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Mar 27, 2024 • 34min

Is Your Ego Ruining Your Friendships? Watch This Before It's Too Late!

Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home00:02:55 Are You a Conversational Narcissist?00:11:01 The Power of the Support Response00:17:03 ALBRECHT’S RULE OF THREE FOR CONVERSATIONSHear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI• The biggest threat to connecting well with others is conversational narcissism—i.e., the tendency of centering ourselves, talking too much, steering the topic, interrupting, invalidating others, bragging, manipulating, or acting superior to others. Everyone has the potential to be narcissistic in conversation at times.• A shift response is an attempt to bring the focus and attention of a conversation back to yourself. A support response maintains that focus and attention on the other person. A great way to reduce conversational narcissism is to use fewer shift responses and more support responses. When used well, support responses lead to better, more fulfilling conversations for everyone.• Dr. Karl Albrecht says that all conversations can be broken down into three fundamental components: declaratives, questions, and conditionals. His rule of three is to never make three declarative statements in a row without a question or conditional statement. • Declarations can be presented as statements of fact whether they are or aren’t, and can shut down conversations or act as shift responses. Conditionals are modified, weaker forms of declarations that acknowledge their own subjectivity. #Keywords #Make #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #MakeFriendsEasily #WhenEgoGetsInTheWayPatrickKing
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Mar 20, 2024 • 20min

Always Say “Yes, AND…”

Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-homeHear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI • This chapter is about how to steer conversations to different topics without making things seem restrictive. One critical aspect of talking to people is ability to transition between topics seamlessly. Many people struggle with this because they often want to discuss specific things and end up making the conversation rigid. • The key rule to be remembered here is the “yes, and” rule. Whenever someone states a proposition, your response should be to agree to it, and contribute a line that will keep the conversation going. Simply agreeing isn’t enough, since it brings the conversation to a dead end. Disagreeing is even worse, because it might make you come across as combative and unsympathetic. • Don’t be afraid to enter into conversational topics that you don’t know much about. You might just end up learning something new, and you’ll see that your fears about coming across as dumb are unfounded. If you keep conversations open-ended, people will naturally want to talk to you because they will feel like they can share anything with you. • A more negative version of the “yes, and” rule is the “yes, but” rule. It’s similar, but the latter immediately makes the other person think of you as argumentative. This is because, unlike the “yes, and” rule, it doesn’t help the conversation flow. #improveyourconversationskills #communicationskills #socialskillstips #charismatips #likabilitytips #"Yes #AND..."technique #conversationflow #activelistening #overcomingconversationanxiety #improv #communication #socialskills #charisma #likability #conversation #activelistening #socialanxiety #self-improvement #personaldevelopment #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #ImproveYourConversations #AlwaysSay“Yes #AND…” #PatrickKing
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Mar 15, 2024 • 58min

The Ripple Effect Of Confidence AudioChapter from The Confidence Formula AudioBook by Patrick King

The Confidence Formula: May Cause: Lower Self-Doubt, Higher Self-Esteem, and Comfort In Your Own Skin (Be Confident and Fearless Book 8) By: Patrick KingHear it Here - https://bit.ly/ConfidenceFormulaKinghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0994VF5XH00:16:21 Low Confidence Characteristics00:22:05 Am I Unconfident—or Do I Have Anxiety?00:24:09 The Spotlight Effect00:30:53 Feelings Versus Automatic Thoughts00:41:15 Your Confidence ResumeStop making decisions based on fear of failure, rejection, anxiety, and judgment.Life is full of possibilities, but can you take advantage of them? Gain the confidence to be all that you can be.Not just “fake it ‘til you make it” or “just smile more.”The Confidence Formula is filled with real, actionable advice for your life TODAY. It’s not generic, borderline useless advice you can read in any blog post online. This book will take you on a deep dive into the depth of confidence, self-perception, and the psychology of confidence – understand yourself so you can break through your mental barriers.Everything from psychology, biology, and even cognitive behavioral therapy is referenced in giving you the tools to feel more invincible on a daily basis.Finally feel comfortable in your own skin and become your own source of confidence.Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and sought-after social skills coach and trainer. He was also one of the plumpest children you’ve ever seen, and understands the pains and processes of confidence like few others. This book was written by someone who knows exactly what you’re facing and how you’re hurting.Become bolder, more fearless, and good enough. Stop thinking about the “what ifs” in your life.Confidence will turn your life into a series of endless opportunities. Your goals, your social circle, your relationships, your career, and your life – confidence is the key. Confidence creates the life you want and lets you smash through goals, while making sure you never feel invisible, waste your potential, or feel paralyzed from anxiety.Quiet the voice in your head and live how you want to. Stop feeling so restricted.#Amygdala #Confidence #ConfidenceFormula #ConfidenceResume #FeelingsVersusAutomaticThoughts #Gilovich #SpotlightEffect #ThomasGilovich #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #TheConfidenceFormula #TheRippleEffectOfConfidence
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Mar 13, 2024 • 27min

