codependency #Codependent #Countermindsets #FOMO #Overcommitting #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #HowToSayNo #TheImportanceOfSayingNo #PatrickKing

Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-homeHear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI00:01:53 Dr. David Rock created the SCARF model00:05:34 Assertive Communication 00:09:17 What Makes Assertive Communicators Different 00:10:45 Ten Essential Assertive Communication Habits00:22:06 Bonus: The Broken Record Technique00:23:47 Give and Take: The Art of Feedback00:27:02 The Situation-Behavior-Impact (SBI) model00:30:50 The Best Way to Receive Feedback • Regulate your own emotions by being aware of the underlying needs they express: status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness, and fairness. • Be assertive and communicate your needs, limits, and perspective with clarity and kindness. Be clear, calm, firm, open, in control, and respectful. Decide on the type of assertion that best fits your needs: basic, empathic, consequence, discrepancy, or negative feelings assertion. • When it comes to giving or receiving feedback, remember that it is about behaviors and actions and not about people. Be kind, but also don’t take things too personally. #Assertive #AssertiveCommunication #BrokenRecordTechnique #DrDavidRock #Effective #EmotionalIntelligence #Feedback #SBI #SCARF #ThomasKilmann #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #HowtoSpeakEffectively #RegulatingYourOwnEmotions

In this engaging talk, Patrick King, a social interaction specialist and best-selling author from San Francisco, dives deep into communication styles. He explains the differences between passive, aggressive, and assertive communication, emphasizing that our choices shape how we express ourselves. Patrick advocates for assertive communication as the healthiest approach, allowing individuals to meet their needs while respecting others. By addressing psychological barriers, he inspires listeners to enhance their social skills and foster meaningful connections.

Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home00:02:46 Psychologist Shelly Gable coined the term “active and constructive responding”00:12:42 A truly active and constructive responseHear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI• Your response to someone’s good news can vary, being passive or active, constructive or destructive. Aim for active, constructive responses that acknowledge and reflect the emotion and energy in a speaker’s message. • Give compliments—but keep them rare, sincere, specific, and appropriate.• Avoid giving advice. Problem-solving is best achieved by helping people discover what they themselves think, rather than telling them.#Compliment #Constructive #Destructive #Gable #PerfectCompliment #Problemsolving #PsychologistShellyGable #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #MakeFriendsEasily #ACTIVEANDCONSTRUCTIVERESPONDING

Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-homeHear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI00:01:18 In an article published in the Journal of Managerial Sciences in 200900:01:48 The Different Types of Conflict00:02:02 Not all conflict is the same—take a look at some variants: Affective Conflict 00:02:23 Substantive Conflict 00:02:45 Conflict of Interest 00:03:02 Retributive Conflict 00:03:19 Conflict in Values 00:03:33 Goal Conflict 00:03:39 Displaced Conflict00:04:29 The Thomas Kilmann Model 00:05:34 1. Competing 00:06:22 2. Avoiding 00:07:17 3. Accommodating 00:08:01 4. Collaboration 00:08:48 5. Compromising 00:09:36 VOMP 00:09:58 Ventilation 00:10:48 Ownership 00:11:53 Moccasins 00:12:20 Plan 00:14:24 Uh Oh—We Talked and There’s Still Conflict00:15:21 How to Master High-Stakes Discussions and Stabilize Intense Emotions00:19:17 How to Navigate a Crucial Conversation • Conflict is inevitable whenever people differ, but it can be managed with grace and tact. Try to understand the type of conflict: affective, substantive, conflict of interest, retributive, conflict in values, goal conflict, or displaced conflict from somewhere else. • According to the Thomas Kilmann model, people come into conflict simply because they have different ideas, values, motivations, or wants. There are five conflict-resolution strategies according to degree of empathy and assertiveness: competing, avoiding, accommodating, collaborating, and compromising. Each has pros and cons and is best used in specific circumstances. Compromising (medium assertiveness and medium empathy) is usually a good bet all around.#Affective #Collaboration #Compromising #Conflict #CrosbyKerrMinnoConsulting #DisplacedConflict #Emotion #Empathy #GoalConflict #Kilmann #ProfessorAbdulGhaffar #QurtubaUniversity #RalphKilmann #RetributiveConflict #ThomasKilmann #Ventilation #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #HowtoSpeakEffectively #WhenItAllGoesWrong:EffectiveConflictResolutionPatrickKing

Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home00:03:22 The Perfect Apology00:04:41 A Mistake Can Be a Good Thing!00:07:37 1. Express your genuine regret00:09:50 2. Explain what happened 00:11:20 3. Take responsibility 00:12:24 4. Repent!00:13:58 5. Offer to make amends00:15:14 6. Ask for forgivenessHear it Here - adbl.co/3OJ4V72• Conflict will happen, but what matters is how people respond to their mistakes. A perfect apology can actually strengthen a relationship if it consists of these six parts: expression of regret, explanation of what went wrong (without excuses or blame), taking responsibility, repentance, offering reparations, and a request for forgiveness, in order of importance. • Good apologies are sincere and match the severity of the offense. Apologize quickly and remember that you are never owed an apology. #Apologize #EQ #Lewicki #PerfectApology #Repent #Repentance #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #ThePowerofE.Q. #Needs #Limits #Requests #Refusals...It’SAConstantNegotiation

Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home00:01:48 Karen Huang and colleagues00:05:35 Chunking Up and Down00:18:15 When to Chunk Up00:19:13 When to Chunk DownHear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI• Research suggests that talking about yourself makes you a little less likeable, while asking questions makes you a little more likeable. Open-ended and follow-up questions especially showed the greatest relationship to likability. People like those they believe are genuinely hearing them, seeing them, and reacting to them.• Questions that chunk up or down allow you to vary the degree of detail at which you present or request information. Both approaches have their uses, but it’s about balance, variety, and aligning with the other person. Become curious about where a current conversation is and whether it might need more chunking up or chunking down.#Chartrand #Chunking #ChunkingUp #GeorgeAMiller #KarenHuang #Lacan #Lacanian #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #MakeFriendsEasily #Question-Asking

Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home00:00:48 Judi Brownell from Cornell University 00:01:07 Here are the components of Brownell’s model: H: Hearing 00:03:01 U: Understanding 00:05:01 R: Remembering 00:06:48 I: Interpreting 00:08:33 E: Evaluating 00:10:57 R: Responding 00:15:29 Don’t Be a Conversational Narcissist!00:17:52 Reframe the Way You Understand the Purpose of Conversation 00:18:52 Don’t Jump Ahead 00:20:04 Avoid Advice 00:21:12 Stop Centering Yourself 00:23:06 Watch Out for Passive Conversational Narcissism, too00:23:56 What If They’re the Conversational Narcissist?00:26:37 The HURIER method asks us to Hear, Understand, Remember, Interpret, Evaluate, and Respond, in that order.00:26:53 Avoid being a conversational narcissist, who is someone who uses conversation to gain attention for themselves, rather than connect with others, share, or learn.Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI• Good listening is a collection of different skills: hearing, understanding, interpreting, and responding. The HURIER method asks us to Hear, Understand, Remember, Interpret, Evaluate, and Respond, in that order. Remember that listening is active and includes both verbal and nonverbal material.• Avoid being a conversational narcissist, who is someone who uses conversation to gain attention for themselves, rather than connect with others, share, or learn. Reframe the way you understand the purpose of conversation and understand that it’s not about you or your ego. Avoid giving advice, interrupting (or thinking about what you want to say), or centering yourself in the dialogue. Similarly, don’t be afraid to disengage when you encounter a conversational narcissist.#AvoidAdvice #Brownell #CharlesDerber #ConversationalNarcissist #CornellUniversity #Derber #DontJumpAhead #HURIER #Narcissist #PassiveConversationalNarcissism #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #HowtoSpeakEffectively #TheHURIERMethod