Bad Communication Habits To Avoid

Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home00:03:17.360 Constantly Interrupting00:05:38.100 Using Qualifiers00:06:53.900 Equating Your Experiences00:08:02.139 Floundering00:09:13.940 Waiting Instead of Listening00:13:42.170 The Rapport Game00:15:09.470 Mirroring and Matching00:18:48.220 Way 1: Match and Mirror External Communication Cues00:21:06.070 Way 2: Match and Mirror Voice and LanguageHear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI#ConversationSkills #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #ConversationSkillsTraining #OtherBadCommunicationHabitsToAvoid
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Mar 8, 2024 • 38min

Ugh, Small Talk AudioChapter from Better Small Talk AudioBook

Better Small Talk: Talk to Anyone, Avoid Awkwardness, Generate Deep Conversations, and Make Real Friends By Patrick King 00:14:25.120 A Childlike Exercise00:22:30.760 Your Conversation Résumé00:29:56.769 Conversational Stages00:39:29.950 Initial Impressions00:49:59.349 Make the First Move00:56:07.650 Find Similarity01:06:53.740 Manufacture ConnectionHear it Here - https://adbl.co/2Q5CWQMhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0871N22LFNetworking events suck, but they can suck less. What to say and when to say to be likable, connect, and make a memorable impression.Actionable and applicable verbal maneuvers for just about every phase of conversation. From hello to goodbye, with strangers or old friends, you'll learn how to simply go deeper. NO MORE: interview mode, awkward silence, or struggling to hold people’s attention.Better Small Talk is a unique read. Imagine the following situation: you've just put on your name tag, and you're approached by a stranger. What do you say? Nice weather today. No, we can do better than this. Learn better small talk to avoid awkwardness, put people at ease, and build real rapport. Learn to open people up without them even realizing it.Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. He suffered for years as a shy introvert and managed to boil human interaction down to a science - first for himself, and now for you. You'll learn exact dialogues, responses, phrases, and questions to use.•How to tell captivating stories and what to actually focus on. •Four ways to warm yourself up and prepare for even the most unpredictable conversations. •Instantly setting a tone of friendship and openness with strangers. •Common and subtle conversational habits you need to stop right now Become someone who is magnetic and who can make new friends in any situation.Simple conversation is the gatekeeper to friendships, your dream career, romance, and overall happiness. The ability to connect with anyone is an underrated superpower. People will be more drawn to you without even knowing why, and never again people will people be bored talking to you. You’ll never run out of things to say when you master these conversation tactic
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Mar 6, 2024 • 23min

Turning On The Charm: Principles Of Self-Disclosure

Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home00:10:46 Four Easy Self-Disclosure Rules.00:14:38 Mini Self-Disclosures.00:17:30 How to Respond to Someone Else’s Disclosure.Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI• Vulnerability is essential for human connection, and appropriate self-disclosure creates trust, authenticity, and intimacy. Self-disclosure is intentionally sharing personal information that other people wouldn’t know unless we chose to tell them. The most effective kind of self-disclosure is the one that only slightly pushes the current state of affairs toward more intimacy.• Friendship-making is an upward spiral of mutual and incremental disclosures over time. Keep things symmetrical, gradual, positive, and small at first. #BanterLand #Chunking #Derlega #Disclosure #Selfdisclosure #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #MakeFriendsEasily #TurningOnTheCharm:PrinciplesOfSelf-Disclosure
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Mar 2, 2024 • 50min

How To Make People Desire Your Presence AudioChapter from The Science of Likability AudioBook by Patrick King

The Science of Likability: 60 Evidence-Based Methods to Radiate Charisma, Make a Powerful Impression, Win Friends, and Trigger Attraction By Patrick King.00:02:19 Context-Dependent Memories.00:10:07 The Power of Association.00:15:36 Shut Up and Let ’Em Talk!00:26:10 Equity Within Relationships.00:32:04 Similarity Breeds Liking.00:38:05 This is known as the chameleon effect00:40:09 Three Stages of Friendship Hear it Here - https://bit.ly/likability-promohttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B07VCRTJ59100% scientifically-proven ways to make friends quickly, turn enemies into friends, gain trust, and be flat-out likable.Utilize the most interesting, shocking, and counterintuitive findings in psychological science to simply make people want to be around you.The Science of Likability takes over 60 seminal scientific and psychological studies and breaks them down into real, usable guidelines and tips to create the presence you have always wanted. Every piece of advice in this book to increase your social standing and likability factor is 100% backed by in-depth, peer-reviewed research, and it goes far beyond simple common sense and intuition.Learn how to subconsciously make yourself likable, trustworthy, and intelligent.You can get a new haircut and wardrobe, and you even learn knock-knock jokes. But likability is something more. It's subconscious, and it's about the small signs that signal our brains to let their guards down, seek others out, and embrace them. We know what to do if we want to make someone hate us - we now also know what to do to become someone's favorite person.Understand what makes people tick, and strategically give it to them.There are seminal studies from (in)famous researchers such as Sigmund Freud, Ivan Pavlov, Stanley Schachter, and Daniel Goleman, but also the most up-to-date discoveries from 2019 - all insightful, analytical, sometimes surprising, but most importantly effective and actionable. Pair that with the insight and human intelligence factor of bestselling author and social skills coach Patrick King, and you have a guide that can be read equally for education as for helpful, real advice. Patrick's writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. Discover:- How to take advantage of people's memories for your sense of charm.- The power of equity in relationships and friendships.- A literal formula for "friendship chemistry."- The real way to use eye contact to build trust.- Why tripping and being vulnerable in front of people is positive.- Universal definitions of charisma, wit, and humor - seriously. Universal.Being likable unlocks the doors to everything you want in life.A better career? You better believe that the people with the most promotions and highest salaries aren't just the most qualified. Better love life? Being likable makes you a potential love interest to anyone you want. Better relationships and friendships? Not only that, but you open the door to people wanting to be friends with you. Likability is the hidden force that makes people appear to be lucky in life and receive more opportunities than they know what to do with. Likability drives us forward, not intelligence or luck.Ultimately, this is a social skills and charisma book to drastically change your presence. Pick up your copy today by clicking the BUY NOW button at the top of this page.This is the first book in the “The Psychology of Social Dynamics” series as listed below:1.The Science of Likability: 60 Evidence-Based Methods to Radiate Charisma, Make a Powerful Impression, Win Friends, and Trigger Attraction [2019 Edition]2.Think Like a Psychologist: How to Analyze Emotions, Read Body Language and Behavior, Understand Motivations, and Decipher Intentions3.The Science of Social Intelligence: 33 Studies to Win Friends, Be Magnetic, Make An Impression, and Use People’s Subconscious Triggers4.The Science of Engineering Attraction & Love: Flirt, Date, and Mate Using Human Psychology5.Introvert Survival Tactics: How to Make Friends, Be More Social, and Be Comfortable In Any Situation (When You’re People’d Out and Just Want to Go Home And Watch TV Alone)6.Control Your Emotions: Gain Balance, Resilience, and Calm; Find Freedom from Stress, Anxiety, and Negativity#Baddeley #Bargh #BernardMurstein #Berscheid #Byrne #ChameleonEffect #Chartrand #ContextDependentMemory #DaleCarnegie #DianaTamir #DonnByrne #EichMacauley #Godden #InterpersonalAttraction #IntrinsicallyRewarding #JasonMitchell #JohnSaneDo #JohnSkowronski #Walster #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #TheScienceofLikability #HowToMakePeopleDesireYourPresence
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Feb 28, 2024 • 22min

Improvisation Implementation

Hear it Here - http://bit.ly/improvking00:02:51 Conversation Equals Improv00:09:03 Emotional Intelligence00:12:19 Play 00:19:53 Takeaways Does your mind blank in conversation and create awkward silence? Do you run out of things to say and struggle to keep dialogue flowing?(A) Conversation isn’t scripted, (B) it’s 100% unpredictable, and (C) it can be terrifying at times. How do you prepare for such a thing? By learning how to apply improv comedy techniques to roll with any punch and improve your conversations and social interactions.Become quicker and more clever in daily conversation.Improv(e) Your Conversations teaches the ingenious rules of improv comedy that allow performers to turn boring prompts into memorable interactions worthy of standing ovations. This means there are real frameworks and templates to escape interview mode small talk – and start connecting and building rapport from the moment you say “Hello.” This book goes through over 15 of the most helpful and insightful improv comedy techniques with countless real-life examples to make you a great talker.Learn the conversational secrets of the world’s best comedians.Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience.Over 15 actionable tips that are actually practical and relateable.•The three easy ways to always know what to say, even when your mind goes blank.•What Sherlock Holmes has to do with great rapport.•How to read people better and what to look for.•The one goal you must always keep in mind (that you probably don’t even know).Adapt, witty comeback, reply, and charm in record time.•What causes awkward silences and how to prevent them.•How your conversation should resemble a movie.•How to “flip the switch” to be more entertaining.Conversation skills are the gatekeeper to the rest of your life.Improving your conversations gives you the ability to turn a random encounter into a flowing conversation, into a lasting friendship. Fewer acquaintances and more friends, less small talk and more true substance.•Better networking, better career placement, better job interviews.•New friendships, improved relationships, and being more attractive to the opposite sex.•Instant likability and great first impressions." https://www.audible.com/pd/B08TK96H1S/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWU-BK-ACX0-235620&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_235620_pd_us#Charismatic #Conversation #ImprovComedyTechniques #WittyBanter #RussellNewton #NewtonMGCharismatic,Conversation,Improv Comedy Techniques,Witty Banter,Russell Newton,NewtonMG
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Feb 23, 2024 • 1h 47min

The Basics Are Not So Basic AudioChapter from Conversation Skills Training AudioBook by Patrick King

Conversation Skills Training: How to Build Relationships, Navigate Any Situation, and Talk to Anyone By: Patrick KingHear it Here - https://adbl.co/3U8eoc5https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CNPHL9PC You are missing out on so many relationships in your life.Communication is the bedrock of our relationships. But we often don’t know how to express ourselves, or truly hear others. Make sure that you are not letting amazing people pass you by.Increase your social and emotional awareness.Conversations Skills Training is truly about arming you with the tools you need for effective expression, listening, and relationships. Communication is the primary contributor to the relationships we attract in our lives, and this book takes you through almost every aspect of successful connection.Imagine being able to walk into a room and make friends with strangers, avoid conflict, and have a charismatic presence. It’s not so tough, it just needs purposeful practice. This book will be your best field guide to knowing how to deal with people, their emotions, and your own emotions.Get ahead in your career – because conversations skills gets promotions, not technical skills.Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real-life experience.The keys to preventing and dealing with conflict or other uncomfortable situations. Identify your communication style, and why it might be holding you back Exactly how much eye contact to use for emotional connection One acronym to substantially improve your conversations How to “hear” people’s emotions and make people trust you Defusing conflict and tough situations How to say no and assert yourself to anyone An ancient Greek persuasion technique that works in any situationRead people like a book – their emotions, feelings, and thoughts!#AggressiveCommunicator #AngeloStrenta #AssertiveCommunicator #BadCommunicationHabits #BodyOrientation #CommunicationStyle #ConversationSkillsTraining #Defensiveness #DrArthurAron #FillerWords #FourPs #JohnGrinder #KaraRonins #ManipulativeCommunicator #MichaelEllsberg #Microexpressions #Mirroring #NeuroLinguisticProgrammingNLP #Paralinguistics #PassiveAggressiveCommunicator #PassiveCommunicator #RichardBandler #RobertKleck #SocialInteraction #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #ConversationSkillsTraining #TheBasicsAreNotSoBasic
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Feb 21, 2024 • 22min

Identify Your Communication Style

Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-homeHear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI00:08:18 Preconceived Attitudes00:17:48 Judgment and Premature Evaluation.•••••••••••#Conversation #ConversationSkillsTraining #Training #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #ConversationSkillsTraining #IdentifyYourCommunicationStyle

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